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Posted: 7/14/2006 9:15:21 PM | It is my belief that a woman must keep in mind (no offence) that not all men can achieve erections multiple times throughout a night of love making, so the practice of sexual fulfillment without intercourse becomes the glue that holds a sexual relationship together. It allows men to feel less pressured to 'perform' by having intercourse multiple times. There is plenty more to explore for 'both' of you! Both the man and the woman in the relationship become completely satisfied and happy with the interactions of the time spent together.
The love making should carry you over until the next time you can be intimate, whether it be the next day or the next week. You will be gratified and satiated each time.
This is not just 'foreplay' but 'during' and 'after' play as well! | |
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Posted: 8/31/2006 5:20:22 PM | swtnsssy said “ … the intercourse is the dessert, the foreplay is the appetizer and main course!”
I’d carry it further and call the encounter a buffet; each of you can have a little or a lot of whatever you like, for as long as you like, and don’t go out the door until you have filled your plate (bowl, cup, etc) as many times as you can! For me, whether we even get around to playing “hide the salami” is unimportant, as long as we are both satisfied. | |
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Posted: 8/31/2006 5:45:51 PM | | The last time I was "in love" with someone, sex hardly mattered. It was just a joy to be with her. The scent, the look, the sound of her, her touch ...I felt love for her and that feeling alone, just being with her, was satisfying enough for me, so much so that sexuality was secondary to it and in a way, if we just "did it" just to "do it", kind of a disappointment like trying to take something and bottling it, like a beautiful view, when its never quite the same thing. Those things are nice, just talking and being close together, if theres really love there its all you want and sex just flows from it. I think a lot of people I read on this board never really experienced love with anyone. Its really kind of a rare thing? | |
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Joined: 5/26/2006
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| ~Sexual fulfillment without intercourse~
Posted: 8/31/2006 5:50:12 PM | | Interesting post. The last time I had sex she said, "you didn't get any satisfaction out of it" (because I didn't orgasm). Believe it or not I did, it's not necessary to orgasm to enjoy "enjoying" somebody else. Trust me, I was in there, I was watching and participating in it all, and I WAS enjoying everything I felt, saw, and did. | |
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Joined: 4/17/2006
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| ~Sexual fulfillment without intercourse~
Posted: 9/1/2006 9:48:49 AM | I tend to agree with Kathmac's analogy of the buffet. Sometimes you can satisfy yourselves by filling up with appetizers, sometimes you just want to go straight to dessert and sometimes it's a seven course meal.
Anybody who expects and is waiting for sex to end in intercourse (penetration by Leeanne's definition) is thinking too much and not spending enough time enjoying what is going on at the moment.
It's ALL good 
(Hmmm, just a coincidence that the little guy is called a "jumper"?  ) | |
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| TOTAL sexual satiation without intercourse~
Posted: 9/9/2006 4:30:43 PM | Leanne, great thread. Interesting posts too. It shows that some people realize that both making love and the art of driving a lover insane is often best achieved by various means OTHER than straight fu¢king. It is one of the main reasons I started my thread on LIT which has now been read by 270,000 people. I have over 200K of emails and feedback IMs telling me (mostly) how well it worked and how they never had a clue sex could be this good before and they'd (typically) been married for decades.
The technique I describe is of course just ONE of many turnon techniques that most couples share but this one is particularly GREAT because it allows so many more things to happen while you're doing it. The woman? All she has to do is manage to keep breathing while she orgasms over and over and over again. The other thing is that, as mentioned, especially for couples where the man is into his 50's, 60's or older those erections are sometimes few and far between. Whether it is the shape you're in or meds or what the guy can still drive his woman nuts and, like any good lover, get off on HER satisfaction alone.
If you haven't read it, take a look. If you haven't tried it then you're probably in for the shock of your life to know there is that aspect of your sexuality that you didn't even know existed before. Many many couples have achieved GSpot orgasms almost by accident but have stopped at that point. The technique described shows you how to get there and keep her cumming until next the cows come home or next Christmas whichever comes last.
http://www.literotica.com:81/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=70892 | |
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| ~Sexual fulfillment without intercourse~
Posted: 9/10/2006 7:26:46 AM | | Making out with a girl in the shower while she gives me a hand job. Its tame but I love being wet and making out, the hand job gets me off. | |
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| TOTAL sexual satiation without intercourse~
Posted: 9/23/2006 9:30:21 PM | | I have to totally agree with this. Making love to a woman is an art. A woman in love will let her body be played as an instrument. If she is truely in love she will give herself to you willingly and then a man has an opportunity to make her feel like she's never felt before. The art of making love to a woman isn't just the sexual act, it's the closeness, the intimacy, breathing in her ear, thats she's the most beautiful woman in the world. The art of making love to a woman should not be taken on by amatures. A REAL woman, needs a real man, who can find her spots if you know what I mean. Making love to a woman takes exploration, by both parties. Remember everyone, that making love is a two people process. One partner shouldn't have to do all the work...... | |
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Posted: 2/6/2007 4:34:29 PM | sexual fulfillment without intercourse can be grate onece my exboyfriend sucked my fingers each one slowly while looking into my eyes by the time he got to the last one i passed the hell out he had to catch me on the way down or I would have hit the gound like a bag of rocks! sometimes leading up to sex can be just as good if not better well not better lets not get crazy here but it can be just as good as sex.  . | |
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Posted: 2/6/2007 6:32:13 PM | Of course it is beneficial...and you have to know how to please yourself before you can expect another person to do the same.
However, even when we have played for hours, I still want intercourse at the end...there are just some things that can't be beat. It is especially nice when you have played gently for awhile and then finish off with hard, fast fun!! | |
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Posted: 2/6/2007 6:55:35 PM | no koi, all these fun activities aside from penetration are 'sex,' not intercourse -- intercourse specifically means penetration; sex means anything and everything sexual (i am an english teacher, sorry :-)).
and btw, what someone said about prostate massage is true, not a joke -- this is why anal intercourse IS pleasurable for many men, because the prostate gland is located there and it is extremely pleasurable for that gland to be stimulated. tho i had never thought of doing that while giving head, hmmmm... i suppose positioned a certain way you could do it?
anyway, i think it's a nice idea, the idea of this thread. all of it is enjoyable and lovely -- as t-qurl said, "it's all good." but FULFILLMENT -- the grand finale -- for me usually means intercourse, that is to say -- penetration. meow. | |
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Posted: 2/6/2007 8:45:26 PM | quote: "so the practice of sexual fulfillment without intercourse becomes the glue that holds a sexual relationship together."
i don't think i can fully agree with that, i think it's an overstatement... because ALL of it, including intercourse and including non-sexual activities, is the glue that holds the lovers together. talking, laughing, cooking, eating, drinking wine, sitting together quietly, foreplay, duringplay, afterplay, intercourse, it's all the glue and you have to have all of it, all of those pieces to sustain that kind of bond...
to me intercourse IS actually an important part of all this, not the most important but clearly way up there in my own mind -- because it is, again -- for ME, the moment of deepest purest most ecstatic intimacy; there is, to me, nothing more intimate, no point at which you feel closer, than at that precise moment. | |
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Posted: 2/6/2007 9:18:08 PM | | ...then again, if you're talking about a purely sexual relationship, as opposed to a true/full partnership, then perhaps it does work. but i wouldn't know; i have never been interested in having, even temporarily, a purely sexual relationship. | |
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Posted: 2/6/2007 10:47:57 PM | I agree. Anticipation is like torture. . . Amazing, hot torture LOL. Imagine you are hungry and walk into a buffet. Say, the Mandarin. Mmmm.
(1) You almost walk over the greeter and dive into the crab legs! Yeeeeeeah. Instant gratification. . . but is instant good? And is gratification better served as a 4-Course or quickly shoved down one's throat?
(2) You could also go to your table. Order a drink. Bev, then go into the buffet.
-Tease yourself
Walk around all the displays. Smell everything. Sample something you never tired before. Check the crowd to find the fattest person there LOL. Try not to stare... Stare. Have a nibble of shrimp. Build a plate that will delight your senses. Close your eyes while tasting the mangoe. Chat 'em up with someone. Discover your table and ENJOY your meal. Talk a bit while eating. Have another bev. Then go back for round two and three. Until you're no longer hungry. . fatty! LOL
If you take your time there will always be someone at your table that will say "OMG, where did you get those ribs?! I didn't see any ribs..!" Then you have to literally escort them to the little known rib table. Pick them up once they faint. | |
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Posted: 2/7/2007 12:13:44 AM | Thank goodness for this thread. I'm so glad to know that I'm not the only one who realizes that you can be intimate and satisfy eachother even without intercourse. I'm dealing with a situation now with a man who can't have intercourse, but won't do anything else physically, and I mean NOTHING. Azalea Path is one seriously frustrated lady right now.  | |
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Posted: 2/7/2007 6:10:19 AM | | i think to find sexual fufilment in other ways besides intercourse just as fun,enjoyable and a turn on...i think people rush into sex way to fast and ..well..most of the time its unsatisfying because it was more a rush than the actual act...i admit i rushed too but prefer to take the other approach now...take your time ..it builds up antecapation and desires... | |
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Posted: 2/7/2007 7:02:52 AM | great post Leeane....I agree with alot of whats been said....
T-gurl...nicely put as well...
the whole build up, anticipation, excitement....there are so many ways/things to do...without having that 'final' aspect....as much as its good....the lead up is sometimes the best part :) | |
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Posted: 2/7/2007 7:34:01 AM | | i fully agree with Leeanne. there is so much more than intercourse(penetration for the grammar police). as i have gotten older, i realize this. i have found that more and more women i have been with just want a c*ck in them. they will give a guy head, just to get him hard so he will phuck her. i enjoy oral alot...actually giving more than getting. i also enjoy touch...using toys with a woman, mutual masturbation, watching adult movies and role playing(fantasy scenarios)with a partner. i believe that anything that a couple shares between themselves is their business, and as long as they aren't hurting anybody and both enjoy it, there is pretty much nothing off limits. we were given pleasure spots for a reason. many are afraid to experience these to the fullest. its not a race people....take the time to get to know your partner. there is plenty of time to enjoy intercourse once you know what eachother like. | |
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Posted: 2/7/2007 7:51:10 AM | ^^^^^^^ grammar police  er, sorry... 
yea, i agree -- anybody who wants to RUSH to intercourse and is simply focused on that? nah, boring empty lovemaking. there IS so much more than that and it's all beautiful.
my only feeling is that i'm not terribly interested in developing a sexual relationship devoid of that or in which intercourse is rare. perhaps this piques my interest because of someone i recently dated who seemed completely uninterested in intercourse, and this was actually an area of disconnect and incompatibility between us... | |
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Posted: 2/7/2007 10:14:19 AM | It seems it may all come down to age.
Ya know when you're in your teens and early 20's all you want to do is wolf down a cheeseburger and get back to whatever important crap you were doing. You could suck back a couple of cheeseburgers through an evening and still be hungry.
Now that some of us are on in years we MUCH prefer the all afternoon buffet. Sit down. Relax. Eat a bit of this. Snuffle that. Conversation. Laughter. Trying some new dish or eating it cooked a whole (hole?  ) new way. Variety is THE spice of life. No longer do I relish the quickie where I pound it down and I'm off (just way too many double entendres there to even mention) in a flash. I would much rather spend a few hours smelling all the different flavors, tasting, feeling the textures on my tongue. Enjoying how the "food" interacts with my taste buds and olfactory nerves. I love the feel - texture - warmth of a freshly prepared delicacy. I enjoy the differences in cooking styles and how some bites just melt in my mouth after they've simmered for what seems hours. The "journey" through a really good buffet is the enjoyment - not the rush to get to desert. What is slow roasted and lovingly basted compared to 30 seconds in a microwave?
Has anybody seen the Campbell's zoup ad where he rolls off the chick and falls asleep, she gets up and gets her soup out of the microwave just as the 2 MINUTE beep goes off.? HA. By the time I got finished with her there would be green fuzz on her damn soup!!
Where was I? Oh ya. I think it is a pity that some guys seem to learn all this way late in life. Some obviously never do and wonder what kind of crap we're even talking about here. What that means for them is that if they can't get their chopper out of the hanger let alone in the air for even a short flight then their sex life (and HERS) ceases to exist and that, kiddies, is a sad thing. The Buffet thing works because you can BOTH still get enormous pleasure in the exploration and just savoring the experience. If it all cums down to penetrative intercourse we limit ourselves to one dish that at times simply won't rise no matter hot hot the oven gets. | |
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Posted: 2/7/2007 10:50:16 AM | | violetskye.....tell those 'dakota' men to slow down, take a lot of time....to coin a pharase, smell the roses....the feminine form was created to be enjoyed....slowly and thoroughly....every square centimeter on the outside...and however much you can reach on the inside..... totally amazing 'she' is. | |
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ALGHA
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Joined: 1/2/2007
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| ~Sexual fulfillment without intercourse~
Posted: 2/7/2007 11:28:56 AM | | I agree with you in general terms, but you make it sound like really hard work, all that exploring with various parts of each others body, using toys, Oils, Maybe DIY tools might help too for all I know. Watching porn, dancing, sounds like after all stuff that bringing or getting to orgasm seems almost a forgotten add on. I dread to think what goes on if you feel full of energy. But my point is this, pleasure is really the name of the game, everyone wins, and from my limited experience ther isa not that great a difference between people, human anatomy might be varied but it just ain't quite that varied. All females have the same bits just aranged differently but all seem to function in pretty much the same way. But then I have not been with a chimera, and have no real desire to. sexual fulfillment with or without intercourse is a benifit to any relationship but only if the people involved are really interested in making their partners feel like there is nothing better on offer in the world. Sadly the cult of self gratification tends to prevent such practices. I suggest you add to your bedtime practices a bit of Macramé, it will tie youtogether rather than attempting to get hints from porn, where you sit like children watching and not doing. | |
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