| Waiting Before Mating
Posted: 5/21/2008 5:03:29 AM | Well, good things come to those who wait
but the early bird gets the worm.
Mind your manners, don't put all your eggs in one basket, patience is a virtue and look out for number one.
So,wake up and smell the coffee and remember a spoon full of sugar helps the medicine go down.
You can stop and smell the roses but it ain't over till the fat lady sings.
If their rich famous and sexy you wouldn't kick her(him) outta bed for eatin' crackers even though they couldn't hit the broad side of a barn.
You don't burn your bridges unless he's so ugly, he'd have to sneak up on a glass of water to get a drink or she's been hit with an ugly stick.
When the rationale is "six of one and half a dozen of another". just say "to each his own" and make like a tree and leave.
But keep your eye on the ball, put the pedal to the metal and make tracks.
A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush but it can make you seem nervous as a cat on a hot tin roof.
Remember, nothing ventured nothing gained but don't count your chickens before they're hatched
It takes two to tango and birds of a feather flock together
It's better late than never but you gotta put your foot down when he's pulling your leg or she's tugging on your chain.
That ought to clear it up. | |
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| Waiting Before Mating
Posted: 5/21/2008 9:33:41 AM | | Waiting awhile is a choice or preference, like most other things in dating. Personally, I'd have no problem waiting a month or so if that's what it takes to establish compatibility and the likelihood of a lasting relationship (assuming both want a relationship and not a short fling). Any more than that, however, and I'd probably exercise my choice and preference for someone with a healthy libido and look elsewhere. Waiting too long would strongly imply - to me - that you may have major issues that are probably deal-breakers for a relationship, anyway. | |
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| Waiting Before Mating
Posted: 5/30/2008 11:28:38 AM | Well, each to their own as long as everything is open and understood right up front.
Personally, I agree with Zentral. It is a normal part of adult relationships, and if the other person was not capable of engaging I would probably want to look elsewhere.
Nice to be honest about these things, unless you are just looking for activity partners. Nothing wrong with getting to know others emotionally, or in having your own beliefs. More power to you! As long as you state you are not actually dating :) | |
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| Waiting Before Mating
Posted: 5/31/2008 6:25:54 AM | Waiting for sex is usually waiting to be disappointed.
Why wait for that?
If the other person's objective is to get married...and they make that VERY clear at the outset of the relationship,then there shouldn't be any complaints.
Also there won't be many takers.... | |
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| Waiting Before Mating
Posted: 5/31/2008 7:18:04 PM | I used to think much differently than I do presently..and for the good..
The old try your shoes before ya buy em syndrome ya learned in junior high..
Now..for me and me and no one else..I will not initiate sex when dating a new lady.
I want to know them, learn about them, see if I do actually want them before I open myself up to any woman sexually.
Being celebate by choice for 243 days 16 hrs and 23 minutes hasn't hurt me at all..It has made me value myself more , discover that booty calls are what sex is if you are doing it just because you can. Now some enjoy that and it works for them...just not for me any longer..
One observation I have made is , men are used to hearing excuses and turn downs but the few women I have said no to..my ex for one, got so mad she stomped out of the room. She didn't talk to me for atleast 1 day.
So..while I have found my reasoning for sex or no sex..this is not for all..just my view.
dusty
fishing is so much easier..and close to being as satifying... | |
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| Waiting Before Mating
Posted: 5/31/2008 7:56:33 PM | I don't think I could see myself waiting until marriage but I also can't see myself jumping into bed with someone I barely know To me, there is a build up of physical attraction and affection and sexual attraction that happens as you date and get to know someone. To try to cram that into the first three dates just doesn't work. It becomes obvious that the goal is sex not love.
If all I wanted to do was "get a man", it's easy. I've never gone to bed with a guy that he didn't immediately attach himself to me afterwards. But I realize now that I'm older that he was always attaching himself to me for the wrong reasons........he loved the sex not necessarily me! So now I want to know that he loves me and THEN we can get attached with the sex. To truly let one self go in making love requires knowing the other person, teasing, playing, build up.........trust...........affection that is based on truly liking the person and not just liking how they look........... | |
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| Waiting Before Mating
Posted: 6/1/2008 8:18:49 PM | | I thought the word "mating" is used in reference to animals, it sounds kind of primitive to me . I think it is how you were brought up morally. | |
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| Waiting Before Mating
Posted: 6/1/2008 9:50:20 PM | ....Good grief, if I wait till I'm married to have sex, then its never gonna happen for me. And to be perfectly honest, I have no intention of getting married at this stage in my life, I see no reason to. But that doesn't mean I will be abstaining...heavens no.
Now, with that being said, I am not the type of person to have casual sex either, I need to feel an emotional attachment, to be in some sort of committed relationship. I've had very few sexual encounters in my life, and all have been with men that I cared deeply for....and thats not about to change.
...maeflowers
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| Waiting Before Mating
Posted: 6/2/2008 2:58:09 PM | There's no way in the world I would ever marry someone without knowing if we were sexually compatible. It's just to important a part of the relationship for me to chance it. Now maybe if I were 80 and no longer intersted in sex........ But still, very interested here  | |
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| Waiting Before Mating
Posted: 6/2/2008 4:02:54 PM | | I agree. Too bad after a nice first date that "mature adults" cannot communicate with one and other. Some just hide behind forums. | |
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