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Posted: 1/31/2009 6:35:48 AM | What. A. Crock. Of. Shi!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!.
Ya know OP, after many years of being married to a "showboater" some of the best dates I have had, have cost little to nothing. Taking a walk with the pooches, watching a movie, making dinner together...
Here is the strait shot, I make my own money, I don't need yours, thank you very much. Which means, I can take myself places, buy myself stuff and I don't need a guy to do it for me. Are you still with me? What I won't do, or really now CAN'T do, is spend my time with some guy who whines about his own self perceived shortcomings, and a lot of those guys, have a a lot of money. Dating, for me at least, has nothing to do with money. It has to do with spending time with a person who addes something to your life (not monitarily) and doesn't take away from it. That is the true value of dating.
Now, can I get you some dip to go with that chip on your shoulder? | |
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| Dating is all about income
Posted: 1/31/2009 8:38:43 AM | | Pretty girls deserve high income guys.....What a load of crap!!! I'm glad to see that ignorance and is alive and well in the world. With thinking like that I can see how men have had enough! | |
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Posted: 1/31/2009 8:54:16 AM |
Pretty girls deserve high income guys.....What a load of crap!!! I'm glad to see that ignorance and is alive and well in the world.
Yeah, me too... I mean glad to see that ignorance is alive...
They "deserve",eh??
With thinking like that I can see how men have had enough!
Nah, I haven't had enough. I just laugh at comment like that. | |
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| Dating is all about income
Posted: 1/31/2009 9:47:08 AM | | Problem is theres no RESPECT in dating or in anyone for the matter. It's not about high income it's about the level of respect and how much BS people can tolerate. | |
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Posted: 1/31/2009 9:52:40 AM | for materialistic people income is an issue but I know many that arent like that and as for the woman that wondered about the over time thing...maybe she needs to get a job...lifestayle has alot to do with it too....live high on the hog...need the funds for it...live with-in your means....well...U know the rest! | |
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Posted: 1/31/2009 9:58:04 AM |
Pretty girls deserve high income guys,
Then it shouldn't be a problem when the years and pounds pile up and the ones that used to be pretty are single and sagging and lonely. Oh did I forget bitter?
Beauty is as thin as the price tag on it!
Realistically, I think we would all like someone who can carry their own weight. I see nothing wrong with that.
As far as feeling like most are looking for mega cash flow or you have no chance, is just a whining comment because someone got rejected and they have self esteem issues about money! | |
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Posted: 1/31/2009 11:44:20 PM | Let's be honest. Dating is all about income.
Dating is somewhat about being of equal socioeconomic status, yes.
I tried the whole "love is blind" thing. My ex-husband came from a less well-to-do family, never got further than obtaining his GED, and had a blue collar job. I can't say it ever bothered me really, because he had a higher paying blue-collar job, and he was extremely intelligent.
Unfortunately, it bothered him...
He always felt like I had settled for him because I was comfortable with him or wanted to stick it out for the kids, or whatever.
In the end, it destroyed our marriage.
Generally speaking, I'm most attracted to men that are more educated than I am, and more settled in life. It's not necessarily about money...I think money is more of a by-product of the other traits I look for in a man. However, I do expect a man I date to be self-sufficient, as am I. If I was looking for a long-term relationship, it might be different...money would most likely be more of an issue.
I'm having a hard time imagining a man with a PhD making minimum wage with no potential for earning more, so I'm not sure how I would react in that situation. | |
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Posted: 2/1/2009 12:33:45 AM | Um no...
Living in Miami, I know way too many rich guys who cant get a girl for the life of them... You know why? Because they believe that that is all girls care about and they bore them to death talking about how they make their money and what they do with it...
Girls like guys who put effort into things... Including her. I challenge you guys to make your next date not cost one penny, be fun and creative... See how you do... | |
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Posted: 2/1/2009 12:45:57 AM | The rock man there are only a small number of beautiful women and only a small number of rich men and they often pair up. I can understand your sour grape comments and bitterness over the fact that you couldn't attract beautiful women because of your far lower income.
Edit for below post:
Reckless Optimist that applies to your comment too. It is just sour grapes. | |
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Posted: 2/1/2009 12:53:54 AM | Pretty girls deserve high income guys, but they also want someone good looking.
call them girls or what ever you want where I come from they are called "Golddiggers" 
Reckless Optimist that applies to your comment too. It is just sour grapes.
edit for above post...no sour grapes involved ...sounds like I hit a nerve when I called it as I saw when I mentioned the term "Golddigger"...or I mean "Girl" which is it??I'm getting mixed up....oh I remember...... | |
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Posted: 2/1/2009 1:57:37 AM |
The rock man there are only a small number of beautiful women and only a small number of rich men and they often pair up.
Be aware that money and earnings power tend to accumulate over time (appreciating asset) while looks tend to fade (depreciating asset). When the value exchange equation falls out of equilibrium then the former miss beauty (now age 35-40) is replaced by a new miss beauty age 25 he he!! | |
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Posted: 2/1/2009 7:10:35 AM | Funny stuff Rock Man!
(You know how those young girls refuse to believe their beauty will fade!) | |
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Posted: 2/1/2009 7:28:55 AM |
However, I do expect a man I date to be self-sufficient, as am I. If I was looking for a long-term relationship, it might be different...money would most likely be more of an issue.
That's right there is very true!!!
Also little confusing..Why would be more of an issue in the long term relationship?
You mean, you trying to have a life with that person, so you want someone who can afford to buy a house with you, and someone who you can have a comfortable life with? In that case, of course. Doesn't everyone?
I prefer to "date" someone who can pay her share.
Someone, who is comfortable financially.
This thread is reminds me of, "Who should pay for ___ ( fill in the blank)? thread.
Or is it just me? | |
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Posted: 2/1/2009 7:29:42 AM | Guys, the hotter you are, the less women will care how much money you have. The overly hot guys can pull tail if they're nearly homeless. The quality of the tail may vary and it's questionable they may want to stick around after that, but chances are they'll drop laundry first and ask questions later.
*wink*
Sorry, had to add some comedic relief to the thread. | |
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| Dating is all about income
Posted: 2/1/2009 10:09:14 AM |
Also little confusing..Why would be more of an issue in the long term relationship?
You mean, you trying to have a life with that person, so you want someone who can afford to buy a house with you, and someone who you can have a comfortable life with? In that case, of course. Doesn't everyone?
Right. I'm not interested in adopting another child to take care of - I want a man who can bring something to the table. If I want to go on a vacation, I'd prefer to be in a relationship with someone who can afford to do that, and doesn't need me to pay for him. If we buy a house, I'd like to have pooled resources that can get us what we want, not someone who's debt/income ratio is so off that we actually have to move into a smaller house than I'm living in at the moment. Basically, if I get married, I'd like to have MORE money, not less.
I prefer to "date" someone who can pay her share.
Someone, who is comfortable financially.
I think that generally comes with age - the older the person, the more we expect them to have their sh*t together, so to speak. If they don't, it makes you wonder why they don't.
My ex-husband is an owner/operator, by the way. We had a lot of fun taking loads to New Mexico! | |
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Posted: 2/1/2009 10:43:06 AM |
the older the person, the more we expect them to have their sh*t together .
Gees, guess I am really old than..Should be over 100 years old.
I always had my sh*t together, since I was younger, not afraid of hard work, always found work. And if I can do it, everyone can.
Even when times are hard economically, I am making it.
Started donating plasma, it's easy money. But I am not about to throw my money away, by "dating" someone who doesn't work, don't have a car, etc.
And I am not talking about a cup of coffee, of course. Talking about steak and lobster.
That's why, dating IS kind of about income, but not all.
Yeah, if I get married, I would like to have MORE money, not less.
Fellow trucker,eh? I like trucking in NM, don't have to deal with much snow.
Guess you company him often... | |
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Posted: 2/1/2009 11:49:59 AM |
Pretty girls deserve high income guys, but they also want someone good looking.
Ah, but unless the pretty face and body are backed up with an equally attractive character and personality,guys worth having aren't going to stick around.
Cindy O | |
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Posted: 2/1/2009 11:51:44 AM | I don't have any statistics to match that either way but what I can tell you is for me I could care less. I have my own stuff, I don't need someone elses and I would be truly hoping you had something more to offer. If that is all you have to offer in your own mind than why come on here and complain about it?
In looking for a partner my list goes something like this:
You are happy to see me
We can talk without getting on each others nerves and really do enjoy
each others points (dialog)
You look at me like I am the cats meom lol
My memory of you lingers when your gone
The sound of your voice makes me immediately smile
We have similar values
You respect me in public and private and I will do the same
If we end up together for the long haul I know that you have my back and
I can trust that you will make decisions for me that are based on my best interests
if I cannot do it myself. | |
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Posted: 2/1/2009 12:22:13 PM | Kelley-1989,
the problem I have with your first comment is that saying 'pretty girls deserve high income men' .. or to that effect, implies that girls who are plainer do NOT 'deserve' to be with someone who can share with them a higher standard of lifestyle.
Looks are part of someone's heredity, and to suggest that a less physically appealing person should be relegated to lower dating standards is, to me, very wrong and a shallow way to look at the world.
It's nice for you that you're pretty. I don't think that makes you more entitled to a rich man than I am, and I know I'm less immediately alluring because I'm overweight and I don't dress sexy. I think I'm just as entitled to meet and have a relationship with a good man ~ even a GOOD-LOOKING man, who happens to make very good money.
That said, I'd be just as pleased with a sweet guy who makes me laugh, is wonderful to me and my relatives, and is happy with himself even if he doesn't make that much. | |
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Posted: 2/1/2009 12:25:50 PM |
Call my union hall some time and ask them what a journeyman carpenter makes. Then ask how much is added to it if they are a foreman and a steward. ( lets not talk about what we make in over time or vacation pay with health insurance all paid for)
It is not all about income. Journeymen carpenters deserve high income Women, but they also want someone good looking. | |
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Posted: 2/1/2009 9:14:44 PM | How long will carpenters may high pay?
They don't use wood in homes in most of the worlds developed countries anymore?
And the forests that supply wood are getting fewer?
What is the average age of a forester in Japan?
Here there are a lot of subjourneymen carpenters who work for less than that of a journey man, and get paid cash
Dating is about more than income, it involves everything that the person is capable of doing.
I should know, since I was called in to finish a job which a journeyman could not do, I had to take apart some of his work, he charge $60 per hour, I charged much less....since he was not experienced at doing kitchen renos, using second hand cabinets. He did not know plumbing or how to make a countertop out of Formica and plywood, and had no experience in finishing with oak. His invoice: $180, for nothing, my invoice was $300 for the whole works.
I get something for each and every reno, but I do not get rich, my trade grows,
indelibly
chao | |
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Posted: 2/1/2009 10:17:20 PM | I personally think women look for men with qualities that they themselves do not have. If a girl's short, she'll look for a tall guy. If she's insecure, she'll go for a c_0_c_k_y guy. If she doesn't make a lot of money, then she'll look for a guy who does. Of course, not ALL women are like that.
I think the OP dated women who EXPECTED to be wined and dined at expensive restaurants at his expense simply because other guys did that for them. Or their girlfriends tell them about guys doing that for them (their girlfriends). Of course, not ALL women are like that, but too many of them are.
Steak dinner on the first date? What was she willing to do for you on the first date? If I know a good steakhouse, I won't mind taking a woman there, even on a first date. However, if she's the kind that insists on things like that, then I'm better off without a golddigger like that. | |
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