| Would you be suspicious if someone only gave you their cellphone number n not their home number??
Posted: 12/6/2007 9:40:11 AM | Personally, when I give someone that info, it is ALWAYS my cell number. I have a land line, but I'm not always going to be home to answer the phone. My cell goes with me wherever I go; it just makes more sense (to me, anyway) for people to reach me through THAT number. After a while, if a woman DOES ask for my home phone number, she gets it; a week later, she might be surprised that it very rarely gets answered though.
That might raise a red flag (okay, we NEED to do away with that stupid term) to her, but in all honestly...it doesn't mean as much as everyone thinks it does. If I work eight hours a day, spend another three jamming with a band and another two or three in a recording studio, that means I'm never home, except to sleep and maybe eat.
It doesn't mean I'm married, hiding something or whatever. It means I'm busy and don't have time to sit around at home waiting for my phone to ring. Its also part of the reason my status is (for the moment) set to Not Single/Not Looking. People can be quite hard to reach sometimes and for some people, their cell phone IS the best way to reach them. Funny thing though, I really, really dislike talking on the phone. While I don't see it as a waste of time, just...bleh. I'd rather be talking in person. | |
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| Would you be suspicious if someone only gave you their cellphone number n not their home number??
Posted: 12/6/2007 12:04:40 PM | I'm not labelling anyone who doesn't give out their home phone no.'s...but from personal experience with guys only giving cell numbers and never picking up the call when I call (instead calling me back a few moments later):
bachelor no.1 : engaged and living with his spouse
bachelor no.2 : not married, but still a family man at home with 2 young children
bachelor no.3 : also engaged with 2 young children
bachelor no.4 : in his last week of bachelor-hood as he was getting married that week
Luck has been on my side to find out about these leaches.
Most people do use their cells only, however some people (like my above mentioned bachelors) have gotten very good at playing both fields as well. So be weary about limited contact. | |
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| Would you be suspicious if someone only gave you their cellphone number n not their home number??
Posted: 12/6/2007 12:55:19 PM | Dear Kimmie38...run as fast as you can!
..some people have only cellphones and that s fine.But that he can be reached only at certain hours and calls back much later....no way!he s got someone else stashed somewhere.
If I m not given a man s home phone and whereabouts after the first couple of dates,I know he's playing...I dont like sharing...
..you did the right thing! I hope other women will follow your example... | |
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| Would you be suspicious if someone only gave you their cellphone number n not their home number??
Posted: 12/6/2007 4:33:47 PM | I only ever give out my cell phone number because I don't have my home phone number memorized, and I don't have my home phone number memorized because I never use it or give it out. I have my home phone forwarded to my cell phone so what's the point in memorizing it and giving it out when it all ends up the same regardless?
I've never been worried about someone thinking that I might be playing them simply because I only use my cell phone. I'm not interested in anyone who doesn't "get" me better than that anyway. In my experience people with trust issues often have other issues as well.
That said, if your gut tells you something is not quite right, you should listen to it. When it comes to relationships I find gut feelings to be a better guide to follow than rules about phone numbers and such. | |
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| Would you be suspicious if someone only gave you their cellphone number n not their home number??
Posted: 12/6/2007 4:40:13 PM | | I only give out my cell phone number because it is the best way to reach me. My home number is one of those old phones wired to the wall and I hate to stand in the kitchen talking. I would rather talk on my cell. And no, I am not going to buy a cordless phone just to satisfy someone else's need to call me on my home number. I will give them the number but I will likely answer it and ask them to call my cell phone. | |
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| Would you be suspicious if someone only gave you their cellphone number n not their home number??
Posted: 12/7/2007 3:41:41 AM | Hi.
I would be very suspicious, many years ago the same thing happened to me turned out the male was married pretending to be single. Personally if somebody cuts you short all the time on the phone and it looks suspicious it usually is. Don't give up though I'm sure there are plenty of normal men in the world that are man enough to be upfront and honest.
Good luck to you. | |
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| Would you be suspicious if someone only gave you their cellphone number n not their home number??
Posted: 12/7/2007 5:26:36 AM | I give my cell number, if he has issues with that or makes major bones about it then tough cookies. My cell phone is a deflector. If he becomes too pushy or annoying I can choose to hang up or ignore the call. My home phone, sure I can block his number from calling but what's stopping him from using a public payphone, borrowing a friend's phone etc.
What choice would I have then to stop harassment, change my number?
That is if it ever came to that. Your home number is private it shouldn't be given out at at the drop of a bat just because someone is suspicious of you hiding something. If that is their first thought then they are not worth your time.
If we have been dating for a while and things are going well and we both agree that this is what we want then sure here is my home number, outside of that all potential dates and first or second dates get a cell #.
But that's just me! | |
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| Would you be suspicious if someone only gave you their cellphone number n not their home number??
Posted: 12/7/2007 5:36:40 AM | re the OPost:
"I realize alot of people choose to have cellphones instead of home phones,but what do you think about this?When someone calls you from their cellphone telling you that they don't have a home phone,but they answer it while their on the cell with you n they can only talk to you during certain hours,like while they are at work(or possibly when their other half went to work)What would you think???Or if they suddenly have to end their call n don't call back till a few days later.I ditched the guy,but i was just curious on how many others experience the same thing."
Double standard at play here maybe, eh?
I do not see why only women should have the monopoly in being security minded and not giving out the landline, but only the cell number, in the US. | |
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| Would you be suspicious if someone only gave you their cellphone number n not their home number??
Posted: 12/15/2007 2:50:01 PM | you have got to be kidding me. you think giving out a cell phone number instead of a home number is a red flag? well, aside from the aforementioned people who don't have home lines (like myself), it means you always get to speak to him or her.
In my past, about 10 years ago, I was still living with my parents and siblings. I would have people calling to speak to me, or even better important messages from work, and my idiot brothers were really good at answering the phone, and really bad at giving me the messages. Mom was almost as bad. heck, I had a coworker die one night, and the phone call went to mom, and she didn't think it was important enough to wake me. Suffice it to say, work now only has my cell phone.
Even when I lived with a roommate or three, I wouldn't want a girl to call and speak to them. aside from it being awkward from her POV (by having to speak to my roommates who I don't know), if she wants to talk to me, give her my direct number so she speaks to me, not them.
Ditto if I had kids. Do I really want a prospective partner calling and speaking to my kids, which can freak them out? or even better, having my kids embarrass me by saying something just weird (because we all knows kids NEVER say anything embarrassing in front of important adults...)
As for not calling during specific times, that is a major red flag, however you need to be understanding of his or her job. While a cell phone means he's contactable 24/7, it doesn't mean he's available 24/7. I know from personal experience that in my job, while I can be on most of the time, if I have a critical patient, then I can't answer my phone. and you calling over and over and over again isn't going to change that. you need to be respectful of his wishes.
now, if he says you can't call him during dinner hour, or on the weekends when he isn't working, now there is a red flag that i would suggest walking away from. | |
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