| Do strippers make better lovers
Posted: 7/24/2006 5:55:45 PM | Soulis......................"I told my husband never to go to those nasty places ever again.
He thought the girls would be in bikinis, and I was ok with that, and thats the only reason I let him go."
Now he has to sneak. And he will. He probably has to hide his porn too, but I'm sure you sniff it out and throw it in the trash. Remember, forbidden fruit is the tastiest. | |
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| Do strippers make better lovers
Posted: 7/24/2006 6:12:09 PM | | I have been friends with a number of strippers and dated several. They are generaly more experienced and very open minded about sex. A large percentage are bi. The sex is usually a much more kinky than the norm but some are good and some are bad just like the rest of the world. Before you guys run off to the local tittiebar.These girsl make their living relieving men of their money so its probably the hardest place other than a convent to get laid. They are also very high maintainance and more than a few have problems with drugs or alchohol | |
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| Do strippers make better lovers
Posted: 7/24/2006 6:50:52 PM | This wont help my chances to meet a so called nice girl on here .. But when I was younger I went to strip clubs all the time. I was poor, depressed and lonely quite often due to being very shy so when I went to strip clubs I actually felt good and apreciated. The dancers who where truly entertainers and/or addicts, freaks, depressed, disturbed and etc were actually the ones who wanted to chat with me the most and when they found out I was to poor to be a good customer they still sat with me. And of course some of them were looney but most were very interesting and usually spiritual and/or intelligent. My conclusion is that they often had very depressing or hard lives in some way and generally can see someone in need of human contact. I was amazed at how compassionate they were. I formed the opinion that non strippers I have known were quicker to leave a guy with money problems than any stripper I have ever known. The so called moral non-stripper girls were more condemning of a struggling guy. Which is exactly the mindset of the ones who were stripping themselves thru school.. they smiled as they thought what an ***hole coming here without a load of cash to dump on me.
Anyway.. the learning experience was that I actually lived with, had relationships etc with over 20 strippers. Each time the problems that made them so understanding or compassionate were so deep and intensely dark that it created insurmountable obstacles to a healthy relationship. My die-hard attempt to accept this was hell and damaging to my positive outlook. You might say that the ones who act like business women wont come with those problems ... Yeah they are just cold money hungry ****es like the rich lawyers, who defend anybody with money, they love to wax. There is only 2 reasons to strip if your not mentally scarred in some way or a cold heartles **** 1)you actually truly love to dance and entertain and make people happy, 2)taking care of your children, family, etc... or both.
OK.. now about the sex... Generally speaking, YES... the ones I have lived with were uninhibited and/or were very passionate and loved to be loved without being treated like a "Stripper" The problem is, in a mental sense, the playing with fire. It's been 12+ years since the last stripper girlfriend and I am sure now that I got away clean without STD's So I can say from my experience that they are not any more dangerous than any other girl.
Since I am still single I can only dream that a stable happily ever after relationship will be better all around and using some good examples of non-dancers I have been with would be pointless because ... well ,, where are they now and where did they go when I was poor? At least the cold hearted strippers are not hiding their expectations of a man. | |
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| Do strippers make better lovers
Posted: 7/24/2006 9:08:47 PM | My answer, forked as usual:
Physically: Yes.
Emotionally: No.
Any explanation of the answer is left as an exercise for the reader! | |
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| Do strippers make better lovers
Posted: 7/24/2006 10:03:20 PM | I have to say that everyone on here that has made derogatory statements about strippers and have said that " all strippers are messed up and all are wh*res," are ALL IDIOTS and are all completely ignorant!! I have know a couple of cops that have beaten there wives....do they all....a couple doctors that feel they are gods gift, are they all that way??? I have worked as a stripper yet I have a completely healthy normal life and I have raised four beautiful children. I have never done cocaine and I have had a healthy sex life. Am I better than a non stripper in bed...maybe only because I have no body hang ups...but that isnt because of what my profession was. Like it has been said on many threads you cant lump all of one sex into one big bad category. I have known guys and girls that are pretty fu**ed up that arent strippers!! | |
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| Do strippers make better lovers
Posted: 7/24/2006 10:24:09 PM |
Soulis, this is a subjective thing and with all woman I use proper protection...
I have a close friend that bikini dances and doesn't lap dance. After getting to know each other she started dancing for me and we started schema a real life date, which we eventually had. This girl is smart, funny, and Russian, and definitely not a whore. Russian girls in particular come into this country with little opportunity and they only have one thing to offer, their looks. They, my friend included even have college degrees that are completely discounted and considered useless here.
If I were one of them I'd probably be dancing as well.
I think that "bikini dancing" and nude stripping/lap dancing are very different. I myself have gone to a club where there are bikini dancers, or go-go dancers, and its just entertainment. Lap dancing and nude stripping is sex work and is pornographic. There is a big difference between being a go-go dancer and giving nude lap dances. I see nothing wrong in being a bikini dancer. But I DO see wrongness in the place my husband went to. | |
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| Do strippers make better lovers
Posted: 7/24/2006 10:36:50 PM |
Soulis......................"I told my husband never to go to those nasty places ever again.
He thought the girls would be in bikinis, and I was ok with that, and thats the only reason I let him go."
Now he has to sneak. And he will. He probably has to hide his porn too, but I'm sure you sniff it out and throw it in the trash. Remember, forbidden fruit is the tastiest.
My husband went ONCE to the strip club for a bachelor party.
To the older woman who claimed he did it because I am not "doing it" for him as far as looks and sex are concerned....well, my husband is not a sick perv. The organizer of the bachelor party wanted to hold the party there, and it was my husband's good friend's bachelor party, and thats why he went. He really had no say in the matter. I was very disgusted when I found out that it was a place where guys can receive nude, full-contact lap dances that involves dry humping.
Maybe I am not "open-minded", but I have MORALS and SELF-RESPECT and I believe that women who get naked for money and use their sexuality to get ahead do not respect themselves and are degrading themselves and degrading the role of women in society. It is a very sad thing. Obviously you people are not on the same level as me as far as dignity, morals, values, and self-respect are concerned. You are all fine with women degrading themselves as live porn stars. These women don't realize that maybe some things should be reserved only for the person you are dating (like rubbing their genitals against someone else's genitals) and that women showing off their goodies to the world for money is really messed up. Why don't you all talk about how porn and prostitution are wonderful, too?
And this whole "paying for college" crap...c'mon, don't all of you realize what a cliche that is? Have any of you ever heard of something called "student loans"? I took out student loans to pay for college, and have a bachelors degree. Maybe I should have been a sex worker instead, right? | |
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| Do strippers make better lovers
Posted: 7/24/2006 11:09:26 PM | soulis, just as your husband 'went there' and most likely didn't hold the same opinions you do - i'll bet he not only had a good time - he probably became aroused, animal that he is.
Keep in mind that you are reading and responding in a 'sex and dating' forum.
Ah, to be 27 and so idealistic... there, there soulis... take a chill pill....
I hope you have good friends and family to console you if ever your hubby decides to not follow your rules and regulations - and think with his own head - as you mention that you 'let him or don't let him' do things. Most controlling, nice pants you wear sweetie...  | |
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Posted: 7/24/2006 11:52:28 PM | | Strip clubs are way overrated. I have been in 2 my whole life and that was for bachelor parties. I am just not interested in spending my hard earned money to watch a girl take it off if i cant take it home. I would rather spend that money on a date getting to know someone that that i could have a real relationship with. | |
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Posted: 8/1/2006 6:27:02 AM | u gotta do what u gotta do.......to survive in this world..........people shldnt judge others for what they have to do to make a better life for themselves/kids or whatever the reason is.....
for the people that bash the strippers cause their partners are out spending money on strippers......its ur partners choice......and the strippers are there doin their job ..just like anyone else thats out there doin there job........
i dont know about strippers being better lovers ...........cause i have never slept with one.....but i do know a stripper and hes the sweetest and kindest man i know.....hes got a heart of gold and wld do anything to make sure his kids have what they need and want.....
its just a job.......just like any other job......people need to stop being so judgemental.....theres more in this world to worry about..then worrying about whose what and does what with their life | |
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Posted: 8/1/2006 7:16:41 AM | alot of women are territorial, and if their territory is being imposed upon? well....u know the rest lol
If a woman is jealous or sickened if a man goes to a dance club than there is more going on in that whole situation than just her being upset. It's one thing if the guy is going all the time, than there is obviously something missing between you two more than just him going to a strip club and your relationship overall needs retooling. lol
If your relationship is secure, and you trust each other alot of women wouldn't be upset if you went to one once in a great while, heck they will even go with you cuz they are not jealous type. and most guys won't even go at all cuz they are so happy at home!! it has nothing to do with that!
Maybe the guy should go out and buy a fake puzzy to play with instead and than you wouldn't have to be jealous of him getting some eye candy....oh wait, yea you still will......yet you have your own special toy(s) tucked away in your top drawer.....hmmm yea thought so....lol
like I said its one thing if the guy is going all the time or sneaking around your back, than you have other issues, and him going to a strip club isnt the main one, but it's another if it's a b-day party or business thing and he goes there, it's harmless. I can just see him telling his best friend.."my wife won't let me go" ugh sheese....Get over yourselves, grow some womanhood, and attack him when he comes home and make him forget where he was just at! | |
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Posted: 8/15/2006 1:30:03 AM | WELL, THIS IS A STEAMY TOUCHY SUBJECT FOR SOME OF US I SEE. OK SOULIS SAID THAT IT WAS SO CLICHE TO SAY THAT YOU DANCE TO PUT YOURSELF THRU SCHOOL, 4 UR KIDS,AND ALL THAT. SOULIS SHUT THE FU*K UP. DO YOU HAVE ANY IDEA WHAT YOUR TALKING ABOUT? HAVE U EVER EVEN BEEN INTO A ESTABLISHMENT TO SEE WHAT GOES ON OR WHAT THEY DO? I GUESS YOUR JUST LISTENING TO WHAT OTHERS HAVE SAID. WELL IF YOU WANNA KNOW FIRST HAND ASK YOUR HUSBAND. HE PROBABLY HAD A BALL JUST TO GET THE FU*K AWAY FROM YOU AND THAT STICK UP YOUR ASS. ALL DANCERS DONT LAP DANCE NUDE(WELL BOTTOMLESS). BECAUSE THEY DO CARE ABOUT HYGEINE. AND BELIEVE IT OR NOT YOUR HUSBAND HAD HIS FACE ALL IN SOME GIRLS ASS AND CROTCH HELL HE MIGHT OF GAVE HER SOME HEAD. U WERENT THERE. HE DID ALL OF THE THINGS WITH THOSE CHIX U WOULDNT DO. I BET YOUR SWEET LITTLE DEGREE ON THAT, IT'S NOT LIKE HES GONNA TELL U ANYWAYS. AND TO SAY ALL DANCERS HAVE STD'S U R FU**IN IGNORANT AS HELL. THEY MIGHT BE CLEANER THAN U. ITS A PROFESSION NOT A WAY OF LIFE UNLESS SOME CHOOSE OTHERWISE. ONLY GOD CAN JUDGE SO WHO THE FU*K R U LADY. AND TO ANSWER THE QUESTION I WAS WITH A STRIPPER FOR 2 YEARS AND HE WAS A STR8 MANDINGO WARRIOR.I HAD NO COMPLAINTS. HE WAS THE BOMB. HIS LOVE WAS SO GOOD I COULD GO AND KILL OSAMA BIN LADIN ALL BY MY DAMN SELF . I EVEN WENT TO WORK WITH HIM MOST OF THE TIME. IT MADE THE SEX BETTER TOO! EVERYTHING HE DID ON THE FLOOR HE DID 100 TIMES BETTER IN BED. SO I THINK ITS NOT THE FACT OF THE STRIPPER ITS THE PERSON AND THE FEELINGS INVOLVED. THATS MY 2 CENT AND WHO GIVES A FU*K WHAT ANYONE THINKS. LIFE IS TO SHORT U ONLY LIVE ONCE, SO EMBRACE IT AND PLAY IT SAFE............USE A TROJAN   | |
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| Do strippers make better lovers
Posted: 8/15/2006 1:36:45 AM | | Yes and no. It seems that they know all the moves but they know as many guys too. Some do it just for the fast buck whether it be for college or to support the child they may have. The ones that I have meet would tell me that they don't really enjoy the job as much as some guys may think. | |
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| Do strippers make better lovers
Posted: 8/15/2006 9:40:10 AM | i know tons of strippers believe me...to them thier work is nothing more than a job like anything else....so doesnt really enhance anything but maybe some sexy dancing skills | |
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Posted: 8/15/2006 9:47:13 AM | | I don't think their profession has anything to do with it, your either good in bed or you suck. I'd be worried that they were faking it cause thats what they do for a living, pretend to be interested to get your money. I do know one think though, they are a heck of a lot of fun to party with!! | |
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Posted: 8/15/2006 10:00:34 AM | I've dated a couple of strippers, as well as regular human females. Aside from rediculously-good looks, the sex is about the same.
However, of my two experiences with strippers, I did notice that both ladies had what I would call considerable emotional damage: one was quite young, and had a very, very tortured past. The other had been dancing for several years, and as a result of her work environment, had developed a seemingly deep-rooted hatred of men, and seemed destined to sabotage any potential meaningful relationship with the opposite sex. I can only wish them the best of luck with their future relationships. | |
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Posted: 8/15/2006 1:23:39 PM | well seeing as what I've learned here about what is average..and the fact that strippers are in good shape..I'm sure that they have more stamina than the average girl..so..my vote goes with better..a=good shape b= better sex..c=stripper...so my algebra teacher taught me
if a = b, and a = c, then c = b     | |
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Posted: 8/15/2006 5:09:33 PM | | better lovers? no..not my experience. it's a job not an audition. they all had issues though, ranging from abusive previous boyfriends, drug addictions, tormented childhood...this isn't a blanket statement that all strippers have troubled lives, but my personal experiences are enough that I'm leery to date another stripper...current or former. | |
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| Do strippers make better lovers
Posted: 8/15/2006 7:42:42 PM | | I have dated a stripper and thought she was a really nice lady just trying to support her kid. She didn't have an ego and didn't throw it in anyones face. She was greeat in bed but then again if you care for the person and comunicate what you like and vice versa it should be good. My experience was a good one. | |
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Posted: 8/15/2006 7:58:23 PM | No. I was a stripper at one point in time and I couldn't even come until 2001.
We are there -- both the males and the females -- as incentives that people will buy more (or pay more) for beer, wine and liquor.
Just like a pool table might draw better income into one bar; strippers may be the way to go in another bar. Then there's all the other forms of entertainment such as bands etc.
Strippers, believe it or not, want to come home and chill...do their laundry....groceries...love their pets...you name it -- just like other people.
Are we open to more experiences...well yeah. But we hate being used as ONLY sex objects - the male ones too. And we hate not being seen for the person who's inside probably more than anyone you'll ever encounter except perhaps hookers who have it even worse! | |
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Posted: 8/16/2006 2:04:20 AM | | I went out with a stripper and we hooked up once. They aren't that great. They treat sex as if they are on stage. The sex was terrible. I have had way better. Strippers are only for looking. | |
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| Do strippers make better lovers
Posted: 8/11/2007 1:34:24 PM |
Now if you asked how your mother might feel about you being with a stripper you might have a different story. Its only a profession.
LOL :) yes we list strippers up there with doctors, lawyers, accountants & architects.. | |
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