| hot girls - would you date them?
Posted: 6/26/2006 3:04:46 PM | | I used to only want to date them. Not all of them are arrogant, but a majority are stuck up. I put too much compromises on what I was looking for. A lot of "hot" girls are probably really overconfident, rich and spoiled, and probably only care about themself and their looks. Not all of them are like this, but the one's who only think like this will be really "hot" in hell where their good looks and snotty attitude will quickly disappear and they'll be punished forever. Women who are really "hot" are the one's who don't look down on anybody or the world and can accept everyone the way they are. They may have back up from their friends when they giggle or snicker negatively about you but their friends probably won't be there forever. Labelling someone as "hot" is just the lust of the flesh. Alot of other people won't think they are hot the way you do. Beauty is only skin deep, meaning true beauty is on the inside and someone who you think is beautiful is someone you'll always feel happy around. | |
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| hot girls - would you date them?
Posted: 6/26/2006 3:14:53 PM | - "hot" is just the lust of the flesh -
its more than that, its using "the flesh" to do the attracting.
I'm attracted to girls who make me laugh, or intrigue me | |
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| hot girls - would you date them?
Posted: 6/26/2006 3:44:20 PM | Raised a family, am now divorced.
At my age I can't be too picky if I want to hook up, but at this stage in my life, I don't need a significant-other to make me feel complete. So for hookup purposes, I be lookin for a hottie, at least my version as seen through my eyes.
I know, it's just the package, but that's a good place to start.
Unless she puts a spell on me, I'd just as soon stay unattached. If she & I are with each other only because we're the best either of us can do at the moment, we're both wasting our time.
And by the way, "hottie" is age exclusive. An attractive girl in her 40's, 50's or higher who has experienced life - now that's hot! | |
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| hot girls - would you date them?
Posted: 6/26/2006 5:24:08 PM | ..on the way to work yesterday I ran across three rather rude girls. In the subway, in the stations, they have seats designed for 2 people. I sat in one. a "hot" girl came in and sat beside me. Of course, right behind her, were her friends (as though a hot girl would ever be without her friends) one of whom slid in between me and her.
ok...I don't see a problem at this point. Looks like a major opportunity to me..what puzzles me is that you reference these girls as being "rude"...yet they were coming over to sit with you.
I got up, right away, and started to walk away...
This is very confusing to me. Uh, why would you do that? Not really a brilliant move, in my opinion. I am almost certian that [italics]they[/italics] thought that very rude of you...why do I say this with certainty?...something you said in this next statement:
I held my tounge. as I was leaving one said "maybe he's gay" and sounded all serious about it.
you said that she "sounded all serious about it...". Well the likelihood of her thinking that, based on your description of the event is pretty good that she was serious...and all three of them likely thought it was very rude of you to, in addition to not saying anything (you stated you "held your tounge") just get up and leave without saying a word.
How would you feel if you saw an attractive woman and
(provided you are single and looking), you went over and sat down next to her..and she looked at you, and without saying a word, gets up and moves away? At the very least...most would feel disappointed, and depending on ones level of self esteem, would in varying degrees feel hurt. The next thought you would likely have would be ,"gee..that was rather rude". Unless of course, the timing was off and she happened to be preparing to get off at the next stop.
What continues to puzzle me is this: If you thought this girl was "hot", why the heck did you move away? I, and most other men would seize the moment, start a conversation with her, and maybe throw on the charm a little bit. If she seems interesting and you'd like to get to know her, in this particular scenario, be sure to inquire where she is headed so you can get her number before she exits at her stop.
I hope you are receiving this the way it is intended, simply to point out that your perceptions stood in your way this time and you made judgments based on some imaginary preconceived notion that if you think a girl is "hot" , it automatically means she thinks you are a dork and not interested in you. This is faulty thinking. Stop it.
If you think a girl is "hot" then clearly you are attracted to her physically...and if that is the case, take the next logical step and introduce yourself and engage conversation. You may find her to be annoying, or a major w a c k - j o b that forgot to take her psych maintainance meds that day....OR -- you may very well find her highly entertaining, interesting, smart, funny, etc. Ya just never know. One thing is certian without a doubt, and sure, you can quote me on this: You will not ever end up with a girl you consider attractive and interesting if you continue making assumptions based on faulty thinking.
Be bold, and be fearless when approching women who catch your eye. Rid yourself of any fear of rejection you may have and go for it. Think about it. What's the worse that could happen?
I hope this information is helpful to you. What I hope for you is that the next time I see a post from you on this forum, it will be in the testimonials section.
Best of luck to you in your search...and that goes for everyone on this site who are looking. | |
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| hot girls - would you date them?
Posted: 6/26/2006 5:35:06 PM | Most of my friends (girls and guys) are 'hot' and not one of them is arrogant...
I also know some 'unhot' people who love to socialize...
You are basing this on one encounter??
BTW, I don't complain that I am single... | |
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| hot girls - would you date them?
Posted: 6/26/2006 6:24:05 PM | Oh, to be young and have such problems.
You were made to feel uncomfortable because three attractive females wanted to sit down.
Would you have stayed put if you didn't find them "hot"?
I don't for a minute believe you felt them rude, rather you felt discomfiture because you were attracted to them.
Plain & simple, you were nervous because you were attracted to them and are hurt because they smelt your fear and called you on it.
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| hot girls - would you date them?
Posted: 6/26/2006 6:25:09 PM | yeah most hot girls well 'divas' are nuts, but don't worry you aren't missing anything, they are terrible and always go for bad guys and get cheated and hurt all the time.
So in the end they might be hot but they also have nothing else to offer in life.
Now cute and sweet = greatness.
Girls that think they are in hollywood or something, just stay away from them they don't know what the real world is. | |
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| hot girls - would you date them?
Posted: 6/26/2006 11:13:58 PM | Well usually it isn't really a question of wether or not I will date them, it's if they'll date me.
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| hot girls - would you date them?
Posted: 6/26/2006 11:26:12 PM | Hot can be a state of mind or can be a legend in ones own mind.
If someone is bright. savvy, considerate, and full of life, and exudes energy and confidence while still looking great and natural, then yes....never a question.
If someone is artificial, rude, overly made up in a bad way, caught up in themselves and their own perceived importance and sexuality.......then it would not matter how good they looked.....they are ugly and wear that "aviod at all costs" banner.
There are lots of both kinds around. | |
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| hot girls - would you date them?
Posted: 6/26/2006 11:27:53 PM | Sweets....bad people are everywhere, and they come in all forms...from what you described, I am picturing these rude creatures as being no more mature than High School wanna be divas...please have faith that any self-respecting woman would never treat Anyone like that....HOT OR NOT...and if I may take it a point further, in my opinion, it takes more than what you look like to be considered truly HOT!!
PS..Never hold the punches...Swing Away!!! | |
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| hot girls - would you date them?
Posted: 6/27/2006 4:25:23 AM | "You are basing this on one encounter??"
oh... hell no.
this is accumilated over years, especially since I've moved to the city, usually on the subway. These girls with this "you have to like me because of my sex" attidude who walk around and show off thier bodies. Sorry girls, if I was looking for someone (and I'm not) I would not be looking for someone who's "sexy". that's shallow. I'd look for someone I can talk to. Maybe these girls are smary, but they dont give me that impression. | |
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| hot girls - would you date them?
Posted: 6/27/2006 4:52:52 AM | | what I ESPECIALLY hate and what REALLY makes me mad is this idea propogated by these "hot" women who slut around in nearly nothing is that, because I'm a male, I HAVE to be attracted by sexiness, and that if I'm not that there's therefore SOMETHING WRONG with me. that for a 21 year old man to say no to a "Sexy" and "hot" girl MUST therefore mean I'm gay. I HATE people who think this way and that's why I HATE these hot girls!!!! | |
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| hot girls - would you date them?
Posted: 6/27/2006 5:17:56 AM | Hot Girls - would you date them? Of Course, if I did not think they were hot, there would be no interest.
The mistake I do not make is walking around expecting all women to like me. I am 50 and male, so I have no problem with these "hot" women running around with nearly nothing on. I get a laugh when they give you that "What are you looking at, you dirty old pervert look". Put it out there and it is for everyone to look at.
My point being who cares what they think? The world is full of different people, hot or not, there are all kinds in every catagory. You seemed to have picked a catagory, and decided each one of them are the same. Again, at 50 I know a few "hot" young women, that dress sexy. Not for dating, but they treat me with respect and we have some nice conversations.
At 21 you have some issues you need to work on. "Hot" women are not the problem, how you perceive them is. You need to work on that! | |
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| hot girls - would you date them?
Posted: 6/27/2006 5:29:10 AM | So lets see here, Three woman YOU describe as hot, get on the train,(subway) with you, try to squeeze into seats that were built for two, even ask you to stay, and you get up and walk away, without getting to know them at all...?? But you come on a dating website forum , and complain .....??? Tink, Tink,,,,,hold on, I'm checking my gaydar also........
Open up guy. And your stereotypical response on this site, where lots of woman will read your post, isn't winning you any points either.......
Here is a hint for ya....... Dont judge by looks, try to socialize a little, at least while trying to find someone, Lose the snobby attitude towards people better looking.
Otherwise, think you should be asking yourself., " Am I gay".? and try your local gay bar to find out if that makes you happier than sitting next to three hot woman....u just never know.... | |
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| hot girls - would you date them?
Posted: 6/27/2006 5:55:17 AM | One of those "hot girls" is the mother of my children. It was such an ego trip to be with this woman that every man coveted. One of the managers at work once told me it must be great to have some centerfold with you. She would wear these very short skirts and very high heels... and I would swear every man would look at her... WHAT an EGO trip!
Well she was arrogant as hell. And at 39 she decided to test how hot she still was by having a affair 19 year old lover destroying the family. And she had some tude all because of the way she looked, because she knew that men were constantly wanting her. Hell I would be walking down bayshore with her and guys would be honking their horns and yelling out the window when I was with her. Yea like I said she was quite the ego trip. And she is still the best looking 40 year old woman that I know. The only problem is that when I see her now, the ugly underneath comes through. | |
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| hot girls - would you date them?
Posted: 6/27/2006 8:32:36 AM | | I agree 100% Nicky. But then HOT girls need to be with HOT guys..isnt it.Water finds its own level. Thier NOT my type and not yours. Different strokes !!! | |
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| hot girls - would you date them?
Posted: 6/27/2006 9:35:14 AM | I know alot of people disagree, but some see my point. Those who do see what I'm talking about, that "hotness" is much more about personality than it is about looks.
I shall now provide an example:
which one of these girls is "hot"
A- http://www.celebsinc.com/pictures/JessicaAlba/nude/jessica_alba_004.jpg
B- http://www.collectionscanada.ca/obj/h4/f1/17-v3.jpg
the answer, is B.
while Jessica Alba is better looking than Kim Campbell, in picture B the implication is that Kim is nude. | |
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| hot girls - would you date them?
Posted: 6/27/2006 8:12:02 PM | | ive come across both personalities, i wouldnt say all are like that but it is out there, some are just naturally rude, attention seekers and obnoxious just like anyone, but then some are sweet and caring, its all about finding the right ones | |
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| hot girls - would you date them?
Posted: 6/27/2006 8:38:44 PM | "That's when the third friend said "come on, wouldent you like to sit on a bench with three hot girls" and they all laughed.
Right there I would have replied with "sure, do you know any?" | |
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| hot girls - would you date them?
Posted: 6/28/2006 8:20:40 PM | Are you kidding me?
To sit there and say all hot girls are arrogant, attention seeking, airheads is like saying all guys with a teddy bear in their profile have a stick shoved so far up their a$$ that it has cut off the circulation to their brain. Ok, bad example. You may be right. | |
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| hot girls - would you date them?
Posted: 6/29/2006 5:56:43 AM |
not all attractive girls are "hot". I'm talking about the girls who flaunt thier "sexyness" weather or not they are attractive. being "hot" has more to do with the way you act than the way you look.
girls, girls, girls he is talking about GIRLS.....not women! Getting on the Subway in groups of threes, pushing their way onto a seat that doesn't have room for them, then making rude comments....yep sure sounds like a bunch of girls.
I think your ideas of "hotties" will change with age, you will find yourself calling them "beautiful and sexy". A WOMAN can only be told she is hot, beautiful, pretty or sexy so many times without it meaning anything. Once you get past that teenage mantellity and women get older they want men (actually men and women) to see the inner beauty. If you don't have the inner beauty to go with the outside, it is all wasted. | |
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| hot girls - would you date them?
Posted: 6/29/2006 11:08:56 AM | Let me see if I have this right. Feel free to correct me if I am not fully understanind you.
1. "Hot" girls are arrogant. Thank you for classifying all "hot" women as one type of person. The opening lines of your post are a great indicator of what "insight" is surely to come.
2. "Hot" girls have impossible standards. First I'd like to thank the hot girls of the world for having standards. And second I'd like to take this moment to point out that since "hot" girls are indeed hooking up with people and even *gasp* getting married, their standards can't by definition be "impossible." Just because they didn't jump your bones the moment they saw you doesn't actually say much about their standards.
3. Socializing is an impossible standard? Good freaking god.
4. The "real" world. I guess this comment would be you indicating that "hot" girls are stupid or shallow. And thusly not interested in current events or what not. Shall we compare IQs? I'm not saying I'm one of these "hot" girls. But I would really like to know what the hell you're talking about. It seems someone, not naming names (YOU), has bought too much into the pop culture of bimbos and brainless model types. Having a "hot" body and face doesn't actually preclude someone from having a mind. If you don't believe me call Dr. Bob at Harvard's Relationship Department*. He'll set you straight.
5. The idea that "hot" people expect you to want them. I'm sure with your amazing mind reading abilities you are able to determine what women are actually thinking. By god you're mel gibson in a boring romantic comedy. How many millions of times has a "hot" person passed you and not bothered to make any indication that they expected you to "want" them. Those examples are not posted. Instead let us discuss the few times you "felt" not knew, but felt that some hot person expected desire from you.
Eh. Really now people. Has it come to this? Every other thread seems to be about how this or that type of person are stupid/liars/cheaters/arrogant whatever broad generalization we care to throw out.
I have a news flash. Your personal experiences are not representative of the billions of experiences happening around you every day. They are yours. And by cataloging everyone in your narrow views and opinions you only serve to present your ignorance to the world. | |
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