| MEN PLEASE HELP ME OUT WHY DO YOU LEAD US WOMAN ON!!!!!!
Posted: 7/16/2006 7:13:50 PM | Yeah, the caps got to me too, but feel empathy for a newbie--a couple of suggestions:google netiquette. Every forum has its own rules, most are pretty standard. Take some time to get the feel of a site and experiment with the links and such. Make search your friend.
My first and immediate thought on this one--MARRIED, with second thought allowing for other possibilities. All kinds of people out there in different situations, levels of maturity, neuroses, phases in their lives...None of us were the fly on the wall to be able to definitively tell you the things you want to know. We can all only speculate based on our own experiences, thoughts and feelings. Bottom line is he's out of the picture.
Advice...just move on. Avoid analysis paralysis by reading too much into something that doesn't have the substance to warrant it. It's just the way life is sometimes. Smiles. | |
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| MEN PLEASE HELP ME OUT WHY DO YOU LEAD US WOMAN ON!!!!!!
Posted: 7/18/2006 4:42:09 AM | | i think this forum is funny. why?? men leading women on?? get serious. almost all women lead men on. they've been married 2 or 3 times, have a bunch of kids and use their sexual prowess to think there is gold between their legs or something. they usually play us for six months before we are intimate............i mean damn, you know if there is something there with a person very early in a relationship or not. here's my experience.........first date? lucky to get a kiss or hug. second date they rape you..........why? a woman must feel justified that she is in love before she can make love to a guy. so it doesn't matter whether its the first date or the 50th date, there is either some physical attraction or there's not. so why the ladies play this game is beyond me. to me, when a woman gives herself to me, i don't feel less of her, but more.........because she's seen fit to share her love with me. this business about "oh, my God, if i give myself to him too early, he'll think i'm a whore." how ancient is that old stupid idea. ladies let your feelings be known. loosen up and live a little. you want us men to be honest but you play this foolish game. get real. so when a guy in this forum isn't physical with the woman, she's mad. if we act to fast, we think we want just one thing..........how childish. how can a guy win? later, don | |
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| MEN PLEASE HELP ME OUT WHY DO YOU LEAD US WOMAN ON!!!!!!
Posted: 7/24/2006 11:51:29 AM | "He was probably intimidated by how pretty you are & felt very insecure"
I was told this once - that i was too pretty and intimidating. I adored this guy too. Pretty and intimidating women need love too!! Lol | |
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| MEN PLEASE HELP ME OUT WHY DO YOU LEAD US WOMAN ON!!!!!!
Posted: 7/24/2006 5:50:24 PM | | I had almost the same thing happen to me. I met a guy on pof. We talked and talked on line on the phone. So Then he finally said i have to met u. he said he would come to my place and I wasn't comfortable about that so he said come to mind and I did.I had a great night.We talked all night and his kisses was the best. I went home the next morning and I called him and there was always no answer, leaving messages to call me, and he called me once .and he wrote me back on the comp a few times. that weekend end he said to come back up again and I did. I had the best night we had sex and next moning we went for coffee and talked then I went home he told me to call when I get home. I called and called for the next couple of day and no answer.I lefted messages to call but nothing. I wrote him to write me but he didn't finally after day three I wrote him and said if u don't write back or call I won't write or call u anymore. But still I heard nothing. He always said he was a very busy guy and i knew that I was a very busy person too but not too busy to make sometime for him. I mean before we met he made time to talk always telling me to call him.He knew what I wanted and what I was lookin for. He said i was beatiful and said he liked me and that he loved talkin to me. So what happened? So I finally gave in and called him and he answered the phone. He said thanks for that mean e-mail that If i didn't hear from him that I wasn't going to write anymore. I said to him that I was hurt that he doesn't write me anymore. he said u know I'm busy and I said yes but u use make time for me before. He said u know I don't write back and i said yes u have always wrote me before. He said well your going to hate me but I have to go I have friends over call me back later but did reasure that he likes me,likes talking to me and had the best sex with me . I did call and again no answer.I lefted a message to call again nothing. I wrote him a message on pof and seen he read it but nothing again. The next day I leave a message and wrote him a message saying pls call me today when u get home it would make me so happy and it would mean alot to me. Well it showed on pof that he read it but guess what??? I never heard back shocker huh!!!! I don't understand. He tells me when I see him that he likes me and don't like being alone. He said we have something together but yet now I can't even talk to him anymore. I like this guy. So I know what u r going through. He probley will never call back just like mine will never call me back either. Why can't they understand how the other person feels when they do this. What's wrong with picking up a phone and saying hi I'm really busy but just wanted to give u a call to let u know I'm thinkin about u and hang up I don't know about u but I'd be happy with that. He keeps stressing how busy he is and I understand that I really do. So why can't he understand how I feel about having sex with him and than breaking the communcation between us. i don't know how to feel. | |
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| MEN PLEASE HELP ME OUT WHY DO YOU LEAD US WOMAN ON!!!!!!
Posted: 7/24/2006 6:06:57 PM | well dan,
I have a question for u why is it that guys will tell u that they don't think your a whore if u give it up or a slut, tell u how wonderful u r and how great the sex was, makng u feel all wonderful and then they break contact.if guys didn't just say that to get in your pants then why the change? u live alittle take a chance and then they cut u off. By doing this, this is why girls don't want to take the chance. Do u realize if we had sex with everyone we like when we first met them and then they ****ed off and then u met another and they do the same. wouldn't that be what u guys call a slut. sleep with every guy thet meet?? | |
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| MEN PLEASE HELP ME OUT WHY DO YOU LEAD US WOMAN ON!!!!!!
Posted: 7/24/2006 6:11:57 PM | Hey Janan, keep your chin up, I have been on this site for about 10 mins and have already been told that all men are sleazebags and they are only here for one thing and all they want to do is to see how many women they can score with.
I know how hurt and let down you feel but you have to shake it off and get on with life or the thoughts will never go away.
Yes there is a lot of guys on here looking for one thing and one thing only but this guy seemed to like you a lot then he got cold feet, is he really single? did you check that out or is he just another playing the field?
People can be hurt and hurt badly but if all you guys out there who are married and are only on here to see what you can get on the side then please post a reply here with name , address, and phone number..lol...do you think that would happen on here??
So come on Janan treat him as another sleaze then you wont feel so hard on yourself, there is nothing wrong with you but I guess there was something wrong with him..he shold have gone to spec savers | |
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| MEN PLEASE HELP ME OUT WHY DO YOU LEAD US WOMAN ON!!!!!!
Posted: 7/24/2006 7:03:25 PM | LET ME TELL YOU SOMETHING YOU PIECE OF SHIT, MOST WOMEN THAT I KNOW OF WANT A REAL MAN NOT ONE THAT SAY'S HE IS. AND HOPEFULLY I HAVE FOUND MINE ON HERE TO.
WOMEN JUST WANT TO BE TREATED WITH RESPECT AND FOR THE PERSON TO TELL THE TRUTH BECAUSE BELIEVE IT OR NOT, NOT ALL WOMEN ARE CRYBABIES. I THINK THAT IF YOU DON'T HAVE NOTHING GOOD TO SAY DON'T SAY IT AT ALL. | |
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| MEN PLEASE HELP ME OUT WHY DO YOU LEAD US WOMAN ON!!!!!!
Posted: 7/24/2006 7:48:24 PM | | O.K. Then what you have to decide, is what do you want friends or a relationship, and then you can go fromt here, until then you are really only going to confuse the both of you, and be extremely frustrated at the same time. I can not answer for him on whether or not he will call back, but if you are a beautiful woman, and he does wnat to spend time with you, then he will, but remember this is just one mans thought's and not his. | |
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| MEN PLEASE HELP ME OUT WHY DO YOU LEAD US WOMAN ON!!!!!!
Posted: 7/24/2006 7:52:42 PM | in response to what you have said ursala. I think that maybe you should just keep your fikthy mouth shut, because all that seems to be coming out of it is the kind of stuff that smell like S**t.
No I don't think at all like most guys out there, but I do beleive that there are women out there, that are just as heartless if not more thatn guys, so maybe you should think before you speak....... | |
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| MEN PLEASE HELP ME OUT WHY DO YOU LEAD US WOMAN ON!!!!!!
Posted: 7/24/2006 8:24:33 PM | Sweetie.
You made four really BIG dating mistakes......
It's okay, just learn from it.
1 you moved way to fast, you frightened him!
2 you held WAYYYYYYY too tight/sounded too "needy"
3 You gave him an unlimatium......NEVER DO THAT!
4 Your caps button on the keyboard is on (it's okay though, I got the message)
TombstoneTom (Andy) | |
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| MEN PLEASE HELP ME OUT WHY DO YOU LEAD US WOMAN ON!!!!!!
Posted: 7/10/2009 6:49:12 PM | Sugarplum4758,
I guess what goes around comes around you did the same to me. Except at first you just flat out lied to me about things then refused to pick up phone. Then when I hid my number from caller ID you answered! Several times. Then you refused calls without caller ID. | |
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| MEN PLEASE HELP ME OUT WHY DO YOU LEAD US WOMAN ON!!!!!!
Posted: 10/15/2009 9:29:52 PM | Wow, just f*cking wow. I think the major caplocks and poor spelling already speaks volume about you.
Well I'm gonna be honest darlin...speaking for myself, I lead a woman on because Im just looking for a quick lay, nothing more. For the time being, Im not looking for an LTR or some kind of committed relationship. Much as I hate to say it, some women are so damn easy that it's a shame, especially the single moms.
I know alot of girls don't like being led on some wild goose chase, but simple fact is...you have nobody to blame but yourselves. You put your guard down and allow it to happen. A guy can lay out a shitload of sweetalking, empty promises and whatnot, but in the end it's up to you women to make that final decision. | |
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| MEN PLEASE HELP ME OUT WHY DO YOU LEAD US WOMAN ON!!!!!!
Posted: 10/15/2009 10:58:35 PM | ^^^^^^^ Typed by the finger's of a poster boy for Misogyny.
What's also a shame, is that it's altogether too true, and sad that there will always be those that refuse to see the huge waving red flags of these misogynists that wear their red flags as badges of honor.
Boggles the mind, but there ya have it.
** Bleh.... Thread Out. G'Nite. ** | |
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| MEN PLEASE HELP ME OUT WHY DO YOU LEAD US WOMAN ON!!!!!!
Posted: 10/16/2009 4:16:21 AM | You said you were listed as freind on profile and he was listed as dating. You guys met twice over the course of four months with some texting and phone calls. You claim to have some feelings for him by the communications you have had.
I think you both entered the relationship understanding what each other wanted, one friends the other dating. You both got what you entered for. You decided that you wanted more than how you first approached the relationship but his needs did not change, now you expect him to change for you. Unfortunatly life and prior agreements dont work that way, niether do our feelings. If he does not want what you do now, he cant be blamed because of your changed intrest. You both fully proclaimed your intensions on your profiles. It seems you are upset because he did not respond to your texing in a way you wanted and expected, which is no crime nor leading somoene on, in fact it says just the opposite, hes avoiding. It sounds like he is starting to read you correctly, someone actively pursing him which is not nor was his intensions of his meeting you on POF. He didnt lead you on, you lead him and yourself on believing you wanted only freinds. The two of you are now mismatched, your needs do not coincide, you are no longer should be profiled as looking for friends but looking for a long term relationship, or other. | |
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| MEN PLEASE HELP ME OUT WHY DO YOU LEAD US WOMAN ON!!!!!!
Posted: 10/16/2009 4:55:21 PM | Obviously he does not want you.
Don't you know how a man acts when he wants you? He calls every day, wants to talk to you or see you every day. You don't have to keep calling or emailing him, whining about why he doesn't want to see you.
They kiss you a lot because they are horny, not for you in particular, but just for anyone who happens to be there. It means zero.
Give up on him, you must have no experience with men at all. | |
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| MEN PLEASE HELP ME OUT WHY DO YOU LEAD US WOMAN ON!!!!!!
Posted: 10/16/2009 7:58:40 PM | If hes not into you hes just not that into you. A word to from the wise this man is either A married B partnered or C just not really interested and is simply keeping his options open with you or D a commitment phobic. The best way to deal with this is leave him alone dont chase him let him chase you because thats the way it should be he should want it so much he is willing to put himself out there and show you he wants you and is so attracted to you that he cant get you out of his head. After all wouldn't you want that for yourself also..... There is a very wise quote that goes something like this.... Not all opportunities are open to us its wiser to accept this than to hope and dream for the unattainable and unavailable. Dont blame yourself for this happening but learn from the expereince because the next guy might just be the one.  | |
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| MEN PLEASE HELP ME OUT WHY DO YOU LEAD US WOMAN ON!!!!!!
Posted: 10/17/2009 6:21:05 AM | The signs were there...simple answer....he just simply wasn't that bothered and I bet he was involved with someone or even married. Unfortunately many people do that sort of thing and learn from it and don't let this get you down.
Please don't wait for him to call or even be tempted to call yourself!!! 
Delete all his numbers and his e-mails and delete him out of your life, that's what I did  | |
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