| 3 Years - Never Seen My Girlfriend Naked
Posted: 8/15/2007 3:56:52 PM | get a clapper, and in the middle of your love making yell "SUPRISE BIATCH" CLAP CLAP!
nah I'm just joking, that would be mean. Just be patient....I'm sure she'll eventually come around. | |
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| 3 Years - Never Seen My Girlfriend Naked
Posted: 8/15/2007 4:42:46 PM | Maybe its really a man post op? Good chance sounds odd as hell. Id walk away personally someone that scared of their body has serious Issues - youve waited 3 years , things will only get worse not better from here.
Im still running with the man theory but, why else cant someone see you naked or even have sex with you In the morning? Theres something there that may be found In even the slightest light obviously haha. I mean cmon, If shes just some no one can see me freak you can still have sex In the morning - are you sure your feeling the right things down there and theres not some odditys like scar tissue? 
And If shes not a man walk away anyway, this ones smacking of as soon as a marraige happens you wont even get sex again - hidden and dark or not. By the way how does she get up and get dressed In the morning without you seeing her naked? | |
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| 3 Years - Never Seen My Girlfriend Naked
Posted: 8/15/2007 4:56:20 PM | She sounds insecure...and perhaps she views her naked body as shameful...who knows, is she Catholic? Don't start yelling at me people for asking that The Catholic church does have the tendency to make one feel sex and the human body is shameful.
I would talk to her about it...tell her how you feel, and see if maybe she might try talking to someone...therapy. | |
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Posted: 9/19/2007 9:34:47 PM | | whats sad is you are no only a uneducated no class cry baby ***hole, but you come on here and totally whine about your whole reltionship to a bunch of strangers your pathetic and a disgrace of a human being i hope she develops a brain and dump you. god your a loser. | |
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| 3 Years - Never Seen My Girlfriend Naked
Posted: 9/20/2007 10:36:38 PM | First, let me say I feel bad for you.
Secondly, let me say I sooooo understand your gf!!!
It isn't about whether she's beautiful or not, it's how SHE sees herself that is the problem. I'm the same way, but I'm at least trying to do something about it. My issues stem from trauma and abuse, and though those things are long gone, the effects are still here, don't know about hers. I never could stand the lights on either, being so self concious. Will she talk to you? If so, tell her about something I have tried that seems to be helping. I looked at myself, didnt like what I saw, and lost alot of weight...with her, that may not be an issue...then I looked at what was left and still didn't want any guy to see me "bare"....so maybe she could just show up in a nightie....that way she wouldnt feel so compromised when the lights are on. Or, you could try candle light, which is so much softer and flattering, yet isn't full lighting...she might be willing to go that route. I have another idea of what her issue might be, but I won't mention it here...some things just need to remain private. | |
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| 3 Years - Never Seen My Girlfriend Naked
Posted: 9/20/2007 10:42:39 PM |
She sounds insecure...and perhaps she views her naked body as shameful...who knows, is she Catholic? Don't start yelling at me people for asking that The Catholic church does have the tendency to make one feel sex and the human body is shameful.
I would talk to her about it...tell her how you feel, and see if maybe she might try talking to someone...therapy.
And they aren't the only ones who can make a person feel that way...I am glad you've hung around as long as you have tho...shows how much you genuinely care for the lady. Not many guys would do that. | |
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Posted: 9/20/2007 11:31:37 PM | I TOTALLY agree with evermind!! You are turning it into a bigger issue by pushing the issue in the first place. Although you have been "patient" you obviously don't accept her unconditionally, and I'm also pretty sure she can pick up on that in some way through things you say. Even if you are giving praise you are still judging her, and she knows this. Because this is an issue for YOU, it will come accross as tension in the relationship in some fashion, and that will also increase her insecurities.
There have been some men I do feel uncomfortable around, and others I'm totally carefree with. It's never been about the length of time I am with them, or how beautiful they say I am...it's all about having that pressure to perform, or live up to expecations in some fashion. I love my body, but if I feel like I'm being judged in ANY way I freeze up to a certain degree. It's funny my sister used to ALWAYS wear sweatpants, and big shirts. (even in the summer), and she has a smokin body. The more people tried to convince her otherwise, and the more attention was placed on her appearance the less she wanted to change. Once people just accepted that thats just the way she was and how she wanted to dress, and stopped trying to convince her of how hot she was the more she opened up. Now she wears short skirts, tight shirts, dresses...she has no hang-ups at all.
If you TRUELY love her let her be who she is, and put your own agenda aside COMPLETELY and I'm sure she will come around (when she feels comfortable to). | |
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Posted: 9/21/2007 2:08:17 AM | Don't sweat it! If you want sex in the AM or mid afternoon and she does too, then invest in some black-out drapes for your windows. Many women have or develop a poor self image (late stage pregnancy). I feel he drapes will help with the timing. that said, I feel this is a symptom of deeper issues and a few hours of counseling would help you both. Continue your kind and understanding approach and DON'T issue an ultimatum It will not have the results you desire.
Consider the story of King Arthur and the Witch:
Young King Arthur was ambushed and imprisoned by the monarch of a
neighboring kingdom. The monarch could have killed him but was moved by
Arthur’s youth and ideals. So, the monarch offered him his freedom, as long
as he could answer a very difficult question. Arthur would have a year to
figure out the answer and, if after a year, he still had no answer, he
would be put to death.
The question… What do women really want? Such a question would perplex
even the most knowledgeable man, and to young Arthur, it seemed an
impossible query. But, since it was better than death, he accepted the
monarch’s proposition to have an answer by year’s end.
He returned to his kingdom and began to poll everyone: the princess, the
priests, the wise men and even the court jester. He spoke with everyone,
but no one could give him a satisfactory answer.
Many people advised him to consult the old witch, for only she would have
the answer.
But the price would be high; as the witch was famous throughout the kingdom
for the exorbitant prices she charged.
The last day of the year arrived and Arthur had no choice but to talk to
the witch. She agreed to answer the question, but he would have to agree to
her price first.
The old witch wanted to marry Sir Lancelot, the most noble of the Knights
of the Round Table and Arthur’s closest friend!
Young Arthur was horrified. She was hunchbacked and hideous, had only one
tooth, smelled like sewage, made obscene noises, etc. He had never
encountered such a repugnant creature in all his life.
He refused to force his friend to marry her and endure such a terrible
burden; but Lancelot, learning of the proposal, spoke with Arthur.
He said nothing was too big of a sacrifice compared to Arthur’s life and
the preservation of the Round Table.
Hence, a wedding was proclaimed, and the witch answered Arthur’s question
thus:
What a woman really wants, she answered… is to be in charge of her own
life.
Everyone in the kingdom instantly knew that the witch had uttered a great
truth, and that Arthur’s life would be spared.
And so it was, the neighboring monarch granted Arthur his freedom, and
Lancelot and the witch had a wonderful wedding.
The honeymoon hour approached and Lancelot, steeling himself for a horrific
experience, entered the bedroom. But, what a sight awaited him. The most
beautiful woman he had ever seen lay before him on the bed. The astounded
Lancelot asked what had happened.
The beauty replied that since he had been so kind to her when she appeared
as a witch, she would henceforth, be her horrible deformed self only half
the time and the beautiful maiden the other half.
Which would he prefer? Beautiful during the day… or night?
Lancelot pondered the predicament. During the day, a beautiful woman to
show off to his friends, but at night, in the privacy of his castle, an old
witch? Or, would he prefer having a hideous witch during the day, but by
night, a beautiful woman for him to enjoy wondrous intimate moments?
What would YOU do?
What Lancelot chose is below. BUT… make YOUR choice before you scroll
down below. OKAY?
Noble Lancelot said that he would allow HER to make the choice herself.
Upon hearing this, she announced that she would be beautiful all the time
because he had respected her enough to let her be in charge of her own
life.
Now… what is the moral to this story?
Scroll down
The moral is…
If you don’t let a woman have her own way…
Things are going to get ugly! | |
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| 3 Years - Never Seen My Girlfriend Naked
Posted: 9/21/2007 5:49:02 AM | | Red flag goes up for me. She needs to see a therapist. From school I have learned there are lots who don't remember abuse. You have been nothing but so patient with her. I admire that! Wish you both the best. | |
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| 3 Years - Never Seen My Girlfriend Naked
Posted: 9/21/2007 7:25:54 AM | 3 years...it's too late...you've already lost the battle. Succumb to the fact that she now officially owns your testicles and there ain't a dayumm thing you can do about it except to break up and move on.
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Posted: 9/21/2007 9:29:33 AM | | If you have been with her for 3 years, and had sex during that time, and still not seen her naked, she is not your girlfriend. Odds are she is not even a girl, but is a mutilated male known as a transgender...a he-she...a sex change-ee. Dump him, and get yourself a real woman. Start dating a stripper, and you'll see her naked all the time; along with the rest of the world. | |
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| 3 Years - Never Seen My Girlfriend Naked
Posted: 10/10/2007 4:00:10 PM | My day was coming to a pleasant end on POF and untypically decided to check out Forums- this one regarding the naked girlfriend is (I dunno!) the rplies have kept me laughing now for sometime- awesome the humour you folks have and for the guy who has I guess never seen his girlfriend naked I hope some of the advice from these othere folks help as I just have to sign off- toooo funny-cannot type | |
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Posted: 10/10/2007 4:02:09 PM | "The OP has left the building. It would appear that Fission’s relationship has split and broken into parts." Maybe he did see her naked!! And  | |
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Posted: 10/10/2007 5:02:56 PM | OK. 1st you have let the situation go a bit long without "communication".
If you want her to know something you should tell her....and then tell her again...and again.
If she keeps pushing your feelings aside because of this issue then maybe you should decide if the relationship is really going to last.
If you cant tell her what is wrong then when something else comes up (and it will) this will only add to the stress. and before you know it problem solved.....no relationship.
If she refuses to respond to your needs then maybe she doesnt care for you as much as you hope.
If you really care for her are you willing to change your needs a bit.
I am not saying you arent valid in your concerns. My ex wife kept distancing herself from me sexually and it led to a horrible relationship.
"YES LADIES" sex is very very very important to us men.
If you ladies reading this think men are all sex perverts....well yeah we are.
It is how the differances in sexes work.
But seeing her respond to you, seeing her enjoy herself, and watching her face and body move is a big part of it for men.
Dude....you should just keep talking to her about coming to a mutual situation.
Maybe candlelight a few times.
Then a dim light in an adjacent room to add light.
Then a small lamp....etc and so on.
The key here is communication.
If she understands your concern, needs, desires, and stress she is more likely to respond.
So there is my 2 cents.
I hope it helps a little. | |
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Posted: 10/10/2007 5:53:36 PM | Sorry bud..but sounds like she has more back issues than National Geographic...reminds me of what my 85 year old mother told me..about her relationship with my father....(they were married. 50+ years) she was never in bed or well, had relations completely naked.... imagine...50+ years....and never naked with him in bed..sounds like you might be in for a long haul....sorry but to each his own...Good Luck ! | |
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Posted: 10/10/2007 8:28:00 PM | wow... thats hard to answer... If it were my boyfriend doing that to me it would make me feel like im ugly not him.... thats horrible.... Have you even tried to tell her that your resentful of her behavior? That it makes you uncomfortable... is it affecting your sexual performance in any way? I wouldnt put up with that... And I may not be a model or goddess looking woman or like how I look but if my man says Im perfect then hell Im perfect... maybe she has herpes or genital warts or something i mean THIS is ridiculious! | |
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Posted: 10/10/2007 8:30:53 PM | Yes,you do sound like a patient man.This is obviously a serious issue for your
girlfriend.I think the only way she will ever get past this,is to get some form of
conselling.
Good luck. | |
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Posted: 10/10/2007 8:55:08 PM | OP started this thread over a year ago.... Classic example of why threads should automatically be deleted after a certain amount of time... | |
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