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| Would you be suspicious if someone only gave you their cellphone number n not their home number??
Posted: 6/22/2006 3:21:02 PM | | I think the whole point has been missed here...He said "he didn't even have a home phone" He LIED. that's the issue here. Not whether or not he has a land line. That's not the point. It's the flat out Lying. And treating you as if you are stupid. Good I'm glad yoy dumped his sorry ass. The other excuses he gave were just more indications of the same..what a loser. I'm so glad you didn't get caught up in it. | |
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| Would you be suspicious if someone only gave you their cellphone number n not their home number??
Posted: 6/22/2006 3:30:13 PM | | I wouldn't necessarily call using a cell phone a red flag. Times are changing and my cell phone has become my primary phone if people really want to get in touch with me. I would give my phone number if anyone asked but you'll be leaving a lot of messages that I won't see untill I get home. In fact, I would dump the home phone except for the fact that it's the only phone number my elderly father will call me on. As far as someone cheating, well that's been going on since way before anyof us here were born. You just have to use common sense & sooner or later they'll trip themselves up. They always do, you just have to be open to seeing it. | |
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| Would you be suspicious if someone only gave you their cellphone number n not their home number??
Posted: 6/22/2006 5:22:46 PM | | I didn't say that using a cell phone was the red flag. I meant that the lie was the red flag. The use of the cell phone or home phone is not the issue. The issue's here I think are that fact that he lied about owning a home phone, and also the strange times he could talk, and the sudden hang ups etc. These are the thing's that need the focus. Nothing to do with why we choose to give or not out home no.s. We all do that for various reasons, and not neccessarliy dishonourable reasons at that.. | |
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| Would you be suspicious if someone only gave you their cellphone number n not their home number??
Posted: 6/23/2006 8:26:03 AM | Not suspicious at all.... some people only have cell phones, some (like myself) have kids at home who they do not feel need to be exposed to strangers - until such a time where its established that the person isn't that strange..
As for the "don't call me" specifics.... this too depends on the person. Do they have to get up at some un-godly hour and are asleep by 8pm  ? Do they work from home and can't handle distractions?
The bottom line is this..... if you're suspicious.... think about why. Are there other signs (a pink mini-van when they work construction, teething rings in the glovebox when they say that they have no kids, they'll only meet with you every other Wednesday afternoon and it has to be in a different state, etc....)?
Are there A LOT of facts that don't add up? ..... or are you paranoid and/or looking for excuse to bail? | |
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tazyd
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| Would you be suspicious if someone only gave you their cellphone number n not their home number??
Posted: 6/23/2006 9:19:49 AM | If you heard them answer a home phone yes-I'd back peddal quick out of that situation. Homey is probably trying to have a little side thingy but keep the home fires burning too.
However, if they tell you they dont' have home phone (and you've no reason to believe otherwise) chances are this is the truth. I know that I only have a cell phone - no home phone at ALL.
Someone posted on here about not giving out a home phone so she wouldn't be contacted and the individual wouldn't have access to her address etc. This is smart.....I commend you for you common sense.....coming from a law enforcement background many individuals have the "it will never happen to me" syndrome....However, I do have to burst your bubble here - sorry. Just because you don't give out an address or home phone doesn't mean they can't find you......for twenty bucks they can sign up and have access to every piece of personal information every logged into any computer. If they have your name and a general location they can find you. I know that I can find just about anything on anyone without even going thru a CJIN or NCIC.....reason being is most records are public knowledge therefore its easy to find someone. Sometimes it takes a lot of foot work and research but if you have a stalker than thats what they do......they research thier prey. My advice to you is not to worry that they know where you live but to make yourself less of a target. Install home security in your home; take some self defense classes (these will teach you how to deter would be wierdos just by the way you present yourself) and use your gut. So many forget this is there-if you really read what someone writes you can learn a lot about them in a short paragraph. This helps to deter would be wierdos before they get involved in "YOU".
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| Would you be suspicious if someone only gave you their cellphone number n not their home number??
Posted: 6/23/2006 9:49:00 AM | | I was suspicious when it happened to me. I pressed her on it and she eventually gave me some b.s. story about having a paranoid live-in bodyguard so obviously hanging at her place was out of the question to. So, I dropped her when she left for Egypt to cancel her arranged marriage (we fooled around for a month before she left though) and didn't take her back when she came back to this once great nation. | |
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| Would you be suspicious if someone only gave you their cellphone number n not their home number??
Posted: 6/23/2006 2:49:54 PM | Reason being, you can do a reverse look up in the phone books here and find out my address from my home number. That can be done with cell phones too (billing address and the landline number one gave when registering the cell phone). Whether or not that's legal is another question. ...And yes, earlier this year, I did use one of those services to pull someone's cell phone billing address (but don't worry; I'm former LE and in this case, I was working with the police in criminally investigating them, and the PD got a copy of the report from me 3 days after I received it).
"In-network" free unlimited calling if both people have the same cellular/PCS carrier is a good reason why cell-to-cell calls may be preferred. When I'm not at home, I forward my LL to my cell, and even have two of my speed-dials on the LL phone set up for placing and cancelling the forward.
Let me ask one question: Have you been to his/her home and/or has he/she been to yours? If the answer is yes, then maybe it is time to exchange LL numbers (as emergency backup numbers). However, short of an at-home visit, I don't see a relationship as having progressed far enough (hotel room notwithstanding) to warrant a LL number exchange. Some people may not be that comfortable. Also true that perhaps someone is hiding something. However, for the latter, there needs to be another indicator to rightfully conclude such.
As for claiming not to have a LL phone, yet discovering that he/she does, is a different issue than the titled question. | |
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| Would you be suspicious if someone only gave you their cellphone number n not their home number??
Posted: 6/23/2006 6:40:07 PM | Hmmm? player comes to my mind..
I think it curious when they call you from a restricted number as well. But yet they have your cell #.. Either something is fishy (no pun intended) or they have previous stalkers and are afraid for you to know their actual cell # untill they feel "safe"- as if we are the bad guys.. But I think sometimes women get physco.... I never give out my land line, because I never use it and rarely even check the messages. . . . . | |
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| Would you be suspicious if someone only gave you their cellphone number n not their home number??
Posted: 6/24/2006 10:22:03 AM | I only give out my cell number because I only use my cell. I have a home phone, but I only have it for the alarm, fax machine, DSL, and incase of an emergency.
I tell people that I have a homephone, but I never answer it. But I can see how it may look alittle suspicious. If we are dating long enough to the point where she is invited over my house to hangout, I will show her the phone and fax setup to help put her mind at ease alittle. And if she wanted the number still, I would give it to her. But I still wouldn't anser it as I never do. I simply don't use it at all.
Some people have something to hide, while some donot and simply rely on their cellphones. It looks suspicious I agree but that's the way it as for a lot of people. Most of my friends, I never call their homephones because they never answer it or don't use it. | |
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| Would you be suspicious if someone only gave you their cellphone number n not their home number??
Posted: 7/4/2006 9:52:18 PM | | Definitely. I just had the same experience with someone that gave me his address and cell number, but wouldn't let me come to his house...should have been a clue, but he gave the excuse it was because of his previous job as an undercover cop...Couldn't spend time with me except on his terms. He actually ended the relationship and I was so upset because I guess I was really falling for the guy, but couldn't figure out why he wouldn't make time for me, always had time for everything else. He had talked about his wife and I knew her name so I checked on one of the websites and found her name listed with his address. Funny it wasn't there when I had checked previously. I've confronted him several times through e-mails and cell phone calls, but obviously, he's not talking as he won't reply or answer the phone. Would be nice if people were just honest and didn't have to play games. Someone always gets hurt. | |
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