| revived: What do women (men) honestly want in a man (women)?
Posted: 1/11/2007 5:26:29 AM | What I'm looking for is a best friend,someone to grow old with,
to share whatever life comes along.
Laughtor,lives ups and downs,,someone who is honest,sincere,
dedicated to wanting to make the relationship work,who wont cheat or lie.
is a one woman man,wont be a jealous type.
Thats all i can think of for now.
If I can think of anything else I'll let you know. | |
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| What do women honestly want in a man?
Posted: 1/11/2007 7:20:00 AM | I HATE how these kind of things always turn into a "battle of the sexes" (based on what I've been reading so far....)
Everybody's different. As for me, I want a guy....
-who can spell above a third-grade reading level (I'm sorry, but "ur" is not a word)
-who will return my phone calls, and wants to talk to me at some time other than 2 AM after he's had a few beers
-whose idea of a date isn't 10-cent wing night at his local watering hole
-whose idea of dinner and a movie isn't frozen pizza and a bootleg copy of "Star Wars" (yes, this actually happened to me)
-who isn't ashamed to hold my hand in public (and believe me, I'm not big on public displays of affection)
-who likes to cuddle on the couch and watch TV
-who calls me at work to see how my day is going
-who isn't afraid to let me go for a girls night out
-who has and can keep a job
-who is motivated and has goals and dreams (and is not afraid to share them with me)
-who makes me laugh and keeps me smiling
-who doesn't ask me to prove anything
-who doesn't judge me based on my past experiences and actions
-who doesn't spend seven nights a week in an alcoholic stupor and expect me to pick up the pieces
I could go on and on..... | |
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| What do women honestly want in a man?
Posted: 1/11/2007 7:59:18 AM |
Gonzo, I'm not turning it into the battle of the sexes,
I'm just sharing what I'm looking for in a man.
I wasn't talking about you, dear. I was referring to some of the earlier messages. A lot of fighting and name-calling back and forth. I hate when that stuff happens. | |
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| What do women honestly want in a man?
Posted: 1/11/2007 8:58:12 AM | -Well, I want a man who will love me no matter what I look like
-Someone who will cherish all that I do for him/us
-Someone who will always be truthful, honest, loving, kind and who will open doors, hold hands, and kiss me.
-Someone who loves me unconditionally and I them
-My best friend/lover
-Someone who will try his best in all that he does and who will encourage me to do the same
-Someone who will be on my side but will also tell me when I am wrong too.
Another words an equal relationship!!! Everything I expect from him should be the same of me.
I am very single and looking for my soulmate who won't be judgemental or abusive! Someone who likes to cuddle and be loved too. Someone who won't change me!! Someone who will help me out in all instances where I require help(like losing weight or help me believe in myself if I want to do that). Someone who won't leave me in the dark on secrets, someone who will not rape me if he had to much to drink and will go home when I ask him too. Someone who will understand what it is like being scared and will hold me close. | |
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| What do men/women honestly want in a partner?
Posted: 1/11/2007 9:07:25 AM | i have revived this thread but now it's for both sexes so can you please make sure the subject is:
what do men/women honestly want in a partner?
if the subject goes back to what the original post is (was) can you please change the subject line.
thank y'all | |
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| What do women honestly want in a man?
Posted: 1/11/2007 9:12:59 AM | wow, great thread
I can really get into this one, ive been on both sides of the fence with women
What i've found is that they want Honesty, Respect, and Communication, all are and should be important. Without any of them the relationship is doomed before it starts.
I think the key to the sucess of any relationship is two things:
1. Treat them the way you want to be treated, with kindness, respect and honesty
2. Don't take them for granted, be open, tell them anything you would tell your buddies when out with them, they truly want to share all your secrets, not just some of them.
As alot of you can see, I'm having a tough time in my marriage and have in fact finally thrown in the towel, and I can tell all of you without reservation i hated to do it. Hopefully some of you guys can learn from our mistakes | |
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| What do women honestly want in a man?
Posted: 1/11/2007 9:32:55 AM | I think we all want the same thing. A trustworthy, kind, considerate, loving mate. I would love to find a woman that would be as loving as I am. | |
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| What do women honestly want in a man?
Posted: 1/11/2007 10:25:10 AM | I think for the most part that nobody really can define what it is that they want.
To be happy and to be loved. Well yes of course.
I agree with an earlier post stating that women say they want the nice guy but end up with the jerk that beat them.
I also agree that there are a lot of guys out there that are jerks, and don't deserve any woman, but end up with one after another.
I can tell you from past history, that respect and caring compasion is a two way street.
I was told from my ex that all she wanted from me was for me to feel the same way about her and look at her the same way as I did when we were dating. Of course for me this was difficult to do as she looked at me as some type of scum for mistakes that I made years before. And NO to be clean it was not cheating on her.
Also I will say that men too want an attractive woman, but can get past that if people look to the inside.
Ok I am rambling, all this to say you can ask and answer this any way you want, but until you really get to know someone you really can't just say you want some one honest, or ,,,,,,,
Nobody want some one that will say you suck at cooking or your fat go on a diet.
And not all men just lie around on the couch and watch sports on sunday. | |
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| What do women honestly want in a man?
Posted: 1/11/2007 12:24:17 PM | | I can only speak for myself, but in my opinion, you have the key word in your question. Honesty. Women have the same basic needs as men. There is a need to be appreciated. That helps in feeling validated in who and what you are as a person. Warmth and affection. Who doesn't need that in their life? Someone to care if you smile or not. Someone to share smiles with and just feel at home and comfortableout having to do anything special. | |
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| What do women honestly want in a man?
Posted: 1/11/2007 12:24:26 PM | | We all want the honest,carin,loyal....blag,blah,blah....men and women want that in a mate....I would have to ask someone why they would want something other than that in a relationship. We all have out own perspective on what we want,obviously. I know that I want a self assured man. A confident man. A man who not only hears you but listens too. A secure man. ....See, we ALL...men and women......have our lists. | |
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| What do men/women honestly want in a man?
Posted: 1/11/2007 2:51:39 PM | | trust, honesty, a willingnees to open up, communication, deep feelings, sometimes just someone to accept us as we are and love us anyway | |
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Posted: 1/11/2007 4:31:41 PM |   ok I already have a man but heres what I want lol love,honesty,hugs and kisses,someone to talk to lol someone that likes to talk to me ahhhhhhh deep feelings would be nice to someone to tell me that i'm special to him and likes to have a little fun in life | |
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| What do men/women honestly want in a man?
Posted: 1/11/2007 5:50:29 PM | | Right now I'm thinking it would be wonderful if someone didn't just sweet talk you until they get in your pants then drop you so fast your head spins. | |
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| What do women honestly want in a man?
Posted: 1/11/2007 6:24:03 PM | For the record I'm a guy. But the answer is easy even for me.
Communication, honesty, respect and trust.
all esle comes second.
God Bless  | |
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| What do women honestly want in a man?
Posted: 1/18/2007 5:16:51 PM | 1. someone who is genuine (act yourself, don't "put-on" for me, I hate phonies)
2. someone who is considerate (manners are important, especially with phone calls and messages. Being too busy is not an excuse for rudeness)
3. someone who is interested in the whole person, not just the sex parts
4. someone who is sincere (I'm tired of the same come-ons, I don't want to be one of your conquests)
5. someone who is giving emotionally, intelligence-wise, help-wise, and a few trinkets now and then wouldn't hurt either 
6. someone who is not self absorbed (hey, there are other people inhabiting this world too)
7. most of all, which everything else will fall into place- someone who loves me as much as I love them. | |
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| revived: What do women (men) honestly want in a man (women)?
Posted: 1/19/2007 3:39:26 AM | I don't understand all the anger on both sides, men and women, over physical attraction. I have seen men who are exactly what the media portray as attractive, and frankly, I'm not impressed. I have also seen men who don't fit the general "standard" of attractiveness that I have considered extremely desirable. If you harbor bitterness and anger, it will permeate your entire being and make you less attractive to everyone. I know some will say that sounds like garbage, but it's true. One of the nicest compliments I've ever received had not to do with my looks, but that someone said they saw the "goodness" of my character in my eyes. Physical attraction is necessary to start a relationship. Compatibility is necessary to sustain it. If someone is not attracted to me, I don't take it personally and attack him as a hypocrite.
There are some valuable opinions in this thread, but we could do without the insults and accusations. | |
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| revived: What do women (men) honestly want in a man (women)?
Posted: 1/19/2007 10:16:11 AM | Jlokitty-
What you say is very intelligent, but unfortunately, I have come across alot of men who are not mature enough to face that 2 people are not attracted to each other and take it as a personal rejection. THey then get insultive and defensive. It was bad enough dealing with that when I was younger, but that still goes on at this later age. It's very discouraging. I'm not a prude, but when I want sex, I will choose who I want to have it with, and if they are worth my effort. | |
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| What do women honestly want in a man?
Posted: 1/19/2007 11:22:00 AM | Honesty is important. Trust, being open to anything without feeling ashamed or embarrassed, communication, and respect. I would like a man to walk beside me instead of infront or behind. Someone who doesnt have a big ego due to good looks or money. Someone who thinks about the future with some who does have children and the issues that may and may not arrise. He looks at the entire package before he leaps. Straight forwardness. Its very hard to find a hopeless romantic out there anymore that is close to the same level as myself. Someone who appreciates the little things in life. Geez I could go but I wont. You have to work at being in a good relationship. That means 50/50 with everything. The thing I dislike the most is someone who does play games and just out for thier own selfish needs of sex.
Be lieniant with mr. hanky because he hasnt been in a true and loving relationship as of yet. When his heart is broken (like most people who have a heart) have gone through once or twice he will be looking back at this and remembering how much time he should have took to think about others and how he treated them with disrespect. I dont blame him but there are women out there just like him. (this comment goes way back to the first posts on this forum)
I hope all of you have success in finding that one "true" love and never give up your dreams for one day they will come to light. | |
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| What do women honestly want in a man?
Posted: 1/21/2007 7:35:17 AM | Someone who works or has a regular income for some reason other than collecting and squandering away gambling. (I'm not looking for prince charming to come and rescue me. I have no problem working two jobs if that is what I need to do to support myself. I am not willing to work two jobs so someone else can let me pay.)
Someone who is kind to me and my family. Respects who I am and what I do. Respect doesn't mean that someone has to agree with me. I can disagree with others' opinions but that does not mean that I do not value, or respect a difference from my own values and opinions. I would like the same in return.
Someone who enjoys doing some of the same things I do and quite possibly has new things to try. Someone who is willing to try new things.
A sense of humor and can appreciate that laughing is the way I get through the stress of everyday life. Therefore, do not take me too seriously all the time.
Realistic and acceptable social and private interactions please. FYI - that means no drama kings, honesty, and skip the alternative lifestyle, please,
Someone who is willing to take the time to develop a friendship first and see what happens.
Someone who can communicate using words with more than two syllables correctly in a sentence. LOL, Guess I sound like something comparable to a nightmare :) | |
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| What do women honestly want in a man?
Posted: 1/21/2007 7:46:43 AM | Hiya Bob..and others...
From experience, I can say....women and men do not end up with the nightmare abusive situation, whether it be sexual, physical, emothional, social, and/or financial power control because the significant other showed these disturbing qualities from the first date on. The significant others that I have dealt with in the past were quite charming, hooked me in, appeared to be what I was looking for and then reality slowly began to show.
So it's not that men or women say they want a nice person and end up with the nasty situation because they say one thing and fall for another. It simply takes time to discover who a person really is. | |
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| What do women honestly want in a man?
Posted: 1/22/2007 9:49:06 PM | Personally, I don' think it matters what the opposite sex wants in a partner. Before anyone gets heated and angry, hear me out. If you start to mold yourself into what your prospective date or partner wants, thats where the true conflict develops in a relationship.
I, for one, look for something meaningful in a relationship that compliments my personality. I'm not shy but reserved. I would not pursue a party/high sociable women jsut because shes looking for a nice, trustworthy, energetic, sincere partner. I am all of these but what would we do? I'd rather be outside around a campfire with a few good friends then dancing in the middle of a drunken crowd with the music you can't even understand.
In conclusion, I believe you have to just put yourself out there, let the opposite sex decide if your right for them, eventually you will find someone who is compatible with you. | |
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| What do women honestly want in a man?
Posted: 1/22/2007 10:38:28 PM | | This is exactly the point I'm trying to make in another thread about the stupidest/sappiest song you ever heard. The song by Dusty Springfield "Wishing and Hoping" seems to be telling the woman to change herself to what her man likes in order to catch him. | |
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