| Long Distance Relationships Do they work?
Posted: 6/22/2006 10:30:18 AM | My mom from Ontario has been dating a guy from Alaska for the last two years ... and they have been going back and forth ... and it works just fine for them .. they are now buying a house together .
She finally met the love of her life at near 60 years old .. | |
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| Long Distance Relationships Do they work?
Posted: 6/22/2006 10:40:22 AM | I sure the hell hope so! I just met a great person from way way up north of me that I want to get a chance to know better. Perhaps I'm overly optimistic but it's better than living a pemmistic lifestyle.
I believe if the two are compatible, patient and willing, then time will only be a short term obstacle until they unite on a more regular basis. | |
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| Long Distance Relationships Do they work?
Posted: 6/22/2006 8:40:51 PM | It can work..if you both are committed to making it work. However, that's the same in any relationship, long distance or otherwise. It IS a lot harder, because you don't have that warm body you can curl up with at anytime you choose. You can't just run across town in 15 minutes just to say, "hey". BUT if you are both committed, it can make your relationship stronger. I say go for it, give it a chance, you never know what will happen. Just stay true to yourself. Don't go faster than you want, and don't compromise anything you don't want to either. Goodluck to you.
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| Long Distance Relationships Do they work?
Posted: 6/23/2006 1:00:55 PM | Long distance relationship sometimes it might work out in the long run but you don't know if that other person is cheating on you or not. He/she might had sex with someone cause each person are far part from each other.
You never know...long distance relationships might work out......who knows. | |
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| Long Distance Relationships Do they work?
Posted: 6/23/2006 9:15:54 PM | | ^^^^ Bingo. I was living with someone and he cheated on me. If someone is true to you and doesn't want to cheat, they won't. 5 miles away or 5000 miles away. Trust is an important thing. | |
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| Long Distance Relationships Do they work?
Posted: 6/25/2006 1:18:06 PM | | It can work if it's what you both want my longest relationship was long distance and the end of it didn't have anything to do with the distance. | |
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| Long Distance Relationships Do they work?
Posted: 6/25/2006 4:24:41 PM | Yes they can. My girl and I have been dating long distance for a year now (been together almost 3 years). It can be very difficult, but I'm guessing this is more true for a serious relationship.
It sounds like what you have going on is a fling. You gave him your number without even talking to him, so there was obviously physical attraction. If it is nothing more than that, then I think the long-dist really isn't worth it to be honest. There's 300 million other people in this country and I'm sure some that you would be attracted to and vice versa.
Hate to agree with some of the other posts... but if I were a betting man... you don't sleep w/ him... you'll never hear from him again. | |
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| Long Distance Relationships Do they work?
Posted: 6/25/2006 4:39:53 PM | Trust is definately huge in a long distance relationship. I was dating this guy for 2 years when he decided to move to BC for school, it didn't take long before he had an interest in someone else. Breaking up would definately have been a better thing for me to go through but after being with him for 2 years i was willing to make long distance work.
Just remember if you two do start dating and it eventually becomes something a lil more serious...you'll both have to be willing to up and move your entire life.
And who cares if she sleeps with him or not?  | |
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| Long Distance Relationships Do they work?
Posted: 6/25/2006 4:46:47 PM |
And who cares if she sleeps with him or not?
Hell if you want to have fun and he's paying? Go for it.. but if you're looking for something more, I'd use a bit of caution, thats all I'm trying to say :) | |
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Posted: 6/25/2006 5:14:52 PM | | I agree you both have to put time and effort into it! You have to trust one another.....I dated someone off this site and it didn`t work. I put all my time into it (drove180 miles one way every weekend)and no she drove 3 or 4 times in 6 months! Should have seen that coming!! | |
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| Long Distance Relationships Do they work?
Posted: 6/26/2006 12:53:29 PM | I would think that it's more likely for a long distance relationship to work,if there were already strong feelings involved..If you were dating for some time and one of you would have to move..or if both of you were so busy that you wouldn't have the opportunity or time to meet somebody closer and not seeing each other often works out.
But if you think this guy is worth, it wouldn't hurt to try:P..I know I would:P
Goodluck in anything you decide:) | |
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| Long Distance Relationships Do they work?
Posted: 6/26/2006 1:18:35 PM | Yes they work........ but before you invest too much into tis you both have to ask yourself one question...... "Would I be willing to move for this person". If this relationship works, and the feelings build, there will come a time when one of you will have to relocate in order to be happy. Long distance relationships work.... I was in one for a couple of years with the most wonderful woman I have ever known....but ultimately, despite the deep love we felt for each other we had to go our seperate ways.... we were both comitted to be where we were living due to our children. So despite meeting the most wonderful woman I have ever had the fortune to be with and despite the depths of love we shared for each other we did not end up together for the rest of our lives as we had wished.
That being said, I would not change having experienced that relationship. There are pluses in long distance relationships........you get to know someone so well from all of the talking, texting and emailing.......which so often fails to happen in relationships cause we get caught up in sex, or activities of dating or other things.......on the times when you can be physically together the sex is amazing.....the pent up longing and desire is an icredible release.....
So before you jump in head first......decide what you are ultimately willing to do if tis relationship grows.......... | |
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Posted: 6/26/2006 1:46:47 PM | well first off i'd be scared to be flying down there to see him out of your comfort zone after only a few dates but that is up to you. I truly believe that long distance can work for the right couple but you are asking alot with that much distance. Depends on if you are willing to move or if he is if things work out.....becareful hun....please.
K | |
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Posted: 6/26/2006 2:51:42 PM | I met a lady from Florida,(I`m in southern Ontario about 45 mins southwest of Toronto).We met on another site.We talked on phone and im daily for months.Then she came to see me at Easter for the weekend.It was great.Everything was perfect.She went back to Florida,and we continued to talk on phone and im.Some days I didnt have much to say because there wasnt much interesting going on with me,and I had maybe talked to her no more then 12 hours ago.Some days I would get on and she was a quiet as me.
We told each other we loved each other gave commitments.I was going to go down there to visite,and told her I would even move down there to be with her.
I started to get a bad feeling when she always says she cant` handle how lonely she is.There was other things that gave me a bad feeling also.Like I could tell she was talking to someone else on msn at same time cuz of how slow she was.I also seen her profile still on the site we met on,When i confronted her she said she had a problem with the site and couldn`t get it off.So I put a lot of money into planning a trip down there,and wasn`t easy being a single parent,doing all this.Not just $ but other things I had to take care of.
So 3 days after I tell her I`m going to be down,I cought her red-handed, with another guy in a public chat room ,and it was clear to everyone they were a couple.When I confronted her she tryed to lie her way out but couldn`t,and admited everything.She said it was cuz she was lonely.
Moral of my storie is this; be carefull..be carefull.and be carefull.Maybe some people can do it.I could,she couldn`t.Think about all the scenarios,that could happen.Take your time.ask yourself how long can I really do this?Or how long can my partner.
I`m not saying it wont` work,but just take your time and think real hard..I wish I did. | |
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| Long Distance Relationships Do they work?
Posted: 6/26/2006 2:57:55 PM | | Long distance relationships dont work. You need that steady physical contact with the other person to keep things happy. Seeing a person every now and then will get boring and your eyes will look elsewhere. You are only setting yourself up for a downfall. I would say a long distance friendship will last because you can have multiple friends. | |
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| Long Distance Relationships Do they work?
Posted: 8/29/2006 5:04:03 PM | Two people definitely have to be able to mentally and financially be prepared and willing to make the effort. It takes two to make a thing go right..
Nothing works one sided for long. | |
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Posted: 8/29/2006 5:24:16 PM | | They really don't work out. I had a long distant relationship with a girl from Syria when I was in high school and we sent each other pictures and e-mails. I felt that she liked me a lot and when I was busy or unable to check my e-mail she would jump to conclusions and assume that I didn't want to talk to her and get upset while writing to me. Eventually she found someone in her home country and how knows what happened?? | |
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Posted: 9/7/2006 4:33:04 PM | how can u judge this relationship the same as many others. if this man truely cares for her then it doesnt matter if they sleep together or not.sex isnt everything. not all men are shallow, and have their brains in their pants.. i say goodluck honey, go for it. do what you want to, and if it feels right then hey..... and long distance relationships can work and work well. | |
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Posted: 9/24/2006 3:52:45 PM | I agree LDR can work if both parties work on it together. I did have an LDR and travelled every weekend to see her, it was a 4-5 hour drive each way. I would leave right after work on a Friday and be there till Sunday nite, sometimes I would stay and get up ealry and drive right into work from there. Unfortunatly after 2 years we had some personal family issues that became in our way and both decided that it was easier to end it.
But I would still agree it will work and like I said it takes 2 for it to work. Just my 2 cents worth. | |
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| Long Distance Relationships Do they work?
Posted: 9/24/2006 5:10:57 PM | Is not for everybody and works only if both work on it. Is not a waste of time if patient and
relocation are aknowlegde for the survival of the relationship. | |
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