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Posted: 6/26/2006 3:59:35 PM | | OMG, I'm with KAOS, I didn't get past "I really don't". | |
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Posted: 6/26/2006 4:44:41 PM | People have different sexual drives. I don't think you should worry about it, unless you feel you're MISSING something. Then it could be a physical/phsycological problem.
Just look for someone who has a similar lower-level sexual drive, so she doesn't start to feel deprived. You can still be very happy, and make a woman happy, too.
Actually, the world would be a better place if everyone could come to terms with their own levels of sexuality before they pair up. I think it's very big of you to face it so early in your life.
I wish you well. | |
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Posted: 6/29/2006 7:49:31 AM | Several things come to mind.
1) You may be somewhat emotionally detached, or over-intellectual, which doesn't allow for a level of intimacy that would make sex enjoyable.
2) For sex to be good, there has to be a measure of letting go, and if you don't feel comfortable doing that, it can be a pretty hum-drum experience.
3) Lastly, if you have control issues, -- don't want to relinquish control, I mean -- that can definitely affect the level of enjoyment you achieve. | |
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Posted: 6/29/2006 9:02:59 AM | | mssge1- This is way more common than you think. The reason why it isn't talked about as often is because we are a sex based society and people are sometimes too ashamed to admit they do not enjoy sex so much. Keep on going there are many girls out there who would appreciate you exactly the way you are!!! Good luck to you! | |
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Posted: 6/29/2006 10:05:53 AM | | Medication??? some types of meds inhibit the sex drive and make sex very much so ....less exciting. | |
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Posted: 6/29/2006 6:29:15 PM | Go for a long walk in the forest sit down and ask "Yourself" why you don't like it. The only one that can truly answer is you.
You might have to do it a few times till you actually answer yourself honestly. | |
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Posted: 6/29/2006 8:22:03 PM | | Your not alone,but I think you do need to see a doctor to rule something out. If your not producing enough hormones for your age and/or you could have an a medical condition ( not sure what its called) that block you from becoming fully erect and producing strong orgasms. But you did say you don't like having sex. So, I not sure if the act of having sex is what bothers you. If that is the case. I don't know what to tell you man. You're only bet is to find someone who hate sex as much as you do... good luck with that | |
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Posted: 6/29/2006 8:44:54 PM | Are you my evil twin from the other demension?
Now I have someone to blame for my hormone overdrive. | |
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Posted: 6/29/2006 8:45:24 PM | | I kinda feel your pain. I have been finding picking up, dating, sex, the whole thing a little lackluster recently. Unlike yourself I'm not worried though. There are millions of women. I will just run down the whole damn list till I find one that interests me. | |
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Posted: 7/11/2007 10:46:06 AM | | I would suggest a prostate examination, toot-sweet. | |
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Posted: 7/11/2007 10:50:44 AM | Whats the problem? Think about it. Without a drive your entire life is yours to the fullest extent. I would not want it but you might as well make the best of it.
Go out and literally play with women and make them all friends. Go do cool things with or without any need for a woman EVER.
Never mind. That would suck. | |
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Posted: 7/11/2007 11:09:52 AM | I thought being asexual was the ability of a species to reproduce with themselves. This has mutated to humans? Man if that was the case then who would send the money to the single parents who need help? LOL who would pay child support? Oh no that would mean having to change the diapers by yourself always. Ralph Ralph.
Seriously a guy who doesn't like sex? Is this some kind of reverse pyschology thingy to increase dating chances? Maybe your just burned out from being a student? Maybe you met too many self-absorbed people eh? Ah the college days...................... | |
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Posted: 7/11/2007 11:53:38 AM | Low sex drive? I'm not sure if I'm jealous, or if I feel sorry for you, OP.
Man, I'd get a lot of work done! | |
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Posted: 7/11/2007 1:09:23 PM | | Sorry, Alpha. I know you were looking for INTELLIGENT responses. | |
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Posted: 7/11/2007 2:19:23 PM | | My best "guy friend" feels the same way you do. After years of playing in the biggest "playpen" possible--LA--he finally had his fill. In his mid-forties he made up his mind to stop having sex. (Too bad it was before I met him...He's in his early 50's now.) I kid him for being a "zen master". And torture him with my "exploits". Don't think yourself to be weird. You have your reasons and people should respect them. Period. | |
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Posted: 7/11/2007 2:59:51 PM | Oh my, sorry I guess calling celibate human beings ASEXUAL is INTELLIGENT after all. MY bad sorry oopsy.
ME apologize for me goofy humour today. | |
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Posted: 7/11/2007 3:18:10 PM | | From what I hear from several men I've met and chatted with, there are plenty of ex wives out there who also disdain sex and maybe you'll be lucky enough to hook up with one of them. | |
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Posted: 7/11/2007 6:32:48 PM | | Asexuallity is actually fairly common....but of course no one would want to speak of it at the office water-cooler. Have you been tested for Klinefelter's Syndrome? Basic biology class puts us into two classes....F=xx, M=xy. In K.S. the male is born with an extra F chromosone, hence he is an XXY. This may or may not dimminish his "man-hood" in some aspects, but usually a K.S. male's body does not produce testosterone. Stats say that between 1 in 500 to 1000 babies are born with this condition. Not going to go into all the details, you can Google it, but this might be another avenue to explore. | |
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Posted: 7/11/2007 6:42:59 PM | alpha i have the same problem as you do,
sex is ok, but it ain't on the top of my *most important* list right at this moment,
when I have had sex, it filled something then, but afterwards I was right back to where I was before I had sex.
If ya ever find an answer as to why alpha, could you let me know also?
thank you | |
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Posted: 7/11/2007 6:52:52 PM | You may need your mind to be more stimulated, meaning that regular foreplay might not cut it. Everyone has something in perticular (or more than one thing) that will sexualy arouse them. You need to find that one thing and build from there. Exploring/experementing beyond the "norm" - Ex. : Roleplaying.
Just a thought. | |
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Posted: 7/11/2007 6:55:46 PM | | You could have a fetish you just haven't explored. Some guys can't get off unless that particular fetish of theirs is entertained because "regular" sex is to boring for them. Try some various kinky stuff. | |
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Posted: 7/11/2007 8:22:54 PM | Hey Op I think that you being a deep thinker with various hobbies the problem might be that on a romantic level you ain't dating the right chics. You need a chic who is a deep thinker too with her own hobbies. I think you need somone who can converse with you at your level and stimulate your mind. When you meet this person all the rest will fall into place like love and great chemistry/sex.
So basically nerdy, artsy, scientific chics (who can show you love), who can dress up hot would be ideal for you, someone who isn't materialistic or flaky, or CLINGY and someone who respects your space for your intellectual interests and creativity. But at the same time someone who understands your thoughts and interests yet who can offer you a new perspective of things with her own intellectual concepts. Then in time you will want to share these interests together.
You need someones who INSPIRES you, a MUSE, then things will fall in place for ya.
Then you will be blown away in more ways then one.
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Posted: 7/11/2007 10:50:07 PM | Don't sweat it.
There are all different levels of libido.
The sexual monkey some of us carry on our back has some rewards but the same could be said for crack.
Enjoy your life, find some one with a compatable drive and be happy.  | |
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Posted: 7/11/2007 10:59:27 PM | I just had to take a peek at your profile OP, and whilst reading through it, I almost choked on my vegemite sandwich.
I won't be manipulated through sex is what I found, along with a huge spread of negativity towards women.What type of women do you attract? You admitted in your profile that the longest your relationships last is one week.
I'm honestly starting to think that you are trying to force yourself to be with a woman. Make what you like with that statement. So much negativity!
Oops! Didn't realize this is yet another thread that's almost a year old......What's with digging up these old wounds around the joint lately? | |
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Posted: 7/11/2007 11:17:22 PM | Egocentric jerk looking for cheap fling ...this is the title of your profile. i won't be redundant but i also noted the equating sex with manipulation as discovered by the above poster, also in your profile. You say you are intelligent, you want intelligent responses, you've had the full range of diagnostic possiblities offered to you.
So, eithe r figure it out because only you have the full range of information that pertains to you to decide what is applicable, go to a specialist who can rule out medical complications, don't make it a big issue and work upon the rest of your life, make it a big issue and deal with the "control/manipulation" perception, stop getting sidetracked by porn (if applicable, you may have conditioned your body to uni-sex w/o need for a partner) , realize you are still YOUNG and there's probably a lot else on your mind, and/ or experience good or bad luck with the women you attract with this thread, as well as those you attract with the way you worded your profile.
Well, maybe one more....become less intelligent and attract the calibre of woman that might offer you trust, friendship, companionship, nurturing, and as a result of all that--a higher level sexual experience. One that comes from the heart maybe. The mind has a way of making excuses for or rationalizing away some of our choices or the way in which we attract what we say we DON'T want.
Good luck (with it all)!  | |
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