| 3 Years - Never Seen My Girlfriend Naked
Posted: 6/25/2006 8:58:08 PM | | I would get one of those light sensor things and put it over your bed , when it detects movement it goes on and whammm problem solved. | |
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| 3 Years - Never Seen My Girlfriend Naked
Posted: 6/25/2006 8:58:49 PM | | you havent seen her naked and you think that makes you a azzhole? ok pooch, i think its more like a jack off or you are bs us? which is it? | |
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Deja99
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Joined: 5/15/2006
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mamawa
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Joined: 4/30/2006
Msg: 54 | |
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| 3 Years - Never Seen My Girlfriend Naked
Posted: 6/25/2006 9:35:34 PM | I agree with those that said this isn't something you can help her with. Other than to kindly and lovingly suggest that she get professional help. And to tell her that it's something that's causing a problem with the relationship. That's really all you can do, and it's up to her.  | |
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| 3 Years - Never Seen My Girlfriend Naked
Posted: 6/25/2006 9:40:39 PM | | Have her go talk to a doctor to overcome this problem.Maybe she had something in her past that caused this to make her feel insecure.good luck. | |
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| 3 Years - Never Seen My Girlfriend Naked
Posted: 6/25/2006 9:46:01 PM | fission I'm pretty sure you're a scammer...
Your profile says you seek a woman and that you are single. Two strikes...the third was this thread that should have been deleted. | |
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| 3 Years - Never Seen My Girlfriend Naked
Posted: 6/25/2006 9:49:21 PM | DUH!! Thanks for pointing that out, David...I don't always look at the profile. Having a girlfriend of 3 years and marital status as single, yeah that doesn't add up in my book either.  | |
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mamawa
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Joined: 4/30/2006
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| 3 Years - Never Seen My Girlfriend Naked
Posted: 6/25/2006 9:51:27 PM | | see i nvr put up with that , thats why i rip there clothes off on the first date rofl blame it on passion . i succumbed to that b4 with a girl i was seeing and to b honest cmon if ur not to shy to sleep n **** the person u better b able to have a nice shower together ,maybe she turns the lights out so she doesnt see ur hairy bum | |
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| 3 Years - Never Seen My Girlfriend Naked
Posted: 6/25/2006 9:51:59 PM | For once, I honestly think this guy is real.I think he just made that profile up to ask this question.He just does not strike me as fake.I don't know.
Hey you Fission guy, you better not let me down, its the first time I've been nice and genuine to an OP!You better be as helpless as you sound.
~*Flavia*~ | |
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| 3 Years - Never Seen My Girlfriend Naked
Posted: 6/25/2006 10:27:45 PM | @evermind.
I'm sure this guy hasen't held his past relationship over his girlfriends head, making her feel more insecure. He hasn't been selfish by telling her he thinks she's beautiful. I don't think he's manipulating her for his own selfish sexual gains. I think you're off target. They have been together for 3 years aparently sustaining a meaningful relationship, he just wants to see his girlfriend get out of bed in the morning after they've made love and not reach for a robe while covered and do the quick switch like he's a stranger, not her boyfriend. and he's wasting her time????? They will work it out. He's talking about trust, not sex. | |
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| 3 Years - Never Seen My Girlfriend Naked
Posted: 6/25/2006 10:58:03 PM | | For once I agree with Trishnaa, I think hes asking a legit ? and you people are taking out your crap on him. She does need some help for sure. I dated a woman once that had similar problems with her body and it was hell after 2 years I fianlly gave up and left. | |
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| 3 Years - Never Seen My Girlfriend Naked
Posted: 6/25/2006 11:35:12 PM |
Manipulate instead. Stop during sex when she is least expecting and light a few nice candles, be creative ...
I'm sure, 'arri' means - manipulate - in a positive way. But from lady's perspective, *to stop* once they started I wouldn't say so that it could deliver some positive vibes.
[to stop - abruptly or gently - leaves the other in limbo and that's not nice IMHO]
Three years is a long time though not being able to see their partner naked. No light at all as a solution to start with? Hm ... I don't see any other way than to talk to her and find out where obstacles are. It is only natural *to bare bodies just like minds.
[The order? Depending on individuals but the best is *'hand in hand' ]
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| 3 Years - Never Seen My Girlfriend Naked
Posted: 6/26/2006 12:46:29 AM | She might be afraid that if you see her in the light you might think less of her. Face it, most men picture girls looking better than they really do. So most girls don't want to mess that up.
When she takes a bath climb in with her. light candles. start with a night light in the bed room of a night and work her up to more. talk about how cute she is, and what parts you like and think is cute. Never talk about ify areas until she is use to it.
Even the prettest of people don't think they look as good as they should. Its just normal, its up to you to bring them out of their shell and to feel comfertable around you. Add more mirros so she can see she don't look that bad. Hell put up a strob light one night and dance dirty with her in the bed room. Your a man use your head. | |
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| 3 Years - Never Seen My Girlfriend Naked
Posted: 6/26/2006 2:16:55 AM | I recently became a mother 3 years ago and i still got alittle baby weight that needs tightening but the worst is the stretch marks My Babys father and i were together for 6 years and he made me feel better about the situation by telling me that he does not find the marks discusting, That they are the marks that he and our child gave me from bring life in the world. He always told me how great our sex was and how beutiful i was.
Now that we our not together and i have entered a relationship with a man that has no kids i find myself alittle insecure and will not let him see me naked!!
My advice is to tell her how great and pretty you think she is and maybe discuss what she is insecure about and see if there is a way of fixing it like exercising together or tanning or cosmetic surgery. dont stare at her if you do get sex during the day or with the lights on! Do your best to make her feel comfortable!! Remember no one is perfect everyone has flaws and it is more pressure on women to be beutiful than for men!! So take it slowly and start out simple like candel light or in the water or with some clothes on. dont give up Tell her how you feel and boost her confidence!! Show her flaws that you have. | |
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| 3 Years - Never Seen My Girlfriend Naked
Posted: 6/26/2006 2:20:52 AM | uhmm.. get her drunk and maybe she'll loosen up a bit?....
Yup thats what i was thinking aswell and it's not like your some stranger getting her drunk off her ass just so you wouldnt have to wait until you turn off all the lights i know i'll get some rude remarks about this probaly lol but, it's true us women seem to do crazy shit when were drunk that we'd never do when were sober. | |
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| 3 Years - Never Seen My Girlfriend Naked
Posted: 6/26/2006 2:30:19 AM | | Yea. I rember when we first got toghter he would love it when I would drink. (I only drank a few times a year.) Any way we got into floor play with the lights on, and he was always talking how great it was, and how he loved it, and now we do it when ever. | |
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vivid
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Joined: 6/26/2006
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| 3 Years - Never Seen My Girlfriend Naked
Posted: 6/26/2006 2:46:20 AM | Night vision goggles! It might seem like you're making love to a green alien, but that's
probably as good as it'll get.
Your girl is probably intimidated by your well chiseled body up against her flabby one. | |
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| 3 Years - Never Seen My Girlfriend Naked
Posted: 6/26/2006 3:17:05 AM | So your gripe is ....that you can't get it on...unless you have a visual???? At least your getting sex...people like this have a complex and even sex would be out of the question..
I am sure she has a few gripes about you but would rather keep it to herself...I see you cheating on her....and breaking her heart... | |
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| 3 Years - Never Seen My Girlfriend Naked
Posted: 6/26/2006 3:17:18 AM | | There is nothing wrong with BIG BONED women (thats what its called) its not called fat/flabby and there is nothing wrong with BIG BONDED men. | |
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| 3 Years - Never Seen My Girlfriend Naked
Posted: 6/26/2006 3:32:57 AM | @Spade
It's hard to judge one's disposition reading text, trust that I am not against the OP at all, but have taken what he's said and put it under a microscope to discover the causation of their behaviour. I'm not saying he's holding up his past relationships over his girlfriends head, I'm saying he's expecting (or hoping for) the same sexual output of his last relationship that he does in this new relationship. Different girls, different sexual habbits, desires, etc. When one makes reference to the sexual experience he had with a previous girlfriend and then refers to the disappointment he's experiencing with his new girlfriend, I'd say that's a comparison. Wouldn't you?
I truly believe that the OP cares about this girl, and he really does think that she's beautiful and he wants her to feel comfortable with herself. But if you read what he has said, he's told her these things for a reason. There is an underlying motive, and because he believes what he tells her doesn't mean the motive isn't there. He's trying to make her feel more comfortable about it. He's said that. Why. He told you why too. So she will feel comfortable enough to have sex with the light on. He's said that too. Can you see where there would be pressure? Can you see that maybe she can pick up on that?
Remember, what may be not that big a deal to you, may be a major deal for someone else. Please, re-read what he's said, and re-read what I've said...only take out any venom in the tone as you read. Say "selfish" without negative connotation, like a scientist would.
Oh yah, last time I checked, a girlfriend sharing her body with you is a choice, not a boyfriends 'right'. | |
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