| Dating is all about income
Posted: 9/22/2009 10:47:08 AM | SpartacusB,
Thank you for making such a rational,understandable post. And coming from a guy, it might be better received by those whining about how life has sh*t on them because they don't have a high enough income to be sucessful at romance. My heart goes out to those men who have truly suffered at the hands of gold digging women, but if you let anger and resentment dictate your dating life, your dating life is going to SUCK.
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| Dating is all about income
Posted: 9/22/2009 11:46:21 AM | I think age has a lot to do with dating and income.
Younger people might be interested in marriage and kids
so they might be looking for someone who would be able
to afford that lifestyle.
Lots of older people have worked a long time to get what they
have and they might be looking for someone that at least can
take care of themselves and not depend on anyone to support
them.
Some older people have probably done the cutting coupons and
forgoing the dinner dates while they raised a family and are looking
to enjoy themselves, they might not be interested in someone who
who is still in the serious-needs-to-cut-coupons stage.
Of course I'm sure there are some older people that find themselves
in a monetary foxhole and are looking for someone to bail them out.
Myself I'm seriously not that interested in money, but on the other
hand I don't want to totally support someone else and I do want to
be able to go out to dinner when I feel like it.
I feel sorry for all these hot rich guys we have on here...having to worry
about whether or not some woman is after them for themselves or their
money. That must really suck.
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Posted: 9/22/2009 2:25:49 PM | ^^^^ Yea, I'm anxiously awaiting his next installment, a lecture on how raped women in short skirts were really just asking for it, same as the people who were gullible and didn't do their due diligence and got taken in for billions by Bernie Madoff, etc., etc.
Cause that's the gist of what he's saying, that men are essentially "asking for it". 
In reality, men are just trying to avoid stepping in it. | |
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| Dating is all about income
Posted: 9/22/2009 7:28:53 PM |
If you don't create a habit of expecting the best of a person, then when you do run into that uncommon woman, you will rightfully scare her off with your suspicious and cynical attitude.
I love this line... and so very true. In the past two weeks, I have exchanged emails with two men, who were both so cynical and bitter, I told them to keep looking and the best of luck.... and that bitterness was not an attractive trait.
"How others treat me is their path - how I respond is mine.
Be what you want to be - not what others want to see." | |
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Posted: 9/22/2009 8:22:05 PM | Believe it or not, I hear from a LOT of well educated, goal oriented, working women that there are finding it more common that MEN are looking for women to help take care of them, especially during living together/marriage.
I feel and think it is worth noting whether a man is gainfully employed and/or has a 3 year plan of some sort. A lot of marriages end in divorce due to finances. | |
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Posted: 9/22/2009 8:23:47 PM | | Many men think that any woman that they ask out on a date and they pay a little or lot for, that she is golddigging. This thread is so sad it's ridiculous. No wonder there is a 10 to 1 ratio of men to every woman on this site. Not a good thing if you ask me. | |
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Posted: 9/23/2009 11:49:46 PM | | You are right Miss Sweetandunique. You and a lot of other women agree on that and coming from a man, it is TRUE IN A LOT OF CASES. That's why I try not to become like the men you describe. If you are a man and want to take a woman out on a date, be a man and PAY FOR IT YOURSELF. Even if she offers on the first date to pay herself, you STILL should foot the bill yourself. Especially if you are the one suggesting the date. If you are worried about a woman being a potential golddigger, then maybe you should stop trying to front like a big baller right in the beginning. | |
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Posted: 9/23/2009 11:58:54 PM | TO SPARTACUSB, GREAT POST YOU DID, I DAMN SURE WISH I HAD WROTE IT MYSELF. | |
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Posted: 9/24/2009 10:07:06 AM | | It comes down to what Tony Montana said in Scarface "In this Country(America) you got to make the money first, then when you get the money, you get the power, then when you get the power, then you get the woman" | |
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Posted: 9/26/2009 11:41:08 AM | Prettyandunique that's because the economy and America is different now. In 1910 men had all the good paying jobs. NOW there are just as many women with good paying jobs as there are men. But this ALSO means there are just as many men with very average paying jobs as there are women with average paying jobs. The whole socioeconomic make up of the country is different now.
So when a woman that is well off says she will only date a guy that is also well off, she's limiting her options extremely. For starters a lot of well to do guys aren't even single, and the ones that are, many of them are single by choice. I see stories from women all the time on these sites from women that pursued some guy with a high status job but the guy turned out to be a total flake for a number of reasons. Many of these women are women that have an above average amount of money themselves. If they would of pursued men that had the same values as her instead of worrying about finding someone with a high status job they would of ended up much happier probably.
A guy that is well off doesn't worry about it and just looks for someone that he clicks with and someone he has chemistry with. Sure rich guys look out for gold diggers but the smart ones know how to spot them, it's very simple to do. In my experience women that are well off seriously shoot themselves in the foot due to how much they worry about money.
Try living in the D.C. area,women ONLY care about money...nothing else.
I don't doubt that one bit. Usually the bigger the city the more women care about money. Small town or country girls are the best all around from what I've seen in my lifetime.
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Posted: 10/5/2009 8:00:51 AM | Before this thread ends I just have a few questions I'd like to ask:
* Is there an email filter I can use to prevent golddiggers from contacting me?
* If I continue to date women who refuse to pay for the date, can I claim them as
dependents on my income tax?
* Is there a minimum purchase amount required to date a golddigger?
* Are golddiggers planning on installing ATM's in their homes, so we don't have
to stop by the bank on the way to the restaurant?
* If I'm buying dinner for two, is it acceptable to use a "buy one get one free"
coupon on a date?
* Are men who pay for bad dates entitled to a refund?
* Does a woman who expects a man to pay for everything expect to be paid
for sex?
* Are women on pof who insist men pay for everything known as goldfish?
* If I date a golddigger on Halloween who dresses up as a french maid would
she be offended if I asked her to clean my house?
* Is it too late to change the name of this dating site to PAY PAL.com?
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Posted: 10/5/2009 8:46:58 PM | | haha Bachelor02, good one. I'll use a coupon any damn time I want, any broad that has a problem with it should of stayed home, or maybe she can can pay for the date instead. It's a revolution I tell ya. | |
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Posted: 10/5/2009 9:32:58 PM | | Couple years ago after dating a girl for 6 months, spenind 300 month on restaurants with her and drinks, i started using the entertainment book coupons,, she didnt like it. It took me a while to realize that it annoyed her cause she would change her mind about where she wanted to eat if i had a coupon. I broke up with her a few months later, mostly for that reason, She didnt want to use coupon, meanwhile I paid 90% of the time. Plus she looked at given Head as a gift to me for special occasions when other girls i had dated looked at is as my gift to them | |
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Posted: 10/5/2009 9:37:46 PM | | I play online poker for a living- not rich by any means but when the question of my profession comes up- it awkward. That being said, I have been out with women who have owned their own private planes. I am sure her shoes cost more than my Camry. If money is an issue, I let it be known that the money I earn is money I spend on ME. I am not an ATM. | |
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Posted: 10/7/2009 1:55:15 PM | | For Men it is because Women are always looking, or just more often for a Future with a potential boyfriend or date, Women are looking for Husband material or life-long partner material more so than Men are. | |
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Posted: 10/8/2009 10:01:22 AM | | That's correct drusurfer for your age group probably, but once men get older they're looking for a life partner too. Where women fail is they think that money or status equates to a successful relationship. It doesn't. Unless a woman is poor and truly needs supported by a man, a woman is better off pursuing someone that has the same values and lifestyle as her instead of being primarily concerned with how much a man makes. | |
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