| men don't listen
Posted: 6/20/2006 2:59:38 PM | Yep thats me.And if you read the whole profile it also said "what the lady wants, the lady gets w/in reason". I do consider myself a gentleman in the the street but just like the majority in here, I'm still after the same thing, a companion. I've said it once and I'll say it again, Men/ Women want the same things, we just go about it in 2 different ways.
And Lady C
I know what kind of woman you are, cazy fun. we'd end up talking our heads off from the color of ants to "and where came first, the chicken or the hen"  | |
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| men don't listen
Posted: 6/20/2006 3:03:07 PM | I had to get in touch with my feminine side to understand women.  It was worth the effort, because now I can usually understand them! And it definitely helps keep good communication flowing with my SO. I *listen*. | |
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| men don't listen
Posted: 6/20/2006 3:17:18 PM | | I don't think either sex "really" listens to what the other is "truly" saying. We pretty much hear what we want to hear. If we all genuinely listened and heared we wouldn't have so many relationships falling apart. | |
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| men don't listen
Posted: 6/20/2006 3:33:20 PM | You must have read the book called Men are from and Women are from Venus by John Gray.It is a good book for anybody that wants to know each sex.The Classic Guide to understanding the opposite sex. | |
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| men don't listen
Posted: 6/20/2006 3:46:38 PM | | Good one zental.Also women have to get in touch with their male side and not leave behind their feminine side like a lot of them do.They don't need to go after a man right away just so they will want them.A lot of men don't want to hop into bed right away.Of course I haven't met too many of them so far.heheh But then maybe men think that is what women want right away because of the way they behave. | |
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| men don't listen
Posted: 6/20/2006 3:52:19 PM | It's true in some cases. I always listen and my last girlfriend asked " are you listening" She never thought I would listen. Then I have to repeat exactly what she says.. It's funny when I do that. Sometimes they repeat the same things more than once.
Who says men don't listen | |
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| men don't listen
Posted: 6/20/2006 6:08:03 PM | You are giving women to much credit.
Learn to act like you are listening....and for God's sake don't fall asleep
They might notice. | |
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| men don't listen
Posted: 6/20/2006 6:18:58 PM |
If we all genuinely listened and heared we wouldn't have so many relationships falling apart.
Probably quite a few would never develop, either(which might not necessarily be a bad thing, either)
Cindy O | |
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| men don't listen
Posted: 6/21/2006 1:35:56 AM | | I use to listen to my ex-g-friend and she would think I wasn't listening and I would repeat word for word also. but when it came to doing what was repeated that she said, I would be totally clueless. It took a long time to understand why that was the case. I finally got it but it was too late. The reason why was I took her for granted, just like most of us do (did). If you're w/someone (M or F) don't take them for granted. Show them you care and give them the respect you would want. Again, men don't LISTEN. The women, more or less, agree in here on this. you. If you want a relationship or a chance you should make a conscious effort to do so. | |
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| men don't listen
Posted: 6/21/2006 2:06:41 AM | Are you saying that because you want women on here to fall for you left and right??????Hmmmmm....
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Silly silly girl.
Now it's you whos not listening Trish. | |
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| men don't listen
Posted: 6/21/2006 2:21:55 AM | Some men listen. I know of one...
~Carrie B. | |
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| men don't listen
Posted: 6/21/2006 2:17:41 PM | | Some men do listen true. I have learned to listen from my pass relationship. And the reason I put this out here is I don't want men who have a good women lost them like I did. I have been blessed to have truely found love twice in my life and lost it due to the inability to freakin listen. And yes I'm in touch w/ my softer side and I'm hurting. Hurting bad. | |
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| men don't listen
Posted: 6/21/2006 3:21:32 PM | | You have two ears, but only one mouth, use them proportionately.... | |
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| men don't listen
Posted: 6/21/2006 4:42:45 PM | Did you say something? I wasn't listening.
Seriously though. Women are talkers and most men just aren't. We end up in the role of listener by default.
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| men don't listen
Posted: 6/21/2006 5:24:05 PM | I agree with the OP, actually listening to a woman is a good thing.
But there is a trick to it. At some point you have to stop the woman from talking and make your move. Or you get put into the "oh he is such a nice guy/friend to talk to" category. Then you aint getting nothing after that. | |
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| men don't listen
Posted: 6/21/2006 5:59:41 PM | | I love how women do little obscure things, and guys are supposed to catch on and do whatever the hell we are supposed to. We can listen, but you are rarely telling us in a way we will ever understand. | |
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| men don't listen
Posted: 6/21/2006 6:23:40 PM | Ladies, here's a tip that will make this easier... Provide men with problems they CAN fix sometimes. It doesn't have to be much, could be as simple as hanging a picture on the wall... Men don't like having a bunch of unsolvable problems to think about, it's contrary to our nature.
I'm not saying don't discuss feelings or issues you're having, just give us something we CAN fix too. :) | |
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| men don't listen
Posted: 6/21/2006 9:47:04 PM | Guys, guys, guys! I'm not saying just listen. i'm saying we (you, not me anymore, I think) have to learn how to listen. Don't just do the yes dearthingeither when you meet a lady. Start a topic that you can talk about. Give them a complex problem. Hell, talk about the damn Opah show but know how to respond and don't sit there like a bump on a log. And if she does talk too much, my daddy always said, put something in her mouth. Whether its your tongue or whatevers  | |
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| men don't listen
Posted: 6/21/2006 9:53:52 PM | Men don't listen, and thats why we learned to say the words. I told you so, when they have to learn something the hard way. My husband just says don't start on me. Other wards he knows I am right and he is wrong, and he don't want to hear it, but he knows its true.
It does go both ways depending what its about. | |
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| men don't listen
Posted: 6/21/2006 10:02:45 PM | "Not only listen, but act upon and react to what you have heard would be a bonus!!!"
I dunno gang i know women want men to listen to them i got that part nailed, i listen because i grew up with a single mom and 3 sisters so i know the value of listening.
I dunno abou the react tho...lol I have had several g/f's get upset when i have listend to them vent about a particular issue and my reaction has been to try and solve the problem or give suggestions to solve the problem... i got the " i don't want you to fix it i just want you to listen!!!" speech every time...lol
the thing is if you care about a person you want to "cure what ailes them " so to speak and men are problem solvers we have been raised to confront issues and fix them... so sometimes reacting is not sucha good thing.
I also know from having many women freinds that it is true that a woman "knows within 5 minutes of meeting a man or seeing a man enter a room whether they would sleep with them or not" and they will pick the one they want to sleep with to play "bouncie bouncie " with and the one they can talk to that will listen.... they get to hear what a turd the "bouncie bouncie" dude is...lol
it goes back to what one wise man said "a woman gets involved in a relationship or marries hoping and thinking they can change the man or he will change, a man gets involved or marries because he hopes or thinks the woman won't change" | |
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| men don't listen
Posted: 6/21/2006 10:12:43 PM | | Warning this will be long. Seeing that I was finally ready to leave him, my first husband decided to try counciling. Two sessions later he wanted me to go with him. I was leary because he had a way of soliciting people to his "side". Seriously, people that didn't know what was going on would come up to tell me about myself. Back to my point, the councilor gave us an assignment. We were to write about what bothered us in the marriage. The next week, he showed up empty-handed. Told the councilor he couldn't think of anything. I handed over my paper saying that he didn't have time for us and put his friends first. The councilor read it, looked at my then husband and asked. "Has she ever told you this?" He answered, "Yes, she's always complaining about it". The next question the councilor asked was, "Did you take it seriously?" The ex answered. "No, I didn't think it was important". To the surprise of both of us the councilor looked the ex right in the eye and said, "She's been telling you this for 3 yrs and YOU didn't think it was important?" | |
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| men don't listen
Posted: 6/21/2006 11:09:53 PM | I'd say something, but I am busy listening and learning!
- Erik -  | |
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| men don't listen
Posted: 6/21/2006 11:12:42 PM | See, now that's the thing I'm really talking about guys. ascuteasabug has put my thought in an example. it also shows that women are verbal because of the words they write verses the words men write. communication barriers or should i say the lack of expression on our (the men) part.
here's some trivia just because i'm in Alaska right now, today is the longest day of the year (summer solsis) 19 hrs/ 22 mins | |
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