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| Dating is all about income
Posted: 6/21/2006 9:26:54 PM | "No its not about MONEY Haha ! Case of the Forked Tongue ,female .Sorry Flavia,Income and JOB are about the SAME in my books !
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Is living at home with parents such a turn off for dating someone?
Posted: 6/20/2006 639 PM
No, it's not a turn off for me , if you atleast have a job.
~*Flavia*~
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eez....I hate parasitic women, not sure why or how men stand them!!!!!Those are the type of women who cannot stand on their two little feet and demand everything from men.They do not deserve you, so look for someone better.Goodluck!"
Hahahahha...REDTRANS ...so I have actually managed to gather some stalkers, huh?Why, thank you.
Anyway okay child, I'lll answer your questions and reason with your doubts about me.
Did I ever say anything about a guy having or not having a job on this thread????No, I did not.
As far as the other thread is concerned, yes I did say I can accept a man who stays at home, but has a job.Okay so why did I say that??I said that because I do not want to deal with fat assed lazy bums.In my opinion, they are nothing but slime balls and are as bad as these parasitic women that I mentioned in this post and I definitely do not have any respect for them whatsoever.
Now...as far as my post on this thread is concerned.I said income is not important at all.Did I say job is not important at all????No, I did not.So how can you connect those too???
Women who want and define men based on their income are parasitic.
Women who want men that atleast have a job (whether that is of a barber or a janitor) are not parasitic but intelligent.
The next time you try to follow me around in the forums and stalk me, better get your information straight.Then only confront me, will you please?It will save my typing time and your reading time.I maybe a teenager but I am no fool.
This is a very sad case indeed, I should not have to explain things to a man thrice my age, now should I?????
~*Flavia*~
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| Dating is all about income
Posted: 6/21/2006 9:55:21 PM | No, it's not all about the income.
I do know that I am extremely reticent about getting into a relationship and sharing incomes, as I really am not interested in losing all I've worked for AGAIN. As in, being a female of a different breed, I'm always the one that walks out empty handed, and I'm sick of it.
I'm not interested in taking a man through the cleaners, but I'll be damned if I'm going to be left holding the bag again.
Also, considering that I've only been with cheap asshats, it would be nice to meet someone who actually is sweet and opens doors, and 'gasp' likes to buy his woman flowers and such as a show of appreciation.
No, I'm not materialistic, no I'm not always going for 'bad boys', so don't give me that song and dance. | |
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deb1
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Joined: 4/20/2006
Msg: 128 | |
| Dating is all about income
Posted: 6/21/2006 11:09:50 PM | | I have a good income that i work very hard to keep but do not expect a man to have a high income in order to date him. I want someone who has a job simply because i have my own bills to pay and would hate to have someone dating me for what i can give them. I think women/men that take advantage of women/men financially......suck big time | |
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| Dating is all about income
Posted: 6/22/2006 5:55:33 AM |
girls dont like boys..they like cars and money...it is a song..and it is right on...although it is forgetting ONE thing...if you dont have cars or money..you better have a big schlong..I know this is gonna piss ladies off everywhere but that is just cuz they dont like to be made out lookin so superficial..but it is true...hey dont hatethe player hate the game
You're right about one thing...we don't like *boys*...we like *men*...But, just as not all men want a barbie doll with no brains, some of us wome don't care about a man's cars and/or money (in fact, some guys are way too obsessed with cars and money, IMO). As for having a big schlong, I believe most women would be happier with a guy who knows what to do with the one he has, and who enjoys the woman being a part of the experience with him, rather than just a receptacle for his pleasure. Thank God there are still men out there who don't obsess about cars, who do live within their means, and who want a partner not a playmate.
There are always going to be men and women who care about looks, money, status, etc. but not ALL people are like that, and I'd venture to say MOST aren't. Too many people generalize aboutthese traits and I believe they're tarring a lot of people with this brush who don't deserve it. All it's going to do is cause them to pass up someone who might just be perfect for them. | |
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| Dating is all about income
Posted: 6/25/2006 8:20:38 PM | | Not always, but often it's how much money you spend on them that determines if they will continue seeing you. Too bad, but I'm not going to try to buy love. But... they say, It's just as easy to love a rich man as a poor man. | |
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| Dating is all about income
Posted: 6/25/2006 9:19:47 PM | | Interesting thread. Not ALL women are into money. I had not dated in two years and had met someone via another site. We spoke for several months and he called me and said he'd like to meet ~ our first date was a trip to Hawaii. I knew immediately there was NO chemistry. We discussed it and had a nice time in Hawaii being friends. There will be no second date (and there wasn't even a kiss the entire trip.) He is very wealthy ~ I don't care. It's not there. Then there is the other extreme ~ the love of my life took me to Wendy's and a park on our first date. I fell in love with him, married him and I don't think I even knew if he had a checking account until we got one together. I made a lot more money than he did ~ I didn't care. The substance of a person is not gauged by what they own, how much money they make, where they vacation. It's the heart of the person that truly matters. | |
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| Dating is all about income
Posted: 7/10/2006 5:43:19 PM | I'm just looking for someone I like.
People who are looking for income & money are pathetic and weak in my view
and don't give a hoot about the other persons feelings or future. | |
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| Dating is all about income
Posted: 7/10/2006 5:50:05 PM | | As long as a man can support him safe he is good enough for me. About the remark that CEO's don't date janitors I don't know if it goes that far but I have dated a doctor, lawyer, geopphysicis (sp) and I am a legal assistant so not everyone looks down at people who may not have the high snot job they have. | |
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| Dating is all about income
Posted: 7/10/2006 5:59:59 PM | In a way, I'm glad that this is an element that goes into whether a woman (or a man for that matter) decides to continue a relationship.
Right now, I'm pretty strapped where cash is concerned. I can take care of myself and still afford to have a little fun, but I won't be impressing anyone with lavish gifts or super expensive dining. However, I'm in position to be much better off in the near future and I want to know what kind of person I'm with before that happens.
Basically, I love to spoil the woman I'm with, but if I start to feel like she expects it or is unappreciative, SEE YA!!! | |
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| Dating is all about income
Posted: 7/10/2006 6:16:50 PM | well, here's a little advice for the OP. Indianaman, perhaps if you were a little less cynical and focused more on what you DO have, you wouldn't be as unattractive.
for example...just looking at you, you're a 45 year old grouchy, overweight, balding man.
now...turn it around. emphasize the good points. do you have a sense of humor? play it up! why not just shave the dome rather than sport a Friar Tuck? and remember, when you generalize, you miss out on the diamond in the rough.
so...be bitter and single for the rest of your life...or find your happiness. it's a decision only you can make. | |
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iris37
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Joined: 7/15/2005
Msg: 137 | |
| Dating is all about income
Posted: 7/10/2006 6:46:01 PM | I didn't need to read all the posts but perhaps people should be a little more selective as to who they are dating.....Not all woman are after the almighty dollar...some of us are actually real woman that can take care of themselves but enjoy being treated like a woman where there is chilvary and romance.....if she is a good woman the man reaps the benefits.....its called, "Respect"
Whatever happened to enjoying each others company and wanting to please each other....
Some peoples posts makes me very agitated.... | |
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| Dating is all about income
Posted: 7/10/2006 6:56:51 PM | Well let's see here, I'm not exactly filthy rich, but I've often wondered should I date the coffee shop specialist? I'm as much a humanitarian person as the next guy, though by the same token, I ask myself is she going to depend too much on my income that she will drain me of all that I have? Or is she going to be as frugal as I, and we'll be able to share as partners? I guess I'll only know if I ask.
Yes income does factor into the equation, but all else being equal, if she has what it takes to hold together a relationship, and doesn't ask any more than I do, maybe I'd do it.
It would certainly show how open minded I am to do it.
Anyway, just a thought for the day. It can factor into the equation, but I don't think it should be the only factor. | |
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| Dating is all about income
Posted: 7/10/2006 7:03:34 PM | | Alright, I think its nice when a man can open up a door for a woman because then it gives me a chance to sneak in a quick kiss to say thank you but I also am quite capable of opening the doors sometimes for myself as well. When it comes to going out to dinner, I dont require fancy steak dinners and such I mean the first date dinner can be a cookout or a fast food or even golden corral now if you make it to a second date then it can be alittle nicer place. like lonestar or outback | |
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| Dating is all about income
Posted: 7/10/2006 7:21:15 PM | If dating is all about income, then I will go join the Foreign Legion or some crap. Seriously. I don't care if I was the lead singer of some band that was selling out stadiums the world over. I would not want someone dating me because of my money. In fact, if I was rich, I'd probably remain single for the rest of my life because I'd be skeptical of anyone who wanted to date me. Or, I'd rent an apartment somewhere and make it seem like I had an average income.
Women who care about what I make or my status, aren't women I want. Thankfully, not all women are like that. | |
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| Dating is all about income
Posted: 7/10/2006 7:26:19 PM | | Guess ive never dated a women that ever had a job. What a interesting post never realized what a fool i was. Really as a guy if i made a gal pay for dinner id feel like a dirt bag. Not wanting to pay for a gals dinner is just being raceist because of being burned bye a women and i no about 10 guys like that. Depends on how much you like her i guess. I think what make guys like that is child support.I paid mine im done with it. I date a nice gal no has a job for 18 years and supported a guy that wouldnt work. She dont have the best job in the world but i like her and im a ceo. | |
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tekrok
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Joined: 6/28/2006
Msg: 142 | |
| Dating is all about income
Posted: 7/10/2006 7:35:32 PM | No way man,up here i canada,i just open the sliding door on my igloo , fire up the BQ,well after she straps on her snow shoes and artic parka ,& goes for a beer run, it all works out good, lets eat | |
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| Dating is all about income
Posted: 7/10/2006 7:45:01 PM | Yeah, you're right...money can be an issue, that's why I make it my policy to remove the "baggage" of money from the first meet. I pay my own way. Noone feels like they owe anyone anything that way.
And I don't walk into glass doors...unless the electricity's out on the automatic door opener! LOL
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jyles
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Joined: 3/15/2005
Msg: 144 | |
| Dating is all about income
Posted: 7/11/2006 12:01:27 AM | I think that there is nothing sexier than an independant women with her own cash. The amount of cash does not matter. When I go out on a first date(or more) I will always pay, no matter if its tradition or expected. But if she says dutch or wants to pick up the check its all good. There is more to life than money. Hopefully you can not let things like that affect your first impressions or become the standard in the relationship. But intuition is also there for a reason.
Chivalry is not dead but its a new age of dating and I still dont now all the rules. Probly never will so just go with the flow baby. A lady should always be treated like a lady not matter what.
Maybe I am just old fashioned. | |
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| Dating is all about income
Posted: 7/11/2006 6:53:29 AM | | When we were all younger dating was about fancying someone, likeing being with them, i think as i get older, people seem more concerned with money and where you live. I had a man contact me and the second sentence was do you live in a council house or have your own house. What car do you drive. All these things these days to me it seems to be about status. I find people like that boring and shallow. I like a guy who makes me laugh and who is good company that is what matters the most. | |
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| Dating is all about income
Posted: 7/11/2006 7:01:30 AM | I think in a relationship both people should work together, not one doing all the work and another living off the other. I think if your married and have babies one has to care for them so as for women being independant. kids need nurturing and love and attention, i mean a woman cannot do that if she is working 14 hours a days, the kids are going to feel neglected and then they might go off the rails. My kids are older now so i work, i like to be busy and doing things. Its boring anyway just staying home and cleaning the house but i did stay home when my were little. Both people should work together at it.
I know someone and her husband is a workaholic and they never spend any time together, and it has caused arguments. I would not like that. Whats the point in a relationship if you are always working and never spend any time together, thats stupid to jeopardise your relaitonship for material things. | |
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| Dating is all about income
Posted: 7/11/2006 7:57:54 AM | Too many people generalize aboutthese traits and I believe they're tarring a lot of people with this brush who don't deserve it. All it's going to do is cause them to pass up someone who might just be perfect for them.
I agree prolibertate, it actually makes me sad in a sense to see all the people on these forums that seem *sooooo* damn jaded and into the "all men / all women" comments that to me they are doing nothing but cutting themselves off from people in the long run. Face it, if you're a guy walking around saying "all women are just out for money, and I ain't got none" - you're just setting yourself up to fail, before you've even met them. Its the same with women and "all men just want sex, so I'm not going to bother anymore" - well, face it, then you're not only cutting yourself off from the pigs who only want sex, but from *everyone*. All or nothing, black and white, in the end the generalizations only serve to hurt *you*, because you could be passing up that perfect someone.
In the long run, sure, money has some importance.. to me too, as a guy, because I do like to eat and have a roof over my head, and its nice to have some extra to be able, in a relationship, to do things together. Or even not in a relationship, to be able to go on vacation. Money can buy some comfort, but it can't buy happiness. And sure, sex, I think both men *and* women expect that in a good relationship there's going to be sex. And I do think there's people out there, both sexes, that maybe thats their "primary motivation". But I'm not going to say that *everyone* thinks that way, thats just silly, because we *dont* all think that way. | |
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| Dating is all about income
Posted: 7/11/2006 8:03:02 AM |
I agree prolibertate, it actually makes me sad in a sense to see all the people on these forums that seem *sooooo* damn jaded and into the "all men / all women" comments that to me they are doing nothing but cutting themselves off from people in the long run. Face it, if you're a guy walking around saying "all women are just out for money, and I ain't got none" - you're just setting yourself up to fail, before you've even met them. Its the same with women and "all men just want sex, so I'm not going to bother anymore" - well, face it, then you're not only cutting yourself off from the pigs who wants sex, but from *everyone*. All or nothing, black and white, in the end the generalizations only serve to hurt *you*, because you could be passing up that perfect someone.
In the long run, sure, money has some importance.. to me too, as a guy, because I do like to eat and have a roof over my head, and its nice to have some extra to be able, in a relationship, to do things together. Or even not in a relationship, to be able to go on vacation. Money can buy some comfort, but it can't buy happiness. And sure, sex, I think both men *and* women expect that in a good relationship there's going to be sex. And I do think there's people out there, both sexes, that maybe thats their "primary motivation". But I'm not going to say that *everyone* thinks that way, thats just silly, because we *dont* all think that way.
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| Dating is all about income
Posted: 7/11/2006 8:32:50 AM | Being honest here.........To a point dateing is about income sadly!, I know it shouldn't be... but income is what we need to survive on!. We can't live of love alone........I could lie and say..... 'I love you so much, we could live in a tent!,......but, I like facilities lol.......I carried my last boyfriend who was alway's out of work for one reason or another and it wasn't easy!.......Now I am at a point in my life where I feel it would be nice to go into a relationship feeling a little more secure. You may condemn me for that, but I don't wan't to struggle and sadly income comes into play.....
It makes me wonder if someone is interested in me, or what I have or havn't got!. And lets face it the law has made it even more difficult for a person to just follow their heart!........ If you live with a person more than three years they may try to take half your assets! So how can you feel safe in a relationship? This applies of course to both sex's......
Does this make any sence at all?  | |
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