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| 3 Years - Never Seen My Girlfriend Naked
Posted: 10/14/2007 2:58:58 PM | | come on! your joking three years i love a woman,s body every part if my girl felt like that it would be for two minutes show her how much you like her body do things untill she,s having orgasm,s shaking and do a least two orgasm,s then tell her i love your body tell her alot to not just in the bedroom i could not even watch my ex do dishes with out telling her how sexy she was. | |
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| 3 Years - Never Seen My Girlfriend Naked
Posted: 10/14/2007 3:49:50 PM | | Bud i have been there. I was with a woman that was better looking than most super models and she was real insecure.I don't know about the advice for her to see a shrink maybe but how about a one on one with her.3 yrs you guys must have had some rough talks and this may be one but sounds important.I used to wake up first and make coffee for her and when she came down i would tell her i was a pig and a gentleman.When she asked how i said i took the covers off you this morning and just looked your gorgeous girl.Then she goes how where you a gentleman and i said i covered you back up right.Well lets just say she let her coffeee get cold that morning.good luck bud for real.Eric | |
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| 3 Years - Never Seen My Girlfriend Naked
Posted: 10/14/2007 4:36:14 PM | Look at the bright side of things: You've seen her head naked and in some Muslim countries, you might not get too, at least publically. You've seen her feet naked and in some Asian countries, you can't do that. Naked legs. ...and naked hands and arms, too! In fact - if you've seen her in a bikini, you've seen about 96% of her body naked! And hey -that's not bad! Finally, if you actually did see the rest of her naked, who knows, you might get bored, so at least you can still use your imagination and who knows? That's probably more powerful than the real thing.  | |
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| 3 Years - Never Seen My Girlfriend Naked
Posted: 10/14/2007 6:46:09 PM | This is an Emergency of the highest caliber. Why don't you book a vacation to the Mayan Riviera. The Moon at that latitude illuminates the night much more intensly than in more northernly places. Take a walk with her to the beach at night. Then offer her a massage. She'll lay on her stomach because she's insecure. Bring a towel for her to lay down on. Then start doing your stuff. When she's all relaxed from the massage. Turn her over and look at her body. Watchout for sleezy gigolos hiding in the bushes.
Or just tell her; Look,If I didn't think you were attractive. I wouldn't want to have sex with you. I wouldn't have even hit on you in the first place. | |
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jmedic
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| 3 Years - Never Seen My Girlfriend Naked
Posted: 10/15/2007 1:13:10 AM | | i admit this is not natural after three years, but if it bothers you that much and you dont respect her fault, then take your petty crap somewhere else. if this is all you have to complain about then your shallow, but go be shallow with some whore-bag slut, cause you dont deserve her. | |
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| 3 Years - Never Seen My Girlfriend Naked
Posted: 10/26/2007 9:31:52 PM | Hello there...
I just wanted to give a bit of feedback on your situation.
Yes three years is a long time to be shy about being naked in front of your partner.
It sounds like there is certainly an underlying issue with respect on how she views hereself. It would be best to communicte with her in a non invasive manner on the subject. I understand, by your information that she has some fears. These fears where likely created by someone at somepoint in her life. Could have been someone close to her. I am sure that we can all tell a story about being in a very embarrasing situation or being the subject of ridicule by others. The task at hand would involve inqueiring in to her past to see where the "point of impact" happend in her life. Understanding the incident is key. Helping her to understand that sometimes people can be cruel with their actions, and that it is not unusual behavior. Also help her identify the source of the problem ie: the person responsible and what actions were involved. Maybe try and find this person and have them confronted on thier abnormal and cruel behavior????
To have an acknowledgement from someone who has caused a great deal of personal hardships and fears for another, is one of the mot important and effective ways to put closure on a situation. If this it is unachievable to communicate with the person in quiesion. Thier actions must be conceeded as being wrongful and inapropriate, and forgivenss must be issued.
I hope that this bit of infromation might help your situation.
As far as living your fantasy of having day sex????
Well my friend you will have to accept her just the way she is, and do NOT force the issue. She may feel pressured and begin to feel uncomfortable in your presence, thus creating space and complications between you and her.
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| 3 Years - Never Seen My Girlfriend Naked
Posted: 10/27/2007 4:48:44 AM | | Ok try this,sneak a little flash light under the cover bro and check out the bud.if its not there you may have a guy that had a sex change whoa ...hope that ant the case...jeeezzzzz | |
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| 3 Years - Never Seen My Girlfriend Naked
Posted: 10/27/2007 6:53:29 AM | | You know I dont think this guy is BSing? one of my teammates, has a girlfriend who is sooo insecure, she refuses to even have the lights on, she refuses to be nude in front of him because of her insecurities , I wouldn't doubt there are people out there that are like that. | |
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| 3 Years - Never Seen My Girlfriend Naked
Posted: 10/28/2007 1:59:31 AM | Fission I was going t o say something here and then I stopped when humour made me feel bad. And i don't want to make fun of anyone here at POF. That Is wrong. There should be enough heartfelt suggestions here already. Just ignore the smart asses.
I do wish you the best in solving this. Really.
A blind person is not blind because they want to be. Remeber that. It's ok. | |
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| 3 Years - Never Seen My Girlfriend Naked
Posted: 10/28/2007 7:02:13 AM | | Move to Alaska then at least it is dark all winter so you can have sex more often, of course then summer would be a bugger! I do agree though 3 years and she won't be naked in front of you, that is a problem. | |
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| 3 Years - Never Seen My Girlfriend Naked
Posted: 10/28/2007 7:26:44 AM | This speaks very poorly of the OP, Mr. fission.
Her behaviour is a reflexion of his attitude, his (lack of) respect for her and his people still.
What a sad relation this lady experienced.
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| 3 Years - Never Seen My Girlfriend Naked
Posted: 4/23/2008 11:28:22 PM | | Don't feel like an ***hole. Honestly, I think most men would have moved on. Have you two ever talked about it openly? Does she have any scars from an accident or an injury that she is worried about? I was always very open with my ex husband but I had been with him for 15 years and he had been through the surgeries with me. Now though, I have been divorced for almost 7 years and just the thought of a new man seeing the scars on my body is SCARY!!!! Otherwise I am with you. There is nothing better than having a lover that you don't have to have any inhibitions with. I wish you luck. | |
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| 3 Years - Never Seen My Girlfriend Naked
Posted: 4/24/2008 5:25:48 AM | She is very lucky to have such a patient and understanding man...
But she almost certainly needs professional help... some one that she can positively open up and talk to with out feeling under pressure to strip herself physically naked..
i suspect that there is an extravert whore of babylon in there somewhere that just needs the right kind of permission to come out... maybe what might help a little bit is if she could see & talk to other women her same body shape who can explain that they blow men's minds... (altho it is hard to be sure what all the issues are)...
the advertising industry is not at all helpful in this.. it only project one image of what a beautiful woman should look like... that ****s a lot of women's heads..
So just keep reasuring her ... maybe ask her if each evening she can reveal a tiny bit more of her body before you turn the lights out... and you tell her how much each time that turns you on.... | |
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| 3 Years - Never Seen My Girlfriend Naked
Posted: 4/24/2008 5:29:34 AM | I would say, be honest,
Tell her u want her to see a therapist over it.its not 'normal' to be sooo insecure after 3 years. I think youve got to be cruel to be kind - Therapist or else.. the relationship ends. It might snap her out of it. I used to be like that with my first bf, but not anymore. its got to end sometime. | |
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| 3 Years - Never Seen My Girlfriend Naked
Posted: 4/24/2008 8:37:50 AM | | She needs therapy ......honestly. I'm not saying it in a mean way but if she is that insecure there is nothing you can do to convince her otherwise. You can help her along but only a therapist can really help her see how she is hurting herself by her actions. | |
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| 3 Years - Never Seen My Girlfriend Naked
Posted: 4/24/2008 9:57:42 AM | | I'd say dump that **** but I wouldn't be the first one to say that. I dunno how you can date someone that long; I stop talking to a girl if there's no sex by the 2-3rd date... Three YEARS?! | |
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| 3 Years - Never Seen My Girlfriend Naked
Posted: 4/24/2008 11:05:53 AM | There is a really good book called "The Body Sacred" by Dianne Sylvan. It is excellent for the insecure woman or even man for that matter that talks about how we view our bodies, how society dictates what we think and feel about ourselves..... You might wanna check that out for her and give it to her as a gift. If you read a bit of it yourself while at the bookstore, (if you are so inclined to get it) you might really like what the author is expressing and then you can honestly say to your girlfriend you found that book to be very interesting and thought provoking (which it is) and thought she might really enjoy it too. I suggest this book to many women I work with and so far the women love it and are slowly adopting new attitudes about themselves!
It's worth a shot seriously because IF that is your ONLY issue within a wonderful relationship then it can be worked on. Good luck mate, I hope all goes well for you!
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| 3 Years - Never Seen My Girlfriend Naked
Posted: 4/24/2008 2:03:05 PM | I'd say dump that **** but I wouldn't be the first one to say that. I dunno how you can date someone that long; I stop talking to a girl if there's no sex by the 2-3rd date... Three YEARS?! - SDBeachLifev2
If you'd clearly READ the OP's original post, you would be aware that sex is not the issue, it's that she won't let him see her naked.
Yes, you read that right. I've been dating a girl for three years and I've never seen her naked. She's unbelievably insecure, and for a long time I thought I could help her appreciate herself (I think she's gorgeous) and maybe get her to recognize that she has no reason to be so self-conscious.
But I can't take it anymore.
I feel like an ***hole, but I'm tired of waiting until after 9pm, when it's dark, and turning out all the lights to have sex. - Fission
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I truly believe that the OP cares about this girl, and he really does think that she's beautiful and he wants her to feel comfortable with herself. But if you read what he has said, he's told her these things for a reason. There is an underlying motive, and because he believes what he tells her doesn't mean the motive isn't there. He's trying to make her feel more comfortable about it. He's said that. Why. He told you why too. So she will feel comfortable enough to have sex with the light on. He's said that too. Can you see where there would be pressure? Can you see that maybe she can pick up on that?
Oh yah, last time I checked, a girlfriend sharing her body with you is a choice, not a boyfriends 'right'. - evermind
I do believe that putting that kind of pressure on someone is wrong. She is never going to be comfortable, secure & happy, if she
doesn't feel that he accepts her the way she is. And he doesn't. I understand that men are often "visual creatures", but this is a
little unreasonable, in my opinion.
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DUH!! Thanks for pointing that out, David...I don't always look at the profile. Having a girlfriend of 3 years and marital status as single, yeah that doesn't add up in my book either. - bucsgirl
Some people foreget (or don't realize) that there is a "Not single/Not looking" option. Others do not change it, until they decide
to get married. I also know several men who are actually divorced, but listed themselves as "single".
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Btw, I can't believe this thread is still going, after all this time! And the OP has left the building! I posted here last summer, after
a friend here, referred me to this thread. A woman (mentioning no names) who posts we both frequently followed, because she
was so funny, interesting & intelligent, mentioned that her former boyfriend wrote this thread about her. And she mentioned in
another thread, that she has had a sex-change. But she often doesn't tell people. She seems to think that since she does not
want children & does not date men with children or who want children, she is not required to disclose this info. While I can sort-
of see her point, I think it's an awfully big secret, to keep. I am not sure it's the right thing to do. | |
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PeterC
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| 3 Years - Never Seen My Girlfriend Naked
Posted: 4/24/2008 10:23:06 PM | | i can understand how she feels. i used to be the same way. though i never saw a reason why she should be so. for me it was because i'm a bbw. i would never let a guy see me totally nude. i'd wear some sort of lengerie. then i met a guy and we had a littlie fu i have notn in the pool. when he wanted to come over again he asked me to meet him wearing nothing but a robe. i told him i couldn't and explained why. he pointed out that he'd already seen me naked. so i did. it was very hard but i wanted to please him. but i have noticed that as bad as chicks are, guys are as bad when it comes to their **** size. | |
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