| How to get the guy?
Posted: 7/30/2006 7:45:15 PM | | I like the idea of "fight for what you want", this is the way to get what you want. The question you might need to answer is "Do you mind if he is not on the same page as you do?" Let say if you do get what you want but it turns out that you still didn't get his heart, do you mind? Or you don't really care? Because love might not be bi-directional. | |
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| How to get the guy?
Posted: 7/30/2006 10:07:58 PM | | Suck it up and be friends because the reason he is not with you isn't the other girl. If he told you that he just wants to be friends it is just because he just wants to be friends. If he was romanticly interested the other girl would have never became an option. | |
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| How to get the guy?
Posted: 7/30/2006 10:14:21 PM | Move on, if this guy WANTED to be with YOU, he would be with you. What's this about dating one woman at a time? Of course he wants that, i'de have to start wondering about him if he didn't! Cut your losses, don't try to change his emotions it could backfire, then you will lose his friendship and respect. Ok so it might hurt for a while, but that's life, i'm sure you'll get over it when someone new comes into your life. | |
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| How to get the guy?
Posted: 7/30/2006 10:20:25 PM | Kidnap him, tie him to you bed and keep him there forever. Ten yrs from now he will accept
and understand that you want to be with him. | |
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| How to get the guy?
Posted: 7/30/2006 11:21:26 PM | | Why would you want to fight for anyone,let alone someone who, while you were getting involved in a relationship, was keeping his eyes open for something "better" to come along? Chances are that this would have happened even if you were deep in a relationship and that would have hurt so much more. Be grateful it happened now and move on. | |
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| How to get the guy?
Posted: 9/1/2006 2:05:01 PM | | It's tough to "fight" your way out of the friend zone. Even if you do you'll always be the one who got passed up and relegated to back up duty when needed. | |
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| How to get the guy?
Posted: 9/1/2006 3:12:25 PM | Well you can do one of two things here....let him know how you feel about him or try to convince him that he should be with you....but in all honesty.......if he was truly into YOU...he would be with YOU...the truth is, why would u want to be with someone who is clearly interested in someone else....Really you should consider this for thought....what if someone else came along and thought the same way you did....and just felt she NEEDED to be with him also....how would you feel if he "DROPPED" you...for the that other GIRL because she felt that she had to have him.....to me it seems like YOU feel that you NEED him in your life....let things be...if it's meant to be.....he would want to be with you because he wants to really be with you...NOT because you think that you deserve him more and that he should be with you instead.....too many fishies out there to be second best to anyone.....
Nobody should ever feel the NEED to have someone in their life....its a matter of wanting someone to share their lives together and to compliment one another....and the feelings have to be mutual. | |
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| How to get the guy?
Posted: 9/1/2006 3:28:01 PM | | Girls do this all the time. Maybe he's just testing to see how much you really want him. | |
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| How to get the guy?
Posted: 9/1/2006 3:38:19 PM | Well, thats the way of the world...isnt it?!?!....in matters of love and attraction, i dont think you can "fight" for what you want...be friends, support him (to an extent) and make him see what a "wonderful" person you are...and maybe he will change his mind.
You can't MAKE someone love you... | |
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| How to get the guy?
Posted: 9/1/2006 5:21:01 PM | I had a male friend tell me once "If a man truly wants to be with you nothing will stop him and if he doesn't noting will make him"
Why would you want to be second choice. Second choice will always be second choice and nothing you can do will change it. | |
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| How to get the guy?
Posted: 9/1/2006 5:50:22 PM |
You have been seeing to this guy and its amazing. You have alot in common and the chemistry is unbeliveable but he has met someone eles and he doesnt want to date more than one woman at a time. So now he just wants to be "friends". You really like this guy. What do you do? Suck it up and be freinds or fight for what you want?
Try this perspective on for size.
You are in your prime now. You are 26 years old, you are a nice looking young woman, you don't have kids yet, your future is ahead of you. You've got options, you probably have more flexibility than some 26 year olds up there in Canada right now.
How easy do you think dating will be at 36?
At 46?
At 56?
These are the best years in your life right now to find a good long term situation for yourself. You can waste those years pining for men who don't want you or are unavaliable, but all you will be is older and less likely to find what you are looking for as time goes on. If you meet what you think is the "right guy", but at the wrong time in both your lives, then he's not the "right guy" It's pretty much that simple. If you were a guy looking for a girl, maybe I'd say wait a little. Because the demand/supply situation is more complex as a guy. But you are a nice looking young girl and there are no shortage of good solid young men out there avaliable to you.
Time is your most precious resource. If you don't believe me, ask the older people here on the forums, whether you agree with any of their opinions or not, whether you would like any of them or not, I think each of them, to a man and woman, would tell you to make the most of your youth because you only get one shot at it.
Pining over a man who doesn't want you isn't just wasting your time, it's wasting opportunity and wasting your life. If it was meant to be, it would have happened, if it is meant to be later, it will happen in its own time, not yours. Either way, waiting around is a loser's proposition.
P.S. I looked at your profile, you are nice looking enough to dump the ass shot of yourself. No offense, but have a little dignity here. | |
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| How to get the guy?
Posted: 9/11/2006 1:49:21 PM | Just remeber:
You can always choose to do the right thing, but; you can never choose for someone else to do the right thing. | |
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| How to get the guy?
Posted: 9/11/2006 2:12:30 PM | | He is making you stand in line ..until the current relationship is finished...sounds like he plays until he gets all the goodies ..then dumps them..your going to be next sweety pie.. | |
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| How to get the guy?
Posted: 9/11/2006 3:19:28 PM | | If you know what's best for you, you best be findin' someome that'll give as much as you will | |
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| How to get the guy?
Posted: 9/11/2006 4:49:48 PM | This is a really good thread...I had this same sorta thing happen to me...Dump his ass...Its not worth it...I have been there and done that and now I am just hurting...no sense in waiting around for someone that doesnt want you!!
Thanks guys for the info that you gave this girl...this thread helped me to realize somethings!! | |
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| How to get the guy?
Posted: 9/16/2006 8:33:58 PM | | ah, the "lets be friends" thing again. He wants you and is keeping you close incase the current relationship fails and is using you as a good second. Drop the bum and find someone who considers you number ONE. | |
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| How to get the guy?
Posted: 9/16/2006 8:40:27 PM | | I have been in your shoes before and I ultimately just had to let him go. Too much stress to deal with and waste of energy. Well he has pretty much told you what he wants and well all I can say girl is move on. At least he said he said something. Some guys don't say squat and let things stay up in the air. I would not even be friends with him either, as I think he would be having that pleasure of having a "secondary" woman that he can turn to whenever he wants. He would be having too much cake for sure. Let him go and move on. You will be glad that you did. | |
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| How to get the guy?
Posted: 9/16/2006 9:58:17 PM | | you're a very cute girl and seem very nice....move on to someone who feels the same way. dont be runner up to this guy. find someone who sees you as 1st prize. | |
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| How to get the guy?
Posted: 9/17/2006 1:19:30 AM | Welcome to the world of on line dating. Some men (yes women do this too) like to have more than one lady. They like to keep their options open in hopes that someone "better" will come along.
He had you and kept looking, he traded you up. Plain and simple.
Do not be any person's number two. If he could not see the good in you and how cute you are, that is his loss. One day karma will come and kick him in the ass and he will end up with no one.
That old saying having your cake and eating it too, it does not work.
I would not even be his friend after what he did to you. You deserve much better than that.
~Carrie B. | |
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| How to get the guy?
Posted: 9/17/2006 1:23:15 AM | Yeah , HEELLLS NO,. YOU MOVE ON GIRL YOUR TO GOOD FOR HIM
JERRY JERRYYYY JERRRYYYYY
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| Why do laidest meet a genuine guy and they push him away
Posted: 9/17/2006 8:35:24 AM | To me most ladies in there mid twentys like the bad boy type or the druggie type and they don't pay attention to them i guess that makes me want them more witch is messed up it should be mutural once they break up the girl is hurt so bad not knowing she can do alot better than those people then a nice guy comes along and the girl dosent know how to react so she gets scared and pushes him away and they want to take it slow because they are scared and the nice guy wants to date and ect but shes not ready for it but in the long run they marry the good guy life is very weird lol
what is your oponion?????? | |
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| Why do laidest meet a genuine guy and they push him away
Posted: 9/17/2006 12:37:49 PM | HUH?! I can't believe it.
OMG! what happen if he come back to you, start a more serious relationship...the next time he sees something else that is shinnyier for the moment? Will you wait his return?
This is not serious: If he cannot see how great you are NOW...then he is NOT great for you.
OK True..you're young and so does he. Either you don't stress it out and move on with your life, or grab him by the ears and give him the correct time and date of your feelings...then you decide..in or out with him. | |
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| How to get the guy?
Posted: 9/17/2006 1:23:31 PM | | Accept it and move on. Why would you wanna settle for "the 2nd best"? | |
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