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| Women who love sex just as much as men: Is it a certian type?
Posted: 6/24/2006 2:56:56 PM | | I don't know if there is a type or not, but clearly some women do not put a high priority on sex (else why so many unhappy married men?). My ex was one. However, since I returned to the dating scene, I have mostly encountered women with a very healthy sex drive, and have NO complaints in this area anymore. Clearly, there are also many women who enjoy sex, and not just to lure a guy into a relationship. A lot does have to do with treating each other with respect and in a loving manner. Take a woman's affections for granted, and you are on a slippery slope, guys. | |
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| Women who love sex just as much as men: Is it a certian type?
Posted: 6/24/2006 3:02:15 PM | | must understand that women are not very sexual beings, on average. Every now and again you may come across a so-called "nympho", ARE YOU LOST IN SPACE?????????????? WOMEN LOVE SEX....WHERE DID YOU GET THIS BUNCH OF.......FROM?. Yes, women do like t be emotinally aroused before they become physically aroused.......that is not to say the do not like sex or that they only engage in sex to please their man. yes, women are sexual beings..........as much as men are. | |
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| Women who love sex just as much as men: Is it a certian type?
Posted: 6/24/2006 3:07:50 PM | I think this was the OPs veiled attempt to insult women...
Newsflash, you won't get laid with this attittude. Noone likes to be offended and told it is not natural for them to be sexual. Most women I know are hornier than lots of men! | |
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| Women who love sex just as much as men: Is it a certian type?
Posted: 6/24/2006 3:14:32 PM | | me, for one, love it, and enjoy having it as much as possible. Asked my gyno about it a few years back and was told that women's hormones can go either way: more sexual appetite or none. I guess I was one of the "lucky" ones. Growing up, sex was a "bad" thing and good girls just don't do or think about it. WHAT CRAP! If I knew then what I know now, I would have started having sex at a much earlier age...I have a strong sexual appetite and I'm not ashamed to admit that I just like to f**k.. I just want to mount the guy and ride him like sea biscuit...YAHOO! | |
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| Women who love sex just as much as men: Is it a certian type?
Posted: 6/24/2006 3:36:50 PM | | You're right women do not desire sex as men do, as for myself and 95% (or more) of my female friends we desire it more. I have heard EVERY one of my female friends complain about "not getting any" or "not getting enough" Ages ranging from 28 to 57, single, in a relationship or in a married relationship. Any smart man knows that the more you please your woman the more she pleases you. And, as for "Not very sexual beings"? - You could just possibly be even more clueless than I thought I was. Maybe the women you know just haven't been "pleased" properly by their man. You Think? | |
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| Women who love sex just as much as men: Is it a certain type?
Posted: 6/24/2006 3:40:40 PM | | okay, once you've done your research, let me know. my sex drive is through the ROOF and I'm beginning to think there is something wrong with me since my husband AND my boyfriend on the side are not enough. I'm not addicted to sex, I am just really, really horny all the time. | |
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| Women who love sex just as much as men: Is it a certian type?
Posted: 6/24/2006 5:33:40 PM | I'm not sure what you're saying with all this gobbly-goop... perhaps your experience with women is limited. We are just as sexual as men are. And this emotional stuff you talk about is not completely true. Women (some not all) may function on a more emotional level than men - men tend to be more practical but this isn't always the case. You can't really generalize. But I will say this - for every so-called frigid, not interested in sex lady out there - there may exist a man who doesn't know how to treat her.
I'm going to be blunt here - some men sit there with their legs spread open and expect the woman to come running and pleasure them and if they don't do that then they're accused of not being interested in sex... or those (men) who don't know what the meaning of foreplay is....and foreplay is not a 1,2,3 step process with an expectation of a specific result at the end. It doesn't work like this... foreplay is not necessarily restricted to the sexual scene ... it can go on all day.... it can be a look, a touch... a comment... more...
Women have perhaps traditionally been more mentally and/or emotionally geared with regard to sex but then again there's been a lot of conditioning. They say men are more visual. That's not really the way it is either - we're just as visual - we've been conditioned though that this is not acceptable - it's taboo for women to be visual... and most women don't readily admit this...
It's not that simple - things have changed - times have changed - your view on sex is based on some basic instinct philosophy.
Alright.. enough said... I have more important things on my agenda... | |
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| Women who love sex just as much as men: Is it a certian type?
Posted: 6/24/2006 5:45:49 PM | Yes, it does take a certain type of woman. It takes the type that has breasts and a vagina. Good lord, when I take my kids to school and pick them up a large group of us ladies get together. We range from about 23 to about 52 y/o and the only common tie is having children who attend school together. If you could hear the talks we have....always about sex, how we need it, want it, love it. How we plan to please our men, etc.! Yup, certain type alright!!! | |
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| Women who love sex just as much as men: Is it a certain type?
Posted: 6/25/2006 12:01:08 AM | okay, once you've done your research, let me know. my sex drive is through the ROOF and I'm beginning to think there is something wrong with me since my husband AND my boyfriend on the side are not enough. I'm not addicted to sex, I am just really, really horny all the time.
So you are married and have a boyfriends and you are looking for an intimate ecounter? Shame on you.
Go back to your husband,!! you know it's THE RIGHT thing to do.
OP-As I have said people who think only think about sex and stuff will NOT anywhere at all with that attitude.
I'm going to be blunt here - some men sit there with their legs spread open and expect the woman to come running and pleasure them and if they don't do that then they're accused of not being interested in sex... or those (men) who don't know what the meaning of foreplay is....and foreplay is not a 1,2,3 step process with an expectation of a specific result at the end. It doesn't work like this... foreplay is not necessarily restricted to the sexual scene ... it can go on all day.... it can be a look, a touch... a comment... more...
Thats YOUR opinion of it and not neccessarily the way it is.
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| Women who love sex just as much as men: Is it a certian type?
Posted: 6/25/2006 3:59:16 AM | At my age, I'm probably a little old-fashioned, but the sausage remark was funny. What I have discovered after four marraiges and many relationships is that all women are different. Some will act on impulse whereas some will need encouragment.
With the advent of online dating and availability of numerous partners to a different "type" of woman, sexual aggressiveness of women in general has become much more prevalent and out in the open. The desire has always been there. It has been suppressed until the last few years. Why do you think so many older gals go for younger guys now? Stamina. We all should have bought stock in the maker of Viagra. | |
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| Women who love sex just as much as men: Is it a certian type?
Posted: 6/25/2006 12:39:45 PM | Darakko, you crack me up. You're like the rolly-polly bopper man, always sitting up for another punch in the nose. Hee-hee. Better you than me, man.
Concerning the thread: lots of real messages here. I accept all these answers as honest truths from each individual perspective. As for me: my wife never made one single pass at me in 20 years of marriage: she never took control of her sex life--when she did, for us, it was too late; she was resentful and I felt abandoned. (In fact, she was gay in college and is gay again...and, while denying it repeatedly for 20 years, she always was.) Add up the mixed messages that sent me and, phew, I have 20 years of confusion to unload. Don't get me started. But, one thing is clear: she, herself, used every available stereotyping argument to maintain the fantasy that she was straight. She blamed me for the lack of intimacy, for example: a reserved Irish Catholic woman with an alcoholic father and workaholic mother, who had no practice at intimacy whatsoever--a women who was keeping a huge secret to herself all along. Meanwhile, I was loving, intimate, and confided in her daily—she was my partner—until I eventually shut down. All of which she eventually used against me.
The moral of the story: beware the easy stereotypes about gender/sex roles. My belief is that women tend to be socialized against asserting their sexuality, then end up resenting the male who is also confused that he always has to initiate the sex. Eventually--with much of this communicated passive/aggressively, I felt guilty as hell for trying to seduce my own wife. Meanwhile, she was the classic roll over and fall asleep immediately after orgasm type...while I liked to chat, giggle, cuddle and hug (and, sure--heaven help us--maybe do it again). I hate the generalization, but I think women enjoy sex as voraciously as any man, but by not taking control of their sex lives, they eventually feel taken advantage of. The act of penetration alone: well, with my wife, let’s say, politically aligned against penetration, no doubt she thought my lovemaking efforts were wretched all along.
When I hear the stereotype of men falling asleep right after love-making and disappointed, not to say distraught, women, building up a grudge, then faking enjoyment (then building up an even bigger grudge), I can hardly blame them. Who wants to be penetrated and abandoned?
At the same time, I see several women in this thread implying various roles of submission—some of them outright. Some mention pleasing Mr. Happy without a mention of pleasing Ms. Happy. Others mention their sex is acceptable if the MAN knows what to do—none of these women seem to be taking responsibility for their own fulfillment in bed.
The woman who says, “I worry about having a higher sex drive than my boyfriend.” Has got it half right…the part she has wrong is worrying about it. Don’t worry about it, luv, take responsibility for it.
When I was thirty or so a girlfriend I had finished up the act by masturbating right in front of me. After a moment of doubt, I was like, OH, I GET IT…I mean she came apart, torqued like a Ferrari, then melting into joy. To think of all the women I’d bedded to that point who accepted second best; I could have kicked myself.
Man, in my next life, I'm going to make one pass at my lover and then, when we're done, say, "now it's your turn to make the next pass at me." Take responsibility for yourself. My ex-wife is a lovely woman who used me to display to the world that she was straight...Now, at 45, she's still in the closet and too scared to tell her parents she's gay. Meanwhile, I played the fall guy, who eventually strayed (well, gee whiz) and took the blame for it. But, the damage was done. Two families, our friends and my children all blame me for our marriage's demise. Three years of therapy later, my ex comes up to me and says, “sorry, I was so cold.” And that’s total bullshit. What was harmful was not her being cold. What was harmful was 20 years of lying, 20 years of saying, "no, I'm staight," because all of that came with her implying, hinting and finally explaining to me that I was a typical male ***hole.
The real harm was in 20 years of her pretending it was my responsibility to make her happy and always drawing the line in the sand farther away. At the same time, I fell for it. I thought it was my duty to make her happy. And that's pretty twisted, if you ask me.
Given my personal experience, these women's threads that say: I WANT AN HONEST, TRUSTWORTHY MAN--drive me crazy. I do not know all the personal histories behind these sentiments--and I'm not big on guessing--but, if these are responsible women saying that, good on you. If these are women who expect someone else to make them happy, then I think they need a whole lot more than honesty. (To put it bluntly, they're not ready for honesty.)
To continue the epic: of course, I told my wife I strayed. So much for honesty. She hung me for it, divorced me and got out her old K.D. Lang and Melissa Ethridge CDs out before I had packed my bags.
I'm sure there will be some defensive and partially legitimate complaints about this next statement, but I feel that who was honest in our marriage was me; who got credit for being honest and who got sympathy for being victimized: her.
My conclusion: easy answers don't reveal personal truths. The popular media and the stereotypes are often wrong. Women, by the way, are from Connecticut. Men are from Jersey.
(Next person who asks why I called myself "Undaunted"...I'm going to point them to this thread..) | |
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| Women who love sex just as much as men: Is it a certian type?
Posted: 6/25/2006 1:14:32 PM | | There's no certain type we can recognize, most women are too unpredictable. They may want it but most are too afraid to go for it. When men try something they are pigs and when women want it they are whores, so most people don't get enough. | |
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| Women who love sex just as much as men: Is it a certian type?
Posted: 6/25/2006 1:32:03 PM |
Meanwhile, I was loving, intimate, and confided in her daily—she was my partner—until I eventually shut down. All of which she eventually used against me.
Typical, no doubt.
I'm sure there will be some defensive and partially legitimate complaints about this next statement, but I feel that who was honest in our marriage was me; who got credit for being honest and who got sympathy for being victimized: her.
Yes. In our modern-day society, our culture is brainwashed into believing that women are always the victims and that men are always the bad guys. Make no mistake, men have done some ill things towards women "as a whole" in past times. Funny thing about that is, it is usually the good or nicer guys of today that suffer the brunt of it or the attitudes from women.
Meanwhile, those women are supposedly 'justified' in some way. So even male victims are considered the "bad guys" (as you were in your marriage) and women are allowed to do whatever they want due to some weak, victim mentality that modern-day society raises women to believe in. The only way to change this is to educate the masses that the mythology of the woman being the perfect angel and innocent victim in EVERY circumstance is simply not true. | |
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| Women who love sex just as much as men: Is it a certian type?
Posted: 6/25/2006 1:58:22 PM |
Most women drag you to bed in the beginning
Add MIDDLE and END for me.. course, there may never be an end, but whatever.
The only reason women get involved in sex is to make the man they are with happy.
Hahahahaa.. Hahahahaa.. OUCH.. cramp.. laughing too hard.. breathe.......
So much mis-information, not even funny.. in spite of all my laughing. | |
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| Women who love sex just as much as men: Is it a certian type?
Posted: 6/25/2006 2:00:37 PM |
The only reason women get involved in sex is to make the man they are with happy.
Hahahahaa.. Hahahahaa.. OUCH.. cramp.. laughing too hard.. breathe.......
So much mis-information, not even funny.. in spite of all my laughing.
I hope I am not taken the wrong way by saying this, but isn't that PART of the reason. It goes both ways offcourse. | |
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| Women who love sex just as much as men: Is it a certian type?
Posted: 6/25/2006 2:14:03 PM | Women have the capacity of enjoying/wanting sex as much as men do.....and they usually hit their "prime" later in life......unlike men.
The earlier thread from Darrakko was sadly inaccurate. Unfornately, many men are unaware and uninformed about women and what it takes to please them.
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| Women who love sex just as much as men: Is it a certian type?
Posted: 6/25/2006 7:35:20 PM | OP, what an education you are getting and many along with you. Have you noticed that many of the women who have responded to this post, while beautiful, are not what is stereotypically considered "hot". There are virtually no private body parts hanging out in the pics on their profiles. Notice the age - the majority are, gasp, middle age.
"Hot" may be cold.
Women who love sex demand a great partner in more than just sex. Once a woman has experienced bliss it is impossible to settle for anything less no matter how much one may want to.
Some men love the "idea" of loving sex. The proof is in the doing, not the saying. There is no argument that a woman's sexual pleasure is greater than that of a man. | |
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| Women who love just as much as men: Is it a certian type?
Posted: 6/25/2006 7:47:19 PM | i wonder if i speak for alot of women when i say that i don't think most men are nearly as agressive during "couple time" as we women are. public opinion has always been that men are the unsatiable ones......i don't belive that for one moment.
most men are finished for the night after one finale.....i personally know plenty of women that can have as many as they want to, for as long as they want to. (myself included)
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| Women who love just as much as men: Is it a certian type?
Posted: 6/25/2006 8:09:20 PM | Women who love sex just as much as men: Is it a certain type?
Umm...not sure about "types" but...ya...I guess I would say the "type" would be...a woman who is comfortable with her own sexuality, who doesn't consider sex to be "wrong" or "dirty" in any way...and knows what she wants and has no problems expressing that with her man?
Sex is a natural form of physically expressing your love for your partner...and I personally find it only gets better the deeper your love for each other grows.
Colour me insatiable when I'm with my man? You bet!  | |
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| Women who love just as much as men: Is it a certian type?
Posted: 6/25/2006 9:15:08 PM | Well I am one of the so called "nympho's"....I have been told I have the sex drive of a man and a mind like one too, which somehow always seems to revert back to sex...So, what does a girl like me do when she can't get it?? She locks her door and plays with her toys lol Mastering and perfecting the art of masturbation...I am not afraid of my sexuality but I think some men are afraid of me....and my sexual appetite... | |
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