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| Would You Respond To Someone Who Doesn't Have A Photo?
Posted: 10/7/2008 4:31:38 PM | Since I've got pic's, then it's only right for them to have one also. I'm not being superficial, it takes the hole package. We meet people everywhere, look again if its something interesting ( good and bad) So its only right to post a pic. It throughs up yellow flags if not open enough too. Come out Come out wherever you are What are you hiding? | |
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| Would You Respond To Someone Who Doesn't Have A Photo?
Posted: 10/8/2008 2:26:21 AM | Thats true.. when it doesnt matter if your meeting or not.. its all good for them not to have a photo at all.
People will take you more seriously with a pic tho. Im sure most women dont even bother to politely say no thankyou to a non photo person. I know if they are married.. i dont respond at all..  | |
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| Would You Respond To Someone Who Doesn't Have A Photo?
Posted: 10/8/2008 4:33:27 AM | Then you HOPE, there being honest with what they have on there PROFILE, till you get that call from the married Lady. That has to suck...no pun intended.  to them, makes all men look bad. Am sure married women do it to, get a little on the side as they say. Always hated that saying. | |
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| Would You Respond To Someone Who Doesn't Have A Photo?
Posted: 10/8/2008 5:08:05 AM | yep...TN man...I had a great new friend ship with a all around great guy last year..fast friends ( nothing more had begun but sinced it could go in a different direction, in time) and he was a christain man..and I thought he just had to be a better christian then me..since he was involved and just seemed to have lots of zeal..and we talked on the phone and met a couple times..low and behold i saw a incoming call from him which i programed in with his name..only to have a women ask me why i was calling and recieveing calls from her husband..
I was flabbergasted and explained i didnt know he was..and it would certainly not happen again..and was quick to hang up...grrrrr sure did make me mad...more so i was mad at myself..I was snaked in by my preception of someone i thought i could trust and i was snookered...its all about the convincing nature of the other party. I thought i was cynical and not trusting..only to see i have to be more watchful and even those i think are fine upstanding persons..some may have skeletons too... | |
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| Would You Respond To Someone Who Doesn't Have A Photo?
Posted: 10/8/2008 7:26:51 AM | Then when a decent guy approaches , he gets sized up and put into the not to be trusted catogory until he can prove otherwise. Nothing like a good interogation and watching every word so it doesn't come out wrong while on a supposedly fun date  | |
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| Would You Respond To Someone Who Doesn't Have A Photo?
Posted: 10/8/2008 3:27:46 PM | Your right LHL....but..i do try...( try i said) to judge a person on an individual basis..but..i have to say...i am leary...but...follow my gut instincts...red flags are red flags..some can be explained..some just create more questions...then is when you know something is up!
Face it..if i judged by the men in the past...Id have WAYYYYYYYYYYY more cats and never look at a relationship at all...with a man...( not even as friends) But..I have faith...I am hoping more good is out there then evil...Have to have faith!!!! With out HOPE we dont have much... | |
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| Would You Respond To Someone Who Doesn't Have A Photo?
Posted: 10/8/2008 5:09:32 PM | Random thoughts on this thread, first off I have no problem responding to someone without a photo, why not? After all chances are pretty slim that the first person you meet on here is going to be the one. I like to chat a bit before meeting anyway so get to know each other a bit, if when the photo does come I'm not attracted I'd let her know(hopefully) and we'd remain friends if that is what she wanted.
I think lots of us(myself included) need to think about trying to reply to all messages even if it's a 'No Thanks', I know I don't like it when there is a 'read/deleted' on my sent messages, sheesh even though it's anonymous there is some effort in trying and some pain in rejection especially if there is no response at all.
Another thing on the response, 'I don't think we are a good match' may not be the best way to answer if both our interests are pretty much the same, hell I'd prefer the 'Im not attracted to you, you're butt ugly' response. | |
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| Would You Respond To Someone Who Doesn't Have A Photo?
Posted: 10/8/2008 5:29:46 PM | septembermoon, i dated a guy last year that was married. he told me he was divorced. a call came in one day from HIS cell phone. i answered because i thought it was him. instead it was his wife. she went crazy on me. i told her i had no idea the guy was married. he forgot his cell at home that day. he called me from his office and i said, wow, lovely wife you have there!!! i said you lied to me. and he said, no, i was divorced from my second wife. you never asked me if i remarried. wow...
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| Would You Respond To Someone Who Doesn't Have A Photo?
Posted: 10/8/2008 5:47:58 PM | | thanks meow, it's just funny that someone would say we aren't a good match when the interests are so similar. sheesh just say no thanks. Hard to believe some people with half truths and out and out lies. | |
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| Would You Respond To Someone Who Doesn't Have A Photo?
Posted: 10/8/2008 6:22:32 PM | | After a while 50nsingle you will get thick skinned or is that old wrinled in my case,lol. I used to write back to say it's not going to happen and they get all upset and started acting all crazy(like jo with to much soda:) So delete,delete delete ...most everyone does it and it keeps the rejector and rejectee at a distance in case they don't handle rejection well. Such is life with online dating,just roll with the punches and you will meet some good people:) | |
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| Would You Respond To Someone Who Doesn't Have A Photo?
Posted: 10/8/2008 6:35:22 PM | | 50nsingle ...Im with you...i do try and respond..if i do get some mail..if i send a message i appreciate a no thanks ...mainly get no answer...I have gotten a thicker skin as Eddy says..it would just be nice to show some maners and respect...but you can only do what you personaly can do...i hope i quit before i get so callus as to treat people poorly...jmo | |
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| Would You Respond To Someone Who Doesn't Have A Photo?
Posted: 10/8/2008 6:41:19 PM | I almost always answer back to say thanks but no thanks if I'm not interested...especially right now when I'm dating someone but there are the emails that put me off that I don't respond too. Just got one as a matter of fact...it said " hey I like kissssssing"
Makes me think....good grief dude, you need a better line than that! | |
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| Would You Respond To Someone Who Doesn't Have A Photo?
Posted: 10/8/2008 6:42:10 PM | | crazy, joanne...you have to qualify everything...maybe an answer of my fingers were crossed will be the next excuse...holy cow...there are many times things can be answered with a yes or no...not kinda, sorta...any thing else is plainly lies...sigh... | |
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| Would You Respond To Someone Who Doesn't Have A Photo?
Posted: 10/8/2008 7:32:58 PM | | LMAO, really, I like kissing???? Gotta wonder about some people. I understand how it can be for women, I'm sure you get a lot of them, and I don't always expect a reply. But when I send out a half dozen over a period of a week or so and don't get a reply, just makes me not want to say hi. Fortunately(?) I don't have that problem. LOL | |
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| Would You Respond To Someone Who Doesn't Have A Photo?
Posted: 10/8/2008 7:46:33 PM | | See what I mean 50nsingle about having to have thick skin,I just got a rejection letter/shot down/crashed and burned/thrown to the curb/tossed out like a old shoe....come on group what other sayings,lol. Maybe just a deletion would of made me feel better(see what I mean about choice of prefered rejection if there has to be one). I think I need some new pics....these might be showing my bad side wheres Jo when you need her with that camera:) | |
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| Would You Respond To Someone Who Doesn't Have A Photo?
Posted: 10/9/2008 3:05:01 PM | Guys.....(Hi, Bill!)
Sometimes it all depends on what you say in your email.
I sooooo much prefer an email that shows they have READ my profile, made intelligent and specific comments about likes and dislikes.....and how about throwing a comment in there that invites an answer? (My fav is, 'so what is your favorite lighthouse?' I will generally respond to that, even if not completely interested.....or, 'what's your average in bowling?')
Asking a pertinent question is sometimes the BEST way to receive a response.......
I emailed (in the past) a couple guys just to tell them that I was ROFLMAO after reading their profile.....and SOMETIMES they responded!
Don't make that first email too 'heavy'.....stay away from 'wanna get together?' and 'you look so cute'......we tend to be wary of those......
Advice from a veteran! Ouch...... | |
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| Would You Respond To Someone Who Doesn't Have A Photo?
Posted: 10/9/2008 9:41:40 PM |
I think I need some new pics....these might be showing my bad side wheres Jo when you need her with that camera:)
Aw I don't know about Jo and that camera. Man do I look horrible when she takes me :(
I think she waits til I look my worst  | |
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