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| Why are all my married friends controlled by their wives???
Posted: 7/17/2005 7:13:51 PM |
CW.. ... did the sex change operation hurt!
Well, after reading both your profiles and messages posted, I'd rather date him than you. He seems more in touch with reality. And I'm a guy who only dates real women!
CW-sorry if I offended you in any way. | |
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| Why are all my married friends controlled by their wives???
Posted: 7/17/2005 7:46:39 PM | I'd say it really boils down to trust. If a women feels confident in her relationship with her man, then she probably isn't going to worry about her man going out with the boys.
But, if you are considered a bad influence, that might put her man in harms way (a la, in the sights of man eating women) then perhaps she's worried that even the best of men might crack under a fine women's charms (like that hasn't been happening since the dawn of time).
Let's face it. Men are easily seduced. A pretty lady smiles, and men line up. Women know this, and if allowed to go unchecked, a lot more guys would be fooling around.
Ever notice how many happily married women like to stay home with their man. That one-on-one time is special, and ratifies their connection.
But so many boys wanna bond with the boys.
Chaulk it up to a bit of venus and mars. | |
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| Why are all my married friends controlled by their wives???
Posted: 7/17/2005 7:48:39 PM | Women often control the men in their lives because we percieve them as having control of sex. We give them this power constantly, and men feed into the stereotype that we cannot think much further than our little brains let us all too often. We're a generation of men who become like Ray Romano in relationships, raised to think it's ok to be thought of as stupid neanderthals, and that no matter what we do, we are ultimately wrong. So, men in marriages often let themselves be dominated, giving away any personal power they have.
My girlfriend used to control our relationship through sex. I was made to feel guilty just for wanting it, and it was like a dolled out reward for good behaviour. When we broke up, I examined the many ways in which gave up any power in the relationship, and spent the next few months, finding the real me again and reclaiming my balls. My girlfriend and I are still talking and as I have become the more assertive man she originally hooked up with, her love for me has been rekindled. Why? In large part because I now know that it is ok, to let her know that while i cannot expect her to have sex simply for my benefit (why would that be fun?), she cannot also expect me to be a monk! If the woman you are married to uses sex like a weapon, then it's ok to let them know that there IS a door, and you can easily go find it elsewhere.
Marriage is a partnership, and if one partner is trying to dominate, then that is no longer a healthy relationship. | |
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| Why are all my married friends controlled by their wives???
Posted: 7/17/2005 11:12:45 PM | (blondeallegedly withbrains wrote:) "Ok, im going to be brutally honest here... men are pigs.."
Maybe the ones YOU know. That's probably because people, like water, tend to seek their own level.
"dont denie it... and can rarely be trusted with a single buddy when they are out and about. Im sure your buddy wouldnt want his wife out with her single girlfriends partying ... fact is... 2 good lookin guys out ... id be jumpin on that."
So then if YOU'RE the one "jumpin on that", WHO is the "pig"?
"And not many men can say no if a hot little mama comes up to them and their is drinkin involved."
Bet ME! It is particularly easy if the "hot little momma" is arrogant. It is fun to shut them down and watch them slink away like a whipped dog.
"in a relationship, grass alllllways looks greener on the other side"
Maybe in Yours.....
" Men and women fight and have issues every day of a married life. Its so easy to talk urself into doing something wrong cause he/she pissed u off that day... beware sweetie.. and stay single until u can handle it.
Now we see why you're single. MY marriage wasn't that way...
"Fear Factor.. well hell.. thats a given... no women wants her hubby starin at little women in tight little outfits when she's slavin at home cookin, cleaning, workin, and that has to compete with that!"
So you're so horribly insecure that you fear competition from images on a TV screen, recorded months earlier in some other place?
WOW!
That's GOT to be some kind of record!!!!
"Sorry.. i had to comment'
Thanks for reaffirming my opinions on insecure, controlling women
"As far as porn goes... if my man wants porn.. i'll give it to him myself...haha.. if ur mans gotta watch porn or go to strip bars - ur doing somethin wrong sweetie!"
This shows a total lack of understanding of men and a VERY controlling nature.
This is the same "thinking" in the joke about PLAYBOY for married men, it has the same centerfold every month.
If you think that you can prevent a man from having, and/or indulging fantasies; if you think all men are pigs; if you think that YOU can equal the fantasy quality of porn and force your "other" to be satisfied with that, you're one of the very people about which this thread is written.
Final Note: IF you're a "blonde with brains" how come you have so many misspellings and misused homonyms. Inquiring minds wanna know!BTW< you have similar typos in your profile... | |
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| Why are all my married friends controlled by their wives???
Posted: 7/17/2005 11:28:19 PM | well tyme.. i guess u had a few hours to kill.. so u decided to work ur way threw my OPINION...
first of all... its chat.. i didnt realize my spelling was being monitored.. tough shit.. at least u could read it
guys say the are pigs... so stop kidding urself and everyone on here.
As far as insecure goes... look whos talkin.. u wasted probably an hour analyzing my opinion... to sway me to think ur smarter than me..haha.. ok... im feelin it.. NOT
I raised 2 kids on my own, work hard, play hard.. im 40 and i have a right to control MY life... I wasnt talkin about urs.
ur seepin water i dont sink too.. move on.
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| Why are all my married friends controlled by their wives???
Posted: 7/18/2005 8:46:35 AM |
guys say the are pigs... so stop kidding urself and everyone on here.
When it's said as a joke, it sometimes provokes a smile.
When it's passed off as 'serious', it tends to be disturbing.
This message took 10 seconds...is that fast enough for you? | |
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| Why are all my married friends controlled by their wives???
Posted: 7/18/2005 8:55:26 AM | | This is probably why wives control your friends.... because instead of dealing with the problem and argu who has more correct spelling or what ever it may be. They might just say what "ever you say dear". I don't mean to pick on anyone. No one should control anyone else. Everyone has there own mountains to climb and past stuggles they deal with. I don't think people should compair who had more of a harder time in life then someone else. It's just different. I don't think everything should be a contest on who is better then who. The real skill is how you communicate and work together to acheive happiness. It might look like control but, it's good to ask an oppinion and share experiences without getting into fights or control issues. If someone has control problems, I think they might have an insecurity issues. I would just move on. And if you're in a relationship, don't expect them to change either. | |
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| Why are all my married friends controlled by their wives???
Posted: 7/18/2005 9:18:42 AM | | C'mon guys you are "slightly" more pig-ish than we are...can we be honest about that at least? Look at the porn industry, a business which generates billions per year, who does that cater to? and the majority of sex offences and perversions are perfomed by.....? | |
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| Why are all my married friends controlled by their wives???
Posted: 7/18/2005 9:25:37 AM | | Why do women insist upon trying to classify and stereotype men? When men do the same, they get slammed for being sexist and such. Why not give credit where credit is due, and say both sexes are far more than what the surface divulges? Can men be more piggish? Sure, in an overt way, but speaking as a guy who has many girl friends, has anyone ever stood in a group of women and listened to the way they speak about men? Holy crap, I'd hate to be the guys they were seeing or marrie to. Women may not be piggish in general when in mixed company, but get them in a group, and they are everybit as terrible as men supposedly are... | |
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| Why are all my married friends controlled by their wives???
Posted: 7/18/2005 9:38:04 AM | | Yeah yeah, I'm not denying us women are fashion whores and love to shop and love to talk etc etc. (all stereotypes about us that are true for most women) but the topic here that blondwbrains seems to be getting shafted on is that men are pigs, men ARE pigs. one way or another... | |
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| Why are all my married friends controlled by their wives???
Posted: 7/18/2005 9:41:33 AM | | Like I said, get a group of women together and you guys can dish out the slop just as well if not better. I've heard girls talk graphically about their sex lives with their partners way more indepth than my guy buds ever get), and heard them talk about which guy they want to sleep with even though they're married. All I am trying to say, while we guys may be more blatant than you, it's a terrible shame that women cannot own up to their own shortcomings. | |
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| Why are all my married friends controlled by their wives???
Posted: 7/18/2005 9:41:40 AM | As for the topic question:Control is futile in a rel. and one can only control oneself, that said...
Why do married guys appear to be controlled by their wives? well perhaps it is much easier to skip on yet another guy's night out of skirt chasing (even if the married guy isn't doing the chasing) then it is to say, hey hon I'm going out drinking with my single friends again. single men don't get together on a friday night in a bar to talk about life...single men get together to chase tail. I distinctly recall in a past rel I was totally cool with him having his "boys night out", but when the roles were reversed and it was my turn to go bar hopping with the girls my celphone would not stop going off with the text messages all night long. Was it a trust thing? don't think so, because he knows that I would NEVER cheat, but the idea of me being out in singles town getting tipsy while he sat at home wondering who was trying to pick me up and who was buying me drinks was not a fun thing for the partner at home.
SMILER you are wayyy off topic, no one said women are NOT any of those things I agree with you, now you being a guy and back to the original topic can you agree men are pigs? | |
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| Why are all my married friends controlled by their wives???
Posted: 7/18/2005 9:44:20 AM | <-- hates shopping. But I'm sure its true for others!
Not that it matters so much, but pigs are actually quite intelligent creatures and make very good pets. The old idea that pigs dine on slop is typically incorrect- most farmers feed them grains to keep them healthy. And they only roll around in the mud too keep cool because they have no sweat glands. Other than that, they are fairly clean animals. Yay, I'm a pig advocate!
OT - people shouldn't be controlled either way. Life is a game of compromises, and its unfair to make someone do anything. I mean, if you know your partner is uncomfortable about something thats one thing- but forcing? Augh! 'Sides, hanging out with friends rocks, and losing friends for love sounds so painful.
 to ya'll though! :)
(oh and I have a lot of guy friends that aren't pigs at all- we hang out to do dorky things though lol :D So I must disagree that all men are pigs, sorry ^_^) | |
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| Why are all my married friends controlled by their wives???
Posted: 7/18/2005 9:50:29 AM | ^^ yay dorkiness! I love it when guys start quoting cartoons like invader zim. Now if thats not dorky I don't know what is, and I loooove it! 
hehe a little off topic there =^_^=
I see a kitty down there! I mean... on the post below.. a kitty picture... that didn't come out the way I meant but, what a cute cat! | |
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