| Gentlemen can be BORING!
Posted: 1/31/2008 9:02:50 AM |
What the OP is describing isn't a 'gentleman'.
What the OP is describing is a nerdy geek loser without a spine.
Explain please. | |
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| Gentlemen can be BORING!
Posted: 1/31/2008 9:29:07 AM | | I really can not stand men like that. I, myself want a man who will take control and not be such a boob. If I were you, I would tell him how you felt and either leave him alone or see what his response will be. Otherwise good luck, there are plenty of men on here who has no problem taking control. | |
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Joined: 9/8/2006
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| Gentlemen can be BORING! Although, there is...
Posted: 1/31/2008 9:37:34 AM |
I truly dont understand why I always go for the bad boys i try to look for the gentelmen but then I talk to a bad boy and they intreag me I wonder why that is.
They are unpredictable.
They both make you think and don't allow you to lead at the same time.
They leave questions in your mind that keep drawing your thoughts back to them.
They take risks and pull you along into these risks.
They have the attitude that either they are in control or they don't give a sh!t.
They will confuse your every expectation.
And then they'll do it all over again.
Women are torn between that behavior (above) and the classic security/nesting/feeling-desired behavior. The funny thing is, they think they can change the bad boys...they can't, but it's that fantasy that keeps drawing them back to the bad.
Make sense?
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| Gentlemen can be BORING! Although, there is...
Posted: 1/31/2008 9:43:57 AM |
I guess the overall point for me was that this guy was too worried about rejection to just take a chance.
I think that this guy was a real sweetheart. I don't think he was worried about rejection at all. I think he was worried about offending _you._
Simply grabbing a girls butt who you are on a date with should not cause this problem.
Simply grabbing a girl's butt without her consent _is_ sexual assault.
If that's the only problem you had with this guy, then all you need to do is say, "hey, if you start to do something I don't like, I'll tell you." Then you'll see just how exciting and spontaneous a sweetheart like that can get!    | |
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| Gentlemen can be BORING! Although, there is...
Posted: 1/31/2008 12:01:20 PM |
I really can not stand men like that. I, myself want a man who will take control and not be such a boob. If I were you, I would tell him how you felt and either leave him alone or see what his response will be. Otherwise good luck, there are plenty of men on here who has no problem taking control.
Right...better to take control..then find yourself in jail for an evening. Better to err on the side of caution, just in case.
After all, alot of women can be fickle. | |
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| Gentlemen can be BORING!
Posted: 1/31/2008 12:05:07 PM |
Just wanted to share this to see if I am alone...
So I took the plunge and met someone from POF. He was a local guy and we decided to meet for a quick bite to eat between my two jobs. Fortunately, he wasn't a creepy stalkerish old man like most warnings say, but he still did lie. He was two years younger than me which is a major thing when you are in my age bracket. And it showed! But that wasn't even the worst part of this "date"... He was a gentleman... And to the extent of the word which was weird! He asked permission for everything! When his hand was on my waiste it was "Can I touch your butt?"... When we were in the car it was "Can I kiss you?"... When we were kissing it was "Can my hands wander?"... I mean, I guess it's ok to ask and what not but this completely turned me off to this guy. You can take some control can't you?
To me that wasn't a gentleman...that was a DOORMAT.
Being a gentleman in my opinion means you RESPECT the lady, but you still carry yourself like a MAN.
Don't ask permission...just try and if she says no, then politely back off. Plus take baby steps. I for one wouldn't be trying to make out or feel up a girl on the first date. | |
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| Gentlemen can be BORING!
Posted: 1/31/2008 4:09:09 PM | | That isn't a gentleman...that's a young guy with ZERO sexual experience. A real man would take you in your arms and kiss you passionately and bring out the wild animal in you!!! | |
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Joined: 1/31/2006
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| Gentlemen can be BORING!
Posted: 1/31/2008 9:18:43 PM | | Ha Ha maybe he's worried about a lawsuit you never know in this PC world. At least if he asks permission it can't be used against him | |
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| Gentlemen can be BORING!
Posted: 2/1/2008 5:27:39 AM | | You had just met him and he's asking to touch your butt and move his hand all over you? And you upset because he didnt go ahead and do it without asking? Good Lord. | |
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| Gentlemen can be BORING!
Posted: 2/1/2008 5:46:39 AM | You experienced a young man that has yet to perfect his game.
Has little to do with him being a gentleman and more to do with his enablity to know what a gentleman is. ~ and yours either ~ for that matter.
Young people fake it until they made it ~~ do you not?
Some grow slower then others ~ so it not always reservered for just the young.
It's the lack of confidence thats coming through.
Gentlemen don't ask ~Gentlemen don't grab ~ they embrace and stroke you when the time is right. ~ There will be not wine until it's time ~dar | |
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| Gentlemen can be BORING!
Posted: 2/1/2008 5:47:37 AM | This is AMAZING!!!
On a first meeting, a "quick bite between jobs", you are disappointed because he wasn't grabbing your ass?
What an example of why men can't win.
If the guy HAD grabbed her ass, she would be posting "And he was ALL OVER me!!! I mean, I just MET the guy and he was trying to grab my ass!!!" And talking about "Ladies beware of this guy!! And maybe calling him a pervert.
What an outstanding example of the old joke that the difference between a normally aggressive man and sexual harassment is whether or not the woman thinks the guy is cute.
Man, the generation gap gets wider and wider.....
I was less shocked by the post after I read the OP's profile..... | |
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| Gentlemen can be BORING! Although, there is...
Posted: 2/1/2008 6:19:44 AM |  Hi
Once a guy's been busted on an "age" rap is there much left to do but "beg like a gentleman"?
Kisses should be spontaneous. All anyone can do is love it or reject it.
No kiddin........ you got asked if the clams could wander
maybe it wasn't just "age" that was the problem w/the guy
 Since we can't live in a society where honesty can be expected, aren't we gonna have to get stepped on from time to time?
I emphasize with you on having to discover that the person isn't what they claim and agree that a "little on the wild side" beats "domestic" and whipped. (Man or woman)
My mom's birthday is Halloween and she's a natural redhead. I tell people I was raised by a "red-headed witch" and have no fear left.
Sorry he hurt your feelings............ Glad you got to post about the  boring part of the date. Theres a huge amount of folks on here that have broken the "domestic" issues and can let their true role as "get er done" with flash and glamor and won't use the "domestic and gentleman for everything" to spice your life.... Your a red-head.... you'll do just fine.
 Never treat a red-head like a blonde from Hell | |
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| Gentlemen can be BORING!
Posted: 2/1/2008 6:47:44 AM | | Asking if he can touch your butt on a first date isn't being a gentleman at all. | |
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| Gentlemen can be BORING! Although, there is...
Posted: 2/1/2008 6:51:13 AM | you are 18 and very pretty and I hope you heed some advice.
on a first date , NEVER get into a car with someone you have just met. take your own car, or keep the date close to where you work if you dont have a car and can walk but NEVER get into a car with a stranger. this is how pretty 18 yr olds like you disappear.
as a single female you MUST play the online dating game safely!!
it sounds to me like this guy was damned if he did and damned if he didnt. either way I'll put money on the table you never called him again. | |
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| Gentlemen can be BORING!
Posted: 2/1/2008 7:01:34 AM | | a man who asks u can he touch ur butt or can his hands wonder is not a gentleman. he is ***hole expecialy for the first meeting. thats not a gentleman at all. a kiss is ok but thats it. a gentleman first off would not ask u such things to begin with. so u had no getnleman. a real gentleman is not boring in the least. a real gentleman is a respectable man and woudl never treat a lady like that. | |
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Posted: 2/3/2008 7:45:20 AM | yeah, girls in this day and age like to be slammed around cheated on, talked to with tough f words etc, who would want a real man who treats her right, buy her flowers, does everything for her being respecting and loving? naaaah overateed! ;D lol
That's why we don't call the ladies anymore either.... | |
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| Gentlemen can be BORING! Although, there is...
Posted: 2/3/2008 7:50:35 AM | | well lombard if u dont know how to treat a lady thats ur problem. lesson for u and pay attention...not all women are the same. if i had a man treating me like u claim women want i would tell them there's the door dont let it hit htem in the ass on their way out. | |
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Posted: 2/3/2008 8:18:49 AM | no you do not understand, I do, that's why makes me always unpopular and 90 percent of ladies I meet after me run to bad boys. I wish it wasnt happening but unfortunetly that is what women show us. Being respectful makes us lame in their eyes, bad boys seem to be more trendy.
Well time will show who will have the last laugh he he he, because the bad boys will not change but will get older, and gentlemen will already be taken he he he | |
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| Gentlemen can be BORING!
Posted: 2/3/2008 8:28:41 AM | Yea, I guess he was a little too gentlemanly like. After all, most women seem to like a guy who can take some control, but still know his limiations, if you know what I mean.
So, my next question is, what all did you let him do? LOL!
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| Gentlemen can be BORING! Although, there is...
Posted: 2/3/2008 8:40:14 AM | | well handsome u know what,,every woman will not turn u down. do not worry. and if a lady is into those "bad" kind of men she is not worth ur time and effort anyway and deserves what she gets. thats why im still single ...im looking for the man who knows how to treat a lady. i wouldnt accept a million dollars to date that kind of man. i want a man to treat me the way he would want to be treated... kind ,respectful to both me and other people , law abiding, jsut a well rounded sweet kind man. by the way i read ur profile and u sound like a good guy...dont give up handsome ... women who want a good man instead of a bad one.. do exist. I wish u best of luck in finding that special lady. And i wish myself the best of luck in finding that special kind of man lol | |
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Posted: 2/3/2008 8:50:16 AM | | Even at twice that kids age, I still watch my step on the first few dates. But I would never ask to kiss, let alone grab someone's tush. What I did find funny was after a really nice first date with a women, she drug out saying good-bye. She finally broke down and asked if I'd kiss her. I laughed at that, then we had a great kiss. I explained that I didn't want to over step my bounds, or look like a clown by getting shot down. She found that very refreshing, and that normally she has to almost push the guy away. | |
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Posted: 2/3/2008 8:57:15 AM | I guess the next time when he starts asking just say "ok, um.... how about you shut up and kiss me"
Maybe he was unsure of the signals we was getting back from you. Some people are difficult to read.
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| Gentlemen can be BORING!
Posted: 2/3/2008 9:06:15 AM | OP I am so sorry to hear this. It's horrible when guys get so nice and I know deep down in your hearts it's a turn off and you really deserved someone way better. It's unfortunate to see guys being nice, that ussually is a bad sign and they are bound to loose and loose miserably like this dude did with you. I guesse he got what he asked, he was a nice guy and a gentlement (even worse) and he got the reprocutions for that!!
Again I am very sorry that this happened, I wish guys would stop being the sleezy nice guys and bring back that masculine spirit again!!!!!!!! | |
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| Gentlemen can be BORING!
Posted: 2/3/2008 9:10:03 AM | | He wasn’t rite for you move on. Don’t go judging every tom****and Harry and make a thread to bash good men.... LOL since your new to internet dating let me give you a heads up your in for a Treat :)~ Its free you get the best of both worlds people lie allot on here just to get attention or to get into someone’s pants, you have to weed those people out. | |
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