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 ChildfreeGlow

Joined: 3/4/2008
Msg: 101
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Posted: 4/26/2008 6:38:59 PM

The only men "worrying" about gold-diggers are the rich guys.

Actually the rich guys are the ones who DON'T tend to worry about gold diggers. The rich guys who aren't good looking, aren't charming, aren't tall, aren't young, they want beautiful young women to be after their money. They know that is the only thing they have to offer. The thing rich guys are really worried about is that every attractive young woman should develop the self-esteem, education, and ambition to have no use for rich guys and fully intend to choose men who match them in looks, personality and other qualities that can't be bought.
 Bloom10

Joined: 3/30/2008
Msg: 102
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Posted: 4/26/2008 6:49:29 PM
I have to agree with the Poster above me. This is also my personal experience.
 merry0709

Joined: 8/13/2007
Msg: 103
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Posted: 4/26/2008 7:10:14 PM
Yeah, it is true. I live with these guys and see it all the time. They view it more as "buying" the affections of a young a beautiful partner. They know it is going to cost up front. They know a great house costs, a Bentley costs, and to be 68 years old, have a gorgeous 25 year old bombshell on your arm and in you bed costs too. If they have ALOT of money, they view it more as an investment or paying for a service. They may tell her up front what the deal is and how much she will be compensated in the prenup.
They didn`t get rich by being stupid. But yes, They will "buy" a lady if they really like her, and it won`t bother them the least.

I`m not judging them. If it works for both and they are up front about it, they are on the same page. What do I care.

On the side of the young ladies, they do have to deal with quite a bit for their "keep"
being available and always beautiful as a hostess or for functions, able to keep her opinions autonomous and in support of her "benefactor" at all times, turning her head when seeing improprieties and infidelities of her spouse. Basically, it is more of a consort situation. She is fufilling a contract and is not necessarily seeing to her own emotional needs. She gives alot of herself up, when the power is this lopsided.

These guys often travel extensively having homes in different places. Often they will go without their wife for extended periods, and have another "lady" waiting in that particular city. The wife needs to accept this a part of the deal. These guys run by their own set of rules.
 GentleThoughts

Joined: 4/15/2008
Msg: 104
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Posted: 4/27/2008 12:52:25 PM
iSHTAR :applause :
 mthomjmark

Joined: 2/27/2008
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Posted: 4/27/2008 2:31:32 PM
First of all we all know whatever is said in cosmo is totally right on.

Looks matter #1 I think; even to todays women. If someone is attracted to you they are like little children reading a book; they dont read the words they just look at the pictures.

There are many women with good looking player type bad boys that they support so they can show them off to their friends. Just read the posts.

Many poorer people are sexy and can be sexy; But lets face it, there aren't a whole lot of rich men with ugly women next to them. Women love money and power. Do you think Donald Trump and Hugh Hefner would have these women without the millions in the bank? come on. Trump was given 800 Million from his Daddy and after that he had tons of women.

And stop reading cosmo; just look at the pictures;)
 kissfanhere

Joined: 3/23/2008
Msg: 106
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Posted: 4/27/2008 2:39:26 PM
you dam right its all about money.wake up everybody!
 beautifuldancer400

Joined: 6/12/2007
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Posted: 4/27/2008 6:11:57 PM

These guys run by their own set of rules.


Many guys (poor and middle class) do many of the things you stated with the exception of maybe having homes in different places. The only difference is the women with the rich guys can walk away with something to show for their time...or stay and at least have some security.

If nothing else they can at least know their children will have the benefits of not being poor.
 glamb

Joined: 3/24/2008
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Posted: 4/27/2008 9:29:54 PM

Actually the rich guys are the ones who DON'T tend to worry about gold diggers. The rich guys who aren't good looking, aren't charming, aren't tall, aren't young, they want beautiful young women to be after their money. They know that is the only thing they have to offer. The thing rich guys are really worried about is that every attractive young woman should develop the self-esteem, education, and ambition to have no use for rich guys and fully intend to choose men who match them in looks, personality and other qualities that can't be bought.



lolol wrong on all points. It's about opportunity. If women find it, they will take it. Same with men. Most rich people have barriers put up to weed out certain others (and not just for dating)
 GentleThoughts

Joined: 4/15/2008
Msg: 109
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Posted: 4/28/2008 5:57:35 AM
ang YOU won the prize! I have an ex with plenty of money also. If I wanted money I could have just stayed with him. Better yet, if I wanted money he is more than willing to give it to me, with strings attached of course. I have yet to meet anyone on this site that has any money! I'm not looking for money but I'm pretty sure if I were, I wouldn't be looking on a datesite for it.
 OnMyOwn4

Joined: 6/1/2007
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Posted: 4/28/2008 9:46:41 AM
It has gone beyond paranoia ...

Men just aren't making it in the dating scene anymore. Especially right here. Thread after thread of men babies whining about women and being taken for their money. You would think they are RICH ... tee heee

New flash !!! Your not, so keep your paulty $$$ and stay alone. That will fix all your poor me and the woman who is going to fleece me problems.
 goodcatbadcat

Joined: 4/30/2008
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Posted: 5/5/2008 12:48:36 PM
Wow, it's amazing that post after post talks about golddiggers and only references women. You do realize that there are male golddiggers out there also? My desire for a man that makes a decent living stems from my soon to be ex-husband's gold-digging ways. This is the entire reason I make certain the man I end up with owns his own house and car and is fully self-supporting with a good job. It is not because I am looking for a meal ticket but because I am damn well not going to be someone else's after trying to be taken to the cleaners by a deadbeat leech. Paranoid? You bet your sweet ass.
 beautifuldancer400

Joined: 6/12/2007
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Posted: 5/5/2008 5:43:12 PM

I find it funny that so many of the men that worry about golddiggers don't have any gold to dig.


My guess for this is because they are annoyed that the women they want don't or won't want them. It's like overweight girls complaining about guys only wanting thin girls.

"You can't always get what you want. But if you try sometimes ...you just might find...you get what you need."
Rolling Stones




 sably

Joined: 4/8/2008
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Posted: 5/5/2008 7:49:16 PM
Sure it is. I'm looking for a guy who can make my eyes light up when he walks in the room and who can crank my tractor once he gets there. He doesn't need a wallet in his pants pocket for that; or even pants for that matter.As for the rest, I can take care of myself.
 FixedHeart

Joined: 2/20/2008
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Posted: 5/5/2008 9:35:19 PM
Maybe off topic, but some time in the very near past I was straight up asked how much I was making and whether I got stock options when I switched companies. The question was asked in a bar... by a nurse... not that far into our conversation. The way it was posted, I'd think I was talking to my financial advisor or something. Funny how some people feel the need to worry about stuff that should only concern one person... and that person would be ME.
 grizzelda

Joined: 6/25/2006
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Posted: 5/6/2008 11:57:16 AM
Maybe off topic, but some time in the very near past I was straight up asked how much I was making and whether I got stock options when I switched companies. The question was asked in a bar... by a nurse... not that far into our conversation. The way it was posted, I'd think I was talking to my financial advisor or something. Funny how some people feel the need to worry about stuff that should only concern one person... and that person would be ME.


Perhaps she was trying to make a point and was being sarcastic. How old was this woman? Trust me when I say, that women know that men like to "buy" company, its not a big secret and we are aware that many men think that most women are easily bought. The funny thing about this is that many men think that it is OK to use their money to get a "trophy" but when they get called on it, all of a sudden its the women that are the ones with a character defect......
 PretaPorter

Joined: 3/1/2008
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Posted: 5/6/2008 12:03:58 PM
I have had experience of men asking for loans from me, or to bail them out from some bad business decision. It seems that whilst there are women gold-diggers there are also men but usually they have a different agenda - and this is nothing to do with romance.
 bassman1959

Joined: 2/23/2008
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Posted: 5/6/2008 12:10:23 PM
Grizzelda,

I don't know any men that like to "buy " company. As for myself if I feel I have to buy company I would rather go fishing.
 hardcoredaydreamer

Joined: 8/17/2005
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Posted: 5/6/2008 12:10:49 PM
ahhh but how many of you would give your friendly neighbourhood hobo a second look if he/she asked you to join them on a park bench, while away the hours then come back for a second date. money means something. even if it is just enough to keep a roof over your head, food in your belly and shampoo in your hair. there's poor and then there's poor. although i'm not saying that if you won't date a hobo you're a gold digger but... awk i've lost my train of thought.
 Anokagrassland

Joined: 4/11/2007
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Posted: 5/6/2008 1:04:20 PM
I haven't met anyone, other then my ex, that I would classify as a "golddigger". However I have observed that women over 30 are much more concerned with income then women under 30. Level of wealth doesn't seem to concern them. Only income. I've had 3 different women in their 30's tell me I didn't make enough for them. I've never had a woman in her 20's suggest anything like that.

I'm not sure how they know how much I make! I think this is one of the tremendous disconnects between those of us who own our own businesses and the folks who work for others. Very few business owners I know take large incomes out of their businesses. We typically structure things so that our personal draw out of the business is only enough to cover basic living expenses. The rest we reinvest into the business. We avoid losing everything to taxes this way. In my case I farm and ranch. I live on the farm. I have one electric bill that covers both the farm and my house, same for property taxes, property insurance, and water. These bills are all business expenses. I can't deduct the house phone but I can deduct my internet connection and my cell phone.

Owning a farm tends to weed out the worst gold diggers. It sounds like too much work to them!
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