| how soon is too soon to meet?
Posted: 7/10/2005 8:54:05 PM | I think it has to do with when you feel it is right ... if you get a good vibe from talking for a day then sure meet him and see if not then wait.
I have done both actually ... when i didnt have a compter i was on phone chat lines and there where men on there that wanted to meet that second .. to me i thought ok he wants sex... why else would a guy at 11pm want to meet someone right now. .. There has been times when i did meet after a 10 minute conversation but those never turned out well. I didnt really know anything about them and the second i met the i was like what was i thinking lol
Usually i like to talk to the guy on here(a date site) for a bit then if things seem cool add them to msn... if things still go well chat on the phone then meet.
Some men change when you get them on your msn ... they are nice and sweet on here then you add them and another side of them comes out ... first thing alot of them ask is do you have a cam.. or if you have naked pics lol to me those men are only looking for sex. they want to see what your body is like before they meet you so i dont meet them.
I will talk a few times on msn and then if i think things are going well i will give them my number and talk on the phone .... i can usually get a vibe on the phone more then on the pc.I like to chat on the phone to see if we can have a conversation...if you cant talk on the phone to someone how can you talk in person. it will be quiet and weird... I have had those too you meet someone and you get silent pauses and it feels ackward.. if you talk a bit you can contiune other conversations.
Just go with your gut if you have a good vibe and conversation flows well then go for it ... if there is ackward moments then you prolly need to talk to them a bit more. | |
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ksue44
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| how soon is too soon to meet?
Posted: 7/10/2005 8:55:58 PM | | I think meet when both people are ready to. I've ran into fellas where they will email me to death, pen pals are great, but let's get down to brass tax and meet. I think a couple of emails, couple of phone calls, then meet face to face at a public place. | |
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| how soon is too soon to meet?
Posted: 7/10/2005 9:13:40 PM | | I would have to sya waiting is a better choice, i have met 9 people on here through out my time being here, all i met right away, all of which 2 were fools, they were literally scray creepy perverted freaks | |
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| how soon is too soon to meet?
Posted: 7/10/2005 9:13:41 PM | oh and for me if i talk to the guy online and every time we talk hes asking so do you wanna meet today? I think whats the rush ...why are you pushing to meet so soon and it just pushes me away from wanting to meet them at all.. I dont like pushy men ...i will meet when i feel i am ready too and if they dont like that then thats his problem lol
I have been talking to this one guy not even 5 days and he asked me every day since we stared talking ...we dont even chat all he does is come online and ask then goes offline ... and i told him not to push me and he still asked so i told him flat out well i might have wanted to meet you soon but not anymore lol you have to wonder why he pushed so much .. is he that desperate to meet me or is just hoping to get laid lol
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| how soon is too soon to meet?
Posted: 7/10/2005 11:02:12 PM | | What if you want to meet the man and he is 100 miles away?He says we will become friends and if it leads to more he would make the trip.It would not be easy for me to go that far because i am taking care of my mom. | |
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| how soon is too soon to meet?
Posted: 9/27/2009 3:22:13 PM | | "lol you have to wonder why he pushed so much " Because the longer it drags on the less likely you are to meet.... I've had situations when I started talking to the girl and we had a great chat for a long time. Learned a whole bunch of stuff about each other. I ask them to meet a day or two later and they freak out... " I dont even know you" well then what the hell did we just spend doing? lol | |
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| how soon is too soon to meet?
Posted: 9/27/2009 7:16:09 PM |
Just wondering as i have only been here a week or so and haven't really seen too much on what a good time frame is for meeting online to in person. Myself; I would like to do it ASAP to make sure the person is who they say they are and if there was no spark; could move on.
I rather to meet sooner than later. Not after one email, but certainly within a few days of a good virtual chat. The meet-in-person stage is the make or break, so I see no need to procrastinate. However, I don't want to push someone out of their comfort zone, so I'm not aggressive about it. Ultimately, it depends on the person and situation. | |
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| how soon is too soon to meet?
Posted: 9/27/2009 9:58:54 PM | I dated this summer on another website (just for kicks and giggles, nothing serious), and met each man after only a couple days of talking. My first date, I had only met online the day before, and he flew me out to San Diego where we had an awesome weekend. After that, I flew to Vegas, NYC, Houston, Lake Tahoe and Nashville to meet other men. I had the time of my life this summer, but you always have to remember to be safe about it. ALWAYS tell someone exactly where you will be, keep enough cash on you for emergencies, meet in a public place, and PAY ATTENTION to your gut instinct and watch/listen for red flags.
Since I was travelling so far to meet random people, my mom and I had a system worked out. I would call her when my plane landed, and once again when the guy picked me up. The first day, she called me about every hour to check on me, and after that, about 3 times a day. I made sure she had the phone numbers to the hotel and police department. Our agreement was, if I didn't answer my phone or call her back within 30 minutes, she would call the police with the man's name, phone number, any additional information about him and his description.
I always made sure my dates were aware of this, and they were all very understanding (well, who wouldn't be unless they were psycho?) and even offered their home addresses and employment contact information to further assure my safety.
That said, I'm a bit of a sooner rather than later type of person. I want to talk to the person face to face, watch their body language, and be able to guage if there is any initial physical attraction right off the bat. | |
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| how soon is too soon to meet?
Posted: 9/27/2009 10:02:46 PM | | Really, what is all the hype about meeting people on the internet?? If you meet a new person at a bar or club, they are total strangers just like on the internet. I really don't see the difference. People act like weirdos only exist on the internet, and not in the real world at all. The only difference when meeting someone at the bar is, you don't have the chance to initially scope out wether or not you might be compatible based on basic information and likes and dislikes before actually meeting face to face. | |
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| how soon is too soon to meet?
Posted: 9/27/2009 10:55:41 PM | | Don't do it ASAP, like the same day you talk to someone. Write a little bit, because if they are worthy, they will write some, to let you know them more and also to have interest in wanting to get to know you more too. You get better quality that way, and/or at least better intentions from another. | |
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| how soon is too soon to meet?
Posted: 9/28/2009 6:02:17 AM | "Really, what is all the hype about meeting people on the internet?? If you meet a new person at a bar or club, they are total strangers just like on the internet"
the difference is you can see them in the flesh.. how they act towards others, how they move, their mannerisms. On the net people can be anyone they want behind a computer screen | |
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