| men don't listen
Posted: 10/17/2007 5:20:11 PM | There is a time and place for every thing. Woman think verbalising, is something that should occur at any time.
Sorry, nothing so annoying than watching a game , its a tied game in the 9th inning, and woman think its an appropriate time to tell you about their sister or something . My ex use to go to bingo, get home at 10:55 pm. A movie is in the last 5 minutes, am just about to find out who did it or what ever and she couldnt wait to telll me about bingo, sheesh! Then there was the times when I was working or studying, exciting things like the capacitance of an electric motor. LOL, so exciting! She would expect me to stop my studying while she told me about the nehibour or something.
We can listen, some men do. Just, hey, there is a time and place for everything you know? And 5 minutes before the end of a tied game just isnt one of them! | |
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| men don't listen
Posted: 10/17/2007 7:40:02 PM | | ^^^^ And you ever noticed how they go silent the second the commercials come on? | |
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| men don't listen
Posted: 10/17/2007 7:53:48 PM | LOL...I dated a guy who at first drew me to him because he DID pay attention. He would remember something I said or liked and act on it. And I thought WOW THIS IS THE PERFECT GUY!! After about a year whenever I would call him and ask "what are you doing" or "how was your day" he would go on and on for so long that I eventually tuned him out and then he would have to hang up without ever asking me anything. When we broke up he said I never opened up to him!!!  | |
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daisie
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Joined: 9/22/2004
Msg: 179 | |
| men don't listen
Posted: 10/17/2007 7:58:53 PM | Dont know about all the rest of this thread, but WTF??????? NO WAY do i know right off the bat if I'd take some dude home with me!!! (Ya think im psychic?? If I were I'd be playing the lotto not screwing around in here)
And I aint no dummy either! WHAT the heck women know right off the bat if theyll take some stranger home???? eeeeeeeewwwwwww Good lord....msut some some desperate, ignorate women.
yikes!!!
and Yukky too!!!
merry xmas
have a condom and some disinfectant
ooops! I didnt answer the question??? what was the question? I wasnt listening. | |
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| men don't listen
Posted: 10/17/2007 9:46:09 PM |
After about a year whenever I would call him and ask "what are you doing" or "how was your day" he would go on and on for so long that I eventually tuned him out and then he would have to hang up without ever asking me anything.
There was a bus driver where I used to work that was like that. To be polite, I would say hi to him and ask how he was doing. After hearing about the color change in the phlegm he was expectorating on one occasion and how they blew too much air up his butt during a colonoscopy on another, I decided I was NOT going to ask him again.  | |
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| men don't listen
Posted: 10/17/2007 9:48:03 PM | | Huh?.......What were you saying?.....I was'nt listning. | |
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| men don't listen
Posted: 10/19/2007 8:30:21 AM | And the point is?
when you ramble on and on ... well pal ... guy or gal ..... nobody is listening. | |
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| men don't listen
Posted: 11/17/2007 10:00:37 PM | did someone say anythink................
that me getting old................ | |
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shoree
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Joined: 4/29/2007
Msg: 185 | |
| men don't listen
Posted: 11/18/2007 3:02:06 AM | I think many people in general don't understand how listening works.
There was a good line from Pulp Fiction, where Uma Thurman's character asks John Travolta's character, "During a conversation, do you listen to the other person when they're talking or are you just waiting to talk?"
After a moment of careful thought, Travolta's character replies, "I have to admit, I'm usually just waiting to talk" | |
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| men don't listen
Posted: 11/18/2007 4:29:31 AM | This man is amazing. He has hit the nail right on the spot. Everything he has mentioned is so true. Not bringing your date home right away. Children do also have a sense about the person, and would tell you, how they feel. So true, in so many ways. Not rushing into a relationship and I could go on and on, although he is doing it for me. LOL Lisa  goodluck to everyone  | |
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| men don't listen
Posted: 11/18/2007 4:40:37 AM | You're ABSOLUTELY right!
The whole trick is finding the one that you want to listen to. | |
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| men don't listen
Posted: 11/18/2007 4:45:30 AM | Men don't listen...
Women don't listen...
NOBODY listens anymore...
Wow...what did I say? | |
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| men don't listen
Posted: 11/18/2007 6:20:51 AM | You know, OP, you're right. Guess what? Most men tell you everything they really want, and even how they intend to do it, right off the bat. A man who says "you're sexy", before he knows you, is making it clear that the woman being sexy is something that is more important to him than if he knows her or not. If a man brings a bottle of wine, it means that he drinks wine and nothing else, or it means that he knows that she drinks wine, and if she drinks, she will find it harder to say "no". If women really listened and men didn't, men would get played all the time, and women never would. Women would get everything they wanted, and men would only ever get what women allowed them to. Does that happen?
I guess what you were intending to say, is that people don't listen, and that if they did, then they would all be in happy relationships. Including yourself. The #1 quality that women want for long-term is honesty. That means saying what you really think, especially if that is what they don't want to hear. Women may get involved with men who tell them what they want to hear, but that is only because they are not interested in the man, but someone who will provide their needs until they meet a man who WILL give them what they need.
I suggest that you think on that. | |
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| men don't listen
Posted: 11/18/2007 11:37:39 AM | Can I marry you?!?!? You are so right!!!
Now why would you want to do that? He is starting to figure us women out. He has got the first step down, but what if he learns the rest? Gotta keep them guessing! lmao | |
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| men don't listen
Posted: 11/18/2007 11:44:42 AM |
I think most men listen. Problem seems to be they don't understand what we say. Semantics perhaps?
Semantics maybe. Different ways of understanding those words are another.
Many posts on here have shown that men and women often have different ways of looking at what words and phrases mean. | |
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| men don't listen
Posted: 11/18/2007 12:39:46 PM |
"During a conversation, do you listen to the other person when they're talking or are you just waiting to talk?" >>>>>>>> "I have to admit, I'm usually just waiting to talk"
That's about how it usually goes. Good Communication comes from allowing someone to fully finish their thoughts, unless, of course, so doing disallows the opportunity for others to speak.  ie; they can't stop long enough to hear others thoughts. (Conversational Bulldozer)
Women may get involved with men who tell them what they want to hear, but that is only because they are not interested in the man, but someone who will provide their needs until they meet a man who WILL give them what they need.
An astute observation. Dimes to dollars, there is a surplus of people who would own the fact that they're dating someone they really dont' feel connected with, long term, or would not marry, but stay together for the benefits, luxuries, or companionship; ie; having at least part of their needs met.
"To thine own self be true" (Billy-bob Shakespeare) | |
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| men don't listen
Posted: 11/18/2007 1:08:48 PM | Definately right. I agree many men I have known don't really practice deep active listening skills. When I find one who does he's definately someone I like to keep around. I say what I want and need all he really has to do is listen and he can't go wrong. I try and do the same in return. Oh and by the way if he can truly listen to me when I also go on a tangent about some funny semi related story even better  | |
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| men don't listen
Posted: 11/18/2007 1:33:07 PM | You sir are a "rat"
you sound like the kind of man that will say or do almost anything to curry favour with a woman | |
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