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| my daughter is 22, gorgeous, epileptic.......and addicted to cocaine..............
Posted: 11/15/2005 7:42:01 AM | | Addictions are self-inflicted, and no one can MAKE them stop short of a jail cell and cold turkery (my preferred method). Also, they are obviously not the only ones being hurt by their addiction. When I was in a situation where someone I cared for wasn't listening to reason, or anything else except the phone to ring when the dealer called, I left a not for them to see, "SHAPE UP OR SHIP OUT. I WON'T WATCH YOU DIE" | |
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| my daughter is 22, gorgeous, epileptic.......and addicted to cocaine..............
Posted: 11/15/2005 7:52:10 AM | | wow angel thats a hard one but i've seen my mom on crack i know the come down is hard its like they have a diff/ life in them you want to hold them yet when you step to them they blow up.my mom and i sat down i asked her to get help cause it hurt me to deal with it she never wanted help just thinking of the drug.so i had to do whats best and..showed her my love by walking away..now this is my mom.so it was hard each time she got high i talked to her on her LV so no anger is tossed out..i told her how i felt the pain it hurt me and we can go to a NA meeting together so she slowing went off the drug.but it takes steps it takes love and it takes...a hell of a lot of fighting just don't get in her face when shes coming down just let her deal with that on her own god-bless you and her.. | |
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| my daughter is 22, gorgeous, epileptic.......and addicted to cocaine..............
Posted: 11/16/2005 2:33:00 PM | Hi, I beleive In can provide you some insight because I've been there before.
I am Nineteen and I had an experience with Crack/Cocaine at the age of 18 that left me horribly addicted. It was a social outlet type of thing and I could go every week with a pretty large sum . BUT ONCE A WEEK ONLY. ANYONE that tried to tell me that I was being dumb or otherwise was immediately marked " Stupid" In my eyes, Because they've never done it before, and they don't understand a damn thing about it.
Cocaine is not nearly as addictive as cigarettes. When i had to clean up and fly straight, I did it cold turkey BECAUSE I WANTED TO. Don't ever let anyone feed you this addiction bullshit.
Crack, Cocaine, anything, the person has to NOT WANT THE HIGH anymore in order to quit and they have to value the better things in life such as women/men - Money, Nice things, Nice jobs, Nice cars, etc.
It took two months to stop having urges for Cocaine, And even then I relapsed time to time merely because I didnt give a shit either way.
But after awhile of bad experiences with the drug ( VERY PAINFUL comedowns)
I dropped it completely and have been clean ever since.
All you can do for your daughter is NOTHING. Stand by, and let her fall on her face.
THEN it is your duty as a mother to help her back up. She may fly straight, or she may repeat the same mistake. If she does this over and over, Stop picking her back up.
Its hard for any parent to be told this about their child, But in NOT helping them everytime they make a mess, You're doing them more good than harm.
I learned it firsthand, SO i think i would know.
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| my daughter is 22, gorgeous, epileptic.......and addicted to cocaine..............
Posted: 11/16/2005 5:16:38 PM | | How's your daughter LadyDi? I live in FL too, have epilepsy (seizure disorder) from an alcohol relapse last summer (bad fall while fishing, brain surgery, coma, 2 mo hospital stay), 16 years your daughter's snior, fairly good looking I guess, cocaine use in the past, and hurt so many people who care about me, which is the worst part. I am now in recovery and life is good. Anyway, your original post was earlier this year and I'm curious about how you and your daughter are doing. Really hoping all is well Today. Praying she's in recovery and working a 12 step program. All my best from Delray Beach, Ben. | |
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| my daughter is 22, gorgeous, epileptic.......and addicted to cocaine..............
Posted: 12/4/2005 10:19:50 PM | Lady,
I'm 22 years old and WAS very addicted to Crack. I've been clean for a year and half now...i can honestly say its the hardest thing to ever come off of for me, i'm sure other drugs are harder. My parents tried everything to get me off of the drug but the more they involved themselves the more pissed off i got and did more drugs. I sold everything of mine (not my body, NEVER) all the things i had (movies, my house) just to get that next fix, i went on a bender for 4 days and wound up oding, i have nothing to brag about for this problem. I am now just coming off probation for drug possession. The best suggestion i can tell you is let her fall i'm sorry to say but when she realizes she has nothing it will hit her, the best thing is to let her no you are there but are not going to push her to get off or she will rebel against you. I'm am proud to say that i've been clean that long and am finally getting my life back, its very hard and i'm so sorry you are going through it. I wish you all the luck and your daughter just let her know you are there, and that you are going to help her when she is ready the key is when she is ready...pushing her will lead to bad things. Again i wish you luck. | |
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| my daughter is 22, gorgeous, epileptic.......and addicted to cocaine..............
Posted: 12/4/2005 10:51:04 PM | I was 22 addicted to cocaine and on the way down, my friends had me arrested and I had 2 options, go to rehab or go to jail. She'll choose rehab garuntee'd. I was addicted to drugs for 2 years and as mad as I was in the beginning now I thank god for those people every day. If you ever need a friend to talk to about the effects of cocaine etc, you can email me. Paigeblueeyes@shaw.ca
Good Luck, and remember to have faith in god. | |
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| my daughter is 22, gorgeous, epileptic.......and addicted to cocaine..............
Posted: 12/4/2005 11:32:28 PM | I am so sorry to hear about what your daughter is doing. What she doesn't realize is that she's hurting herself as well as her friends and family. However, I'm replying to this because I am a recovering cocaine addict myself. I have been clean now for 2 years and I haven't felt any better. I am now of much clearer mind, and I have come to a reason why I began all this in the first place. I strongly believe that drugs, in every shape and form, are used as numbing agents to block out emotional pain. I was raped when I was 22, and instead of getting any help, I decided to block it out.......with drugs however. At first it was for recreation use only, then it quickly became a harmful and dangerous habit that totally took over and changed my personality. I was snorting first thing in the morning, and right throughout the day, and then until 4 am every day. This went on for years, until it took something extremely horrible for me to reveal my awful lifestyle, or should I say addiction. My boyfriend was murdered. Not that I'm saying that your daughter will face the same things that I did, but what I'm trying to convey is that there really is hope out there, you just have to be patient. It's a long and difficult process. What really corcerns me is your daughter's medical condition. In my opinion, you really should seek professional advice if all else fails regarding this matter, because the longer you let it sit, the worse it can become. I understand that your daughter is not a child anymore (except in your eyes of course), and it's going to get very hard for both of you. My poor mother went through hell, and I can't believe all the things I said and did. I was a different person, and so is your daughter now.
I really feel for you in this situation. Hopefully, all your life's pieces will eventually fall into place, but the road to getting there can be very painful and emotionally draining. I offer to you any support that you may need, and wish you all the best. | |
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| my daughter is 22, gorgeous, epileptic.......and addicted to cocaine..............
Posted: 12/8/2005 3:04:56 PM | | I am sorry to hear about your daughter. I am a 37 years old and am epileptic for the last 22 years i have done drugs and drank. 3yrs ago I had my dad take me to a treatment center and have been clean. all you can do is try to get her help but from my past you have to want to stop 1st. If she stops and gose to treatment make sure you look into oxford houseing very good place to live for people who really want to stop this has been the best thing I have done. I can once again live life to its fullest. hope everting works out for you | |
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| my daughter is 22, gorgeous, epileptic.......and addicted to cocaine..............
Posted: 12/8/2005 3:42:25 PM | I can relate some to this and it is hard to know when or if there is a let go time for a child I too have a hard time letting go I have 2 sons 22 and 19 both healthy and strong and handsome the oldest boy is wild and he gets in to somuch trouble with one thing or another and thinks he is superman lol I worrie about him most the dear devil he has mild disorders such a OBD (opasitional behavoir Disoder) ADHD ect. I love them and it is hard but sometimes I have to say enough is enough but I never stop loving them. the oldest is also agressive to people and is and can be a cutter (witch one thing that serprises me since it girls are more known to do this) I live the day that he has done something or taking the risk of some kind and a police officer cometo my door and tells me he is gone.
So many time this has almost happen and I have seen his friends around him go that way.
One young man an only child and his girl were killed a few years back good friends of his gone not long after I meet the young man in a car that my child was to be in scared yes can I do anything to keep him form getting in to a car with someone who is destian to die no God will be the one to say when God will know what needs to be.
I am not the one who chooses so I stand and watch my baby as he walks out the door and know he may not come back...
I trust God to make that choice cause it is not mine to make.
His life is not mine it was only for me to give and help him in to this world but now Gods choice to take him out.
My father use to tell me he brought me in and he was the one to take me out but tis a rong thing for a parent to say cause it is not a parent making the choice it is the choice of God.
so advice I can not tell what is wrong what is right is to love and love with all your heart and hold your breath and hope they ride this through to if not my heart is with you and I know that it was again Gods choice. | |
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| my daughter is 22, gorgeous, epileptic.......and addicted to cocaine..............
Posted: 12/8/2005 3:53:28 PM | I don't think you can comitt her yourself. She has to do it. If you even try she will resent you and hate you. A person has to do it themselves. Let her fall as far as she'll fall. On the outside looking in it's easy to ask how much worse could it get, but from the inside looking out you never feel you've fallen that far. Sure you notice you're not sleeping in a nice warm bed, or you're not eating the food you like, or you're not going anywhere. But to a person there is always a sense that things will get better, it's just bad luck right now.
I digress, YOU must let her fall. When a person realizes they are there own last resort. I mean to say when they realise that there parent or boyfriend or whoever will no longer support them, then and only then will a person look for help. She will lean on a friend, or lean on somebody but sooner or later that person will give way especially if they are users also. It just has to happen. Love her, shower her with love and kind words. But don't give her anything she can use to get drugs with. Money, clothes, a car etc. If you have given these things to her ask for, or take them back if you can. All the while telling her you love her and you hope the best for her. | |
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| my daughter is 22, gorgeous, epileptic.......and addicted to cocaine..............
Posted: 12/9/2005 1:36:58 AM | wow....how far we come in a years time.....my daughter has been clean scince march...she has a great job and a fiance...and even with the epilepsy, has found out she will one day be able to have kids.....
..i was surprised when i started gettin email asking about my daughter....i am so thankful this part of my life is behind me...it sure was rough going thru it.............its sure nice to be on tha other side....however i am only here thru Gods grace............if anyone out there needs a place to vent or someone to understand, feel free to write me and i will do my best to ease your burden...... | |
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| my daughter is 22, gorgeous, epileptic.......and addicted to cocaine..............
Posted: 12/11/2005 10:15:32 PM | I am new to this site and I was just goin throught the threads and saw this one. I read just a small section and the beginning made me cry to see how caring and loving you are for you daughter. The last thing I read was that she's been clean since March and is also engaged and can have children. I want to say Congratulations! I just read some of this 15 minutes ago and it feels like I know Y'all a little. I applaude you for standing by your daughter. Your story has touched me. I'm so happy for y'all!!!  | |
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| my daughter is 22, gorgeous, epileptic.......and addicted to cocaine..............
Posted: 2/6/2006 6:37:47 PM | | iam eplileptic so i know whatyour going threw and you daughter. i will keep you in prayer try to find a support group for your self and your daughter for her sezures . and a good drug rebalition program if you ever need talk iam here. Please excuse my profile i had this on many yrs ago after going threw a bad experince i do prefer men i never answer any of the ads. Iam christain. remember if ever to write iam here. | |
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| my daughter is 22, gorgeous, epileptic.......and addicted to cocaine..............
Posted: 2/6/2006 7:00:27 PM | | hi it brings tears to my eyes when i read your post.i have a 1 year old now and am terrified of that thought.we try to raise our kids right but things happen .i never did drugs until i was 25 i spent 5 yrs before that stripping and then i tried estacy which did not runo ruin my life then i tried cocaine w/my at the time boyfriend.that was a little more of a problem i liked to party on it but did not go out everyday or wake up wanting the high.then i got pregnant and lost the baby at 26 then 5 months later my dad died unexpecate at work.i had been able to quit when i was pregnant but w/everthing in my life and my ex was abusive.i eventually tried crack and that got me in more trouble ina nd out of jail for not going to court for traffic tickets.lying to my mom about needing money going on 4 day binges not eating or sleepin then i got pregnant and could not quit on my own so i went into rehab at 4 months pregnant.thankfully i got a healthy baby girl.but i dont know what you are going throught i could imagine the worry cause i am now a parent.but i wanted to stop it was stronger than me for awhile.i wish ther ewas some way i could talk to your daughter from a point of view of someone who has been there.i noticed this was in 2005 that you wrote this hopefullly she is better,please let me know.good luck | |
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| my daughter is 22, gorgeous, epileptic.......and addicted to cocaine..............
Posted: 2/6/2006 7:26:34 PM | Look I now you don't want to hear this OK.It's time for some tuff love.When she acts like this call the police or tuffen up and put your foot down.From someone who use to use drugs it works.Sometimes that person {YOUR DAUGHTER} has to hit rock bottom before that person whats to change.I know that is not want you want to hear, but its the truth.DON'T give up and DON'T let her see you give up or you will loser.My prayers are with you and GOD will give you the strength you and your daugther.The key word is DON'T GIVE UP!!!!!!!!!!! | |
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| my daughter is 22, gorgeous, epileptic.......and addicted to cocaine..............
Posted: 2/6/2006 8:01:49 PM | | what a difference a day makes. i was a full blown alcoholic and people around me tried, but i wouldn't let them. i liked the attention. and so did the law. the law was created from the heavons for gods true plan for everyone. sometimes you just got to let go and let jesus. like a fauset that's been turn of from the city. so are we when we don't have jesus. we say we have him. but deep down inside we search for answeres within. the bible states love your lord . with all your heart, and all your mind, and all your soul. and lean not, i repeat lean not on your own understanding, but in all your ways exknowledge him. summit yourself unto him and he will lift you up in do time. imposible, no we make it difficult. and get angry at him for something he did not start. god did not tie me up and force me to drink i had free will. thieir is a program called teen challenge that changes people with addictions, and lets them have jesus here in san antonio.tx. the number is (210) 624-2075 if im wrong look it up in the book. or ask a near by church. ive giving you all that i have to offer. which is jesus the rest is up to you . you must let go of self and let jesus remember teen challenge is the answere. ive been sover for 25 years, and still serve the lord jesus, christ. it all up to you if you wish i can be contacted at (210) 680-9524 . if i dont answere please leave a message. sincerely yours trueagape a messenger of god | |
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