| how soon is too soon to meet?
Posted: 3/1/2005 11:29:55 PM | | Well we met face to face after under a week and I had a really good time! Think there was chemistry but did not do anything about it the first meeting. went a second time and just hung out etc...and either way; I hope to have his friendship in the end. I am not looking for my "true love" as I already have it: my daughter. We shall see how it goes as I am extremley busy(new job) and so is he....who knows??? | |
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| how soon is too soon to meet?
Posted: 3/1/2005 11:52:42 PM | what is the friend thing for anyway?Friends are not made online only. It requires a presence gained from physical interaction. It doesn't have to be sexual
I play soccer with friends, work with friends, friends happen after a long time knowing someone.
I'm not here to make friends....I have lots of acquaintances and don't need any more via the web...THANKS!
I want to meet so I can see if the story is BS or she is for real...and I don't want to meet men either.
I like people and the web is just a starting point...not the be all and end all. Not by a long shot. | |
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| how soon is too soon to meet?
Posted: 3/2/2005 7:58:45 AM | Look here my dear, too soon? to me that is some word that you use when you are scared of plunging into a certain direction. Let me answer your question by asking you one how is soon is too soon to find what you want and long for ? or alternatively how soon is too soon to find true love or whatever you want to find?
It all depends on how bad you want it, so go girl, do it now!!!!!! I would be disappointed if you haven't by now, it's not like you are entering some ebola infected area | |
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| how soon is too soon to meet?
Posted: 3/2/2005 8:03:04 AM | | I personally don't believe that women can't be friends with men, oh! they surely can, and this chemistry that you have, first seal it in a cylinder or some sort of test tube or something. First get to lean each other. Relationships fail due to many things but not knowing each other is what has been the biggest problem coz all the time people are like " I think he is the one" then before you congratulate them " i think he is a pig" now tell me, which of the two statements is right? | |
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| how soon is too soon to meet?
Posted: 3/2/2005 9:42:32 AM | | Hey crystal, I think as long as you meet this person in a public place in the day all is good..Like a lunch dated that way you have a limited amount of time to spend with the person just enough time to get a feeling of good or bad...I don't think that there is a time frame you have to go by ..I agree with you in getting it out of the way just do it with care.. | |
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| how soon is too soon to meet?
Posted: 3/2/2005 4:15:42 PM | I did meet him in apublic place. Nowhere safer that the local donut shop.
Wasn't thinking I was scared; just wondering if I was being too pushy wanting to meet after a week. | |
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| how soon is too soon to meet?
Posted: 3/2/2005 8:49:23 PM | ^^^
no way go for it!
I would have tried to meet alot of the great people on this site...but most of the great guys&girls are not in my neck of the woods | |
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| how soon is too soon to meet?
Posted: 3/4/2005 1:32:09 AM | Only right answer there is before the contact is made.... I think it depends on the circumstances. On e-mail, chat and phone, you can trick up the liars ... but they can be a stalling tactic too. A smooth operator (and they come in both sexes) can fool you face-to-face.
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| how soon is too soon to meet?
Posted: 3/4/2005 4:37:14 AM | If i met you and you gave me your number, i would call as soon as i set my back to you, for two reasons,
to be sure that it is indeed yo number, if it isn't i woul give you back the piece of paper.
secondly, just to show you that i can't wait to meet you again, so basically i would be setting up a date or whatever. So if you thought that you were pushy................ | |
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| how soon is too soon to meet?
Posted: 3/4/2005 4:37:39 AM | If i met you and you gave me your number, i would call as soon as i set my back to you, for two reasons,
to be sure that it is indeed yo number, if it isn't i woul give you back the piece of paper.
secondly, just to show you that i can't wait to meet you again, so basically i would be setting up a date or whatever. So if you thought that you were pushy................then what am i? a leech? | |
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| how soon is too soon to meet?
Posted: 3/4/2005 4:38:03 AM | If i met you and you gave me your number, i would call as soon as i set my back to you, for two reasons,
to be sure that it is indeed yo number, if it isn't i woul give you back the piece of paper.
secondly, just to show you that i can't wait to meet you again, so basically i would be setting up a date or whatever. So if you thought that you were pushy................then what am i? stuck on? | |
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| how soon is too soon to meet?
Posted: 6/6/2005 8:40:34 PM | | I guess it all depends on when you both have time... or at least that is the way it is with me... but I also have to have some kind of spark between us from talking online first. If I hit it off with their personality, then I move on to phone conversations and then eventually meeting the person in a public place. I'd never actually go and meet the person at their house or something nor would I request that they meet me at mine. I mean, if they turn out to be some sort of wierdo, then they'd know where I live! | |
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| how soon is too soon to meet?
Posted: 6/6/2005 8:52:05 PM | | batgirl Just me, but the sooner the better. You only have a visual/voice image, the longer you spend computer time the more illusory that image becomes. My experience has been the more emails and phone calls before meeting the bigger the disappointment. | |
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| how soon is too soon to meet?
Posted: 6/7/2005 5:14:01 AM | | oh yeah... there are a lot of guys who don't even get to talk to me on the phone 'cause of the way they act online. There are certain things I just don't appreciate, and would rather that I don't have contact with the people who do/say those things. Such as the only guy i've ever blocked on this site... a guy who lives about 10 minutes from me asked if i liked it up my butt... yeah... that was a definite block. | |
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| how soon is too soon to meet?
Posted: 6/7/2005 7:46:02 AM | I think if you are serious about meeting someone, you should meet in person. As soon as possible. I'm not getting any younger and don't like attempting to discern someone's interest through a few carefully crafted e=mails.
I never undertsand why after repeated e-mails (with no negative feedback) someone would not want to meet. I only e-mail people interested in meeting people(not pen pals). If I was in a bar and found someone attractive, i would not e-mial them 20 times. I'd walk right up to her and intro myself.
So I can't undertsand why after establishing rapport, someone wouldn't meet. Unless they had something to hide. If they are that nervous about a public meeting, it probably wouldn't work out anyway. | |
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| how soon is too soon to meet?
Posted: 6/7/2005 10:57:15 AM | I've had friends meet guys from POF and it hasn't been good. I'm
shy when it comes to the in person thing and I haven't met anyone
yet but there has to be a progression. I think the longer you talk to
someone the more you get to know whether you'd be compatible. If
people took the time to get to know someone instead of rushing
to meet them when they finally meet I don't think it would be such
a disappointment. I think people are in such a hurry they don't take
the time to find out if they are even looking for the same things. Why
can't things just happen or develop over time? Have fun being single!!!!
Enjoy life  and eventually it will happen!  | |
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| how soon is too soon to meet?
Posted: 6/7/2005 3:41:38 PM | | redamber I understand about being shy, I was when I was younger, but more than make up for it now. If you choose to get to know someone only via computer/phone, you're not experiencing their complete personna. If you get to like them well enough, you're gonna want to meet someday. For me, I'd just as soon experience them in person, that usually answers a lot. I think it's more of a disappointment to carry on conversations with them for maybe months then when you meet, they're not at all like you thought they'd be. I've done this over and over before, and the longer the talk the bigger the disappointment. At least that's how it's worked for me. If someone doesn't want to meet fairly shortly I lose interest and move on. | |
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| how soon is too soon to meet?
Posted: 6/7/2005 4:12:18 PM | IN most cases...I've come across women that don't want to meet too soon, and end stalling you for months on end. Then you decide to ask them out a 5th time on Month 5, and the say that you're being pushy. LOL
Then ya scare them off.
I was first told, "Be patient" then the patience just turns out to be a waste of time. And my time is valuable.
I've been hearing the advice "The sooner you meet, the better" lately, but I've met alot of women that just find that pushy. | |
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| how soon is too soon to meet?
Posted: 6/7/2005 4:12:52 PM | | never too soon, maybe too late, as soon as you get off the phone from the first phone call..........with backup of course.............. | |
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| how soon is too soon to meet?
Posted: 6/7/2005 4:32:12 PM | Hay; Just don't take someone at thier word; Most of the women I'VE met; LIE;
No reason; They just tell the truth;
Just take things they say,, with a grain of salt; | |
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| how soon is too soon to meet?
Posted: 6/7/2005 4:41:37 PM | Hay; Just don't take someone at thier word; Most of the women I'VE met; LIE;
No reason; They just CAN'T tell the truth;
The last one LIED for now reason at all;
Said her father was worth 2.6 million dallars; But couldn't keep paint on the house or it clean;
I just can't figure out WHY they lie;
But there is at least ONE out there somewhere;
Just take things they say,, with a grain of salt;
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| how soon is too soon to meet?
Posted: 6/7/2005 6:00:19 PM | jacel, I am taking what you say with pepper on top! Do you even have any clue as to what you are saying?
I have read some of your previous posts and they don't make any sense, I don't even know why I am replying...except to say you are Kookoo, kookoo! (like a clock!) | |
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| how soon is too soon to meet?
Posted: 7/10/2005 11:48:42 AM | Personally, the sooner the better... If it's the same day I met them on here, great... I'm up for it... But if they keep contacting me and we never meet, there's a problem... That's what happened to me and this one gentleman... We kept in contact for 7 months now, but never met, so I told him that he was wasting my time and energy and I had to move on. He was fine with that, because things kept coming up for him... Whatever that means, but it was too long.... So, I say the sooner, the better...
Leana | |
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| how soon is too soon to meet?
Posted: 7/10/2005 1:38:17 PM | I prefer to email a few times...talk on the phone a few times and meet within a week.....I`m not into long drawn out relationships before meeting!!!! I find I get attached and if there is no chemistry, I`m let down....So I cut right to the chase!! Works for me!!! | |
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