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| Where are all the good guys???
Posted: 10/3/2006 3:08:35 PM | There are planty of us good guys left. The only thing that hurts us are A_ _ H_ _ _ _ and so women dont trust all men must of the time.
Like me, I am a very passionate person and I LOVE SEX!! Then I also know women dont want sex all the time. They want Attention and Affection, also someone just to listen to her problems and not try to fix them.
Like yourself you want a man that will repect you, but your standards are too high. Men are out there and they want a pat on there backs when they do a good job. They like being rewarded and it's usually with sex.
Here are some rules all men should follow and they dont:
#1 CONFIDENCE: The most attractive quality to a woman is not money, looks or who you know. The most attractive quality to a woman is confidence. Women like men who are confident in who they are and what they want. They do not have to be the best looking or richest guy in the room but if a man is confident in himself as a man, who he is, what he wants in life and what he wants from her and any possible relationship women find this the most attractive quality. Women do not like insecure men or men with self esteem issues. They do not want to always reassure you why they are with you. They do not want to hear "I cannot believe a girl as beautiful as you is dating me"...what they would rather hear is.. "We make a good match: you're stunning and can turn heads wherever we go which gives me time to sneak into the best parking spots". You've complimented her, used humour and reinforced how good a team the two of you make.
#2 DECISION MAKING: Women like a man who can make a decision. IF you pick up a woman for a date and say what do you want to do and she says what would you like to do and you respond whatever you want to do...you've lost her. Go to a date with a plan, and a back up plan... be decisive. If something doesn't work make a decision about what will work. The reason women like men who can make a decision is that it demonstrates their leadership qualities. Men who are leaders make decisions, men who follow cannot.
#3 ASSERTIVE NOT AGRESSIVE: Women like men who can assert themselves. They like if you can take charge of situations whether those situations are on how to deal with a bad waiter or how to help a stranded motorist. They admire men who are able to take charge without running over other people or treating other people with disdain. They like men who stand up for themselves without having to get agressive, but who will get physical if it is needed.
#4 RESPECT: Women like men who respect them. This means that YOU ARE PUNCTUAL for a date. NEver show up for a date late, it shows a lack of respect for her. If you are going to be late then call well ahead of time to let her know and show up with a small token of appreciation for her patience waiting for you like a chocolate from Bernard Callebaut or even a flower you picked on the way there. Also women want to know you respect who they are and what they want in life. This means YOU HAVE TO LISTEN TO THEM. PAY ATTENTION TO THE DETAILS! If a woman says she wants to be a doctor, ask her what kind of doctor, what inspired her to do it, what she hopes to achieve. And do not just ask her this but REMEMBER WHAT SHE SAYS! If you do not remember what she is telling you why bother asking. If you cannot remember something that is important to her then she is not important to you!
#5 MONEY: YOU DO NOT NEED IT TO IMPRESS A WOMAN! Women find men who talk about how much they make to be insecure and vulgar. If you make a lot of money a woman will know by the way you dress, the kind of car you drive, the way you carry yourself, the kind fo gifts you buy her, the places you take her for dinner. She does not need to be told. Women think about money differently than men. Whereas we use money as a measure of our manhood women consider money as just a means to an end. They only need enough to live happily with a few extras. The reason women like a man to be financially sound is not to take care of them most women can take care of themselves. How a man handles his money whether he is rich or poor says to a woman: is he responsible, is he ambitious, can he make a commitment, can he hold his own in this relationhip?
#6 PERSONAL HYGIENE: Women like a man to smell and look nice. That does not mean you have to have a six pack. It means that you should dress in clothes that fit you and are age appropriate. Don't wear a tight T shirt if you have a big belly. Wear something that fits you well. And oh yeah, don't go out in wrinkled clothes, it says you can't take care of yourself. Also, women hate hate hate B.O. Make sure you have clean nails, and put on a little cologne or at least make sure you shower regularly. The other thing women hate hate hate is Bad Breath! Nice teeth help too so brush em n floss em!
#7 PHYSICAL APPEARANCE: Each woman has her preference but in general if you want to date the hottie with the body..you better take care o your own business! Your body is your temple. It houses your soul, it is who you are. How you treat yourself tells a woman a lot about what you think about yourself. It is ok to be larger, or skinnier but be healthy! Many women like love handles for what reason I don't know. But if you want to date a really fit person then you yourself should be somewhat fit. Many women also like strong arms. They like to be held and feel like a man is holding them not a boy. They like to feel protected in your arms even if some of them are loathe to admit it..so skinny boys start eating your wheaties!
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#8 BE YOUR OWN MAN: Most women like men who make up their own minds and are not told what to do by them. They like you to cooperate, communicate and be together with them in a relationship but they want to know you can disagree with them. They want to know you have your own mind and cannot be pushed around not even by them. This is why those guys who you think are a-holes are always dating great girls. They are their own men and do not let anyone push them around not even their own girlfriends. You can do things for your girlfriend, wife or lover but if she asks you to do something that you find either demeaning or that compromises your own integrity you should not do it. You should tell her why you will not do it even if you have a fight and work together with her for a compromise. She will respect you more for it. | |
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| Where are all the good guys???
Posted: 10/3/2006 3:24:08 PM | hmm, where are all the good guys? Maybe they're married to the good women? Hun, ain't no one on this site the virgin mary, mohammed, or buhda (ok, lots bubba's, but not that oriental fellar).
Maybe you should ask yourself, what type of men attract your attention. If you spend hours looking for the perfect dress, trying them on, putting them back.. and always going back to that lil sexy number your mom would be horrified to see you in.. and head to the zoo.. the problem may not be the guy.
After that, hell, it's like shoppin for clothes, you may find the outfit you want right off the rack, wear it for years until it's so comfortable you actually mourn when it fades away from use and abuse. Conversely, you may take weeks to get the one that fits oh so right... and only use once.
My experience, women are about as fickle as men. | |
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co94
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Joined: 6/10/2006
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| Where are all the good guys???
Posted: 10/20/2006 3:13:46 PM | Women want their cake and eat it to, they want a nice,yet rebellious pretty boy, which most of us don't fit that description. Anyway, if you want a nice guy, then choose one, there are many nice guys out there who will respect you, but, in turn you have to respect him, and not walk all over him. I do agree that us nice guys, who are for real, are a bit boring, but I beleive that together you and him can be creative enough to keep each other happy, without leaning towards sex.Both have to do your part and meet each other halfway. Love is a choice, you develope it, you release it, and then you walk in it together-GOD.
PS: YOU SEEM LIKE A VERY NICE YOUNG LADY, KEEP DOING WHAT YOU ARE DOING, TAKE YOUR TIME, TALK TO SEVERAL NICE MEN, THEN CHOOSE WITH YOUR HEART, NOT YOUR EYES.
CO94 | |
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| Where are all the good guys???
Posted: 10/20/2006 4:25:42 PM | Here's a good guy. A great father. And a good freind.
http://www.plentyoffish.com/member2582959.htm
If you're looking for a Brad Pitt type and drama, well you're gonna have to fight the Angilina's of the world. But if you want a great single guy, look up my bud and say hello.
Some lucky girl will, and she will be forever happy and thank her good fortune. | |
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| Where are all the good guys???
Posted: 10/20/2006 5:19:31 PM | What? Where? Who? ?When?
I don't know, found one but can't get together, guess he's playing hard to get, putting off meeting for now, if we never meet how can we get to know each other?
Will you guy's, older guys answer this question for me....thanks... | |
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noodle
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Joined: 10/20/2004
Msg: 81 | |
| Where are all the good guys???
Posted: 10/20/2006 6:36:58 PM | | ok ,pinkflowerslw, ill answer you,after all my yrs i have learned that sex is not all that one would think, yes its good for when it last,then you wake up and dont have any thing in common,and sex is over with then what? yes there is more to a woman than sex and there is more to a real man than sex, love, holding each other ,talking over coffee, eatin good food,enjoying a movie ,garage sale, bowling, etc. understand.kissing,watching a sun set,holding hands,walk together,talk over things, i think some times a woman should be with a older man that understands and still have good sex ,but appreciate the other things in life .sorry babe , you ask and i told you .god bless ,you will get respect if you stand your ground. take it from and old fart, i no.lol.love ya and good luck | |
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noodle
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Joined: 10/20/2004
Msg: 82 | |
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| Where are all the good guys???
Posted: 10/20/2006 6:55:53 PM | You were taught right, but the key word is (Man) A man will respect a woman period, sex on the first date are any time during a relationship would be of mutual consent
any man who disrespect's a woman for any reason in my opion is not a man,he is someone who has no respect for himself   | |
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| Where are all the good guys???
Posted: 10/20/2006 8:11:15 PM | | I've only spoken to, two good guys off of here. So.. MY guess is they're all hiding out in canada | |
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noodle
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Joined: 10/20/2004
Msg: 85 | |
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| Where are all the good guys???
Posted: 10/20/2006 9:57:05 PM | PLEAS NOTICE THIS AND READ for God's sakes!!!!!! URGENT.....................................
I put in a responce to this and did not notice that my brother "dharley" had been on here, and now it looks like he wrote this but didn't, he is not looking for men, he is looking for women, please let me correct this.....thank you........   | |
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| Where are all the good guys???
Posted: 10/21/2006 3:26:04 AM | | My question is how come you keep "picking" the same type of men? And it works both ways, and yes all dating sites with pictures are just meat markets. An ltr is rather difficult to build on Lust (chemistry when we meet)....Over time every one reveals their true nature. I fail to understand the amount of time spent on "sex" or anything "sexual". I realize we are animals, and the natural instinct is to re[produce]. However, we have intellect to use over our emotions so that we don't have to be baying hounds. Which begs this question for women, What is your purpose (what message are you sending)in wearing such revealing clothes on the first date? S | |
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| Where are all the good guys???
Posted: 10/21/2006 6:30:44 AM | | Dearest Pinkflowers...if something is not working in your life...change it. Times have changed and Ward and June don't live in our day and age. I'm not saying become a sleep around but loosen up...Explore. I have a theory, that more, failing marriages could be saved and most fights could be dissolved by the fellatious giving and recieving of pleasure. Maybe you just need your groove back. Be like Stella...your world will become a kinder gentler place. Attitude adjustment. lol Dewd | |
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| Where are all the good guys???
Posted: 10/21/2006 10:19:44 AM | Well, Ms. Pinkflowerslw,
I don't have a perfect answer for you, and after reading some of the posts by my male counterparts here I'm amazed women EVER talk to men at all. The only thing I can say is that there will be one guy for you out there that will treat you the way you want to be treated. Not all guys are sex-a-holics or believe that sex is currency that should be paid for "proper" treatment, but considering you are on a singles site asking that question, those responses are probably normal as those men with that perspective are answering your question ARE single for a reason.
Not all guys are dogs that need to hump the nearest animal with a pulse. Just stick to your guns and treat yourself with respect. If you don't, you cannot expect anyone else to either.
By the way, I respect your attitude and class. Doing the right thing isn't always the most popular or easiest thing to do, but ultimately it's worth it as you do not have to wonder about what kind of person you are and you can look anyone in the eye with certainty and say that you did it right. That goes for anything, not just this particular topic.
Any guy with class wants a woman with class... so stay your course and you'll be fine.
Best of luck in your search! | |
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| Where are all the good guys???
Posted: 10/21/2006 10:46:43 AM | One observation, I might make from your initial post is it doesn't make any effort to analyze anything you might be doing to present the problem? What I mean is 99% of our problems as humans is perspective. We get it from our family and the environment in which we are raised/live and no 2 people have the same perspective.
To give you an example most people feel cheated when someone lies to them. Examine for a moment what a lie is or what its cause is. A lie is someones way of dealing with a social inadequacy. So, can someone actually lie to you or are they just lying to themselves? I think if as humans we change our perspective to; all people deep down are good then attempt to analyze why they might be doing what they are doing.
Furthermore, Freud's studies would indicate it was indicative of women to develope phycosis caused by sexual repression. So, its no more natural for you to repress your sex drive then it is for a man.... Unfortunately, in American society that is something you've learned.... Maybe why Vera thinks all the good guys are in Canada?
Additionally, most nerves created on first dates (in my opinion) are caused by sexual tension. Most people respond fairly well by humorizing the content and getting it (sex) out in the open, maybe you don't?
Lastly, I am a Marine who is no longer active but still faithful. As a younger man I had a huge sex drive. In boot camp I saw a woman exactly three time before graduation.... during dental screening and shots (2). Each time it set off the same reaction. An errection. The causation of this can most probably be linked to female pheremones.... Because the whole rest of the time in boot camp, not once did I reach an errection. Maybe your pheremones are just stronger than every other womans? (yes, this is a nerd joke)
Good luck! | |
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| Where are all the good guys???
Posted: 10/21/2006 2:56:26 PM | Honeydew,
Are you suggesting I start giving fellatio (is that spelled right?)? So let me get this straight....
You are saying that the answers to all my men problems are not whats in my pants, but what's in my mouth?
Hmmmm..... | |
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| Where are all the good guys???
Posted: 10/21/2006 3:25:10 PM | | Pinky, The greatest President of our time ie. Slick Willy says it's not sex...but I have to disagree. Nothin better for me and I always return the favor. solves so many problems you would not believe how harmonious a relationship can be...Take control of the situation. Why do you thing the strip club industry is such a booming business...You don't even have to to use your mouth. A lap dance will take care of business if you do it right. Ever thought about going to a strip joint and seeing how the professionals do it. I'm not suggesting to corrupt your mind but it will be eye opening. I just read that the POF party in Dallas will have a lap dance competion. Check it out...pay attention to details and come see me. | |
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| Where are all the good guys???
Posted: 10/21/2006 3:33:22 PM | Honey,
I don't think I understand what you are suggesting I do... Are you suggesting I go to a strip club and get a lap dance? Maybe by a man who is wearing a g-string. Trust me, a man in a g- string will NOT take care of it. But I would for once like to treat a man like a piece of meat, like they treat women all the time. I want to exploit them by opening up my own family restaurant next to Hooters, and call it "The Banana Peel" I will make sexy men (chosen by my all female management team) wear the required uniform... It would be a hit..
Don't you think so Girls? | |
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| Where are all the good guys???
Posted: 10/21/2006 3:40:25 PM | | You go girl...but I was suggesting that you attend a female strip joint...to see the social interaction that goes on. The art of seduction...female prowlness...men are suckers...that is why Ricks and Those places make a fortune. But I like your idea about the banana peel. It is going to be a huge success. | |
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| Where are all the good guys???
Posted: 10/21/2006 3:48:12 PM | OK Pinkflowerslw LOL ^^^^^you made your piont with that one^^^^^^
You haven't had much luck I see but as with myself, I'll bet our pickers are the problem. Mine has been in the past!!!
I will admit my imperfection and say I have been looking for a long term relationship but sometimes I have looked for just sex to. I don't always make the right decisions and when I've realized i've done something insulting, I appologize and hope I can be accepted for being human. I am not sure if you are having this problem on the first date or what. Of course men and woman can look for sex. But getting frustrated about it will just make it that much more difficult to be the sweet person you probably want to be if the right gut comes along. You might just push him away!!! OH yeah I suppose you are venting your frustration here so you don't do that, Right? | |
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