| wouldn't most want to web cam before meeting?
Posted: 7/4/2006 11:26:11 PM | I don't own a webcam and couldn't be bothered to buy one and set it up. If I was asked to cam, I would just tell them that. If it was that much of an issue, things probably wouldn't go much further.
I think my pics are pretty obviously real. While not repulsive (to most anyway :P), I'm sure I'd use different pics if I was going to fake them.
I'm not too worried about being played. It's only an hour or two max of my time to meet someone safely (for them and me) in a public place and if it's obvious they faked their pics, I have no problem just turning around and leaving. | |
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| wouldn't most want to web cam before meeting?
Posted: 7/5/2006 12:04:30 AM | | Icy, did you exchange photos beforehand? If so, isn't the rest part of actualy meeting? Understand, if you both have webcams the idea is great. leave a little mystery to that first meeting? | |
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| wouldn't most want to web cam before meeting?
Posted: 7/5/2006 7:09:05 AM | Yes and no.
I have pictures (stills) vailable and all of them are recent and accurate. If I get a request for web camming, there'd better be a follow-up comment about how they aren't asking me to 'wank' for them. | |
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| wouldn't most want to web cam before meeting?
Posted: 7/5/2006 8:53:37 AM | | While some of you make good points, my experience is that most who want to cam are pervs. . . .precisely why I don't have a cam, and do not intend to get one. | |
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| wouldn't most want to web cam before meeting?
Posted: 7/5/2006 9:07:16 AM |
oh for christ's sake enough with the over kill already, a couple of pics and and a couple of IMs is all you need to meet someone for a friggin coffee, I would said "see ya" as well.
I AGREE. Jeez, things are getting way out of hand. You read his profile, exchange an e-mail or two then get on the phone and chat. If the phone call goes well - MEET each other.
You agree to a quick (15 min) cup of coffe in a well known, well lit, heavily populated area and get it over with. If you like one another...it is NO DIFFERENT than if you had met on your own at a coffee shop without the previous online exchange.
By going online to meet people, you have a greater advantage. You've got his e-mail address, his phone number. Come on!
And this business of dragging it on for 2-3 weeks before actually meeting is ridiculous. You know that its all about chemistry and you can't determine that online. So get to the 'do we click or not' stage quickly and take it to the next step or move on.
You know within 15 minutes if there is a chance in hell you would want to sleep with him. If you would...then he's dating material. If you wouldn't...see ya! | |
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| wouldn't most want to web cam before meeting?
Posted: 7/5/2006 9:14:51 AM | I would never use a cam even if I had one because I don't want to be found out that I'm actually a robot.
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| wouldn't most want to web cam before meeting?
Posted: 7/5/2006 9:33:56 AM | I don't think, it makes you shallow or makes this guy an ass.
Try to think of it from his point of view
Obviliously , he's not interested in webcamming. Maybe he doesn't like being put on the spot. (maybe he's sitting in his gitch and hasn't shaved for 2 days and doesn't want to fix up to go on cam and doesn't want to be judged based on that) Maybe your not worth it to him when other women are willing to meet just based on conversation/ pictures. Why should he be concerned over you, it's the internet and there is alot people to choose from.
You might want consider being more specific in your profile. Say for example that your not willing to meet anyone prior to web camming first, then a situation such as this one will not arise for you in the future. | |
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Posted: 7/5/2006 9:47:26 AM | Why is the connotation of viewing a person on a webcam necessarily a bad thing? It has acquired a bad reputation because, as with everything, a few perverts have discovered a way to exploit their perversion. I got my cam so that my grandchildren in Texas could SEE me from time to time. "Would you let me see you on camera" when asked in the proper context will get someone a view of me, decently dressed, just as I am. And if they can't take that, well - that isn't my problem, and yes, I would expect to see them as well.
It sounds to me like this dog ain't gonna hunt. That's because it has been beaten to death. There are good points pro and con for each viewpoint, right? Yall have a wonderful day. | |
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| wouldn't most want to web cam before meeting?
Posted: 7/5/2006 10:06:27 AM | I've only been asked for a web cam one time and it was not hooked up and would take a bit to do. After just chatting for a few minutes with that woman and hearing about her 3 ex husbands and that all the men she ever dated were abusive jerks I knew I was not interested anyway. My computer died a while back and I have an older computer patched together until I build my new one and it is definately lacking in ports and power. If someone I had interest in really wanted to see me on web cam before meeting I would get it working and chat with them on the webcam.
I bought my webcam years ago thinking it would be nice to see people when you talk but it seems only the pervs use them regularly. I put mine in a drawer after a couple weeks cause I didn't want my guests in my house to think I am an inet perv. I would certainly understand if a lady wanted to see me on cam before dating and I also check people out before getting serious about them there are to many freaks hiding behind computer screens.  | |
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| wouldn't most want to web cam before meeting?
Posted: 7/5/2006 11:06:29 AM | I would strongly advise a web cam before actually meeting.
This day and age there are way to many people with fake profiles and information listed as well as photos.
Safe guard youself against the idiots out there. WEB CAM. | |
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Posted: 7/5/2006 11:37:47 AM | Seriously, what do you have to lose by meeting someone in person? is that hour of your time really that busy that you can't just go to starbucks and say hi?
I would get worried if a girl had a webcam as a requirement to meeting them just because it would show how absurdly shy, or absurdly hurt they had been. The worst case scenario they are really fat and ugly and you go home and never see them again. Its not like anything bad is likely to happen so long as you don't meet anyone in a dark alley or something... | |
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| wouldn't most want to web cam before meeting?
Posted: 7/5/2006 11:40:46 AM | | lol i thought this thread died a while ago, seems to keep going, anyways i like web cams i don't trust pictures simple as that, so many freaks out there. i know cams aren't the greatest but i have to see some one, i have to have some sort of attraction to go and meet some one, i am not going to rely on a picture. i don't ask people to cam right off the back, after we get talking and exchange photos, i mention lets cam to see what each other are really like in real life. then take it from there, what ever happens, nothing or somthing. its not really a big deal. except when you ask some one that seems nice then does a 180 and turned freaky, then ya, like that guy did to me, so he has somthing to hide. | |
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| wouldn't most want to web cam before meeting?
Posted: 7/9/2006 11:15:42 PM | | it's weird and it's over kill! #1 the weird part..nobody looks good on them eh' not even you! there are only 30 frames a sec which makes you look retarded or maybe like your starring in the peter gabriel "sledge hammer" video, I for one never thought that video looked good ever! #2 the overkill, since you can't really tell squat from the cam anyway why not just skip it and meet in person to get it the frig over with? I mean how many hurdles is this whole process worth jumping over for anyway? find a starbucks or similar get to know the employees if it makes you feel better or just become a regular so you feel at home and for petes sake just meet someone!??! this whole thing smacks of just another excuse to stay home {tell me I'm wrong} so far since this thread started I have NOT cammed and have met a couple of females in my area from this site and while no one lied to any body there were no sparks either but a cam never would have been able to tell me that! because it's about energy level and very subtle things that these cams just cant depict [at least not yet] like bad breath like bo like...oh well you get the idea...now go get a prepaid cell phone and get over it already | |
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Posted: 7/10/2006 4:11:51 AM | I wasnt going to bother but Ill add this to this thread and let it die
For those who dont mind camming...go right ahead and cam
For those who flat out refuse to cam...DONT
Nobody is twisting anyones arms to do one or the other...
This thread should now die a quick death | |
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| wouldn't most want to web cam before meeting?
Posted: 7/10/2006 4:48:07 AM | LOL. The Wiz has spoken! If people are smart, they meet in a public place, and if this person is not who they say they were, it's real easy to say LATER.
I don't have a problem walking away, if a person can't be honest about their appearence then what future is there if they lie right off the back. Don't waste my time.
As far as the cam's, hell who's to say that the person you are watching is even the right person? I have seen it happen before, 2 people can be in the same room, one telling the other what to say. Myself, I don't and won't own a cam. I can receive cam, but I can't send a signal out. And 3 out of the 4 times I have viewed,  Let's just say I saw a whole lot more then I wanted.
DON'T YA JUST LOVE THE BLOCK? | |
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Posted: 2/11/2007 8:58:23 AM | | HEY ALL I THINK CAMMING IS AN INDIVIDUAL THING NOT ALWAYS BAD OR GOOD.. BUT ONE THING FOR SURE MANY ON HERE MALE AND FEMALE PIT PHTOS ON THAT ARE REALLY NOT LETS JUST RECENT YA KNOW RATHER MISLEADING WEATHER BY DELIBERATE ACTION OR JUST SIMPLY TRYING TO MARKET THEM SLEVLES THE BEST THEY CAN.. FOR ME ILL DO CYBER THING OR AT LEAST LOOK SEE.. ESPECIALLY IF WERE FAR AWAY I HAVE MET SOME GALS FAIRLEY CLOSE IN PROXIMITY SO WE DIDNT SEE EACH OTHER ( I DONT MEAN SEXUALLY ) ON CAM WELL IM NOT SURE WHAT THEY THOUGHT OF ME BUT I WILL GARAUNTEE HAD I SEE THME ON INSTANT MESSANGER FIRST I WOULD NOT HAVE MET IN PERSON. IM NOT SAY THAT CAM SEX IS NEEDED BUT I WANT SEE THE REAL PERSON.. NOT A PHOTO FROM 10 YEARS AGO THE CYBER SEX THIG SOME LIKE IT SOME DONT THAT PART I DONT JUDGE... ITS UP TO THE INDIVIDUALS WHO ARE CHATTING... LETS ALL LEAVE IT AT THAT... AND REMBER THAT SONG... TURN ME ON WHEN I GET LONELY PEOPLE TELL ME IM THE ONLY.... BEATLES | |
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| wouldn't most want to web cam before meeting?
Posted: 2/11/2007 9:52:59 AM | I don't like the quality of the photos a web cam takes. I had someone at the cafe here that I log on from show me how to use one. The photo on my profile now was the best shot we could come up with.
But I think the shadows make it look like my two front teeth are either rotted out or absent and there is a definite jaundiced colouring to the skin tones. I'd rather meet someone in person anyway because I really don't enjoy talking on MSN. | |
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Posted: 2/11/2007 12:00:48 PM | | I don't like going on webcam and don't care about seeing anybody else on webcame either. As long as I see a picture of them first, that's good enough for me. Though I did meet a couple of guys who didn't really look like their pictures much...I could tell it was them, but they looked different... probably used old pictures or something. | |
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| wouldn't most want to web cam before meeting?
Posted: 2/11/2007 3:35:47 PM | | if the option's there i'd take it. i mean i've been lied to by women sending me pics of someone else because they felt the need to. i'm cautious about meeting anyone that has no pic. it's a rare ocurrence that i'll actually go on my cam, but i guess it helps to know what to expect when the time comes to meeting up. | |
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| wouldn't most want to web cam before meeting?
Posted: 2/11/2007 3:38:39 PM | I don't own a webcam, and any I'd seen were blurry and distorted, so hadn't planned on getting one. However my mind has been change recently...
I'm one of those (obviously irritating to many of the forum regulars) that likes to spend a lot of time emailing/chatting/talking on the phone before meeting IRL. But recently met someone after a short period of online interactions.....and all because of a webcam. He has a very clear webcam and I felt comfortable enough to meet him without all the usual time investment. So now I think it can be a pretty valuable tool and will be out shopping for one soon | |
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| wouldn't most want to web cam before meeting?
Posted: 2/11/2007 4:00:00 PM | | I have never had a lady ask to see me on a web cam,,,and I won't bother with it either,,,if you are that annal,,,I'll send my grandmother to pick you up!!!! | |
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Posted: 2/11/2007 4:00:35 PM | Go cameras!
I don't think it's totally unreasonable to ask for one, and it is true, they're dirt cheap these days.
However, I don't consider them mandatory. I have the fortune of being the large (scary?) man in this dating equation, so I don't feel too worried.
Still, cams are great. It's nice to see a person's mannerisms. You can pick up so much from that. | |
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Posted: 2/11/2007 5:17:04 PM | | icyunvme99 i dont think its shallow to want to see someone on web cam before you meet . i would. that being said though i hate that thing, most of the time anyway.i get bothered when people are constantly at you to turn it on every time you speak . well i think most of us dont always want to be watched everytime we talk to someone. but before meeting someone sure that i totally understand.besides it not like you wanted him to strip on cam or anything?? he he. it can help to make the first meeting go alittle smoother. i would say he was a little to sensitive so forget him. youre right and he is wrong. | |
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