| little blue pills
Posted: 6/27/2006 7:15:49 AM | While I was with my spouse, he was on several medications for diabetes, high bp, etc. The all resulted in "performance" issues. So, he got the little blue pills. Then one day I noticed that he had a nice little bulge in his trousers when another female was being too friendly..and he wonders why I backed off having sex with him?...lol I didn't have an issue with the pill itself; I had issues with feeling that apparently I wasn't enough, but some other female was. When that relationship ended, I became involved with someone quite a bit older who admitted up front that he had ed and he used Cialis. I gotta say...36 hours is enough !..lol...it was good that we only saw each other 2 weekends a month and those were 2 real busy weekends...lol.
I have mixed feelings about the women who say they wouldn't be involved with a man that needed some type of supplement; one part of me says from personal experience, I can understand it. Another part says if I can find a good decent man to accept me with all my flaws, surely I should be able to accept this and deal with it. Plus...36 hours is sounding pretty damn good to me right about now. | |
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Posted: 6/27/2006 8:31:34 AM | As I am not in a relationship at the moment, I can only guess how I would react if I met someone with this problem that I might be interested in having a long term relationship with.
beachesofnc's 36 hours hours might be a turn off to me for various reasons. Not picking on you beachesofnc, you go with it if you enjoy it. I think (and I do stess think because who knows what might happen if I met the right man), I would prefer to keep a relationship to companionship, if my choices were my partner taking the pill, or us having other types of sex. How many men would accept a women who would say that they would rather have no sex than sex with the pill, or sex without the penis being involved? Just so I don't get flamed for being fridged, I will add that I am anything but that. It is just that I haven't been in a relationship for a long time, hence I know I can live without sex. | |
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KoiBoi
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Joined: 6/18/2006
Msg: 53 | |
| little blue pills
Posted: 6/27/2006 9:12:58 AM | From the medical side of this, the blood GOES there but doesn't STAY there. There is a mental trigger that closes "valves" that keeps the blood in the penis during sexual arousal. The drugs work on that angle of it.
As far as someone said the guy couldn't cum, not true. It a man can't cum it would indicate a prostate problem, not ED. A man can cum through a soft penis. That's just the output for the cum to go through.
This is why the ED problems can be emotional and mental as well as physical. Emotional issues can keep the "valves" from working as well.
The Levitra web site discusses all of this at length. Men who are having this problem should do some reading before decidiing on a course of action. | |
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KoiBoi
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Joined: 6/18/2006
Msg: 54 | |
| little blue pills
Posted: 6/27/2006 9:15:02 AM | Moraima, the WINDOW of opportunity is 36 hours. He doesn't stay constantly hard for 36 hours. Anything more than 4 (priopism) is extremely dangerous.
You all need to read up on how these drugs actually work. I can see a lot of hearsay and bad information being passed back and forth. That can be dangerous. | |
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| little blue pills
Posted: 6/27/2006 9:22:18 AM |
and he wonders why I backed off having sex with him?
This is behaviour that drives men insane. Ladies, don’t do this. You left him ‘wondering’ why you wouldn’t have sex with him. Heaven forbid you just come out and tell him why you were upset. No… it’s better to keep him guessing and just let the issue fester. | |
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Posted: 6/27/2006 9:26:06 AM | Back handed complements suck.
But they do show us who to avoid.
Blue pills are for medical problems.
I don't see why this discussion has any other merrit other than a platform for one to present one's own preferences, attitudes, opinions and in general maintain status as a posting "whore".
Threads get really confusing when topics are hyjacked and turned into chat threads.
Magicfingers1 has given some excellent information on the subject presented By Sapph. | |
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KoiBoi
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Joined: 6/18/2006
Msg: 57 | |
| little blue pills
Posted: 6/27/2006 9:26:23 AM | Wow, Beaches. How old are you???
That's a teenager move.
Why not rather be flattered that another woman found your man attractive enough to be "friendly" with him?
With that kind of jealous and possessive nature we'd last about 11 minutes together.... | |
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| little blue pills
Posted: 6/27/2006 10:07:38 AM | As I don't do casual sex, whoring and wanting to know more about a subject that I have next to no knowledge aren't the same thing at all.
I would like to thank all the men and women who have shared serious opinions here, and helped me learn about the mental and physical issues concerning the little blue pill.
For the most part, women's issues are treated with respect, probably because they have had media attention for a far longer period than the little blue pill has. I would hope to see that there can be respect for the importance of learning about both the mental and physcial problems that the choice to use/not use this type of medication to both men and women.
I don't have an easy time sharing my personal experiences in these thread, but I want to say that lack of communication in my experience was a serious problem. I was uncomfortable pushing a person who didn't want to talk about it past their comfort level. In my experience, the man stayed hard even after sex. As we have had a committed relationship for a long period a few years before, and this was never a problem, I just asumed that the little blue pill was been taken. It made me uncomfortable that a) he wouldn't talk about it, and b) felt he had to live up to some kind of standard no matter what. We originally parted ways because of his lack of self esteem on other issues. It seemed to be more of the same, just on a different issue.
I have been treated with respect with any female issues that I had. I wanted to give back the same respect but couldn't because of lack of communication. I guess I know now, not to get involved with this type of situation unless the other person is willing to talk to me about it. Thanks for your help. | |
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Posted: 6/27/2006 10:16:57 AM |
When I read back on this post, it seems like I am dissing horselady, but to be sure, I was not. Sorry for the misconception. Just an old fart with a quick hand on the keyboard.
I didn't think you were dissing me at all - I was just trying to inject a little humour - perhaps I shouldn't have.
I do have experience with this issue but I'm not ready to share that kind of information at the moment.  | |
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KoiBoi
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Joined: 6/18/2006
Msg: 60 | |
| little blue pills
Posted: 6/27/2006 10:31:33 AM | Well, for openers, a serious, adult discussion should not refer to erectile dysfunction as "the little blue pill".
Shall we refer to your vagina as "down there"?
We are in our 50s here.....
"Maybe I can put my nee-nee in her hoo-hoo"...... | |
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| little blue pills
Posted: 6/27/2006 10:43:58 AM | koiboi - I don't know who you are addressing with your response to but don't you think a serious adult discussion should also include some common respect to the people who have posted their thoughts on this very intimate subject??  | |
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Posted: 6/27/2006 11:43:36 AM | horselady - I am with you on the point it is a difficult thing to post about. I can only imagine how much more difficult it could be for the men. It is a pity that we can't make honest posts in all these threads without fear of misunderstanding, not to mention flaming.
I am only using the words "little blue pill" to stay on topic. While I agree we should be adult enough to use correct words, we have already been disrespected in this thread for posting our opinions. | |
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Posted: 6/27/2006 12:02:54 PM | My Secret Life...I was being just a little sarcastic. He KNOWS exactly why and it's an issue that I don't even feel comfortable telling the details of in this forum. He does not wonder and he knows what upset me. I'm not one that will hide that kind of information. My point was that it had nothing to do with him taking or not taking a pill; it had to do with him having performance issues with me....and not having them with other women.
God forbid...I didn't want sex for 36 hours straight ! I was just trying to lighten things up a little.
No, you can't have sex for 36 hours....but you have a 36 hour window for the possibility of having sex.....
lord....i'm going back to work now | |
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| little blue pills
Posted: 6/27/2006 12:05:00 PM | Ok....nevermind that it's a little uncomfortable.....here goes....
Would it make a difference if the other woman was his grown daughter?
Try that one and see how it makes ya feel. | |
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Posted: 6/27/2006 12:09:20 PM | horselady...thank you for noting that common respect is merited here. I'm not that it's a comodity, but it should be.
For koiboi who wanted to know how old I am.....I'm old enough to realize that there were issues in my personal situation that I wasn't in control of and would never be able to change. It had nothing to do with jealousy. | |
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Posted: 6/27/2006 12:21:08 PM | It's a shame we can't just talk about the topic. Little blue pill or whatever is something that is in our reality whether or not we like it.
I too, don't want to be on the internet bladding about what I have experienced. I don't want to hear about details of other people experiences anymore than they want to be bored by mine.
However, I can't exactly get this information from people I know. All the men I know well enough to chat with are married. It would be insane to ask my married friends to discuss the details of their intimate relation. That definately falls under the heading of "No bodies business but their own".
This topic has already helped me with some of things I need to know. | |
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| little blue pills
Posted: 6/27/2006 12:53:02 PM | | FYI - for those of you who may not know - this subject has been discussed under the Sex & Dating Forum - you may find that insightful [I haven't personally checked it out yet] | |
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Posted: 6/27/2006 2:27:28 PM | | Have to be honest and say that when I go into the Sex and Dating Forum, I am put off by most of the threads, so I have stoped looking there. Will check it out later, thanks. | |
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| little blue pills
Posted: 6/27/2006 3:47:32 PM | As to the subject title "little blue pill" and further references to it. I initially labeled this as such because I mentioned a personals ad I'd seen that made reference to it. It was done rather "tongue in cheek" since as those of us who are familiar with the situation are aware, only one of the several major drugs for this use are actually blue. In fact, I believe that when Bob Dole did an ad for Viagra, he referred to it as the "little blue pill" that saved his...sanity? marriage? Whatever, he was the first to make the reference, and it stuck. I do not think of calling an ED drug a "little blue pill" as being irreverent or immature in any way. Nor were a large majority of the posts in this thread anything but questioning and informative. Obviously, we all see things very differently, and hopefully at least one guy out there read this and realizes that there are women who can be understanding and not see this as a big detriment. And hopefully there are people of both sexes who read it and realize they need to discuss it with their physician. If there are.....it was worth the effort. Thank you to all who posted. In fun, with information, and with shared personal experiences.
Today, I got the results from my breast biopsy. Positive. Cancer. So, my efforts in the weeks ahead are going to be towards saving my life. I would apreciate any good thoughts any of you can send my way. Many of you are honestly caring people that I would be happy to call my friends, out in the "real world." I wish you all the best and hope you all find the kind of love you're looking for, and it finds you right back!
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| little blue pills
Posted: 6/27/2006 3:58:27 PM | Hey Sapph,
Sorry about you news. I was told at 28 that it was scientifically impossible for me to live to see my 30th birthday.  I have almost doubled that age. If I hadn't got involved with alternative medicine, I wouldn't have done because traditional medicine had given up on me.
While alternative medicine did play a big part, my will to live and live my way is what got me to where I am today. Best tool I was blessed with at birth was my strong will. (Gets me into trouble once in a while (especially in dating and the threads) but hey, I am still here, and very healthy. Please keep us informed about your progress. I was the primary caregiver from my late husband (tradition medicine only). I am putting you on my fav. list, if you want to email.
besos
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Posted: 6/27/2006 4:03:09 PM | Sapph,
Sorry to hear of the news...
At least you discovered it, and have the chance to fight it. From what I have heard from friends, attitude is a strong ally in such a situation. You need to stay strong, and focus on the days ahead. It's the time to listen to your doctor, do some research, and start to see that this battle can be won. One of the keys to that is to stay positive, and approach it from a position of strength.
Perhaps you should start a new thread on it, because I think it might be a rather relevant topic to discuss. | |
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Posted: 6/27/2006 4:03:11 PM | Thank you for a most informative thread. I've never had to deal with this issue personally re: the little blue pill,so perhaps I'm not qualified to respond here. The only thing I would like to add is thank you for the education and the courage it took to share your stories.
But, I sometimes have to wonder, why we have threads about he's/she's lying about their age, their height, their weight, showing too much boob/ or without shirt etc. and we get bent out of shape about it ad nauseum.
However, a very special & important part of a relationship is sexual intimacy and we don't discuss it. So, in other words this is refreshing.
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| little blue pills
Posted: 6/27/2006 4:04:55 PM | | Sapph - I'm so sorry to hear your news. Take care of yourself & if there is anything you need, send an e-mail | |
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| little blue pills
Posted: 6/27/2006 4:34:37 PM | [Today, I got the results from my breast biopsy. Positive. Cancer. So, my efforts in the weeks ahead are going to be towards saving my life. I would apreciate any good thoughts any of you can send my way. Many of you are honestly caring people that I would be happy to call my friends, out in the "real world." I wish you all the best and hope you all find the kind of love you're looking for, and it finds you right back!]
Sapphire, my best wishes are headed out in your direction. I cannot feel what you are going through right now, just as you couldn't feel what I went through with ED. This is an important thread, and I sincerely hope that the nay-sayers will not get it deleted. It is as important to me as your present plight. | |
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Posted: 6/27/2006 5:54:57 PM | Thank you all....I felt bad after I posted my news here, that it would take away from the important subject matter. So, I'm going to start another thread as suggested. Hoping it doesn't get someone right off the bat calling it a "seeking pity" thread to get it deleted, because it is not. I have high hopes that this will soon all be behind me. I too get in trouble because I'm stubborn and strong willed and in this stead, I think it will do me some good maybe :) I can't imagine why this ED thread would be deleted, as it is getting good response and is an important subject.
Thank you all again, and now, back to our regularly scheduled program.
Sapph | |
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