allh2h
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Joined: 3/23/2006
Msg: 26 | |
| Would You Respond To Someone Who Doesn't Have A Photo?
Posted: 6/23/2006 5:43:01 AM |
I was just kiddin"" geeeeezzzzz'' @allh2h [
I get sarcastic and do not mean to sound it or some people take it wrong, so figured just in case you were offended...ya know? Cuz I did not mean too, some people are more sensative then others...but razzin me that ok....can handle that.  | |
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| Would You Respond To Someone Who Doesn't Have A Photo?
Posted: 6/24/2006 2:45:15 AM | Hi! I just had a couple of things to add to your post! I have responded to people without photos before but I would never meet them without seeing a few photos. They do not have to have a photo posted on the site although I will say that physical attraction is a must for me. I didn't use to have a photo posted on the site because of business and professional reasons. I recently added my photos just because it's easier that way instead of trying to explain it all the time. I didn't post my photo because I am a self employed business person that depends on reputation. I don't care how others judge me but there are some weird people that do to things to photos out there! I hope this helps! Have a great day!  | |
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| Would You Respond To Someone Who Doesn't Have A Photo?
Posted: 6/24/2006 12:48:28 PM | I do all the time. I am willing to take chances. I have been burned a few times, but on the other hand. My ex gf, the first girl I dated semi-seriously through online dating, did not have a pic. But when we met, she was quite good looking, perfect for me...4'11 about 110lbs, blond hair, very cute. You just never know, and even my 2nd gfs pic was not good at all. Very blurry, and it could of gone either way, the only thing I knew forsure is she was very thin and had very long red hair. I was very pleasently surprised to see she looked 1000% better in person then in the pic, so you never know. Peopl dismiss people much to easily. I am not just talking about looks either. My biggest issue with online dating is people are just to fast to judge others. You really don't know a person for a very long time, and there's no way to really know if theres a connection, or more important chemistry in a date that lasts an hour or 2. If your totally unattracted physically thats one thing, but if you meet someone and dismiss them b/c they don't charm you is often a fatal mistake, b/c the ones that do, turn out to be the jerks more often then not.
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| Would You Respond To Someone Who Doesn't Have A Photo?
Posted: 6/24/2006 1:47:24 PM | I will CHAT for awhile, I have no problem with that~ However...I feel quite stongly about having a photo share before actually meeting in person...
Out in the world you would more than likely see someone from across the room and think to yourself.. Man.. I have to go meet that guy (or gal ) WOW ... seeing them is initally the first thing to happen... then conversation BUT If your not attracted you don't usually give it a thought...
As far as not knowing how to post one...  ASK FOR   
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CAT35
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Joined: 6/19/2006
Msg: 30 | |
| Would You Respond To Someone Who Doesn't Have A Photo?
Posted: 6/24/2006 4:40:34 PM | I agree with allh2h.
Also my friend met someone that she was chatting with online, he was using his best friends photo and profile because he didn't think anyone would respond to it if he used his own.. so who's to say the photo you are looking at is even real.. Besides photos can be deceiving. | |
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CAT35
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Joined: 6/19/2006
Msg: 31 | |
| Would You Respond To Someone Who Doesn't Have A Photo?
Posted: 6/24/2006 4:40:39 PM | I agree with allh2h.
Also my friend met someone that she was chatting with online, he was using his best friends photo and profile because he didn't think anyone would respond to it if he used his own.. so who's to say the photo you are looking at is even real.. Besides photos can be deceiving. | |
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| Would You Respond To Someone Who Doesn't Have A Photo?
Posted: 6/24/2006 8:01:52 PM | | RIGHT ON ADENSDAD I agree with you..... I have pics that i send in mail or if someone asks but i dont post it all my pics are also within the last 3 months and i would never put a pic that when i was younger looking. | |
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| Would You Respond To Someone Who Doesn't Have A Photo?
Posted: 6/25/2006 3:25:34 AM | O.k, i'm new to this so i hope i'm doin' it correctly. I guess i need to answer this question in two parts. First of all, when asked this question in regards to an IM, my answer is a respondent NO! I am not a rude person, just to busy to spend my time chatting with someone whom i have no idea if there is even the hint of a physical attraction. I know that this question has illicited a wide variety of answers due to what a wide variety of people are seeking. Now, me personally, in my 31 whole, looooooong, years on this planet, i have discovered a thing or two about myself. One of these discoveries being that physical attraction is very important to me. If this sounds shallow i do not appologize. All i want is someone i cant resist! Mind, BODY and soul! I need to have an attraction for someone before i get excited about the possibility that this person could be the mind, body and soul i am seeking.
Part Two! When asked the same question in regards to an e-mail, the answer is generally a yes! Absolutley would i take a moment to respond to a kind e-mail. Partly because it's much less personal and also because, as many of you know, it's not easy putting yourself out there for possible rejection! I dont believe it would kill anyone to take a quick second to type a message back to someone that obviously thought that you were worth the risk. Sometimes, just a kindly phrased 'thanks but no thanks' is just enough to make someone else feel good about not being totally disregarded. I dont believe attraction is a prerequisit for extending a touch of kindness.  &  | |
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| Would You Respond To Someone Who Doesn't Have A Photo?
Posted: 6/25/2006 4:06:13 PM | well i have talked too a few but would never meet without a picture!!!!!but even a person with a pic could be a psyco u never know.. hopefully pople with pics are honest and put THERE
own pic up(personal experince) 
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bumbee
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Joined: 6/22/2006
Msg: 37 | |
| Would You Respond To Someone Who Doesn't Have A Photo?
Posted: 6/26/2006 12:09:30 PM | NO I WOULD 'NT RESPOND TO SOMEONE WITHOUT A PHOTO. ABOUT 5 YEARS AGO I HAD WENT ON A PHONE CHAT LINE AND IT SUCKED! THE MAIN REASON WHY I'M ON THE WEB IS TO SEE WHAT SOMEONE LOOKS LIKE FIRST. EVEN THROUGH I DON'T HAVE A PHOTO I WILL IN 2 DAYZ AND I DON'T EXPECT ANYONE IN THERE RIGHT MIND TO E-MAIL ME UNLESS I SEND A MESSAGE FIRST . TELL THOSE PEOPLE TO GO ON THE DAM PHONE IF THEY WANT TO BE HIDIN.  | |
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| Would You Respond To Someone Who Doesn't Have A Photo?
Posted: 6/26/2006 6:53:03 PM | | I will and I have. Since when does "responding" to a single message mean commitment to anyone? i have had some great conversations with "incognito " ladies. Admittedly, I PREFER to put a face to the person I am talking with, but it is NOT a prerequsite for conversation. Grow up, will you! | |
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| Would You Respond To Someone Who Doesn't Have A Photo?
Posted: 7/3/2006 7:47:34 PM | | I will certainly chat with someone who doesn't have a photo, but I don't know that I would be willing to meet them without seeing a picture first. Mainly because I think it would be easier to find each other wheerever you meet, if you have seen what they look like. I also prefer to be able to put a face to the person I am talking to...that's also why I like to speak to people on the phone after I chatted on the computer with them a couple of times. Being able to develop a whole picture in your mind of the other person is very difficult in an online environment to begin with. | |
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| Would You Respond To Someone Who Doesn't Have A Photo?
Posted: 7/3/2006 7:57:29 PM | | No, I usually don't respond to them. I have tried to give several a chance and found that once I met them I was not attracted to them. That only made me feel worse, so I stopped responding the those without photos. | |
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| Would You Respond To Someone Who Doesn't Have A Photo?
Posted: 7/3/2006 8:11:13 PM | I get up very early , some times 5:30 , and if the weather is not that great I searchthe Profiles for a while..and I go thru 75 to a 100 at a time , and these are pictures only!! we must start some where for basic attraction, and out of 100 pictures I may write to 3 some times 5 ...thats it !!!! thats a 95 percent not what Im looking for with pictures
why ever begin the process blind with out a picture????????
any one can write a very attractive profile even a toad !!!!
no thanks no pic no read profile, even picture people lie and have pics from 10 yrs ago !!! | |
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| Would You Respond To Someone Who Doesn't Have A Photo?
Posted: 7/6/2006 9:45:12 AM | First, I don't believe anyone wrote that responding to a single message meant commitment. Some did write that they needed/wanted/desired/demanded people to have pics posted before they replied. Just because it is not a prerequisite for you does not mean that someone with a different perspective is immature.
In fact, I would argue that your response shows that you need to take your own advice.
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| Would You Respond To Someone Who Doesn't Have A Photo?
Posted: 7/8/2006 11:12:46 AM | I typically do not put up a photo, for a variety of reasons. When I decide to try it for awhile, I get tons of inappropriate and bizarre messages. Then I take it down again.
When I see someone state that they will not consider talking to someone who hasn't posted their photo, I think "Good, there's another shallow one out of the picture!" While I agree that there is a physical attraction component, the things that make a LTR work seldom have anything to do with the physical part. And let's face it folks, none of us are getting younger!
There is no way to tell if that photo is current, or of even of that person. I have also rejected people based on their photos: not because they were unattractive, but because they posted a photo of themself that told me WAY more than I needed to know, or made me question how honest they were in the rest of their profile.
There are other reasons people do not post photos. Do you live in a small town and would be instantly recognizable? I realize that some guys may think it's flattering to hunt down some unsuspecting woman after you've seen her picture on the net, but we call those guys 'stalkers' and they scare the crap out of us. Make me worry for the safety of myself and my family, and hell no you're not getting a date! Well, maybe with the courts, but not with me!
If I enjoy exchanging emails with someone enough that I decide I'd really like to meet them in person, then I think it is perfectly reasonable to ask for a picture. You do need to be able to recognize each other at the meeting. Even if I find the picture to be unflattering, I will not cancel a meeting based solely on that. Some of us are not photogenic. I know that photo isn't telling me everything I need to know anyway. I've sat across the table from the "attractive" man who talked with his mouth full, spewing food at me as we ate. I've also met the "average" guy who, in real life, had the most beautiful, amazing eyes that I kept finding myself staring into them.
The only people I have met through online dating sites that were anywhere close to the type of person I could envision being in my life were men who replied to my ad while I did not have a photo posted on it. | |
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rm2
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Joined: 2/26/2006
Msg: 47 | |
| Would You Respond To Someone Who Doesn't Have A Photo?
Posted: 7/8/2006 11:31:56 AM | I sometimes post one and sometimes I do not- I really don't want to be judged on how I look- I don't judge others on their looks- personality is most important! I have no problem sending a photo to someone I chat with, if they should ask.
It's also difficult to know if the photo is a current one, or even if it is really the person you are chatting with, so it really doesn't matter to me. I would rather talk to someone without a photo, that way, I get to know them before I see them, without making a decision based on their looks. It can sway you.
I also would not meet anyone from the internet without a photo, but I also would not meet them unless I have lots of info on them- phone number, address, etc. I have done a background search on a few people I have talked to before we met- better safe than sorry. | |
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| Would You Respond To Someone Who Doesn't Have A Photo?
Posted: 7/9/2006 4:15:12 PM | | I have a few guys in my favorites whom I've never talked to, who don't have pictures up. They're in my favorites because I liked their profiles. I don't know a thing about them, besides that. | |
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| Would You Respond To Someone Who Doesn't Have A Photo?
Posted: 7/9/2006 5:35:05 PM | | I agree with most of what has been said above. I always respond to messages whether the woman has picture or not. But I’m not sure how much correspondence I would do without seeing who I was talking to. | |
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