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| 3 Years - Never Seen My Girlfriend Naked
Posted: 5/1/2008 2:40:21 PM | wow. why haven't you shown her the door and found someone else?
why would you want to put up with someone that wants to waste your time when there's plenty of women who won't be so hung up and prudish?
and seeing as you've put in the work to help her feel better about herself, I would hazard a guess and say that she's just using you to get attention. | |
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| 3 Years - Never Seen My Girlfriend Naked
Posted: 5/1/2008 7:40:17 PM | She needs counseling. Something might have happened to her in her past, very common.
Have you talked to her about it? How you feel? That you care about her a lot. | |
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| 3 Years - Never Seen My Girlfriend Naked
Posted: 5/1/2008 9:56:40 PM | | I knew a girl who wouldn't let her boyfriend see her naked. It went on for a long time also. Until finally one day he just turned on the light and through the covers off, and it ended up being fine. | |
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| 3 Years - Never Seen My Girlfriend Naked
Posted: 5/1/2008 10:23:36 PM | Consider this the "once per page public service announcement" of: THE OP (that's Original Poster or Opening Post for you newbies -- don't laugh, when I first started reading the forums I had no idea what it meant for about 5 minutes! lol) HAS LONG AGO LEFT THE BUILDING. We will forever wonder what happened between him and his girlfriend, and what, exactly, was the underlying issue.... And yes, someone pointed out that this thread could still be valuable to someone else dealing with the same issue... (like they would actually do a thread search instead of posting a new thread!) Moving on...
Clues abound as to why this girl may be/have been insecure about physical intimacy in any other lighting condition other than total darkness. Try looking back a couple of pages to this post:
Btw, I can't believe this thread is still going, after all this time! And the OP has left the building! I posted here last summer, after a friend here, referred me to this thread. A woman (mentioning no names) who [sic] posts we both frequently followed, because she was so funny, interesting & intelligent, mentioned that her former boyfriend wrote this thread about her. And she mentioned in another thread, that she has had a sex-change. But she often doesn't tell people. She seems to think that since she does not want children & does not date men with children or who want children, she is not required to disclose this info. While I can sort of see her point, I think it's an awfully big secret, to keep. I am not sure it's the right thing to do.
Not vouching for the veracity, mind you, but it would explain a lot! | |
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| 3 Years - Never Seen My Girlfriend Naked
Posted: 5/1/2008 10:26:44 PM | Fission
Your post stated you are all that and a Bag of Chips
So's
Maybe ? this is a sign of not being compatable ...... Or
Maybe ?? "'If a woman responds this way "'She does not really like having
sex at all ''has lo libido or no libido
and she is only doing the deed
to please him "" Needs a Quickie "'get ur done "'type thinking .
Or he will want to give her too much attention sexually and she is not up to the attention or the Excercise ? for too long of a time !
Or possibly a woman is not in Love with a man ...Or just does not trust him !
Afraid he will leave her or compare her to other women .
does not want the lites on because 'Maybe its not her at all its Him >she finds him unattractive ...'
or male genitals is unattractive ........
Ither way these post are all just what ifs 'Maybes or presumtions "'The only one who really knows is your girlfriend .
Then again Maybe just does not feel good about her appearance "'and she has the right to be however she wants its her BODY !
Women like to look there best in front of the Man she is with " Not all Women are Beautiful in Appearance some of us has to work at it !
lighting "'Timing
Mood and Security in a relationship goes a long way and so does some Romance and some 
Make a Date "'Take her to a Nice Place for a couple of days and a Nice Hotel
Plan it so she can tan or buy some nice clothes ect.for the trip ........ Or Settle for Moon Lit Nite at the Lake its always Good The Lake brings out the best in everyone ! Get a Resort too that Rocks !
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| 3 Years - Never Seen My Girlfriend Naked
Posted: 5/2/2008 6:33:33 AM | If you haven't seen your girlfriend naked after the first 3 months with her, chances are you're never going to see her naked. Cut your losses and move on.  | |
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| 3 Years - Never Seen My Girlfriend Naked
Posted: 5/2/2008 8:21:12 AM | A lot of women have body image issues, of varying degrees. She is on the more extreme end. Clearly it is enough to distract her enjoyment. I understand, visually, men prefer to see.
However, you don't really seem to want to help her work thru it ... it is appears you want her to take big steps.
A simply search on the net, or simply reading a first year psych book may solve your problem.
Desensitization therapy:
Start with low light ... slowly work your way up.
You will never make it to flood lights ... just so you know. :-)
Off course, if the problem is you just need glasses ... get glasses. :-) | |
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| 3 Years - Never Seen My Girlfriend Naked
Posted: 5/2/2008 8:36:26 AM | I recently met a young woman who was so self conscious, she decided that she couldn't possibly let anyone see her body until she got a boob job. Not sure if that is going to solve her problems but if that's what it takes, good on her. 
Pink | |
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| 3 Years - Never Seen My Girlfriend Naked
Posted: 5/2/2008 8:43:32 AM | PPl see each other nakid ? ... wow ... Ppl have sex in the morning ? ... WOW ... I heard about this moraly insaine , crazed , wacked up stuff ... LOL ... (just some humor there)
You are a real kewl guy to be so nice about this ... She could of been molested or raped ... If so and I was raped and molested I can tell that is so hard to feel comfortable about your body ... For years I felt like I was being raped all over again when a guy even looked at me in my underware ... You need to listen and watch for signs of a past whe may not wanna directly talk about ...
Then again if you just look at the tv and mags you can feel like you are ugly .... Talk to her VERY carefuly and slowly and over time and she will begin to trust and tell you whats up .... WISH YA THE BEST ...
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| 3 Years - Never Seen My Girlfriend Naked
Posted: 5/2/2008 10:19:12 AM | THIS IS JUST TOO FUNNY....
THE TREAD STARTED IN [B] 25/6/2006 [/B]
NEARLY [B] 2 [/B] YEARS BACK !
The authors last post was on that same day!
Things that make you go... hmmm? | |
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| 3 Years - Never Seen My Girlfriend Naked
Posted: 5/2/2008 11:08:57 AM |
THE TREAD STARTED IN 25/6/2006
NEARLY 2 YEARS BACK ! . . . . . . . (I guess your vbl tags need to be in lower case, I fixed them)
Makes me wonder if he's seen her naked yet. | |
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| 3 Years - Never Seen My Girlfriend Naked
Posted: 5/5/2008 2:06:29 PM | Time...... it takes time for somone like this to feel safe enough to trust u with that part of her.... I am very open with my body nudity was something that i grew up with in palm springs... but i also have a great deal of respect for someones choice to keep it privit... this is what i would do...
DON'T PUSH or u will loose her and she will never trust u.
Be yourself, and walk around naked if this is what u would do alone.
TAKE THE ATNN; OFF HER
Will she look at other naked bodies?
In time She may see that she is not much different then others...
There r edu sites that have 100s of pic. of every body typ that u can imagen.. if u cant find one talk to me ill tell u where u can.
There is something about herself or the idea of nakedness that is shameful or embarrising .... work on that in a third person rather then trying to get her to change...
If she is comfortable put on some candles in the other room. Dance your way to the bed rm and get naked. low lights?
Then if she still feels the same ... be kind and love her anyways...
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| 3 Years - Never Seen My Girlfriend Naked
Posted: 5/6/2008 4:51:42 PM | | i just started to answer this thread and then realized it was started a long time ago and the OP never came back . so why is it up and running again? | |
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| 3 Years - Never Seen My Girlfriend Naked
Posted: 5/7/2008 8:55:02 AM | Their's definitly some scaring of some kind, ridiculed as a kid, or something happened what i can't tell you, the only way to get rid of it is for her to decide it's time. I'm sorry to say I wouldn't address it directly and corner it, as you've probably mentioned it a few times already and ended with no improvement and an argument so no sex..
Past experience, one girlfriend i had wouldn't let me see her boobs, another didn't want the light's on during sex, while another needed backround noise to dround out grose sounds.
Wow people have issues
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