| what is it with women
Posted: 6/27/2006 9:18:40 AM | just sit rocking back and forth in the darkness of your room , the answer will come  | |
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| what is it with women
Posted: 6/27/2006 9:28:38 AM | The supposed 'human condition' these days is exactly that......'conditioning'. The human condition was NOT so fifty years ago.
In this day of 'disposable everything', where the divorce rate is easily fifty to seventy percent, the majority of people these days have or had absolutely NO 'dual parent' environments to even GAUGE what loving or being loved is actually about. There is rarely ANY male role model these days living twenty four/seven in any given household for the kids to even be shown by example how a couple LOVES each other....really LOVES each other---instead of this 'bad boy/good boy/ bad girl / good girl/ push/ pull thought process that must somehow be the correct way to LOVE somebody. I certainly don't want to wake up every day planning my day around, 'how do I treat her TODAY to keep her interest?' We are not WIRED to act this way.....we are CONDITIONED to BELIEVE this is the way it is. Media sells whatever the lemmings will buy.....end of story.
The problem exaccerbates when the ignorant are the one's giving the teaching lessons. Don't believe me? How many parents on here are usually shocked when their kid comes home from school repeating something he heard from somebody else, only for it to be so far from THE TRUTH, that we had to correct the child to tell or show him what was RIGHT? Most have never LEFT the school playground.....and the blind are leading the blind.
Anytime I usually read about some woman wanting the BAD BOY or mixture of 'push/pull' (another word for DRAMA), or whatever 'mind****ail' they've brewed up in their head as far as what they believe LOVE really is, I can usually attribute a bad or non existent real relationship with a father figure. Anytime I hear a man on here talk about not being able to find a good woman or confused as how to treat her, I can usually bet he had the same LACK of fatherly guidance as well...... There is a REASON men and women were supposed to stick together in a MARRIAGE......This is NOT to say men are the CAUSE....it is to say men AND women alike have gotten to a point where they are CONVINCED they don't really NEED each other. And it's simply NOT true......but CONDITIONING has MADE it true.
I would take absolutely NOBODY's advice on here as to why they think certain things are the axioms of love. If I want to be RICH, I go ask a RICH person HOW to be rich. If I want to know how to be LOVING or LOVED, I go ask people who KNOW how to do it......
Funny how I just read an article on a study that suggests we are the LONELIEST generation...when the INTERNET was supposed to have brought us all closer.....and to think I'm sitting here reading advice from supposed experts on our highly complex DUALITIES....I'm listening to advice from the loneliest people on the planet!!!!! | |
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| what is it with women
Posted: 6/27/2006 9:29:58 AM | Mssge 8-I believe that you have hit it fairly close to the truth on this one although most women would not like to admit it too much. However the whole treating like crap thing was a little over the top. I feel like it is more I want someone who is going to share with my life and challenge my intelligence and put me in my place if I am wrong but this can be done without treating me like sh:t.
musicluvah1981-It really isn't too simple it just isn't put into play properly. It is just that it is very rare and hard to find that person (men and women both) who can find the happy medium between being a big jerk and being a softie. Quite often you get either one extreme or the other.
subotai-YAY-applause-*kiss**kiss*-oh you made me so happy. I only wish I could put things as eloquently as you have right there. The human condition is confusing and hard to follow and can be sooooo frustrating to deal with as I am sometimes afflicted with this particular flaw myself. It becomes so apparent that this is true as you browse through the profiles of both the men and the women on here. The profiles that read "I am sweet honest and caring, not into head games and am looking to settle down with someone who is the same" will appear on ten favs list, but yet you pan across the profiles that show women half naked and in various erotic poses will appear on 144 favs list. The men on these particular favs lists will state in their profiles that they are looking for a sweet caring down-to-earth girl who wants a long term relationship and is not into head games-yet isn't posing half-naked a form of a mind game appealing to the sexual side of men? | |
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| what is it with women
Posted: 6/27/2006 9:45:14 AM |
Women are attracted to strength. Giving her everything is sign of weakness. It tells her she is in command. She wants the man to take charge (but in a nice way).
Perhaps I would be attracted to strength of character. I don't expect a man to give me anything, but I do expect him to do everything he says he will. It is called honesty, a rare thing these days. Why on earth would I want a man to take charge? What am I a little girl seeking guidance? I don't think so!!!
For the women who are willing accept the bad treatment, treating them like crap shows strength. And they respect it.
I don't see it as a sign of strength, but a sign of ignorance, and I have no respect for such men.
Which proves the theory that women would rather be with a confident jerk than with a wimpy nice guy.
Give me the nice one any time over a confident jerk. I have known the confident jerk type, and the only thing I am sure about is that I am confident they are a jerk!!! I could be wrong but I am sure that what you would see as a wimp, would be what I would see as just a normal nice human.
What they really drool over is a confident nice guy
What's with all the drooling. Just sounds messy. Seriously don't see myself drooling over anyone. | |
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| what is it with women
Posted: 6/27/2006 10:02:29 AM | | sounds like you paint all woman with the same brush strokes......not ever woman is the same just like every man is not the same......you should say that you could not figure your ex out..not all woman. | |
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| what is it with women
Posted: 6/27/2006 10:50:29 AM | "Men want a virgin whore.."
I think most guys just want a woman who waited for the right guy to be a whore...
Just to play devlis advocate there is something to be said for women who are sexually healthy and not frigid, yet still don't do the bed-jumping thing either. You know, the type who only sleeps with you if there's more to it than the sex, but who also doesn't have major physical or psychological hangups... great sex with the right person seems like a win-win to me.
I don't think this is such an unreasonable balance to ask for... | |
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| what is it with women
Posted: 6/27/2006 12:04:30 PM | The more posts I read the more I'm convinced that no matter what the question is, people in general, only read or hear what they want to. AGAIN I SAY THIS WAS NOT POSTED TO BASH OR DEGRADE ANYONE. I asked a simple question in order to get some insight. Get a grip people, I used my ex and my wife as examples. I have been all over the world met women of alot of different cultures and the fact remains the same. In every culture I've been exposed to, American, European, or Asian. Women are fickle.
Alot of posts have eluded to the fact that the problem may be me and that may very well be, but keep to the true meaning of the question. | |
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| what is it with women
Posted: 6/27/2006 12:07:46 PM | Treat me nice and I'll always be around :)
Some people just like to dwell on drama. I don't.
That is the difference between a little girl and a woman :) | |
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| what is it with women
Posted: 6/27/2006 1:41:56 PM | 1 Get some couseling
2 we all send mixed signals
3 no 2 people are alike
4 why not talk to the to determine why she likes being treated poorly
5 why are you on a dating site if you are married | |
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| what is it with women
Posted: 6/27/2006 1:46:46 PM | From the thread title "What Is It With Women"
Women are what makes our world go round. | |
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| what is it with women
Posted: 6/27/2006 1:54:46 PM | | i completely agree with you, I don't think any of us as a human race, can really pin point what it is we want in a person, like i always say, I'll know what i want when i see it. I think that's why profiles are so hard to type, cause i don't think that anyone REALLY knows what they want. I'm sure that we can say what kind of attributes we want but in the grand scheme of things, we have no idea. Just let it happen, live life to the fullest and (not to sound religious) but if you want to hear God laugh, tell him your plan!!!!! | |
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| what is it with women
Posted: 6/27/2006 2:01:10 PM | | All women are NOT the same. You just haven't found the one that's right for you. | |
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| what is it with women
Posted: 6/28/2006 8:49:45 AM | | If your too nice, woman think your a wimp. Its ok to bit a bit of a Prick-it gets you further | |
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| what is it with women
Posted: 6/28/2006 11:30:08 AM | msg 55 - Justmeinnc05
The OP is asking why is it that "some women" (we can only speak generally) respect bad treatment rather than good treatment. He wasn't asking why "you" respect bad treatment more than good treatment.
My response was addressing those women. To reply with your feeling about the matter doesn't explain to the OP why some women behave the way he is refering to. It makes not sense to say I don't agree with this so it is wrong. What the OP is suggesting is true of some women and that is what we are here to discuss. | |
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