| Why is soo hard for guys to approach women??
Posted: 7/11/2006 10:11:22 PM |
however most females will stop at nothing if you present a good fix of energy for them.
So...women are vampires. Got it. *scribbles advice into notebook* | |
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| Why is soo hard for guys to approach women??
Posted: 7/15/2006 9:00:53 PM |
I'm sorry blackaces.....what the hell are you talking about? Its like what killerdog says man its sales. You have to sell yourself. She has to "buy" whatever it is you're presenting. Now it's not hard for me to approach a woman because I truly believe that there is no woman alive that's too good for me. I'd hit on halle berry the same as the woman that lives across the street from me. Selling yourself, thats what it
That scuttles most of us. Selling is by nature exaggeration. BS is hardly a solid basis to start a relationship. It kind of commodifies human relations.  | |
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| Why is soo hard for guys to approach women??
Posted: 7/16/2006 6:56:29 PM | It rather depends on the motivation of the individual, does it not? For my part, I think I have saturated the regional possibilities, and so the "honeymoon" period of receiving emails is at an end until new people from my area sign on. Sadly, the region in which I am situated is mostly populated by people with more rural-based values, and I originally issue from a slightly more urban-cosmopolitan atmosphere (hence, a large difference in irreconcilable personal interests). Don't get me wrong: there is absolutely nothing wrong with the bevy of "down-to-earth country girls", but the spheres are far too distant to make a suitable match...
The solution may not be to give up, but to send the occasional email to the ones that most definitely pique your interest. I find the waiting game to not bear as much fruit as being courageous in making initial contact. | |
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| Why is soo hard for guys to approach women??
Posted: 7/16/2006 8:25:47 PM | | It's not hard for me to approach a girl, introduce myself, etc. The hard part is what to do next! This is why I only approach girls to assist them in something. Otherwise, I suck badly. | |
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| Why is soo hard for guys to approach women??
Posted: 7/16/2006 9:44:41 PM | | There oughta be some rules, dangit! Like the RING rule. Once I was shopping in the produce department when an unaccompanied woman cruised by and made a friendly comment about some triviality. I thinks to myself: "Self, here's one that even made the first move and gave you time to react! Don't chicken$hit out this time!" So I reciprocated and returned the tennis ball and we bantered for a minute or so until I made some very innocuous inquiry as to what she might have planned for the weekend. I can't say I was surprised when she said , "Well my HUSBAND and I..." | |
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| Why is soo hard for guys to approach women??
Posted: 7/16/2006 10:01:43 PM | I guess it has something to do with what the nature had decided about the sexes. Men are animals whose orgasm lasts just a few seconds, whereas the distaff enjoys God for a longer period of time. Women just don't want to give it to us so easily, 'cause they are afraid we won't be there to make it longer for them. I'm just kidding! | |
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| Why is soo hard for guys to approach women??
Posted: 7/17/2006 9:38:04 PM |
Sadly, the region in which I am situated is mostly populated by people with more rural-based values, and I originally issue from a slightly more urban-cosmopolitan atmosphere (hence, a large difference in irreconcilable personal interests). Don't get me wrong: there is absolutely nothing wrong with the bevy of "down-to-earth country girls", but the spheres are far too distant to make a suitable match...
Having little to converse about can definitely be a bond-breaker for a monogamous, long term arrangement. | |
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| Why is soo hard for guys to approach women??
Posted: 7/19/2006 12:44:39 PM |
Sadly, the region in which I am situated is mostly populated by people with more rural-based values, and I originally issue from a slightly more urban-cosmopolitan atmosphere (hence, a large difference in irreconcilable personal interests).
Darn! I have the same problem except I'm female. I do travel back to the city at least once a year, but I'd rather find someone interested in living in the uninhabited parts of the country/world. | |
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| Why is soo hard for guys to approach women??
Posted: 7/19/2006 2:24:03 PM | lol damn this is funny thread, I didnt get past the first post sorry
ahh just do it, give it a try, your not going to get beat down, your ego, ahhh poor baby
Come on take a risk in life, your ego can handle it, its not personal
And the more you take chances the better at it you get, you meet new friends, think that way,
Friends guy, you wont want to be with 90% of the women you aproach anyway
Plus, most people, by law of averages, are not looking for anything serious either, they are always going to say No, have nothing to do with you.
Chin up '
Now I'm going to read the rest of this one, I have a sneaking suspicion I'm going to get a good laugh | |
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| Why is soo hard for guys to approach women??
Posted: 7/19/2006 2:55:46 PM | Got through em hahaha
WOW, someone else has to read all these, they are priceless
Men; Stop looking for "my special someone" in a bar lol
Now; lol
The damn confident crackheads in Vancouver was great
The MD seemed to have a clue, until they all just went at each other (bring it on lol)
The four or five women who contributed all had very valid statements, kudos
And this one was the best (apart from animal rants from blackwhomever)
"Men approach women, guys just think about it."
But this one is true, and great news boys, listen closely (or read if you want to be that way geeshh ;)
YOU CAN LEARN, as Humans we have that gift, go out, pick up a book, two, sixteen, Better yourself Today
Next time I send you all a bill   | |
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| Why is soo hard for guys to approach women??
Posted: 7/19/2006 2:59:09 PM | It took years, but I finally got to the point where I didn't care much at all what other people thought of me. So now approaching women is pretty easy, and being rejected is nothing at all like the bummer it used to be. I think that's because I used to be more SELF-conscious, Self-concerned, self-centered, and all that other self-stuff.
Then, over 15 years ago I realized that there were a lot of people out there who needed help, encouragement, a friend, a joke, etc., and that I could actually provide these things for them. Then as I started doing it I realized that it made me feel much more happy and at peace when my focus and my intention in life was to help and love other people, and to treat others the way I like to be treated. I just felt so good and so fulfilled when I had that attitude toward others. It was a really huge, life-changing thing for me. Any shyness, self-consciousness, or lack of confidence just melted away, I guess because my goal with other people was not just all about ME anymore, so if they pushed ME away I really didn't care. It was incredible, especially because I didn't expect that side-effect at all.
Try it, you'll like it!   | |
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| Why is soo hard for guys to approach women??
Posted: 7/19/2006 3:12:52 PM | I have tons of confidence but in my position they have to approach me [I'm a dead fish] but as soon as they see me they avoid me like I smell of sumthin' [shrugs} guess I'll lay here a while more and hope for the best [sigh]..
dead fish need love too! | |
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| Why is soo hard for guys to approach women??
Posted: 7/19/2006 9:09:53 PM | | You need to read a book called feel your fear and do it anyway. also CONFIDENCE, CONFIDENCE,CONFIDENCE. Start off talking to women you are not attracted to. Try talking to five people a day to get your social skills up and build your confidence. Maybe go to a mall and put on two colognes(one on each arm/wrist) and ask women at random what they think of the two colognes on each wrist. DO NOT WORRY WHAT THEY THINK ABOUT YOU. YOU KNOW YOU LOVE YOURSELF AND THAT IS ALL THAT COUNTS. Just plain meet new people and get over your fear of approach. You can work on getting the email and digits later. Just get out there and talk to as many people as you can, at work and away from work. Talk to guys and women to get the fear taken care of. The worst that can happen is that they can slap you or just walk away. It is OK to talk to HOT women....just don't tell them that they are beautiful if you want to have a deep conversation or get past 10 seconds with them. Hot women are approached 15 - 25 times daily. They have heard all the one liners. Just say you are out making new friends and making conversation. DO IT DUDE! | |
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| Why is soo hard for guys to approach women??
Posted: 7/19/2006 10:12:59 PM | Hard to approach women who
1. are deep inside a book. I'm sure that book is good, but if you really want to meet a man who won't interrupt what you are doing, don't look like you are doing anything else which a man would be too afraid to interrupt you.
2. have earphones on.
3. have a ring - suggests marriage, then again may not. If you really want to meet a man, take off your rings
while in public.
4. aren't looking your direction. Say I'm not going to force myself into your sight. Start looking if you want to be seen!
5. Lack the confidence when you meet them.
After meeting them:
6. Don't work with them where or when to meet next. If you really want to spend more time with me, be proactive, just as you would be proactive in a job hunt. You are after all looking to make relationships work, and make it work both ways. Even if it is saying, let's meet in two weeks, and tell me to expect a call, or not.
7. Keep their age a secret. I'm not about to ask you because it is impolite, but tell me if after I tell you, and there is any doubt it could possibly work out. I really would like to find someone I can live the rest of my life with. And assuming I live to at least 80, that means someone who could easily live with me that long. | |
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| Why is soo hard for guys to approach women??
Posted: 7/19/2006 11:33:49 PM |
Hard to approach women who
aren't looking your direction. Say I'm not going to force myself into your sight. Start looking if you want to be seen!
hahahaaa yup I think we've all had those situations where you're thinking that long hair and figure looks great.....
....then she turns around! YIKES!
...yup eye contact is essential before you approach...as a matter of fact...eye contact is half the battle...quit fretting over what you're gonna say and just look her in the eye...captivate her with your body language...and you can say anything... | |
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| Why is soo hard for guys to approach women??
Posted: 7/19/2006 11:52:34 PM | | I have to say that I would positively swoon over a women deep inside a book...But this depends on the book. If it si dimestore schmaltz, I walk away. If she is reading Aristotle or Bataille...oh, steady my heart! | |
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| Why is soo hard for guys to approach women??
Posted: 7/20/2006 2:21:37 AM | Tropical: So a guy with the confidence to approach a girl isn't going to be a player? Come on...
Men (and I speak for the majority here I reckon) would love not like, LOVE for a girl of any race or size choice of attire or atittude to show an interest in them. It is often such a rare and splendid occasion that most guys jaws would drop I'm sure. And these occasions that give us the confidence to approach the girls...
Girls: Try and make it your puuurogative to say hello or smile at some men, a passing smile nothing serious but just enough to get their 'ball' rolling your making some girls day too... | |
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| Why is soo hard for guys to approach women??
Posted: 7/20/2006 2:34:51 AM | Damn right your preach it man. Double standard it up women and if we are lucky then maybe we can pay for the whole thing and they can play the hard to get or random signals games. Followed with the continue to play the field especially with the online dating game, and as Chris Rock says, keeping us guys that you kinda like or want to use in a glass case, in case of emergency break glass. If we could just all go for it and be more genuine the world would be a better place. But on the flip side this whole agonizing process does help for population control :P
It's a pyschology game though reading non verbal cues and actions, testing them and knowing what to look for and know what you have to offer your unique sales pitch as a sexual partner / significant other and just drive those things to the top of your persona. It's tough though you have to keep an open mind not get jaded or bitter and play the numbers game for a good match. I do find I resent the guys not having the balls though we have balls by very nature of our gender, It would be nice if women would pick some of the double standards like these to switch up instead of traditional power or work etc roles, while I do aprove of those it would be nice if we could just follow through on equality. God what a loaded question. | |
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| Why is soo hard for guys to approach women??
Posted: 7/20/2006 3:11:06 AM | Because most guys are wusses. They think too much. Mostly, they think the woman is the catch.
Here's a hint: she isn't. That's not to say she's not a wonderful person, but there's millions of "wonderful people" out there. don't get hung up on one of them.
Instead of wondering if you measure up, question if she does. see if she fits you. test her. don't be a wuss and give her what she wants. | |
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| Why is soo hard for guys to approach women??
Posted: 7/20/2006 1:04:57 PM | | hmm.... this thread is interresting..lol...out of all the years i have liked a guy..i never had a guy approach me in school..they always had one of my friends come to me..but when i got out of school it was different...like in a bar..i have always been the shy and stay to myself type..i never went to anyone..most of the guy i have been around in the bar i go too...before i met my man...they always liked to stare from across the dance floor...i could be turned around and feel them staring and wanting to talk to me..but they hardly ever did...then after going there for awhile....they would start talking to me because they would be talking to one of my friends...some guys do have a problem i have also noticed that they wont approach you if thier friends are around either...some of them just are afraid of what thier friends will say if you are not really pretty..i mean i had one guy who would stare at me since i have been going there..there would be times he would talk to me..but that would be when the bar was closed..still to this day..he will stare at me and my friends who are with me..but he nevers comes and talks to us..but i guess that is how some guys are...well that is it for now | |
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