| my daughter is 22, gorgeous, epileptic.......and addicted to cocaine..............
Posted: 2/26/2005 8:32:56 PM | | Dear Lady, Please know that my heart goes out to you as my son had a very bad drug habit and was in dire straights for quite awhile. He was hooked on crack and anything he could get hold of. He was always a very respectful kid but after the drugs he would curse his mother (my ex-wife) and I with no thought. He refused help with his problem so I tried to convince his mother to let me get him arrested on a minor offence (I have connections) and that way, once he was in the system they would require him to go through drug rehab. His mother was too protective (no slam intended as nothing compares to a mother's love) and refused to cooperate. He went on to later be arrested on several felony charges and did time in prison. The good news is that he did complete his required programs and got out in just one year. The only problem is that he now carries a felony record. He is doing good and wants to help others so that they won't make the same mistake he did. My concern now is that we just lost his twenty three year old brother to a brain tumor. His funeral was a week ago today. I just pray that he doesn' fall back on his crutch. Best wishes to you and please hang in there. Tough love and prayer is ofter the best solution. | |
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| my daughter is 22, gorgeous, epileptic.......and addicted to cocaine..............
Posted: 2/26/2005 8:48:55 PM | | I've abused just about every drug I could get my hands on for 20 years. The only thing that stopped me was going to prison. While locked up I went through a 9 month treatment program. 274 days straight, 7 days a week, 16 hours of programing a day. Only then did I decide to take things seriously. She won't stop until she wants to, and sometimes it takes more than a mother wants it to for the person involved to take a look at themselves. If you want to help her, get someone who knows what they're doing to talk to her. There are counselors who will tell her how it is. For me, I had to be physically taken out of that world and be locked up. I'm not saying thats what it will take for your daughter, but she needs to see things from a different perspective. | |
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| my daughter is 22, gorgeous, epileptic.......and addicted to cocaine..............
Posted: 2/27/2005 7:57:23 AM | thank you all so much for your advice, concern and support.....i know i have a hard row to hoe ahead of me........i did get to see my daughter yesterday, the visit was like an unexpected oasis in a dry spell, i actually got to hold my little girl in my arms again....and stroke her hair .......just as i did when she was younger........i know drugs change a person, heck, growing up changes us too.......but somewhere deep inside of her is that little girl that i raised......some of you seem to think she still lives at home....she is 22, and she lives in the same town i do, but she does not live with me.....i do not support her or financially enable her in any way........and i did my best to instill good values and a respect for authority in her.......but as most of you know, when a child becomes a young adult,they have to experiment with thier boundaries, they sometimes take things to the limit because they can......this doesnt mean they dont eventually settle down.........i pray she will, and i believe yesterdays visit was a result of the prayers of so many of you wonderful people.........thank you from the bottom of my heart.........taking one day at a time.......... | |
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| my daughter is 22, gorgeous, epileptic.......and addicted to cocaine..............
Posted: 2/27/2005 4:49:54 PM | I live this hell every day with my 22 year old son who I thought I'd raised better. He's not technically epileptic but he is seizure prone since a fall and severe blow to the head a few years ago. He's had a total of 3 grand mal seizures and is on depakote. I'm currently trying to investigate the affects of depakote on behavior because since he's been on the depakote he has had a total personality change... what do you think of this? Do you think it could be the medications?
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| my daughter is 22, gorgeous, epileptic.......and addicted to cocaine..............
Posted: 2/27/2005 5:11:19 PM | Check out "Vagas Nerve Stimulator" Your Neurologist will know about it. It reduces siesures befor they start. Also get her into a rehab program for adolescents for the Cocain problem.
My daughter was hooked on Methamphitemines and I saved her life by supporting her in a Group Rehab Program.
God Bless & Good Luck. DO IT NOW!  | |
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| my daughter is 22, gorgeous, epileptic.......and addicted to cocaine..............
Posted: 2/27/2005 5:29:49 PM | | the women in my family have a genetic disorder called juvenile myclonic epilepsy.........we usually outgrow it as we reach adulthood....my daughter had spinal meningitas when she was 6 months old and went into a coma.......lasting side effect of this was that she never outgrew the epiepsy....she has petit mals, grand mals, and the scariest, status seizures, often in her sleep...........dialantin causes worse seizures, and there have been several other drugs they tried her on that did cause her to have violent mood swings.......the depakote has been a lifesaver for her...........the only side effect we have noticed is her hair is not as thick as it used to be........but it also causes severe birth defects if she were to get pregnant.....it could be the depakote that causes your sons behaviour, tango, or it could be whatever is causing the seizures..........if there is some sort of synapse in the brain, it can cause this...........my daughter is with the epileptic foundatin here in fla.........they are very informative about the medications available.......good luck and your in my prayers | |
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Posted: 2/27/2005 7:43:39 PM | juvenile myclonic epilepsy??
OMG...I had mild seizures when I was a baby but outgrew them...never was diagnosed...bet this is what it was...my youngest also had em...fell and hit her head when she was 3...caused damage in an area of her brain and when she hit puberty, she went into her first grand mal because of a medication for bodylice... (gift from her father and his girlfriend). She has been on meds ever since....one of the side effects is major tooth decay/loss...and I believe anything you put in your body wil cause side effects...count on it.
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| my daughter is 22, gorgeous, epileptic.......and addicted to cocaine..............
Posted: 2/27/2005 7:45:50 PM | Hey...........................I know what you are going through...at least somewhat!!!
Don't let go....she needs help and needs to help herself first. My brother...oh...the horror of watching a seizure....he over medicated himself many times....blood everywhere from the falls. He was VERY suicidal...he didnt want to live being epileptic.
so...let me know..we can chat directly....you have support!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1
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Joined: 5/13/2005
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| my daughter is 22, gorgeous, epileptic.......and addicted to cocaine..............
Posted: 10/28/2005 5:30:56 AM | Hi Lady.
I'm 23,a single mother of 2 children and i suffer severe epilepsy.My siezures have always come in patterns,and there has always been a reason as to why i have a grand mal siezure.wether it be i'm not well,i havn't eaten...etc.Lately my siezures have became really bad and i have been put onto a new type of medication....Keppra.I have been on the same medication since my epilepsy started,6 years ago.I am having severe side affects to these new tablets.I have become depressed,angry,upset for no reason.i could go on.
But one thing i have found.My family are very supportive and my mom has given up work to help me.But still i feel alone.I know i am not but as much as my family love me,they have no idea how hard it is for me.As i said,i'm 23,i went through a bad relationship with my ex so i am now a single mother.I suffer severe epilepsy,I suffer panic attacks,side affects from my coctail of medication and all the time,i am looking around seeing everybody around me getting on with there every day life.without knowing,taking everything for granted.
There have been times when i have felt my children and everyone around me,would be better off without me.I have thought about ways to escape but there isn't one.I can understand why you daughter has turned to drugs.Whilst she is high on cocaine,she is no longer the 22 year old epileptic she is known as by many people.All you can do is stick by her.By the sound of it you are doing an excellent job as it is.She just needs to get it into her head that cocaine is going to kill her in the end.I'm sorry for putting that so bluntly but as you probably know already,When you are on medication for a long time,the drugs can affect your liver.Taking cocaine aswell as her anti-epilepsy drugs is only going to make things worse.But hey,you know all this,its convincing your daughter.
Does she want to start a family?
The medication i am on can cause defects in children.I became pregnant with my son by accident.The doctors monitored my pregnancy and my son was born perfectly(apart 6 toes on each foot).It can be done with the right medical support.
I really do,from the bottom of my heart,wish you all the luck in the world.I hope that your daughter gets better and gets off the drugs.It will take time but with the support from a wonderful mother like you,i'm sure she will do it.
Keep up the good work and let me know how things go.
Take care,Shelbe xx | |
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| my daughter is 22, gorgeous, epileptic.......and addicted to cocaine..............
Posted: 10/28/2005 6:22:02 PM | Hey Ladydi....I certainly am no expert but I did see an episode on TV about drug addicts. A 20 year old who was on cocaine and anything else he could his hands on. He became verbally and physically abusive at home with his parents and his siblings, had an "I don't care" attitude about him, he looked exhausted, no one could talk any sense into him. He was picked up and taken to a rehab center, fighting every inch of the way, yelling he hated his parents for what they were doing. A terrible scene. However he did recover, got his own personality back, looked healthy, and thanked his parents for saving his life.
You and your daughter are in my prayers. | |
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| my daughter is 22, gorgeous, epileptic.......and addicted to cocaine..............
Posted: 10/28/2005 8:07:43 PM | | Never let go.........I am 14 years clean and if my parents would have let go, I would have been GONE....I had to attend 6 rehabs in 3 countries for 6 years before I was ' saved ' so please stick with her. Just think of what it would be without her for the rest of your life and then ask yourself ....IF YOU SHOULD LET GO ? We both know the answer, I think. I also think that looking to God can help alot of the time, and if you can't turn to God, turn to a higher being than ourselves...Love her unconditionally.....Be with her as much as humanly possible...and above all.......NEVER let go.............Take care & God be with you, Joseph | |
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| my daughter is 22, gorgeous, epileptic.......and addicted to cocaine..............
Posted: 10/29/2005 2:09:51 AM | Maybe it's the epilepsy mixed with depression that makes her want to take cocaine. She doesn;t seem stupid I'm sure she knows what effect it is having on her with this condition she has. As a young woman I can imagine slightly how bad she must feel having the seizures etc needing valium and depakote to try and ease things. I feel for her cos I'm sure this affects the things she can and can't do in general life and I'd find that frustrating and also she is at the age where she would probably want a guy and the fact that something medical is dictating whether she will ever be able to have children or not must be awful for her. But then again I too am a mother and to see my baby going through this would tear me apart. It doesn't matter if she is 2 or 22 she is still your child. I would be there everyday coming back like a bad penny and I'd tell her the day I gave birth to u is the day I dedicated my life to u and that will remain the same whilst we are here on this planet. Get the pistachio icecream out and ask her about her feelings and what does she hope to achieve from the cocaine and whether when she has come back down anything has changed. Is it just escapism does it make her forget for even 5 mins how bad she feels about things or what?
I hope nothing I have said has upset u and maybe I'm saying nothing new. I never had an addiction to drugs but have taken them in the past recreationally and other times just to try and blot out how depressed I felt. But that was like a lifetime ago like they say u could be in a room with 100 ppl and still feel alone but now I look at the glass half full and hopefully some day soon she will see the same. I don't know the answers really diff things work for diff ppl maybe she doesn need hard love and her brother to go to her and tell her what he thinks about her behaviour I'm not sure. Good luck and god bless xjx | |
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Posted: 10/29/2005 7:31:55 AM | It sounds to me like your daughter may have other problems like depression going on. I had mild eplisepsy as a teen and went to drugs ONCE to try and heal the depression I had because i couldnt live a normal life. The drugs did not do a damn thing to help me so I now steer clear of any drugs or drug users to stop the temptation :S
I agree with HAHANOW, get her commited it will help her get better. | |
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Posted: 11/15/2005 4:49:08 AM | Cocaine is the 5 years of hell withdrawl drug.Expect a:recovery for which she is responsible.
(you have no control of her addiction or epileptic condition.She uses the physical to excuse the chemical and her outer beauty helps her use.
Neurological misfires like hers,combines w/cocaine or meth are potentiontaly deadly every use.
I work in this area.
a:intervention(your bags are packed,everyone affected by your addiction is here to tell you how.Then you are leaving;get help,or die.If you refuse to get help at least I don't have to watch.)
Cruel,is it not.Cruler to watch her sink from addict to coke-whore,to death.
one of those ,only one,will happen.Contact C.A.as she will have a better chance(and not a good chance) in a 12 step situation."Treatment" plilosophy is less effective and it confuses by contradicting the only(yes only)way she can escape(defer even the gratification of feeling normal for 5 years minimum).
this is her problem-you are also sick.C.A. will refer you to their version of Alanon.Go to both.
Her life depends on people loving her'till she can love herself.
Every time you beg her to quit,promise her material reward for non-use you make her disease more powerful.
You may hate me because I didn't have /show sympathy/empathy.
I've also been there and there is no time for warm fuzzies.And only she can chose;life or death.
If you need specific help,I'm here for you.Only the addict can decide to help herself.God loves her:He won't help her in this as we may want.A desire to desire is step 1.rsvp/tough love is your role.(really,please inform me -I probably know something not mailed. | |
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Posted: 11/15/2005 6:10:13 AM | Hey,
In my opinion she is having problems with her identity and couse for living, as with drugs (coke) she become someone else, at least she thinks she does. She doesnt like having epilepsy and people around her may not be as good and positive as you think. You can tell her that its better having epilepsy from birth and dont know how is to be healthy until of age of 15 and then get the epileptic seisures. I am 30 now and there is 15 years behind me as epileptic with grand mal seisures. I take Apilepsin 300mg (french medication imported in Slovenia) and I have 1-2 seisures a year, without medication I have 50+ seisures a year. I'we also read about an electronic device which was developed in USA to help control unpredicted and hard to control seisures. I had similiar problems with epilepsy but not with hard drugs. I do smoke marihuana from a time to time as I dont drink alcohol at all and it helps me relax, watch a movie or some Star Trek series and to forget my problems for an hour or two. I found my couse and identity with computers. As I had problems leaving my house I now work from home. I had problems getting friends or a girlfriend as topic having an epilepsy was not realy a popular theme. People are affraid of me, doesnt want problems that I might couse etc.... It is hard having this disorder but there is nothig I can do about it and she must to realize this to. When she will realize that living as an epileptic isnt so bad and having some hobbies to put in for a couse. As I sad I do computers, history, science, astronomy, music, etc... Sending her to rehabilitation would be just sending her away and she would probably think that as thou she have problems finding friends and romance that the people that are most near her dont love her as she maybe thought about it that would be even worse. It would be a challenge to talk to her and answering her questions as showing her a different point of view, alternative routes. If she would like to talk with someone like her she can find my profile on this website. As for conclusion I found a lot of friends here, I even met some of them that live in Europe and we never talked about epilepsy as I know the response. Just tell her that you love her and that you would like to help her going through that period of her life, bring some of her friends and just talk with her.
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| my daughter is 22, gorgeous, epileptic.......and addicted to cocaine..............
Posted: 11/15/2005 6:46:14 AM |  hi i am tricia when i was reading your story it was like reading a story about me with a few exceptions IM 27 and in many ways resimble your daughter in our lives i have 5 types od siezures both epaleptic and non epaleptic grandmal,pettite mal,complex partial,clonecktoneck,and now they say I have stress related siezures called suto siezures
I also had spinal menangitus when i was 14 day old my mom says that a dr told her years later
that since it takes that paticuler kind of spinal menangytis 14 days to develop i had to have got it in the nursery at the hospital and thats why my siezures are so bad also i had 3 siezures before i was 8 months old that lasted over an hour and 30 minutes each my mom tells me all the time its a mirecal i can even walk or talk or read on my own but i am writing to tell you what me and your daughter live with and why it is very tempting to turn to the drugs or for me i turned to weed and alcahol though ive quit the weed now and hardly ever drink i did turn too them for awhile because it made me forget all the things i couldn't do like drive I also am taking 750mg of depakote twice a day so I too can't have kids of my own even though ive had thier names picked out since i was 13yrs old the drugs and the alcahol made me a normal person for a short time i could do anythingevery morning i wake up and think about what (I WANT TO DO ) AND WHAT I CAN DO BECAUSE OF MY SIEZURES it is hard
but don't give up on your daughter being that age and not being able to drive or even take a bath by yourself is almost tramatising Hated my sister when she got her first car and my dad taught her how too drive she grew out of her pettiete mal siezures and got her licence i must take the bus we feel like we can't do anything and even some of the people we thought were our friends will shy away from us the first time we have a siezure around them or even mention it somtimes i feel like a tottal outcast and i sometimes go into denile and don't tell people even boyfriends have dumped me when they found out it was hard for my mom I know because I rebeled for awhile i hid my pills in my poket and didn't take them you must tell her you are there for her and offer to help her even though she may turn you away tell her you love her and that you two caan work through this living with epalepsy can be very hard and now I fight panic attacks and depression but I have started going to church 2 weeks in a row now and for the first time in my life i am reading the bible and I am feeling better emotionaly I used to blame everything that was wron with me on god so it was hard to go to church it is hard to open my heart to him after 27 years of hated him but i am trying maybe you and maybe your daughter should go to a church or maybe you can talk to me if you want | |
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| my daughter is 22, gorgeous, epileptic.......and addicted to cocaine..............
Posted: 11/15/2005 7:11:52 AM | hi its me tricia again i wanted to tell you that the dylantin also made me have non stop siezures and zorountin made me have terible mood swings too my mom said i became a real bit-- but there is another thing that i thought you should know about i am getting a sizure response dog and thogh they cannot train the dog to be a siezure alert dog some dog do pick up the ability of knowing before the person has the siezure the difference between being a siezure response do ( the dog goes with you everywhere as normal and pushes a button to call who ever you want it to call if you are at home and is a familier face and will bark and lick or nudge you to make you come out of it when you are away it also wears a vest that says what it is so if you have one people know what is going on and can get help my dogs vest also has a poket that carries my medical infor medications amount and so on )A SIEZURE ALERT DOG:(WILL ALERT YOU BERFORE THE SIEZURE HITS MY MOM RESCUED A BASSET HOUND NAMED HOMER WHO TOOK TO ME RIGHT AWAY AND WE SOON FOUND OUT HE POSSESED THIS LIFE SAVING TALENT) HE WILL STAND IN FRONT OF ME IF I AM WALKING AND JUMP UP ON ME AND BARK AT ME UNTIL I SIT DOWN THEN HE WILL RUN TO FIND MY PARENTS AND BARK AT THEM AND RUN TO ME AND NUGE ME WITH HIS HEAD WHILE LICKING ME AND BARKING HE has alerted my parents when i had ones in my sleep and he will let me rub his ears or kinda hold him tight if i grab him while in the siezure this alerting before hand cannot be taught but the siezure response dog was a great help it gave me so much indapendence and people weren't afraid of me any more and the dog i had the first time was a constant companion and always made me laugh so it might do your daughter good to try and sign her up too unfortunatly my first dog named star dien of cancer but im now working on geting a new one from this same organazation they were great when the dog got sick they come down in the middle of the night and got her and paid for all the vet bills and started looking for me a new healthy dog as soon as they knew nothing cood be done the organization is called K9crossroads they have a web page online the head man there is suan
he is terrific just email him off the web page and tell him tricia sent you but you will have to get her into therapy for the drugs first but maybe the dog will be a motavational focal point it is for me every day when i get up i can't wait to hear more about her the one im probly getting is on the web page her name is foxy lady check her out | |
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| my daughter is 22, gorgeous, epileptic.......and addicted to cocaine..............
Posted: 11/15/2005 7:42:01 AM | | Addictions are self-inflicted, and no one can MAKE them stop short of a jail cell and cold turkery (my preferred method). Also, they are obviously not the only ones being hurt by their addiction. When I was in a situation where someone I cared for wasn't listening to reason, or anything else except the phone to ring when the dealer called, I left a not for them to see, "SHAPE UP OR SHIP OUT. I WON'T WATCH YOU DIE" | |
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