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| Long Distance Relationships Do they work?
Posted: 6/7/2009 3:04:39 PM | | Like any beginning relationship, it may or may not work. Long distance make it harder of course. Relationships take time and communication and contact as well. My parents met long distance, by mail and a really long distance. She lived in Eastern Canada and he in Western US. They, finally met and married, stayed happily together till his death 25 years later. So I guess it obviously can work. | |
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| Long Distance Relationships Do they work?
Posted: 6/7/2009 3:12:04 PM | I think a long distance relationship will work, but....
sooner or later one person should move to be with the other person. If that is in the future and you two work towards it, then yes I think it could be successful. If not, what do you really have. | |
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| Long Distance Relationships Do they work?
Posted: 6/7/2009 4:33:56 PM |
sooner or later one person should move to be with the other person
That would be a given, at least in my mind.
It really depends on the two involved.
Meaning, what type of life you now already live.
Some people have very flexible schedules and can find the time to do this to ascertain
whether or not something is working for the greater good of the two involved.
To some who still have children at home, this would probably not work in the longrun. | |
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| Long Distance Relationships Do they work?
Posted: 6/7/2009 7:58:15 PM | I'm wondering that myself, Cute n Curvie. Mine has only gone on for fourteen years, so, it's probably too early to tell.
I want her to relocate, but her husband won't let her.
My wife objects also, because her boyfriend doesn't make enough to support her. I've always worn the pants, so, I can just put my foot down, with the wife.
But my girlfriend sympathizes with my wife, because her first husband left her high and dry, refusing to support her or his 3 kids, who she had adopted. She couldn't forgive me, if I hurt my wife, by doing something "rash".
Luckily, her present husband came along and when her kids left that made room for his girlfriend. My girlfriend doesn't mind that, because her husband's girlfriend does most of the cooking and cleaning.
And, that's why I got onto POF. I figured if I could find a woman here who would support me in the manner to which I'd like to become accustomed, I'd leave them all.
Anyway, if the thread lasts long enough for me to make an objective analysis, I'll let you know. If you find out, you let me know. | |
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| Long Distance Relationships Do they work?
Posted: 6/7/2009 8:07:03 PM | ^^^^ some people have a long distance relationship with the anema called common cents.... just my one penny worth there ..! copper head road.. !
OP>>> If this is the real deal ... it won't be a long distance relationship.... already he is showing you by action that he wants you to be with him.. this is a serious sign of a man who is willing to make a commitment because .. he is already in love with you .. he has already not only giving you the signals but he is paving the way for you to be "his" partner .. you are one very lucky woman and my guess is that he already knows how lucky he is to have met you .... he sees in you what he wants..
Most guys on here whine about paying for a cup of coffee .."what , no other fluid exchange.. didn't I do it for yah baby?"...... he wants to pay for a plane ticket to see him because he needs you in his life ... that is amazing..
The only time you will waste .. and even then it won't be a waste is when the show is over... I believe that you have found a keeper .. and they are extremely rare and honorable men... he is telling you by his actions exactly how important you already are inside him.. he knows you are the one.. women waiver ... men NEVER... they act on what they want.. good luck and when you are a united front .. I guess we will see you two in the success stories or maybe you won't waste your time on that .. | |
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| Long Distance Relationships Do they work?
Posted: 6/8/2009 6:54:54 AM |
^^^^ some people have a long distance relationship with the anema called common cents.... just my one penny worth there ..! copper head road.. !
OP>>> If this is the real deal ... it won't be a long distance relationship.... already he is showing you by action that he wants you to be with him.. this is a serious sign of a man who is willing to make a commitment because .. he is already in love with you .. he has already not only giving you the signals but he is paving the way for you to be "his" partner .. you are one very lucky woman and my guess is that he already knows how lucky he is to have met you .... he sees in you what he wants..
Most guys on here whine about paying for a cup of coffee .."what , no other fluid exchange.. didn't I do it for yah baby?"...... he wants to pay for a plane ticket to see him because he needs you in his life ... that is amazing..
The only time you will waste .. and even then it won't be a waste is when the show is over... I believe that you have found a keeper .. and they are extremely rare and honorable men... he is telling you by his actions exactly how important you already are inside him.. he knows you are the one.. women waiver ... men NEVER... they act on what they want.. good luck and when you are a united front .. I guess we will see you two in the success stories or maybe you won't waste your time on that ..
Could not have said it better, smellsealsthedeal.
I am currently in a long distance relationship, and like the OP, the gentleman resides in Chicago. (I wonder how it turned out? Considering the OP posted this a couple of years ago. It is why I don't agree with redundant threads being a reason for deletion, necessarily. I mean SOMETIMES it is appropriate, but do we have to pull a thread from three years ago to address this topic? Why can't we address what is going with a person now? Hasn't airfare changed? Doesn't that make an impact on the question? I apologize, I am going off on a tangent...)
Yes, it takes a lot of effort. If it is the right person, it will feel effortless.
Best of luck to all of us in a LDR... | |
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| Long Distance Relationships Do they work?
Posted: 6/8/2009 7:57:03 AM | I think a LD relationship will work if you're both secure in your trust. If you don't trust each other, you are destined for assumptions and accusations, which will definitely lead to arguments. Good luck!
Joey
http://manlymenmen.wordpress.com | |
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| Long Distance Relationships Do they work? NO!
Posted: 6/17/2009 8:15:24 AM |
I'm glad I found this thread.
I'm currently exploring the start of a long distance relationship. I would not have considered it if I didn't feel a special connection to the person. For me right now it works. It's just the start; but it feels like we are very compatible. I believe that it can work if the communication is there. Email, chatting, phone is essential. It makes my day when she sends me a text message with a picture of herself. In these times we live in a world of instant communication. So it is more reasonable that long distance can work. I know that I am happy just getting to know her. I already know that she cares for me; as I do her. I'm planning on visiting her within a couple of months.
Also... I find it very romantic and intense..... It's like longing for something you can't quite have.... yet!
I make myself sick.... just rejoined this site. Long distance does not work. I just wanted to update that.
I had a great thing with a special person that I met here.... she just stopped all communication one day with nothing. 2000 miles is enough to escape from ever having to be real....
DON'T FALL FOR IT... LONG DISTANCE IS TOUGH | |
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| Long Distance Relationships Do they work?
Posted: 6/25/2009 11:04:41 AM | | I am responding to a message left by Pure4youdouc. Funny thing, I read your profile Pure4youdouc and immediately got a sure-feeling that you would be the right person to introduce to my 32 year old niece. She lives in Phoenix, and I think it's worth a try. Your core values are the same, and there are too many other things you share to mention here. I am not able to email you on this site, because of your age limit - so I believe you would need to make the first contact with me if you're interested in getting to learn more about what I believe is an extremely good match. Hope you're open to the idea of the introduction. Thanks for taking the time to reading this note and for your consideration. Lacy. | |
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| Long Distance Relationships Do they work?
Posted: 6/25/2009 11:09:02 AM | | They can work. My sister is in a long distance relationship only because she works and studies in europe were she met her bf in London. He's German. During the summer she comes back and he flew here to come see her. She will be going back in the fall. As for me I like to keep my relationships local just because it's easier. For some it can work. | |
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| Long Distance Relationships Do they work?
Posted: 6/25/2009 11:17:16 AM | | If you really want it to work it will hun. A friend of mine was with his girlfriend for a while year long distance and now she's back they seem closer than ever. If it works out to be something more long term you can always talk about one of you relocating. | |
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