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| Has anyone here given up or thinking about it?
Posted: 10/9/2006 11:53:32 AM | I have been divorced for 9 years. So I understand what each of you mean.
This is my thought, I have to make myself available ( get out go and do things with like minded people), but not be available ( chase after anything or go with anything coming along).
In other words, I can't find a spouse sitting at home so I have to go out and do other things, volunteer, hobbies with friends, places you will meet both sexes.
However, I will not compromise my values just to have someone.
I would rather be alone, than with the wrong one.
take care happy  enjoy yourself  take dance lessions | |
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| Has anyone here given up or thinking about it?
Posted: 10/9/2006 11:11:20 PM | | I have been divorced myself for ten years and I didn't date at all since then. I have recently made the decision that I don't wish to be alone the rest of my life and I am 45. I have come close to giving up on this site because I have not had any women return my emails. I go to other sites and they do. I was hoping to find someone close to where I live not in some other state. Anyway I think maybe its my emails or pics that they don't like or profile. I am still tying to figure it out or they don't like a guy who is overweight? I will let you know when I figure it out lol. | |
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| Has anyone here given up or thinking about it?
Posted: 10/10/2006 1:52:30 AM | CTCLERK
keep trying the other sites --- throw your net wide
90 % of women have no idea what they want - they say they do but in reality they dont
Trust me its not the pics its not being overweight --- they dont dont like buff muscular guys either
what they do like from what i can ascertain from the forums and profiles
is a spineless wimp they can control and walk all over that will cater to their everywhim -- because they have vaginas many think they deserve everything for no input whatsoever | |
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| Has anyone here given up or thinking about it?
Posted: 10/10/2006 2:09:40 PM | | I was a single parent for 15 years and there were times when I just wanted to throw my hands up and give up. But like you I found hobbies, dance lessons, art, free concerts, I made alot of friends and who knows someday Mr. Right might be around the corner. Right now I am comfortable with myself and who I have become. I know there are a few good fish left out there and I just have to go out and cast my net wider. Until then I am content just going places meeting new people | |
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| Has anyone here given up or thinking about it?
Posted: 10/10/2006 2:21:10 PM | Hey all,
I know this may sound like I'm being paid to plug dating websites, but I must add the sucess of My brother and his wife. They both meet on match.com (will this will get deleted?) just short of a year ago after my brother had virtually given up on the darting lark. I'm happy to say that they got married only three weeks ago. The moral of my story is; as long as you want love, there is always hope.
What are we without hope?
PT. | |
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jerrod
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Joined: 4/12/2006
Msg: 133 | |
| Has anyone here given up or thinking about it?
Posted: 10/10/2006 2:37:24 PM | | I was inlove with the same Girle for as long as 10 years. I'm only 23, & It has taken me maney years to dill with it & reasove my suisidal delema. I keep being forwared & really honest but no Girles seem to care about how I need to be Loved, so I really dont know what to think about them. ---- I find some woman I like but I'm not shere what to say to them, sense I need to know if they can Love me the way I've needed Love, but I'm not shere how to tell them, & I spoke to a Girle for a while, but she only wanted Sex & she sayed she would be intimente with me the way I want if I have sex with her first. ----- I was inlove for a long time, is it not possible for me to tea Girle & know she gets it befor I date or be close with her? --- I feel like I wont fined Love know & it bothers me. Does anyone have some thoughts that they can share with me? For love I feel Forsaken, as I've always felt it & know have none thbe housed in my life. --- --- The sharing befor mine is nice, & I have read some others to. But always having loved, but never being loved, that is an injery to me. | |
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Fran47
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Joined: 10/4/2006
Msg: 134 | |
| Has anyone here given up or thinking about it?
Posted: 10/10/2006 3:42:47 PM | Jerrod..... You are still fairly young. You are a very attractive young man. Don't lose faith, cause there are plenty of women out there... They just haven't found you yet. But when they do, and see your beautiful self, they will care for you. Just hang on.... you have lots of time left. You are young, and as someone mentioned earlier, better to be single and some what lonely now, than to be married , unhappy and lonely with someone that you are bound to. It took me 24 years to get the courage to leave and now there are some real lonely times...but nothing compared to the lonyliness and heartache I endured all those years....
Don't lose hope.... you will be glad you didn't one day.... We are pulling for you!! | |
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| Has anyone here given up or thinking about it?
Posted: 10/10/2006 4:40:55 PM | several times i felt like giving up on here but i'm having too much fun posting. don't think that i don't talk to anyone cuz i still talk to plenty of ppl here...i'm not giving up, just on hold...... | |
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| Has anyone here given up or thinking about it?
Posted: 10/18/2006 4:03:00 PM | i'm soooo beyond sick of liers ,game players,,,men who tell me i'm the one kiss me and tell me its me he wants, no ones else,,but do the same thing to the next girl,,,how do i know this,,,i talk to these girls and they tell me hes has said that to them also,,so i wrtie a testamonail about how hes the one ,,hes my soulmate im looking for to hAVE that longterm realtionship...and im soo the one he wants and the others aRE JUST FREINDS,,,,YEAH RIGHT,,,,,i even got told by a looser to my face ,,,rudely said to me,,,,i must be jeAlous of my sister ,,,what ever,,,that hit a nerve so deeply i wanted to kill him,,,men are sooo rude on here i'm finding,,,rude ,, looks but no brains or style,,,to each their own...if someone can show me your different but not ugly and unemployed ,,prove me wrong ,,,,show me there is someone out there who is normal ,decent,,not A PLAYER,,LIER,,,GAMES PLAYER,BULLSHITTER,,,USER ECT,,,MEN GIVE US A COMPLEX ABOUT SO MANY MEN ,,,where are all the decent,normal goodlooking men out there,,,and if your not reaDY FOR A RELATIONSHIP,,DONT WASTE MY TIME,, LIKE MY PROFILE SAYS,,OK?THATS MY STORY,,,YA THINK I'M FED UP ? YOUR RIGHT,,,    SOMEONE COME ALONG AND CHANGE MY MIND ,,IF YOU DARE LOL,,,WINK WINK,,,  | |
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| Has anyone here given up or thinking about it?
Posted: 10/18/2006 4:35:05 PM | | I think that it's necessary to take a break from POF for a while every so often. You'll know when it's time to leave and when it's time to come back. Finding a partner shouldn't be work! You have to do it with a light heart. | |
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| Has anyone here given up or thinking about it?
Posted: 10/18/2006 4:48:59 PM | | I have personally given up years ago when I got custody of my son and realized the love we have is more than any relationship filled with drama and bullsh!t can ever give. I get to sit back now and listen to everyone else's problems and be thankful they are not mine and I don't miss the closeness to anyone nor sex or anything else that comes with relationships. I feel if you are capable of doing this then you are much more stronger than you may even believe. Many can't be without someone and the thought of being alone scares them .. I feel bad for those who are this way because it seems they are always the ones who find the wrong relationships and the drama and the cycle is never ending. Personally I'm happier when I am single and wouldn't have it any other way now! | |
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nucor
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Joined: 9/16/2006
Msg: 139 | |
| Has anyone here given up or thinking about it?
Posted: 10/18/2006 4:52:12 PM | You should read the book "Freakonomics" by Levitt and Dubner. They have some interesting research on on-line dating sites. As for looking for that significant other? Don't stress, take it easy. Enjoy life. Pursue some goals that you want to accomplish in life and the rest will follow.
As long as you seek out activities with great people and like to meet new friends- you'll find someone who will appreciate you and vice versa.
Be happy and good luck! | |
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| Has anyone here given up or thinking about it?
Posted: 10/18/2006 11:59:00 PM | Hi every one I'm thinking about giving up on this because it seem that woman like to play
head games and they don't tell you that there not really interested you I thought that
this is a site to find a special person that you like to be with there are people out there
do have feeling and it seem to me some woman like to hurt other people feeling for no reason
at all if you really not interested in the person tell them I really want to meet someone who
is really special and really want to be loved by a really nice person who doesn't play head games or just play with someone feeling or just playing with head it really not being fair
to the other person. I'm looking for true love and being with someone for real and can accept
each other for who we are for our self I feel like really giving up on this because I think this
all a game and a big joke if your really interested in someone look me under moondawn1
I would love to hear your commit on this thank you. | |
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| Has anyone here given up or thinking about it?
Posted: 10/30/2006 6:30:00 AM | Don't give up!!... Your "mate" will come along.. maybe from here, maybe not. Get out.. do stuff..meet like minded people. I have made so many friend from here.. who knows maybe one of them will know someone.....
Sadly, there are players and BSers on both sides - men and women... You just have to learn to weed them out. Don't compromise your values or "change" just to get/impress someone...
I too would rather be happy and alone than miserable with someone just to be with someone....
Happy fishing all...
Loopy :-) | |
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| Has anyone here given up or thinking about it?
Posted: 10/31/2006 7:52:17 AM | Yahh ROO Giddy Up
You could not be more wrong in this case!!!!!!!!!
I know what I want and get slagged off for it all the time, men like to think they can change my mind and tell me they really think I am wrong, D'OAHHHHHHHH, it drives me nuts.
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| Has anyone here given up or thinking about it?
Posted: 10/31/2006 10:20:17 AM | I agree...didn't say the BS doesn't happen.. But you cannot paint everyone with the same brush.. men OR women...I don't say "ALL MEN ARE THIS OR THAT" and I don't accept that "ALL WOMEN ARE THIS OR THAT" . It's much better to be positive than to be negative...
I do sometimes feel like giving up.... thinking ok.. I guess he is not out there... BUT... I keep fishin!
It's the law of averages, I guess... We are bound to run into our "one" eventually... I think! BUt in the meantime, relax, loosen up, have fun... etc. etc etc...
My 2cents worth....
Loopy :-) | |
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| Has anyone here given up or thinking about it?
Posted: 10/31/2006 10:40:52 AM | | I'm 34 (6 years shy of middle age). Never, ever, been in a relationship. I've seen the 'chemistry' between a couple and have always wondered if I'll ever have that. Yes, I stay at home most of the time. But hey, I enjoy my home entertainment (perhaps too much) and to quote an earlier post, why should I compromise my values? I don't think I could ever find a woman on here, or indeed anywhere, who could understand that. When I read their profiles, almost all of them say they go out to pubs, bars, clubbing etc.. and the guy they're looking for "must have similar interests" and/or must have own home, a car and bucket loads of cash (all tools for them to manipulate and control us). Like a lot of guys, I have tried other sites, lots of them... sent out lots of emails, with virtually no replies. The ones that do communicate, eventually disappear, as if abducted by aliens. I've had that effect on every women I meet through sites like this and chatrooms. In my youth, I replied to a personals ad in the local paper and went on a few dates... again, she broke off contact without warning or apology. Exactly the same thing happened with a girl my sister set me up with. Most recently, it happened with someone from another free site like this... Exchanged a few emails, chatted on msn almost every day until one day came when she vanished, never saw on her msn again, never received any reply to my emails or text messages. Now tell me, if girls like confidence, how can I possibly have any confidence when I've only ever had bad experiences? I think you can only get confidence after sleeping around (again, girls seem to like experience, although why a track-record should count for anything is beyond me. Would I be attracted to a girl who has slept around? Not on your life.) And as for hope, well that never accomplished anything. I know that most women go for the "bad boys" which is why nice guys finish last. And please, do not tell me "you will meet someone", you cannot possibly know that unless you have a time-machine. On the other hand, I *do* know that tomorrow will be just like today, as it has been for virtually my entire life. And the next day, and the day after that. I'm the first to admit that the right girl, or indeed any girl, is unlikely to just fall in my lap or knock at my door... but as I approach middle-age I have no patience or energy left for all these head-games. Finding someone should not be work and I don't want to feel like a salesmen every time I write an email. So yeah, I give up.. I don't even have to try to give up, since I've never gotten anywhere.. all I do is carry on living as I have done. I'll let all those women search for they badboy or prince-charming. Good luck to them. | |
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| Has anyone here given up or thinking about it?
Posted: 10/31/2006 6:52:12 PM | Hi!!
Yes, I have thought about giving up. Wondering if it's possible for someone to love me also. Your not alone. Iv'e had no luck in the dating area. I always find the wrong ones. I figure though, if I give up it will never happen. That's what people tell me to that it will happen when you least expect it to. I don't believe them either. yes , to answer your question, I have indeed thought about it. Impossible things are happening every day. We are both nice people and hopefully we will find someone. | |
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zooom
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Joined: 10/27/2006
Msg: 146 | |
| Has anyone here given up or thinking about it?
Posted: 11/1/2006 7:02:26 AM | | In order to give up you have to review your entire dating history and conclude it's hopeless. Or you could just let the past be in the past and be glad to have more chances. Imagine today is the first day you begin to live someone else's life, stepping in without your own history and with no idea of what you're going to do. Looking ahead, think of what all you would like to do. Then make it happen. | |
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| Has anyone here given up or thinking about it?
Posted: 11/1/2006 7:21:43 AM | | I Think about giving up this site every day but still come back. It's hard to find a true good friend on here. But hopefully someday I'll find my fish here too or she will find me | |
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| Has anyone here given up or thinking about it?
Posted: 11/1/2006 7:22:43 AM | | Thinking about giving up as well. I have been on here since June and not much luck here for me. However, I stay on because I do like the to read the forums and post from time to time. | |
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RLI06
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Joined: 6/30/2006
Msg: 149 | |
| Has anyone here given up or thinking about it?
Posted: 11/1/2006 7:38:52 AM | | The idea of giving up does rear its ugly head from time to time. I think it might have to do with this being a free site although I am not sure. It just seems so many people here are flakes. A lot never respond in any fashion. Others do and then you dont hear from them again. It is all very frustrating to try to find someone who is real and genuine. Maybe its just the type I am emailing?! Not sure what to think sometimes, so then yeah, is it time to give up?? | |
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| Has anyone here given up or thinking about it?
Posted: 11/1/2006 9:17:21 AM | ^^^^^^ Rli06 ....... same thing here. However, like said I do like reading the forums.
Edit: did I say I like reading the forums more than once? .... lol .... | |
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