| Why are all my married friends controlled by their wives???
Posted: 8/25/2005 11:23:06 PM |
My married buddies, which are most of them, are the same way; They proclaim to be individuals, and are in a "partnership" with their wives, but when the wife says they can`t do something, that`s the end of it. "I can`t, the wife won`t let me."
Sometimes men just use their wives as an excuse to not do something. Women do it too. Kids also work to get out of something too. | |
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| Why are all my married friends controlled by their wives???
Posted: 8/25/2005 11:25:56 PM |
The problem is people get married for love. Romantic love
Getting married for romantic love alone, is like sitting yourself up for the divorce. When two people marry they need to not only have romantic love, but also friendship type love, and unconditional family type love for each other. Romantic love simply is not enough. | |
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| Why are all my married friends controlled by their wives???
Posted: 8/26/2005 8:19:29 AM |
Sometimes men just use their wives as an excuse to not do something.
This is so true! I've heard on the phone, "Sorry buddy, my wife told me if I don't fix this and this today, she's going to leave me." 
Why oh why must we wives and girlfriends always be the "bad guy" of the movie?  | |
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| Why are all my married friends controlled by their wives???
Posted: 8/26/2005 8:57:33 AM | i was the "pants wearer" when i was married only because my husband wouldnt step up to the plate. i swear i literally had to tell him to brush his teeth and wear deodorant or he didnt. after awhile, i longed for someone to just take charge. i myself would rather have a partner i can look up to and have someone i can lean on every now and then. not someone to dominate me, not going to happen..but rather, someone i can go to when i dont know all the answers and yet him be humble enough to do the same for me.
~Melissa~ | |
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| Why are all my married friends controlled by their wives???
Posted: 8/29/2005 11:01:39 AM | OK..this lady was waaaaaaayyyy too controlling. If I were a male and my significant other did not "allow" me to watch Fear Factor, ...her bossy butt would be out the door!! 
Anyway... I for one, would not like my married man goin' out with a single man..LOL..I know what you dudes are always up to.... NO GOOD!! J/K 
Seriously..One is only treated how they ALLOW others to treat them. Tell him to get a "back-bone" and stand up for his rights...he's not a child!!
Then, of course, there are the odd few that actually prefer it that way. The one's that choose this route are, in my opinion, people that do not want to take responsibility for their own actions/decisions. Hence.."You told me to go out with the boys...they wouldn't let me come home until 6:00 am"!! or "Your the one that picked out this piece of crap car"!!
All relationships should be based on a 50/50 kinda' deal. Otherwise the marriage does not stand a chance. | |
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| Why are all my married friends controlled by their wives???
Posted: 1/11/2006 7:51:00 AM | Controlling spouses period only create resentment and encourage lying and sneaky behavior from their partner (gender is irrelevant).
I got a buddy's whose wife is waaay insecure from previous "burnings" and she'd always look at his emails when he was away. So, he ended up getting a 2nd email that she doesn't know about for his own use and put a password on it she'll never guess. And she uses the 1st one and now everything seems fine.
But its that kinda controlling and insecurity that makes people do things like that.
And I do so agree that kids are a great excuse to get out of things (like boring parties or conversations). "Oh its naptime, gotta go." Its great. | |
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| Why are all my married friends controlled by their wives???
Posted: 1/14/2006 3:08:52 AM | thats true, but its not always so easy.
My wife was put down and treated like crap her whole life. So she's emotionally scarred. She's very conflict avoidant and insecure now in her adult years. If I wanted or was an ass I could walk over her and control her too, but we're helping her thru it. Her family was very abusive. So its not really that easy for an emotionally abused person to just stand up for themselves, but I'm working on it with her. Right now all she can do is just cut off contact with these nutbags of a family.
But you're right if your no push yourself already, I'd be walking out the door myself. Who needs that crap. | |
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