| Where are all the good guys???
Posted: 6/26/2006 5:48:43 PM | | Unfortunately most men put their needs ahead of their dates. Relationships are about fulfilling one another's needs and sex on a first date seldom satisfies the woman's needs because women think with their hearts while men..................everyone knows what most men think with and it's location isn't near either their brains or their hearts. | |
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| Where are all the good guys???
Posted: 6/26/2006 6:52:48 PM | | Not only do they want you to put out, they don't want to know that you have bee with anyone else. It's like they want a 40 year old virgin. They want "the girl next door with an edge" but where is that edge supposed to come from? Why is it that it's ok if a guy goes on a lot of dates but us women are supposed to have been waiting all this time for them? I am so sick of first dates.....I could write a book about all the first dates I have been on that have't resulted in a second date by my choice. I just want someone that's "normal". The problem is....all guys think they are normal and not like "all the other guys". It's sad really. | |
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| Where are all the good guys???
Posted: 6/26/2006 7:51:28 PM | We are/ they are out there. However it may help your frustration to understand a couple of things. Men are primarily stimulated VISUALLY. Hence porn. Women are more often stimulated/ aroused by more intangibles; your voice, a glance, a subtle kiss on he neck. A sense of humor. I've dated women who were extremly turned-on by intellect (lucky for me).
Don't flame for the generalizations.
Also, never forget, as a rule of thumb,
Men ARE pigs/dogs. The older they get, less so.
Just being honest here. Men don't flame me. It's not like this a deep dark secret in our "He-Man Woman-hater" club or something.
(btw, any of you guys get your secrt decoder whistle ring?)
I could continue, but think my point is made.
Again there are good, smart, funny, honest, sincere caring men out there.
But we're a dying breed it seems.
Good luck. | |
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| Where are all the good guys???
Posted: 6/26/2006 9:37:01 PM | WE ARE IN LONGVIEW TEXAS, AND WERE LOOKING FOR A NICE WOMAN TO COME SWOOP US OFF OUR FEET,
WILL IT EVER HAPPIN , ? I REALLY DOUBT IT, BUT I DO HOPE SO,,,,,
I HAVE MY ANGEL CATCHING NET READY, AND I KEEP LQQKING OUTSIDE IN HOPES TO SEE ONE DOING A FLY BY,,,, LOL
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| Where are all the good guys???
Posted: 6/26/2006 9:45:51 PM | | You know thats a really good question I'll try to shed some light on this if you'll let me. Now to start with (and I don't want you to think I'm talking about you) what no woman seems to understanmd is that with all of the tramps hussies sluts and whores out there it makes guys think about sex all day every day. Now I'm not trying to say its not our fault for wanting sex b'c it is and we all know that. But what I'm trying to say is that the good girls out there just don't out-number the bad and thats what is rweally making this worse well thats my oppinion anyway sry to bother any one. | |
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| Where are all the good guys???
Posted: 6/27/2006 12:37:14 PM | | Are you speaking of one like Bobby_Texas? Emailed many, many times a day...writes hundreds of words about his virtues and all the hell he has endured in his life...then mentions that all he has to offer is "enjoyment" because he has no money, but is willing to move in with you no matter where you live on the planet...and here's the topper...asks you to write a phrase in French...then asks what it means...then uses MY phrase on his profile as his "handle". Keep looking for the good guys...you can tell the ones who are dangerous I'm sure...also check out, don'tdatehimgirl.com. | |
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| Where are all the good guys???
Posted: 6/27/2006 2:25:57 PM | One I've bbeen dating a while is at work and on the golf course :) heheheheh
I'll say this..... I have talked to quite a few guys, and met several on this site and another....
It just kills me when I call someone and I get this "dead space" on the other end of the phone. Emails all day long full of zest and yadayada, then dead space on the phone....
Met a couple for coffee from here, and the same dead space at coffee...............
I cut out on those 3 going "wtf was that about ?.." . These guys all of a sudden had 0 personality or vibe. I still can't figure it.
Then there are the dozen or so that want me to come visit them at their house !!! wtf !?
Or want to come over to my house?!! wtf ? I haven't been by here (POF) for a while, cause the guy I'm dating has been keeping me busy. OH, did I say.... I didn't meet him online. Darn!! Yep, it was thru a mutual friend, a friend of mines boyfriend she dumped :) Boy did she miss something on that call !!!
Then there was the guy last week at Walmart, wanted to have coffee. We talked on the phone and it turns out he's married and guess what....... wants to come visit me at home !!!?? What's going on out there in dating world ?
Anyway.......... I was just talking about this with a girl friend the other day. We couldn't come up with an answer. She gets the same crap.
On the other hand.............. I do have a dear friend (male) whom I have dated after meeting online who lives in Austin. We had sex on the second date... Because there was good chemistry and he is THE gentleman and I feel very good in his company. He respects and treats me special and kindly. And I do the same...Go figure :) But he's in Austin, and the distance is a little too much for us to work with, so we reamin good friends after seeing eachother a month or 2. So I know there IS hope online.
That's my .02 today kids :)
hugzzzzzzzzzzzzz | |
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| Where are all the good guys???
Posted: 6/27/2006 3:49:58 PM | On the ones with emails full of zest all day and full of zest then dead on phone or in person:
I think the problem with internet dating is that too much of the initial conversation tends to happen before meeting in person. In a successfull offline dating scenario the people usually do and experience enough for new conversation before the new person talk wears off. I'm not saying that all there is to know comes out in the emails, but some stuff takes time before it can and should come out. Experiences is what fills in those conversation gaps. Get to know people good enough to know there's a good chance it's safe to meet them somewhere, but don't try to know if the two of you could work first. Too many people try to raise their successful dates ratio and end up making dates with the good ones suck and give a bad impression. | |
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| Where are all the good guys???
Posted: 6/27/2006 4:16:02 PM | | What's that other place people go on the web Harmony . something or other, with the scientific personality analysis? It tells me that there are less than 5 % of the total male population that thinks like I do. Sex is not the only thing on my mind on a first date or for a few dates after for me. I am a man and I do think about sex throughout the day, that is being a normal man. But once I realized that women are thinking the same things and have better control of the urges because subconciously that would be considered too easy and the reputation of being easy will only bring more of the typical ever so horny male population, probably of the 95% that does not think like I do. And once I realized that I was good enough to act like my shit was just as much a commodity as theirs. Which usually leads them to react differently, like balling your brains out. Go figure! | |
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| Where are all the good guys???
Posted: 6/28/2006 2:43:43 AM | I cannot speak for everyone but i would say you may have the latent Rodney Dangerfield syndrome. As i remember he never got it either....respect i mean Ma'am. I do know this ....i don't expect it on the first date...nor would i even attempt it on the first date or the second. Hell i may never attempt it. I was never any good at any of the earlier attempts either. I let the female decide the right time that way i know it is ok. I just value my manhood enough not to put it at risk. I have grown rather fond of it over the years. Now Loreana Bobbit taught me a valuable lesson form afar. That i don't ever need in my lifetime.
I always wondered which police officer had to carry the evidence back to its owner...i would say the one with the least seniority. I am glad i wasn't around...the fireants would have them a good meal i would have overlooked that one on purpose. Soplease don't feel like the Lone Rangerette Ma'am you aren't alone. | |
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| Where are all the good guys???
Posted: 6/28/2006 6:35:31 AM | Now that makes some good sense ULO !!!
TMI before even meeting someone. I like that.
It may be wise to do that "get to know you" thang a litlle more in person.
That's a very interesting spin, and one I'm going to take a serious look at. | |
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| Where are all the good guys???
Posted: 7/17/2006 2:42:36 PM | we are all in here waiting for the good women to stop being so shy, is there any women that want true love anymore ? or are they all into playing games with our head, i sure do wanna find someone to love again,, | |
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| Where are all the good guys???
Posted: 7/18/2006 4:02:12 PM | Ya know its funny, Women like sex as much or more than we do...Most just wont admit it.... And I dont expect sex anytime soon when I meet someone unless it just happens. And I have met women that just want a F... buddy believe it or not with no complications. So the signals often get crossed along the way. If a guy puts his heart and sole into you and you know it but still wont be intimate with them then they will get discouraged. That is how guys really know that you are into us for the long haul..... And when you say put out that is the wrong approach...Havent you ever met someone that was so sensual that you couldnt resist after you been together for a while. Sweety we dont want to use you but to bond with you. Its just a different thought process between our two sexes...Does that make sense.
Sincerely,
Joe | |
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| Where are all the good guys???
Posted: 7/18/2006 4:12:53 PM | You are so right longview
So many women site that its dangerous to meet someone or most wont even talk to you, and they will never find anyone like this. but then again maybe they really dont want anyone,.
I know several women personally that have posted ads on the internet and in real life dont want to even date. These kinds drive all the good men away,
But what gets me is all the excuses I hear from women saying why they dont want to meet anyone. Ok ladies,, if you are that cautious,, why be here if you arent going to use the system as it was intended. Also try to understand not all men here are just after sex,, im not and you wouldnt give me the time of day,, | |
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| Where are all the good guys???
Posted: 7/18/2006 4:14:50 PM | Oh man, these threads are classic... You have half the people trying to say it's the woman's fault, and the other half think it's a brilliant time to chime in and claim that they are, in fact, good guys.... (Especially ones with usernames like "Fish-Slayer" and "TXbikerdude".. lol)
Really, the answer is numbers... First of all, the losers are more proficient e-mailers... They spam every decent looking female they can find, and try to nail anyone who writes back... The decent guys actually only send out a couple... (Since they only hit up the women they're actually interested in).... Online dating is pretty much the same as the offline version. You still have to sit through 10-15 miserable failures before you find a good one... The key is not to get discouraged! | |
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| Where are all the good guys???
Posted: 7/19/2006 9:16:02 AM | Well I can't answer that but I will totally agress with you! Are there any guys that will like me for me and not just want sex back?? It begins to get old really fast! | |
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| Where are all the good guys???
Posted: 7/19/2006 9:16:43 AM | | well after reading all the posts I have to agrre we are out there but overlooked. The perfect man is over 6 foot handsmome and witty and all he wants is sex, most of the time. we others that don't fit the mold are left holding the wilted flowers. well I am sick of it, my ex treated me like dirt and I finally had enough. I love women and used to have a lot of trust till my ex. I am hoping that there is a woman out there because I want to trust again and love again and not just think of sex on the first date. If I feel chemistry with the woman yes I want sex but will not persue it because what kind of relationship can be built on that foundation? I grew up in a time of promiscuity, one night stands were the norm. Looking for MR.GOODBAR. Sex is the MOST intimate act, along with a good snuggle, LOL. So keep looking, keep hoping and keep your legs together. He is out there unoticed in the crowd, the kind heart the gentle face and love in his eyes. Good luck sweetie. | |
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| Where are all the good guys???
Posted: 7/19/2006 9:37:30 AM | | Well lets be honest here the more I speak to women the more I realize that most are not attracted to nice, sensitive guys. Women both tend to be fickle. One moment you want exciting and the next you want sensitive. To tell you the truth most of us don't come with the full package. Not that we don't want sex...we just are respectful enough to let a women choose when the right time is. It would be a mistake to blame this problem solely on us, as well, as anyone could tell you that the men you are attracted to may have something to do with your problem. | |
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| Where are all the good guys???
Posted: 7/19/2006 9:45:01 AM | | Women generally get to sit around and pick and choose while men have to give effort to find a date. Trust me women have it easy. Bravery is unnecessary for women to find guys, while guys have to take a shot to our egos everytime we speak to women. Your response might be that men judge to. Of course we do. But we also accept faults more I think. Oh yeah I can't answer the whole fear of being with a women whose been around. That's pretty stupid, but women need to give us less credit. Hey I am sure most of you would feel uncomfortable about being with someone whose determines locations of lovers by area code. So give us a break, be patient, and if you are you'll find a decent one. And trust me that is all any of are. Decent. | |
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| Where are all the good guys???
Posted: 7/19/2006 10:26:13 AM | | Ok thats it,,, I have IM'd a lady online for the last time. this happenes to me every time,, they open the window to let you know they are here and then they close it,, wont even say hello,, or im busy,, or what ever,, so women when you ask where have all the good guys gone,, ask yourself,,, with all the inconsiderate women here why would a good guy stick around? Why be nice to you? we just get treated bad back anyway,, just for saying hello. | |
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| Where are all the good guys???
Posted: 7/19/2006 12:08:04 PM | We are in Colorado too, I posted a thread on it, but I am getting voted out.
By the time you read it, it will say, thread deleted.
It's called "Any Texas ladies willing to relocate? | |
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