| Would You Respond To Someone Who Doesn't Have A Photo?
Posted: 10/3/2008 5:34:46 AM | I agree basically, too Robbity...although it seems many ( guys especially) dont have any pics laying around...face it..many are divorced and maybe they didnt get custody of the scrap books ...and or technology to take and store digitial pics.( if they are starting over) .and as i mentioned I have met and taken pics and emailed them back...ironically i do believe now that i think of it...they dont post them now that i give it thought...
I do think there has to be a level of attraction..But...I ( personally) dont make a split decision on photo alone..I do how ever get an idea..as example...I like hip young acting/ feeling people..and say all is going well conversation wise and we meet and the guy has a pony tail..something i am not real keen on...not a deal breaker but I guess i am more traditional and maybe like more clean cut looking men. If I got a pic I could make a decision based on that or i could still see what makes him tick..and I just might find if we did meet he got a hair cut. I did meet a guy once who had a psycial deformity and as much as i want to say i am more highly evolved i guess i am not..I do have to say it was not my only decision making factor...he was also smaller build and shorter signifigantly so (being a tall bigger framed person i felt uncomfortable) ...and a starchie conservative type who is very outspoken on things i dont seem to care about..( like politics, sports) almost obnoxiously opinionated and all things considered I knew he was no match..although he was a nice guy he was not for me...how much of my decision making was looks alone..one will never know..I do how ever still talk to him occassionally in chats...I just think its only one aspect of a person...Pictures can be ideal..but..for me..not a end all...I just might be more flexable or something but I dont rule some one in or out with a pic..I do love to see them..and see what i get from it..i look at eyes and smile..and surroundings...but..jmo...its not a deal breaker especially if we are just talking initial contact...now...if they have other behavor that makes the red flags wave...i will get that too... | |
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| Would You Respond To Someone Who Doesn't Have A Photo?
Posted: 10/3/2008 6:33:05 AM | | Not anymore, but I used to....back in the old days before I had a computer, before alot of people had computers....I may be dating myself but I've been divorced a long time. I had answered a newspaper ad and met someone without a photo. We dated for 3 years. It was a great relationship. But these days I'm not so trusting. You need a photo. | |
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| Would You Respond To Someone Who Doesn't Have A Photo?
Posted: 10/3/2008 7:03:09 AM | i too go by what is said...if they chat like they have some since..its ok..i dont get caught up in the bull-ogna....lol..I cant stand when men want to know "all the STUFF your into." with in 2 minutes or sentences..I dont give a darn what he looks like then..hes on my Sh*t list then..and gets added to ignore...I feel the lucky guy wont need to ask..if he plays his cards right..he just might find out... | |
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| Would You Respond To Someone Who Doesn't Have A Photo?
Posted: 10/3/2008 8:26:49 AM | ya.. talking about superficial.. :))..
its not about looks really.. but.. its about connecting. Some men Qualify us by what "we are into sexually".. thats pretty shallow.. :))
Any Tom, Richard or Harry can talk dirty to us.. but it takes a real man who wants to see who we are.. | |
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| Would You Respond To Someone Who Doesn't Have A Photo?
Posted: 10/3/2008 9:59:25 AM | | I didn't care for blind dates before and I don't care for them now. I'd like a full photo (not just a headshot)so I know what they look like....so shoot me for trying to find someone that I find attractive lol. | |
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| Would You Respond To Someone Who Doesn't Have A Photo?
Posted: 10/5/2008 1:00:09 AM | | I have said it before and say it again....it is not only about photos....why can people not realize that if they are really here to meet some one ...perhaps just perhaps the one they may spend the rest of their days with...why dont they put some effort into the search...not only do a lot of the profiles not have hardly any photos maybe only one but that one is poor to boot....on the other hand here is four photos of some waterfall, some flower , bridge, canyon, rock ..you get the idea...ok great photo but men dont click with that.....if you really insist on going that route insert a photo of your deer rifle or bass boat or classic car....now on to the second part...take some time and write something in your profile.....you are trying to sell YOURSELF to a potential mate....I have seen profiles where there is more information in the local paper about a upcoming garage sale then on the persons ad page...and yes lets be honest ....attraction is a HUGE deal ....if you are lucky enough to not be blind ..sight is one of the main senses ......and while most people do not make a choice on just the photo alone it sure as heck can play a huge part.... | |
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| Would You Respond To Someone Who Doesn't Have A Photo?
Posted: 10/5/2008 5:05:54 AM | My opinion and mine only. I think that the picture is the most important. If she looks like ma kettle, no thanks and move on. The profile could be all lies. Looking for a nice man that has feelings. When all they are looking for is a guy with a fat wallet. Not all women are like that by any means. Just an example. What they say they are looking for and what they are really looking for may not be the same. So by the picture and chatting would help get a feel of what they are like. Some women have a profile that takes 3 days to read. So i just pass right by. I would like to stay and chat, but things to do.
LATER GANG>>>>> | |
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| Would You Respond To Someone Who Doesn't Have A Photo?
Posted: 10/5/2008 6:08:09 AM | I would ask them for a photo first...I have one out there, so do they. When I check out a profile that does not have a photo, I look to see how many have that person on their "Favorites List". Usually it is zero and that in my opinion is the reason why...
Why wouldn't you put up a photo? And if you do, make sure it is the best one that you have :)
Brwneyes | |
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| Would You Respond To Someone Who Doesn't Have A Photo?
Posted: 10/5/2008 6:45:09 AM | Yep BRWNeyes..I agree there..a photo does help..but strickly for me i give them a chance...i read it..and ( agree with you too Doc..) i try and chat a bit) And i do assess in my "own mind ( using my reality scale..lol) I assess why he has no pic..many i find are just average joes who might not yet have one they feel is A. recent (only pic is from graduation day and wedding day..so..wounder why they post graduation pic..) B. they are not real pc savy and might just be hunting and pecking his way on the key board..just now getting enough of a culture shock with an occassional email or message and may or may not have a way to get a pic on his pc..or know what to do with it once he did..I have walked my sister through how to attach a pic for years till she can now do it with out calling me..C or actually has a life and doesnt care about such stuff or what others think..I think there is some..statiticly at least one who is actually looking to see "if" some women will really like them...care for them for whats on the inside baring the outside( or the wallet size)...be it terrable or terrific...I think on a human level we all are striving for that..
So..I am not hard on any one..well at least not on purpose or with out pravication...I just figure..who the hell am I to judge..and then..after i give them a chance..then..I feel I can rationalise or decide from then out..I have learned for the school of hard knocks..not everything or every one is as it seems...everything has a story...and...sadly bad things happen to good people...
( oh..bet you thought I forgot Doc..lol...since you dont read long profiles how far did you get into mine..?) | |
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| Would You Respond To Someone Who Doesn't Have A Photo?
Posted: 10/5/2008 7:20:41 AM | Heck no!!!!!!!!!!!!! I would never respond to someone who doesn't have a picture on their profile. Everyone knows that people w/o pictures are hiding something and are dishonest!!!!!!! People with pictures on their profiles have nothing to hide and wouldn't lie or mislead you in any way.
I had a picture on my profile and took it off. I had most of the info filled out and changed it to "prefer not to say". I was on the favorite lists of some women. When I revamped my profile I removed everyone, even the ones I still exchange email with. I'm still the same person I was before making the changes to my profile. If the only reason a person will talk to me is because of my picture they really aren't the type of person I want to talk to. I know that physical attraction is important, I would be a fool if I thought it didn't matter. That being said, there are people who hide ugly very well because of how they look while the beauty of others is never seen for the same reason.
I do expect someone to want to know what I look like before meeting me. I just don't want that to be the main reason to meet me. I could change my profile to reflect what is attractive to the masses. I would rather be a needle in the hay stack that someone is looking for and finds attractive. I know I have limited the people who will even talk to me but I'm hopeful to one day find the needle in the hay stack I'm looking for. Luckily for all of us this site gives us all options when it comes to our profiles so we can attract the type of people we are interested in. For some even lying is part of the way they try to attract others. | |
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| Would You Respond To Someone Who Doesn't Have A Photo?
Posted: 10/5/2008 8:17:33 AM | Does anyone remember the 'good old days' of Sincere Singles? You got a booklet with a 1/2 inch description of the person (or more, depending on how much you wanted to pay)......
You would send a letter to the P O Box, who would forward the letter to the intended.....
You could either correspond by letters or calling......they may or may not enclose a pic.....(how many 'spares' did you have in those days? LOL?)
And a LOT of dating was done with little or no idea what the person looked like......
Ahhhhh......even without a pic (and I have met some people without.....if I burn rubber leaving the parking lot, they know who to blame ) this SURE beats the olden days!
PS Am I 'dating' myself by bringing up the old style method? OMG! | |
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| Would You Respond To Someone Who Doesn't Have A Photo?
Posted: 10/5/2008 8:20:33 AM | linda, oh, yes, we are dating ourselves. please remind me the next time i see you, and i will tell you the story of what me and my friend did using that method. wow. it is a story we still talk about to this day 30 years later, LMAO!!!
JO | |
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| Would You Respond To Someone Who Doesn't Have A Photo?
Posted: 10/5/2008 8:43:15 AM | LOL you two...I wasn't single back in those days (havent been single that long) and besides I'm not old enough...lol...at least in MY mind
It's scary enough meeting someone WITH a pic...can't even imagine mtg someone without one! (I think of your story about the guy with no teeth Linda, LOL...eeekkkks)
Sometimes even after seeing their pic and knowing them online for a while you find out they are SOOOOOO not what you thought they were!
Bossy, Self Righteous Know It Alls with the "I Know Everything" attitude. Emails sometimes open your eyes big time ...you see the whiner types. Don't want to meet my Dad, rather a great guy who likes to have fun and isn't into drama!
I need an updated pic with some emails that sound like the guy is a lot of fun...makes it easier to pick out the weeds. | |
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| Would You Respond To Someone Who Doesn't Have A Photo?
Posted: 10/5/2008 9:14:54 AM | LOL, Robin.....I will remind you that he DID have a pic....just not one 'smiling'
Sometimes even after seeing their pic and knowing them online for a while you find out they are SOOOOOO not what you thought they were!
Hon, that can happen if you meet up anywhere....even in the grocery store, LOL....
eventually, you find they are SOOOOOOO not what you thought they were......
That's why I don't like people bashing Internet dating......you can meet a 'looks good' but turns into Mr. Hyde guy anywhere in life....at work, at bowling, anywhere......
Emails sometimes open your eyes big time ...you see the whiner types.
TG for emails! | |
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| Would You Respond To Someone Who Doesn't Have A Photo?
Posted: 10/6/2008 1:23:52 PM | and i am not bashing anyone in particular, but ive done emails with some males and wonder if they even graduated from a certified public grade school !!!!!
 jo
p.s. no real names have been used in this posting  | |
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| Would You Respond To Someone Who Doesn't Have A Photo?
Posted: 10/6/2008 6:15:38 PM | | s/moon you are to trusting with people. Be careful. Linda did they have cars back then. Waaaaaaaaay before my time. Actually, i have used the pony express several times. My body may be old, but my heart and mind are still young. | |
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| Would You Respond To Someone Who Doesn't Have A Photo?
Posted: 10/7/2008 4:07:24 PM | some times i wonder if possibly.. i could just get lucky..
but.. i hate it when they only wanna show you web cam.. and when you see "him"... you go.. EWWWWWWWWW.. thats when i start picking my nose on cam. | |
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| Would You Respond To Someone Who Doesn't Have A Photo?
Posted: 10/7/2008 4:31:38 PM | Since I've got pic's, then it's only right for them to have one also. I'm not being superficial, it takes the hole package. We meet people everywhere, look again if its something interesting ( good and bad) So its only right to post a pic. It throughs up yellow flags if not open enough too. Come out Come out wherever you are What are you hiding? | |
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