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| Would you respond to someone who doesn't have a photo
Posted: 10/20/2006 3:27:26 AM | | Absolutely not, and Don't try adding me to your favorites list with no photo. I think that is half assing it. what are you on here for with no photo?? Ridiculous!! Those are the same chicks who want to chat for months before they meet you. Be confident-you are who you are- put a picture up-NO excuses-ZERO tolerance. | |
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| Would You Respond To Someone Who Doesn't Have A Photo?
Posted: 10/20/2006 3:58:35 AM | It really depends on how interesting the profile is. I usually don't .. been down that road to many times. After several emails the person usually doesn't have teeth.. WHAT is up with that? And It is only fair since I have a photo that they would have a photo too. I get real tired of hearing all the excuses why a person does not have a photo. I don't even consider them a fish worth keeping until I see a recent phote. Either have a photo ready or they get throw back into the ocean of fishy's. Happy Fishing  | |
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| Would You Respond To Someone Who Doesn't Have A Photo?
Posted: 10/20/2006 10:06:12 AM | | Life is short and my time is valuable. If you can convey with a single picture what would otherwise take a thousand words to convey in your profile, then why waste my time? Show some respect and let me draw my own conclusions about whether you're attractive or not. There's really no excuse. If you don't have any other way to get a photo online, Kinkos will do it for a few bucks. | |
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| Would You Respond To Someone Who Doesn't Have A Photo?
Posted: 10/20/2006 12:57:21 PM | Are you really that shallow? Isn't the inside of the person much more important than the outside? I'd rather be known for my brains and personality, than my sparkling eyes, beautiful lips, or large breasts, etc. Besides, looks will fade away with time. What will you have left then? The INSIDE is what makes a person. As a writer, you should know better than anyone that your personality can be conveyed via words moreso than in a picture.
Blind dates are never out-dated... it adds mystery to it, that element of surprise to make it more exciting. Gee, you must not be very adventerous! A picture is only a millisecond in your life. Do you really want to base a potential long-term relationship on that alone? Perhaps someone doesn't think you look good due to stubble on your face at that particular moment in time, or the color(s) you're wearing aren't flattering on you. Or possibly, you have a dorky look on your face during that millisecond in time. Are those things really true assessments of your personality?
Personally, I've discovered that the men who try to make themselves look like "Joe Cool" or Brad Pitt are the ones I've been most disappointed with in person. Peoples' expectations are much higher with a photo of that type. By the same token, some of the more average looking men who look more down to earth, or have distant pictures only, are the ones that have really pleasantly surprised me, as they've far exceeded the "Joe Cool" type, trying to be someone he's not. Also phone conversations will give you a great idea as to their personality moreso than the photographed millisecond in time.
Anyone can make themselves look like a Barbie doll for that millisecond it takes to snap the flash, but do they have any brains up there?
Yes, you might get some spoiled fish, but you might also find the elusive king crab you've been searching for also. It's true that you have to kiss a lot of frogs before finding that prince.
There's several reasons why people don't have photos posted, and it's rather shallow of you to assume the worst of someone who doesn't want their picture posted all over the internet. Just because everyone doesn't think exactly like you do, makes them wrong?
Grow up and open up that mind of yours!
You don't know if the fish is a keeper until you pull it out of the water to inspect it. | |
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| Would You Respond To Someone Who Doesn't Have A Photo?
Posted: 10/20/2006 5:36:31 PM | Not everybody is comfortable to put up a pic right away; I have talked to people without photos. It just gets odd when nothing can be produced for extended periods of time, I was naive enough to take people by face value, er - their word.
In a way it is almost better to 'meet' someone without a pic first; the mind takes in the personality and isn't pre-occupied with an image we may be infatuated with or which may not really suit us, perhaps allowing for a better 'match' in the long run.
However, after a while I too would like to see who I'm yakking with. | |
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| Would You Respond To Someone Who Doesn't Have A Photo?
Posted: 10/20/2006 7:21:34 PM | I have responded and had some great conversations.
But what I find is that you picture this person in your imagination from their personality.
Then when you decide to finally meet it can be a real letdown because you have already set your mind to how this person should look. even the best description does not give you the same as pics.
And it can change your whole perspective of the person you have been talking too because you have already put it in your mind.
A pic is a must | |
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| Would You Respond To Someone Who Doesn't Have A Photo?
Posted: 10/20/2006 9:00:05 PM | Actually, it's not shallow at all. There's a tremendous amount of brain activity that goes into evaluating a picture of another person. Recent research has shown that people can determine whether photo is attractive or not in less than four seconds. We can't even decide what we want for dinner that quickly. Other studies show that profiles with pictures get six times as many responses as profiles without pictures.
All the things you say about being able to fool the eye through creative pose, lighting and makeup, while true, can't diminish the fact that men and women have been meeting each other in person for thousands of years and getting a look at each other before any further interaction takes place. For that matter, you could lie about the other details on your profile even more easily, if you were the kind of person who believes that deception and withholding information is the best way to begin a relationship.
Yes, appearance is just one of the many ways we choose our mates, but it's too powerful to ignore. | |
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| Would You Respond To Someone Who Doesn't Have A Photo?
Posted: 10/21/2006 8:45:03 AM | I already have responded to guys w/o a photo..but what I disagree with is someone that posts sexual photos of themselves to attract someone..That in itself is just not right, let alone disgusting, and not very mature at all.
Besides, we really dont know at all if the ones that do post a pic is really them or not anyways..do we?
We are all taking chances on any one of these date sites, but that is what life is all about~~taking chances.
Each of us has our own specifics that we are searching for~and each of us has the RIGHT to choose whether or not to respond to any given email or contact.
People do have the RIGHT to also hide their pics....some are more shy than others...BUT if they do not send you a pic upon request...I totally agree that they are hiding something....we all need to be a little cautious even if they do post a pic.
We are all adults here...BUT then again ...some are not!
Webcams are easy to use and cheap to buy.....easy to download to the pc also...so their really is NO excuse not to send a pic upon request....they can also be used on messenger service to see that person live...which...really helps in knowing if they are the same as in their pictures or not.
I try not to judge the guy by his looks...but we all know that Chemistry~~ both by looks and whats in someones heart also...needs to play an important part in finding someone does it not? | |
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| Would You Respond To Someone Who Doesn't Have A Photo?
Posted: 10/28/2006 1:51:11 PM | Ck,,,you may have put it bluntly,,,yet I appreaciate what you express,,,what is worst ,is a picture that is on the site that has been touched up,,,or only one from the shoulders up,,,at the same time claim average,,,I agree to hide aspects just to get a responce is worst than no pic,,,they waste thier time and mine,,yet if they would have had a full pic as well as a shoulders and above included with a message I might have responded,,,based on them as a person,,,honesty is a 2 way street,,,to get it one must be able to accept it,,, | |
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| Would You Respond To Someone Who Doesn't Have A Photo?
Posted: 10/31/2006 5:36:18 PM | | Coming from someone who doesn't have a photo uploaded, let me shed some light on this issue. My reasons for not having a pic uploaded are directly related to my profession. I'm a police officer, and I sometimes work under cover, and if my picture is floating around on the internet for anyone to see, I can be potentially endangering myself and my partners. However, when I attempt to contact someone, I always explain my reasoning for not having a picture. If they are shallow, they don't understand, but if they are open minded, they will inquire and ask questions about my job and duties, which actually is a pretty good way to break the ice! Once I am comfortable enough with the person, then I will send them my picture, but not before that point! | |
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| Would You Respond To Someone Who Doesn't Have A Photo?
Posted: 11/1/2006 3:55:35 AM | well my pics look like crap, i am no oil painting, so what have i to hide, better get the looks i haveout now than when i meet some one and they go...oh what am i on a date with!! if they see me first, then that is half the battle won, then its up yo me not to screw up!! | |
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| Would You Respond To Someone Who Doesn't Have A Photo?
Posted: 11/1/2006 1:07:29 PM | Yes I would respond to someone who didn't have a photo. I have done this several times for the plain fact that too many choices are made purely on looks alone. Obviously, there are some people who just do not take a good picture no matter how hard they try. It doesn't mean that they are some ogre or wacked-out space-case. Choosing to place a photo on a site like this can be compromising especially if that person is married or lives in a small town where anyone in that town can create a problem, even accidentally.
I chose not to place a photo on my profile because I want the interest placed in me to be natural and not focused just on looks alone. There is more to me than that just like there is more to everyone reading this. Photos can be taken care of days or even weeks later. People judge too quickly on looks alone and this site gives everyone the chance at a semi-level playing field in meeting someone. What words, attitudes, and character are in the profile is more important than if a person has blonde hair, wears glasses, or likes to ride Harleys. None of those apply to me but that is something that can be discussed during the initial stages of any relationship. Don't screw it up basing everything on a single photo. Some of the nicest people I hace written back and forth with are those I never once saw a picture of. Am I unhappy because of this....not really, I still made a friend who swims in the same little pond. We are all fish in this pond. Don't get "hooked" by a picture of a pretty "worm" which may not even be the person on the other end at all. | |
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| Would You Respond To Someone Who Doesn't Have A Photo?
Posted: 11/3/2006 4:20:42 AM | | I still believe in that old saying, "Don't Judge A Book By It's Cover" I don't base a relationship on looks, it's what's on the inside that counts! That's what's wrong with a lot of people now a days. Just because I don't post a picture doesn't mean I don't have a digital camera or that I'm "UGLY" It's my choice same as everybody else. Even if you go by looks doesn't mean that person is beautiful on the inside. Good Luck all! | |
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| Would You Respond To Someone Who Doesn't Have A Photo?
Posted: 11/6/2006 5:04:15 AM | TSAFT2643,,,
As a recent retired federal law enforcement officer,,I could see us both taking a witness stand and have some defence lawyer ask us "is this document familiar to you Officer" and hand you your profile,,,
Or how about the old "SET-UP",,,some drug user,or drunk driver,or the girl friend of someone you busted use your profile to lead you down the yellow brick road only to all of a sudden show up later in court and say
you dated her for,,,,,whatever to get herself off or her boyfriend,brother,or just a friend,,,
I get a kick now that I am retired to run into people I put cuffs on,,or testifed against,,etc,,,now that I am retired,,,even ran into a woman whos dad was taken down,,,yet we get along fine,,,yet during our law enforcement profession many do not understand how we had to protect ourselves,,,
Like even when as officers we would talk to other officers about a club we enjoy,,,crooks are always trying to learn what they can,,just to have a hot,sensual lady go there to set you up,,yet you cannot fault some on this site,,,they have no idea of what law enforcement does to a personal life,,,
Enjoy your profession,,,retirement is GREAT,, | |
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| Would You Respond To Someone Who Doesn't Have A Photo?
Posted: 11/13/2006 3:43:09 PM | Dj,
First of all, congrats on making it through the duration of your career! I always enjoy hearing about one of the "brothers" making it out, especially with as many of us are dying on the job lately and whatnot!
Second of all, 9 out of 10 people who live the "civilian" lifestyle truly don't understand what a law enforcement career will do to your personal life. They don't understand the constant paranoia we walk around with EVERY day! Most people I have dated have ended up walking away from me after a while because they couldn't get used to the fact that I NEVER leave home without my weapon! I've even had the mother of one girl tell me I was not welcome in her home with my weapon, and I'm like fine, I won't come over anymore.....But anyways, it takes a special person to be involved with a police officer. Most people just do not have the capacity to understand certain things, and why we are the way we are!
I can feel myself starting to stray away from the original focus of this thread, so I will just stop right now before I get any further off course! Like I said in my previous post, when I attempt initial contact with someone, I always include that I do not have a picture on my profile because of my profession, and if they wanted to know more about why, just to ask!
Todd | |
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| Would You Respond To Someone Who Doesn't Have A Photo?
Posted: 11/13/2006 5:48:29 PM | | I have to agree. I also am less inclined to initiate contact, or even look at a profile that doesn't have a picture. Realistically this is a dating site, and as much as many people would say "it is not about the looks" there still is a part of us that wants to find a person that they find attractive (based on whatever self imposed definition they have for "attractive, that is.) | |
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