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| THEY SAY YOU'LL FIND 'THE ONE' WHEN YOUR NOT LOOKING...DO YOU THINK THAT'S TRUE?
Posted: 3/14/2012 5:40:23 PM | When we look for a relationship, we tend to wear a mask pretending we are someone else because the end result is “getting into a relationship” right? then after a couple of months or years we slowly show our true selves (what a waste of time!). The truth eventually comes out, why waste that time in the beginning wearing a mask when you can just take it off. It could also be the other way around, your partner could be the one wearing the mask. For example, have you got into a relationship where you told the other person “you’ve changed?” it probably means they wore a mask to court you into the relationship but here is the real me!
To not look for a relationship means to be yourself and take off that mask to show people who you really are. Wearing a mask, getting into a relationship for years and then finding out this is not the right person for you is time consuming, don’t you agree? Wouldn’t you rather focus on yourself with all that time and building your self value than waste it with the wrong person? The best way to meet the right person is to focus on yourself! get busy doing what you love and meet people on the way. When you are BUSY doing what you love, you tend to make others respect the time you give them. Wouldn’t you like to be with someone that has set their eyes on their goals and ambitions? is busy doing what they love? and more importantly you know who they really are because they aren't wearing that mask? it all starts from you!
1) Focus on you before anything! (Life's ambitions, goals and hobbies for example > learning a new language, working out and getting fit, dancing or learning how to dance, traveling the world, getting a better job, starting a business, going to school for a better job, etc)
2) Meet people on the way and be yourself! Remember the goal is not to get into a relationship. The goal is to meet a lot of people and see how people really are. Don't rush anything. Finding the right person takes time. | |
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| THEY SAY YOU'LL FIND 'THE ONE' WHEN YOUR NOT LOOKING...DO YOU THINK THAT'S TRUE?
Posted: 3/15/2012 9:26:15 AM | I think the more happy you are with yourself alone... the more attractive you are to others. I know the times when I was most interested in finding a companion in my life were the times there was the least shown towards me. The less I care... the more interested others are. Care to explain that?
Of course there is no burying your head in the sand if you have any hopes of meeting the right person for you also... it is also a numbers thing... apparently HUGE numbers lol | |
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| THEY SAY YOU'LL FIND 'THE ONE' WHEN YOUR NOT LOOKING...DO YOU THINK THAT'S TRUE?
Posted: 3/27/2012 1:52:47 PM | For me, yes it is true. About 3 years ago I was planning to move up to York after the summer months to begin my law degree and had no intention for a long relationship, if any at all. Over Christmas I began talking to this guy who, after an exchange of emails on pof and eventual meet up, I only thought of as a summer fling and nothing more.
Long story short, during those months we both fell in love. We have done so much, travelled all over the world and want to have a family, home, kids, get married...etc He's my soul mate (as cheesy as that sounds), and now we can't imagine a life without each other. | |
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| THEY SAY YOU'LL FIND 'THE ONE' WHEN YOUR NOT LOOKING...DO YOU THINK THAT'S TRUE?
Posted: 3/27/2012 3:05:27 PM | | Too many people go about looking for "the one" like the human resources department looks to fill a position. It shouldn't be a quest with some huge list of wants and desires that are must haves. It would be like looking for a needle in a haystack to expect any one person to have every single attribute on your list. Yup...I think you find the one (of possible manies) when you're not looking. Having said that, you're not going to find anyone if you don't put yourself in the position of meeting people in all kinds of places and ways. I know practically reclusive people who sit home constantly and complain they aren't in a relationship of any kind - most meter readers and mail carriers that drop by just aren't going to be interested. | |
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| THEY SAY YOU'LL FIND 'THE ONE' WHEN YOUR NOT LOOKING...DO YOU THINK THAT'S TRUE?
Posted: 3/27/2012 7:34:36 PM | | I think it's true for men. But only if they put their time into improving themselves. And I mean building wealth and pursuing a career or life-goal. It's advice I wish I had been given in my youth. You can't make gaining the love and admiration of a woman your ultimate goal in life and ever hope to achieve that goal. It usually comes as a result of who you are and what you bring to the table outside of a relationship. You have to ask yourself who would I be if I were just about myself, and make that your goal in life. Everything else will fall into line behind that. I think a lot of men (especially those who were raised by women) were fed a line of crap about being the man women say they want, and miss the mark of being what women really go for. | |
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bkskd
| | Joined: 10/28/2009
Msg: 116 | |
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| THEY SAY YOU'LL FIND 'THE ONE' WHEN YOUR NOT LOOKING...DO YOU THINK THAT'S TRUE?
Posted: 5/20/2012 6:33:59 PM | | If you are looking then you are usually trying too hard to find someone and you end up going for the wrong person. You get impatient or snowblind. It,s usually when you aren't seeking that your path crosses with a special someone. You aren't so eager and you end up taking the time to realize that this person really is who you want to be with ...a'lot. | |
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| THEY SAY YOU'LL FIND 'THE ONE' WHEN YOUR NOT LOOKING...DO YOU THINK THAT'S TRUE?
Posted: 5/25/2012 2:33:13 PM | It was true for me...I'm a sweet loving nice lady and after dating I was completely sick of meeting crappy men so I quit dating and quit looking..then I met a friend out who intrroduced me to a buddy of his and it was love at first sight! He's a real sweet man and has the same value system I do, been dating for several months now and all is great.
Went out for dinner and a few drinks and enede up with a wonderful man when I least expected it!! | |
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tbicon
| | Joined: 5/6/2012
Msg: 120 | |
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| THEY SAY YOU'LL FIND 'THE ONE' WHEN YOUR NOT LOOKING...DO YOU THINK THAT'S TRUE?
Posted: 5/25/2012 2:59:00 PM | | I disagree 100% more and more people these days just seem to want to bang as many people as they can and its disgusting and revolting. Or their standards are impossible to meet. Sure If you are a very attractive person it probably happens all the time but for us ugly people no it doesnt happen | |
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| THEY SAY YOU'LL FIND 'THE ONE' WHEN YOUR NOT LOOKING...DO YOU THINK THAT'S TRUE?
Posted: 5/25/2012 9:17:06 PM | No, not really. If I am not looking, IE, dating, then I don't meet anyone at all.
When dating, I have never looked for a long term relationship, much less the "one" they just happen. I date just to have fun with a women, but in the course of human events, sometimes you meet someone you just don't want to let go of. | |
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| THEY SAY YOU'LL FIND 'THE ONE' WHEN YOUR NOT LOOKING...DO YOU THINK THAT'S TRUE?
Posted: 5/26/2012 6:43:21 AM | | Yeah, it is true. I have experienced that and it's funny how that happens. It must be some kind of world energy thing or something. Kind of like when you run towards a woman, she runs in the other direction and when you don't want her, she chases you. I can't explain it but it is the craziest thing. | |
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