arri
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Joined: 10/5/2005
Msg: 151 | |
| men don't listen
Posted: 10/26/2006 8:27:03 PM |
I'm sorry, you're so beautiful I can't hear a thing
You don't have to lie. It's easy to hear, just hard to listen | |
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| men don't listen
Posted: 10/26/2006 8:32:16 PM |
[Just stare and say: "I'm sorry, you're so beautiful I can't hear a thing"]
Stop stealing my line Tigress - That's is plagarism
It isn't plagarism if actually used on me.....................was that YOU??!! ((clasps face *gasp)) | |
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| men don't listen
Posted: 10/26/2006 10:09:30 PM | Hey, all:
Yet again, another in a long line of accusatory, bitter, mean, divisive threads. How handy to take the low road, the path of least resistance, a community of unhappy people whose intertainment is to gossip and gripe.
It doesn't help--you or anyone else--the men who love you or yourselves--to be so negative and bitter, yet arrogant. It is sad that so many constructive threads just don't get the attention that some do--I guess throwing s h i t is more fun than growing up.
David
Messages done with sustainable energy, with Wind and Sun! | |
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| men don't listen
Posted: 10/26/2006 11:07:42 PM | | Good God, stop taking the woosie pills | |
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| men don't listen
Posted: 10/27/2006 12:11:47 AM | Hmmm...... but let me think of some reasons why men don't listen:
1. Maybe we naturally have less hearing than women do?
2. We day dream more?
3. We have more weird rotting things growing inside our ears?
4. Can't think of any other explanation. I think we hear just fine though. | |
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| men don't listen
Posted: 10/27/2006 12:42:56 AM | | Sorry SoTexMan, but this "accusatory, bitter, mean, divisive thread" was started by a MAN. Read the whole thread before you go on the defensive. Most of the responders have been very constuctive or teasing. | |
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| men don't listen
Posted: 10/27/2006 4:20:52 AM |
A women will tell you everything you need to know if you listen, where to touch, what she likes, how she likes, when she likes.
Yes, this is true. On another note, everyone likes to be listened to - some more than others.
If someone is too caught up in themselves though, there is no point repeating yourself. I once told a man how to touch me, 3 times, he couldn't figure it out, even once, nor did he ask me. I would also attribute not listening to not being able to communicate properly and I think everyone has trouble with this sometimes. Some need definite improvement, but others seem to do a tad better. | |
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| men don't listen
Posted: 10/27/2006 6:28:49 AM | Correct....Men don't listen! They hear us alright, but they don't listen to what we are saying, yet they want us to listen to them. EG: Son and i had a disagreement, he's ranting and raving and carrying on, flat out like a lizard drinking, then when he finishes, i say to him, now can i say a word please? His answer Noooo....i don't want to hear it mum. I try to speak, and he tells me....I'm not listening iv'e said what i had to say! Mmmmm.....  | |
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| men don't listen
Posted: 10/27/2006 6:51:28 AM | ^^^ Sorry Juliet my dear, but your argument is inherently flawed because your point of reference is in fact a Boy, not a Man. I am more than willing to bet had you not been his Mum, he would have told you to sod off all together. It is the way of boys.
I had posted in this thread quite some time ago, and I guess it bears repeating to some degree. Yeah men listen, that being said though, what most women do not appear to appreciate, is that we don't exactly have the "code book" right off the bat, and it takes time to decipher what is actually being said. Some rather simple, albeit redundant code words and phrases:
"Fine":
When a woman says "fine" she is ANYTHING but Fine. More often than not she is pissed off and calculating at what precise angle and speed to bounce a frying pan off the back of your head so you will come to the sudden realization that "fine" doesn't mean "fine".
"I might like that":
Means essentially "Fat Chance, nuh uh, ain't happening pal".
"Yeah thats the spot":
Translates to, "God help you if you stop now you selfish **stard! You think those were just grinds in your coffee??".
"I would like you to see it from my point of veiw":
Essentially, "it's my way or the highway pal". You will hear this when she has repeatedly told you by some cryptic means 50 times previously what it is she wants, or will not tolerate.
"I Need some Space":
This translates roughly into "the relationship is over, has been over for a month, and I am sleeping with that cute guy in accounting, who likes the way I look in nothing but his sweatshirt".
"I'm going to my mothers for the weekend":
Translates to: "I am pissed off at you for something, that cute guy in accounting turned out to be a player, and if you have any chance of keeping me around, this house better look spectacular when I get home, and you better be able to prove you did your tantric excercises buster".
See ladies, it isn't so much that men don't hear you, they simply don't always comprehend the code for what is being said, because you refuse to stop beating around the proverbial bush, and come out and actually say what you mean. As much as most men would beat a path to your door for an opportunity to play "bush games" with you, this isn't the kind of beating they had in mind. So speak plainly, speak clearly, and say what is on your mind, when it comes to mind, and you will find you and your new partner are able to make things work with a lot less stress.
Have fun ;)! | |
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| men don't listen
Posted: 10/27/2006 6:53:49 AM | don't equate ... son and mother converstations to .... men listening to women..
there is a lot more going on emotionally in a son. not to mention hormones growth and well just tired of being bossed around.
now ... as far as listening .... go back and read for a few pages.
both men and women don't comprehend what the other is getting at at times ....
they do listen though unless they are talking .... then you are interrupting and they don't have to listen. | |
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| men don't listen
Posted: 10/27/2006 6:56:35 AM |
Thorn...Is 25 a man or a boy?
If he is 25 and still lives home with Mum: BOY! Nuff said!
Have fun ;)! | |
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| men don't listen
Posted: 10/27/2006 7:02:25 AM | | Oh dear dear Thorny, he does not live at home with me. He is building his house with his g/f of 9 years, he just has a chip off the old block (his fathers traits). Like father like son, his father never listened either! hehe! | |
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| men don't listen
Posted: 10/27/2006 7:24:05 AM | | WOW... I can't believe it!!! There actually is one man out there that get's it. KUDOS to you sir!!!!!!!! | |
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| men don't listen
Posted: 10/27/2006 9:46:36 AM | | whitetigeress .. are you stalking me? | |
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| men don't listen
Posted: 10/27/2006 10:58:30 AM | | Plagiarism is the practice of (dishonestly) claiming or implying original authorship of material which one has not actually created, such as when a person incorporates material from someone else's work into his own work without attributing it.. The United Sates of America office of research Integrity defined plagiarism as “the appropriation of another person’s idea, processes, results or words without giving appropriate credit” (xiguang, Science v274.n5286).Moreover Shakespeare's appropriation of stories into his plays may be considered plagiarism, except that Shakespeare never claimed that the stories were his own, and his transformations of them were so great that they served as literary sources, not as copied materials. | |
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| men don't listen
Posted: 10/27/2006 11:06:12 AM | | Sweetheart.......Men really do listen.................Its because we DONT AGREE MOST of the time with what your saying ,,that is what gives most woman this impression................TYpically, i have observed that the men who are praised for being GOOD LISTENERS are the floor mats....or yes men?.....do u really want a YES MAN?......no challange there---or is he just YES-ing u to death or is that really called lying?.......you will drop him in a month...then u will say....hes a good listener,,but tooo nice....i know the drill....HOPE THIS HELPS>>>>>>...Anthony | |
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Posted: 12/14/2006 9:48:36 AM | | men listen .. we try to listen but sometimes we get a feeling like ....can you hurry up and get to the point..the bottom like ..the black and white of this conversation...and well if you drag it out to long .....we loose the point of the talk and just say ya ya ok sure love.its not a matter of listening ...its like an atention span thing ...girls if he isnt hearing you use fewer words..be blunt | |
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Posted: 4/11/2007 3:57:54 PM | Actually, I think men do listen. Or at least we try. We also talk. The thing is we tend to go directly to the point and not dance around the edges of the matter. From the male perspective, women seem to "go the long way around the farm" while men "just want to get to the barn". Therefore, women see men as uttering mono sylabic responses (ie grunts) while men see women as writing a victorian novel.
Otherwise, our heads fill up to the point that it starts leaking information all over the freshly cleaned floor and we get yelled at for making a mess. In other words, Darwinan selection has programmed men to be very simplistic so as to avoid such a situation. | |
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| men don't listen
Posted: 4/13/2007 8:29:11 AM | | there you go!! you just gave yourself away....the truth is a lot of women(but by no means all)think they are always right....but if a man disagree's...he's not listening.the truth is that often,neither sex 'hears' or understands the other....i've known plenty of women that don't hear...even if they listen and i admit i am often guilty myself...but if we keep trying,then that has to be worth some credit....it's all part of the rich tapestry!! vive la difference i say. | |
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| men don't listen
Posted: 4/16/2007 2:03:59 AM | Men come with a host of factory set-ups which need to be tweaked by the owner (woman). One of those idiosyncracies is listening to females. It has been scientifically proven that men have a harder time listening to women's voices, as the female's vocal range does not coincide with a male's optimum hearing range. To the defence of women- this is no excuse for men not to try!!!!
It has also been scientifically proven that men can only concentrate on one thing at a time. If a man is watching the TV, and you are talking to him, he won't be able to hear you. Touch his hand, alert him to your presence, and then talk. | |
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| men don't listen
Posted: 10/17/2007 10:58:51 AM | I think the real problem is that men and women HEAR differently and that can cause a lot of problems.   | |
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| men don't listen
Posted: 10/17/2007 1:01:26 PM | | Isn't that why you have girlfriends, to listen? Men prefer to act. It is one of the essential differences between us. Men like to fix thing not listen while sitting on our hands. | |
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Joined: 1/5/2006
Msg: 175 | |
| men don't listen
Posted: 10/17/2007 3:07:24 PM | | YOU CAN EVEN IGNORE ME WHEN TALKING. APPLY WHAT I'M SAYING TO THE RELATIONSHIP! | |
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