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Posted: 6/26/2006 6:26:12 PM | I have had this happen too many times to count, and I agree with the concensus here... chat here or on MSN first... then maybe to a cell phone. I have been stalked in the past, and I have serious safety issues ... for me AND my children.
If someone cannot respect my wishes on this, then what else will they not respect???.... and if they are too fast or too slow moving to the phone or to a meet, maybe there are other compatibility issues too. They may be a wonderful person, maybe not the person for me though..... if I am making big concessions (safety is a big concession) at the beginning, then it probably won't have much of a future anyway........ JMHO... ~R | |
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Posted: 6/26/2006 6:39:30 PM | What do you do if you gave out your number and the person turns out to be not what you'd hoped for, but now they keep calling from a "private" number.
You could be an adult and ask them to stop calling, but what if they go psycho on you when you do? You wake up and your car has 4 flat tires and the Jehovah's witness group accost you once a week. You call the cops but your number is blocked. Sometimes the mailman won't deliver a "suspicious" package that arrives for you and you pick it up and it's leaking red fluid.
Never happened to me...just curious. I give out my number if asked.  | |
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Posted: 6/26/2006 6:56:28 PM | | i would never give out my number either thar 411.ca site tells all info about ur address. besides do u really know whats or who is behind the computer not to be mean but i prefer to chat on this then see where it goes but meet in public lots and lots of people. never know when u could come across a paul berando or kyra. besides what does a physco look like who knows. maybe iam just parinode lol | |
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Posted: 6/26/2006 8:13:28 PM | | *67 ???? Not to dis the thread, but for those of us in the boonies, the IM doesn't work, we can't get phone calls while we are on dial up, and the e-mail is as slow as molasses. Granted, I will use quite a few e-mails before I get frustrated, but when I send out my phone # to a woman, I will also include instructions to use *67 before she calls. I DO NOT want to have a person worry that their privacy is violated. | |
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Posted: 6/26/2006 8:51:41 PM | What is all this "other information" you can get from a phone number? Apparently there's "so much info from a number it's scary". Most I can see is maybe a name and address, which I suppose can be scary enough depending on the type of stalker you're entertaining, but it's not like they suddenly have access to your credit card info or criminal record. (That takes a few weeks, lol)
Anyway, it's been a while since I've tried meeting anyone online, but I do remember a situation when I should have made a phone call a little sooner. I met a girl from New Zealand, who owned a lavender farm. We exchanged pics, chatted, and even wrote letters over the course of several months. I was really starting to like her, we had so much in common. Her parents had died, and left her this huge farm, and she was lonely in the middle of nowhere. She said how nice it would be if we could meet, and if we hit it off, then maybe, over time, I could move to New Zealand so we could run the farm together.
It was like a dream come true. A beautiful girl, who was so much like me, wanted me to come and live with her in paradise. After about two months of getting to know each other, I wanted to talk to her on the phone. I had to hear this voice that surely must be like an angel. So I gave her my number, and one night she finally called.
It was obviously a man. I threw up a little in my mouth, and tried to carry on with the call. Hey, maybe "she" just had a really husky voice. Finally I was convinced, and just said, "You're a dude, aren't you?" There was a bit of silence, then he said, "Yeah, sugar, but you don't mind do you?" I hung up and never heard from "her" again.
So yeah, wait a bit before trusting someone with your number, but don't wait TOO long, lol. | |
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Posted: 6/26/2006 11:00:46 PM | I'm a fairly good judge of character and I have all the necesary precautions: Call display, a building with a buzzer etc, but I have to say that if I don't get to meet the person within a month or so of chatting with them, I'll lose interest.
I usually give out my number first and leave the ball in their court, if they don't call this is fine. I just leave it at that. | |
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Posted: 6/27/2006 1:21:41 PM | Call block. *67 seems pretty safe to me. I only ever give out my cell number till I'm in a relationship. I guess we all have our communication preferences but I much more enjoy the give and take that can only come from phone call or in person. Also I give great phone. Or perhaps I'm just too oral? Like is that possible?
I enjoy being able to hear someone laugh and/or raise her eyebrows to my mutterings. Give me the phone ... every day please. | |
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Posted: 6/27/2006 1:44:12 PM | canada411.ca trace back *oh how I love you*
I use it all the time to see if I'm being lied to.. | |
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Posted: 6/28/2006 7:45:28 AM | Follow these steps & use your own information.
-www.canada411.ca
-click on "Find a person"
-click on "reverse phone"
-type in a phone number
-click "search" & POOF! you now have the persons home address!
or
-www.canada411.ca
-click on "Find a person"
-click on "reverse address"
-type in address info
-click "search" & POOF! you now have that persons phone number!
Scary eh?
You can also do the same if you get a 1800 or 1888 number & want to know what company called you, just click on "find company" instead of "find person".
I don't think the 1800 or 1888 will tell you anything if its in the usa.. I'm pretty sure it has to be in Canada only.
411 wont work on me. I'm using Vonage & my number cannot be listed under canada411.ca. Here is what Canada411.ca says about my phone number.
***-***-**** (sorry but I wont post my phone#)is a land line based in Toronto, ON
The registered service provider is Call-Net Communications**.
Detailed listing information is not available.
So I'm safe
So aslong as you don't give out your phone number or home address your safe too.. however!! if you give out your name & location, I can go to canada411.ca & look up your name, find your home address & phone number. | |
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Posted: 6/28/2006 7:48:33 AM | | Thats pretty scary ,does it even give out a number if its unlisted?,if its unlisted it is for a reason I dont think they should be allowed to do that..............if they do | |
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Posted: 6/28/2006 8:57:20 AM | Solid logic indeed GEB. Stay away from that stuff....but feel free to call me at 555-@@@-*** to discuss anytime!
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Posted: 6/28/2006 9:16:09 AM | I never used to give my home phone number out when I was dating. I always had people call me via my cell which is not traceable to my address as it is a work cell. Only my good friends, my boyfriend, and my family have my home number.
Too many crazies out there! No need to invite trouble!
If someone thinks you're a player or rude if you don't give your home number, or don't call them right away, screw them! Move on to someone with an iota of sense and understanding!
Play safe out there peoples! | |
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Posted: 6/28/2006 5:38:41 PM | I've only given my number out once on here. We had corresponded for a couple of months and were planning on getting together, so I gave it to her. She still hasn't used it but we still write.
On the flipside, I emailed a Lady on here because in our profiles we had a lot in common. In her first reply she gave me her first name and phone #, and I was surprised. I emailed her back and told her she was very trusting. After that she wouldn't return my emails and now she has left the site - all this has gone on over the last ... say ... week and a half or so. I'm trying to figure it out and wondering if I should call her just to say WTF? Any advice? I'm afraid I spooked her off the site, and it wasn't my intent.  | |
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Posted: 6/28/2006 5:58:53 PM | | I think the general feeling here is the same as mine: e-mail, to chat (msn or IM), then phone #s. When I get to the phone number stage, I always give my cell number first. If it keeps going, then they can get my home number. I have to protect myself and my child. | |
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Posted: 6/29/2006 4:47:16 AM | Since I have rotary dial (pulse dialing), *67 isn't an option. Dialing 1167 sometimes works, but doesn't always. Yes, I know I could get touch tone, but pulse is still cheaper and I'd rather save the money for something else.
I do have a work cell phone and a personal cell phone, so I can give out those numbers instead. My work cell is always on (and has call display, call answer, and a number of other nifty options), whereas my personal cell is only on if I expect or plan to make a call.
Ideally, I'd rather meet the person at Timmy's and then decide if I want to give out my number at all. | |
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