| Why is soo hard for guys to approach women??
Posted: 6/28/2006 8:17:49 AM | Typing these words will be easier than making you believe they are true.
Rejection is what? A passing moment that leaves you momentarily embarrassed? What happens when you turn and walk away? The moment is gone. Life hasn't ended. You tried and maybe failed. But so what? There will be other chances. Other women, other men. No one succeeds with the first try. But that doesn't mean you stop. And that doesn't mean you don't try.
If you spend your life fearful of what might happen every time you do something, then you're not spending your life at all. You're wasting it. Regret and lost opportunities will hurt you far worse than the rejection of some random woman or man.
If you saw me on the street and wanted to say hi. What is the worst thing I could do to you? Besides pull out mace and zap you. But seriously. What could I say that would so wound you to make you not want to say hi? I might even say hi back. So I hope you have a follow up to hi. | |
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| Why is soo hard for guys to approach women??
Posted: 6/28/2006 8:33:43 AM | | If I was interested I would talk to any woman. I would approach any woman-no matter how rich or famous or beautiful. I would admit it's hard but rejection is part of the game-part of the hunt. If a woman doesnt respond I dont get embarrased, I get motivated. So many times I've tried to talk to a woman and she says no thank you or I'm not interested, I say cool no prob. I smile real big and if I get embarrassed I laugh at myself. Hahaha....man are you kidding? She was WAY too pretty for you! This makes it easier. At least for me. | |
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| Why is soo hard for guys to approach women??
Posted: 6/28/2006 8:38:13 AM | there is no real secret to approaching a woman . here are a few tips for the guys.
1. personal appearance
2. make sure your hair is combed
3.make sure your hands are clean
4. make sure you took time to clean your fingernails
5.make sure your facial hair is trimmed
6. make sure to make eye contact
7.make sure your shoes are clean
8.make sure your clothes are clean.
9. have a smile ready
10. for gods sake be polite
these few tip will help you with your approach to women | |
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| Why is soo hard for guys to approach women??
Posted: 6/28/2006 8:38:58 AM | because my friend, most guys take it too seriously.
Best way to rid a fear (that's what it is, a fear of approaching women) is to do what they do on fear factor... do a whole lot of it!! I mean a whole lot..
If its hard for you make a goal of approaching 10 women a day. doesn't mean they won't reject you, but WHO CARES!! Its all in good fun!
If it's really really hard write out a little introduction script.. like, "Hi My name is Zorro, I was just passing by and you happened to catch my eye. What's your name?
And you can take it from there...
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P.S: chl, you got that from one of those "How To Pick Up Chicks" books, didn't you now?? | |
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| Why is soo hard for guys to approach women??
Posted: 6/28/2006 10:14:33 AM | P.S: chl, you got that from one of those "How To Pick Up Chicks" books, didn't you now??
LMAO..no my friend...beinging 60 y/o you learn as time goes by.. | |
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| Why is soo hard for guys to approach women??
Posted: 6/28/2006 10:47:03 AM | (responding to 2 people)
I wish I got no thank you or I'm not interested. Only been politly rejected once.
I also wish rejection was more passing. After getting laughed at it takes me at least 3 months before I even look at a woman that way. | |
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| Why is soo hard for guys to approach women??
Posted: 6/28/2006 11:23:11 AM | i wouldnt say it was hard for blokes to approach women myself, usually blokes have more self esteem than women.
its the women who find it diffcult to approach men.
especially if the women has low self esteem and does not feel comfortable with herself. | |
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| Why is soo hard for guys to approach women??
Posted: 6/28/2006 11:29:31 AM | Lack of confidence and insecurity. Women can tell if a man is lacking confidence or is insecure in their behavior and body language.
I agree, fear of rejection. If you realize not everyone you meet is going to like you, why let rejection bother you.
Men and women are like busses. There's always another one coming around the corner. Just be patient. | |
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| Why is soo hard for guys to approach women??
Posted: 6/28/2006 11:32:03 AM | | What jasmineKai wrote was dead on the nail. I would like to add that being shy can be overcome. Just make it a habit to flirt with women. Make such a habit that the habit kicks in before your shyness can. Before, I would let my shyness take over and think about all the "what ifs" and "plan" an approach. The longer I would think about those things, the more my shyness would kick in. Now my flirting habit kicks in before the shyness, and it's kept at bay by making FUNNY jokes about the woman and teasing her. You can't be shy and have a good conversation at the same time. | |
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| Why is soo hard for guys to approach women??
Posted: 6/28/2006 12:59:58 PM | If you think YOU have it bad....a woman will feel rejected if she smiles at you and you don't approach her....THINK ABOUT IT....
...everyone gets rejected in a RUDE way from time to time...and it really says more about her than it does about you...who wants to date a sour b*tch anyways? | |
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| Why is soo hard for guys to approach women??
Posted: 6/28/2006 1:45:23 PM | What cynderalla said...
When I was a girl( no we weren't riding dinosaurs to school then!) we were taught to let the guy do the asking. We were also taught a lot of things about sex that seem to be changing too. Now, were I to take up cradle robbing, making the first move(and having sex early on) probably would be easier, and maybe more effective...
but thanks, I'd like to stay within my own age range, and there, one never knows whether a guy will appreciate me making the first move, be appalled at such unladylike behavior,or get the wrong message entirely...
Appalled I can handle, it's that wrong message thing that makes me want to jump up on my dinosaur and run over somebody.
Just the mature viewpoint...
Cindy O | |
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| Why is soo hard for guys to approach women??
Posted: 6/28/2006 3:52:14 PM |
ULO said: I wish I got no thank you or I'm not interested. Only been politly rejected once.
I also wish rejection was more passing. After getting laughed at it takes me at least 3 months before I even look at a woman that way.
You're from Texas.
That automatically makes you cooler than most, remember that.
Colin | |
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| Why is soo hard for guys to approach women??
Posted: 6/28/2006 4:14:08 PM | Hmmm... My ideal situation, smashed at the bar, beautiful woman infront of you, fall at her feet and call it fate... NO JUST KIDDING
The most important thing is contact, after that... just GO WITH IT! | |
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| Why is soo hard for guys to approach women??
Posted: 6/28/2006 4:34:03 PM | Just go to house parties, and tell women you a cervix puncher....that's always a hit.
It can go either way.
Go for people in your own league, and dont tell me thats not the way it works, if your in rags, or wearing walmart clothes, shitty shoes, or have grarly teeth, dont think for a second unless you have more charm and charisma than possibly known to man you will succeed.
Just my two-bits.
Walk to a woman, or a man like your better than them, with boatloads of confidence, yes it is a slight bit egotistical, but bowing your head and mumbling doesnt get you anywhere. | |
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| Why is soo hard for guys to approach women??
Posted: 6/29/2006 5:01:10 AM | I personally admire a man who has the balls to approach women. I know it can be hard! I say just overcome your fear and try, most women are polite with rejections anyway. Whats the worst that can happen?, apart from being put into a coma by her 7ft caveman boyfriend  | |
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| Why is soo hard for guys to approach women??
Posted: 6/29/2006 5:27:50 AM | | It's only hard to approach women if you think you will be rejected, and you care if you are rejected. It's about fearing rejection. It's about fearing that she will pronounce you as unworthy of love, doomed to spend eternity alone and miserable, never getting laid, ever. She can do this; all women can. It only takes one to announce it to the world and then you're done for. It's not worth it! Don't approach women! | |
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| Why is soo hard for guys to approach women??
Posted: 6/29/2006 6:21:27 AM | guys don't understand women that's why.
the oh i'm with my boyfriend or i'm taken or i'm well i'm sure if your all guys have heard the
endless replies we take as rejection.
you got to read women and it easy once you know how.
the ladies have an so many communication skills it's a real treat to just watch them if you
know what your seeing.
lets start with the wedding ring.
that's the visual to all that she is married.
well look alot closer the ladies have hundreds of more signals unfortunately most of them are
only seen by the other ladies.
it's all about timing and knowing where you are in the present, all the powers of the
universe exist in present.
realize your a man the most dominant creature on the planet.
exude confidence in every endevour especially the desire to mate.
when a female is ready to mate she goes into heat, this is hard to see by the untrained eye.
a hint she may have her hair up, look extra fresh, enthusiastic, she will give off body language
she may find a simple reason to get close to a male or males and do a suttle shrugging of her
hips to let the male that's also ready to mate know she's good to go.
if the male or males don't get it she moves on till she finds the guy that gets it.
it's all timing the ladies all know when one of them are out of the game and menstrating the
way they walk, talk and dress sends out the word.
the same goes for when thier vulnerable or available.
always be alert to your surroundings.
even if a female is soaking wet and ready to pull up her dress she won't if she's in the wrong
social setting (unless it's a time of drunkeness or such).
all the other females see everything, so you need to be alone with her when she has no
social pressure no one observing her in time and space.
it's other women that invented and keep the word slut alive and kicking. | |
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| Why is soo hard for guys to approach women??
Posted: 6/29/2006 9:20:57 AM | I don't fear rejection. I just hate being classified as "just another guy trying to hit on me"
I was married, and have dated very attractive women who tell me about the onslought of idiots who approach them. Although I know I'm different and so are my intentions, you get summed up by women b4 you even open your mouth. It does get easier w/ practice though | |
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| Why is soo hard for guys to approach women??
Posted: 6/29/2006 9:22:33 AM | En Guarde BLACKACES!!
Your way with words challanges my very existance!!
Meet me at the forum labelled "SHOWDOWN" at high noon today.
....... If you are man enough to face the great ZORRO!, that is...
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Ladies!! Do not fall for BLACKACES!! He is a false idol. His honey is sweet, but poisoned. He would verymuch like to get into your underpants.
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| Why is soo hard for guys to approach women??
Posted: 6/29/2006 10:05:41 AM | you'd probably bring a sword to gunfight too!
so your very existence has been challenged, geesh if i ever make women the basis of my
entire existence that would be so sad.
i love the lady's (and by the way ZORRO which lady told you how sweet my honey really is?)
but thier not the be all and end all. | |
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| Why is soo hard for guys to approach women??
Posted: 6/29/2006 11:45:51 PM | "well look alot closer the ladies have hundreds of more signals unfortunately most of them are only seen by the other ladies."
Oh really? Dang, just where do I go for this GettingInOtherWomens'Business101 class? LOL
"when a female is ready to mate she goes into heat"
Are we talking about humans here, or is this Animal Kingdom good gawd ROFL, geeze.
"she may find a simple reason to get close to a male or males and do a suttle shrugging of her hips"
Oops, I need the "Learn How to SHRUG your hips in 10 easy Lessons" class??? HOW ON EARTH does a person "SHRUG" their hips?? LOL
"the ladies all know when one of them are out of the game and menstrating"
Man, I so need this class!  DANG, I so do not ever THINK about this LOL, yuck.
"all the other females see everything"
I feel so left out LOL.
 This is SOOOOO hilarious. LOLOL
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| Why is soo hard for guys to approach women??
Posted: 6/30/2006 12:18:05 AM | I take issue with the whole fear of rejection thing. Rejection is nothing. I'm not afraid of it at all, and I don't see why anyone would be. Getting accepted is scarier for me than getting rejected because if I get rejected, then all I have to do is walk away.
I am planning on approaching hordes of women when I get to my new university. I WANT them to reject me, so I can get more practice (not to the point where I would tell them I wasn't interested, but just as well if they're not). The idea of it as trying to pick them up actually makes it easier for me because it gives me something to say, and it doesn't seem like I am aimlessly approaching a stranger for no good reason, which to me, is even more awkward.
My conscious mind knows full well that it isn't hard. But since the automatic stuff that's not under my control thinks otherwise, it IS hard. That's really the fear. It is fear of fear, not rejection. The fear that my brain will freeze, as I have known it to do before, and then I will be stuck and my face will turn red and I will look like an idiot. It's a fear of that stuff that will kick in that I don't have control of. But I will do it anyway, if for no other reason than that I am pissed off at myself for being afraid of it. Anyway, I KNOW PERFECTLY WELL THAT IT SHOULDN'T BE HARD. Just try telling that to my unconscious mind. "Yeah, right" it says. It can't be helped, other than by practice. | |
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| Why is soo hard for guys to approach women??
Posted: 6/30/2006 7:22:02 AM | msg 47
well i'm glad you found my post so halarious!
i guess it's true some women are not mature enough to see, hear and feel the sounds of the
jungle.
we are amimals!
the only thing different is our subconcious minds.
without that were just another animal on this rock.
without subconcious minds the ability to choose, we would just do things instinktively.
try watching programs on animals, it's all the same except we have the ability to choose.
when a bear is hungry it eats we decide what to eat. | |
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| Why is soo hard for guys to approach women??
Posted: 6/30/2006 7:30:02 AM | | i think fear of constant rejection is something that turns men of of approaching women. i mean theres meant to be a few women in your area that ur could have a long term relationship with. and the rest.... well the relationship usually wont last long. so to find those girls that u are suited to you have to approach girls and date them. i think girls these days are hard hard hard hard hard work. NO MAN HAS AN EASY TIME WITH ANY WOMEN. WOMEN ARE PUT ON THIS PLANET TO MAKE MEN MISERABLE!! | |
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