AlexSB
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| Living with a Bisexual Man
Posted: 7/6/2006 11:42:06 AM | Whoa...WTF weird story 
I don't imagine that being gay or bisexual makes one any more prone to "cheat" on their partner...however...
And this is just a hunch...so please no flame wars if you think I"m an idiot...
Many guys wouldn't consider a bi girlfriend who ran away for the weekend with another female cheating...
I know I wouldn't...it just doesn't bother me the same...
Something to consider...but I'm a 100% straight man...so who knows... | |
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| Living with a Bisexual Man
Posted: 7/6/2006 11:46:15 AM |
don't know why crisscross was jumping all over rainbow, everything that rainbow said was true. if you choose to sleep with someone who is bisexual you're taking a greater risk of getting hiv/aids, same is true if you choose to sleep with an i.v drug user....your chances of getting sick are going to be much greater.
how do you figure that sleeping with someone who is bisexual has any greater risk than sleeping with someone who is straight?? People who say ignorant things about someone based purely on stereotypes about their particular sexual orientation should learn to shut up. Just becuase a guy identifies as bi doesn not mean he is sleeping with men. He may NEVER have slept with a man before, he just finds them attractive. The same way as a straight person or a gay person can be straight or gay without haveing ever had sex, a bisexual person can too. so many people are under the impression that bisexuals are just confused whores who will sleep with anything, and that is so not even close to being true. being bi is the same as being straight or gay, its a sexual preference. It means that you feel attracted to both men and women, not that you MUST sleep with both on a regualar basis. are straight people or gay people prone to cheating, sleeping around, and getting diseases? yes, some are. and yes, SOME bisexuals are as well. but you can;t generalize an entire population of people based on the actions of a few. blah, i am sorry for the rant, but ignorant people make me angry.
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| Living with a Bisexual Man
Posted: 7/6/2006 11:47:47 AM | | Are you sure Squish that you're 100% straight? It's ok to admit you know, we will accept you for who you are. | |
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AlexSB
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Joined: 6/29/2006
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| Living with a Bisexual Man
Posted: 7/6/2006 11:50:10 AM |
I couldnt do it..Chances are you will be thrown to the curb for a man......
Ps... If i were you I'd keep
I agree with this...
Wouldn't you prefer a man who knew where his interests lied 100% of the time, not just 50%???
At the risk of sounding rude or ignorant...
As much as I try and accept homosexuality...I will *never* understand it...that much different scares me...as I am afraid of what I don't understand (human nature)...
If 100% gay men freak me out...then 50% gay men (bi-sexual) confuse me even more... | |
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| Living with a Bisexual Man
Posted: 7/6/2006 4:02:56 PM | He gets me up every morning to run, whether I feel like it or not. He's a loving and wonderful man. I'm glad I snatched him up before anyone else did. The rest of you missed out on getting a good man
hahaha well that was a laff lol maybe he runs so much so that when he finds a man he likes his butt will b firm enuf to attract him n he b fast enuf to outrun u when its time to go
whats in ya brain anyways?rest of women missed out on a good man? hes so good he cant make up his twisted mind if he wants meatballs n spaghetti or clam for dinner sheesh yah thats a real good catch there. dont kid urself right now he may b happy but if hes that twisted down the road he will swing back the other way again
if ya like a life style thats goes back n forth ya sure are on the right track id say
being bi is the same as being straight or gay, its a sexual preference.
ummm sorry but read what ur writeing it isnt the saem , its both , least a gay knows what he/she/it wants a bi will just take whatever flops on the table that moment
and a bi isnt just finding the same sex attractive a bi acts on it , males n females that are heterosexual can easily agree and admit members of same sex are attractive but not wanna lust n pine for them. bisexual means just that, will have sex with either sex, not as lame n wimpy as u put it just finds em attractive , at least get ur facts straight | |
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| Living with a Bisexual Man
Posted: 7/6/2006 4:09:52 PM |
A long time ago, my boyfriend revealed to me that he was bi. At first, I panicked. Was he going to leave me for another man ? Would I ever be enough for him ?
So many questions, so few answers. Now, we are living together and we are happy.
A bisexual man is no more likely to cheat on his mate than a heterosexual man/woman are likely to cheat on theirs.
I'm glad to say that I stuck it out and now, I'm living with a great guy !!!!
at least he was honest enough to tell you that before you were too deep into it, I know somebody that came out clean after 10 years of being togheter.... that's bad bad bad, you live with a person for 10 fu... years and at the end you realize you didn't know him...
I am happy for you .. and i don't think you should be worry.. if he loves you he will never cheat on you with a woman or with a man...
ciao | |
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| Living with a Bisexual Man
Posted: 7/6/2006 6:06:15 PM | | If the two of you are happy together, then why worry about what anyone else thinks? I could not date or live with a bisexual man. Even if he never cheated on me with a man, I really don't think I could get the image of him with a man out of my mind. That image would cloud everything. Harsh or not, that is how I feel. | |
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Posted: 7/6/2006 6:18:14 PM | | lorynbee, what an awesome story! it's nice to hear that there are people out there who are actually accepting and trusting - even of something that they are not familiar with. you deserve utter happiness! | |
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Posted: 7/7/2006 11:06:53 AM | | Sass, thank you ! A lot of people give me flack for loving a bi guy. Guess what ? He's not different from other guys. Two arms, two legs, one head ( and very handsome face), one "manly tool", ect. I love him and he loves me. That's all that matters to me. I'm glad he was honest with me. Some straight men are married to lesbians without knowing it. Some straight women are married to gay/bisexual men without knowing it. My man was honest with me and that's why we have a strong relationship. | |
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Posted: 7/7/2006 12:22:22 PM | | I have not read all the post but I can say this..a bi male/female are just as capable of making a long term commitment to one person as a stright male/female. Saying that a bi will cheat because the one sex is not enough is like saying you will cheat because one man/woman is not enough. It is a choice that individuals makes but not because they are bi, gay, or straight. That comment was really stupid and bias. | |
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| Living with a Bisexual Man
Posted: 7/7/2006 12:49:24 PM | Lorryn
FIRST: Let me congratulate you on finding a great love. And your open-mindedness. Bisexuals are the "bastard children" of the new body politic. My gay friends call them gay. Women call them gay. But they love both men and women and more power to them!
SECOND: The amount of homphobia expressed here in the not so quaint form of "dire warnings about STDS" is repulsive. There is some fairly nasty gay hating commentary here. Some of these posters are just ......well....you know. They are most likely having secret fantasies about doing their pals and this confession stirs up uncomfortable feelings for them....plz ignore comments like this. I used to sound like those guys until I spent alot of time in the gay community and learned more about what I criticized.
THIRD: Bisexual men and women DO not cheat any more than the average credit-card addicted housewife in poughkepsie.
FOURTH: Men who are bi/gay have fashion sense usually, a tad more sensitivity than MANLY MEN and probably alot more self awareness than straight guys, they have had to face societie's prejudices alot more than Mr. "HUNT FISH TRAP DRIVE TRUCK" has ever had to
You go girl! Dont let homphobic close minded people keep you from your dream.
Thank you for posting this....finally a ray of truth in a world of prejudices, narrow mindedness and good old religious-inspired homphobia.
You are a few years ahead of many women. God bless and enjoy your love! | |
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| Living with a Bisexual Man
Posted: 7/7/2006 4:09:53 PM |
Mind you, it was a full month before he disclosed to me that he was bisexual and stressed out over how to tell me about it.[\quote] A long time ago, my boyfriend revealed to me that he was bi.[\quote] Not long ago, my boyfriend told me that he was bisexual.[\quote]
I don't follow any of this, the timeline keeps changing. These are your posts from three different threads. | |
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| Living with a Bisexual Man
Posted: 7/11/2006 8:50:13 AM | living with a bisexual man... hope your book
goes well. Lots of ideas to give some drama and flair to it
can be found on the posts, huh? | |
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| Living with a Bisexual Man
Posted: 7/11/2006 8:57:44 AM | Not sure why you felt you had to post your private life.
I must admit I am curious, what happens when your " Great guy" has a sexual encounter with a man, and he will, after all he is bi-sexual for a reason, at some point he is going to need something that no matter how hard you try you will not be able to satisfy. Sooner or later he will have a strong desire to be intimate with a man.. are you ready to deal with that?
I hope it works out, but be safe, insist on a condom each and every time you are intimate with him.. Some diseases do not show up until weeks or months after exposure.
I wish you all the best. I have to give you credit, I certainly would not want to share my BF with anyone that is for sure. | |
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| Living with a Bisexual Man
Posted: 7/11/2006 11:36:31 AM | | Dear sweet Jesus this thread makes me laugh. I give the guy props for coming out and saying so. It's the guys who say things like "Hell no I'm not bi/gay, it's just that women don't know how to give head" or "well if my wife could do me up the ass I'm sure she would but I'm kinda stuck so..." that I avoid. | |
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| Living with a Bisexual Man
Posted: 7/11/2006 2:21:48 PM | | mygirl70...is there a reason that you would assume that her boyfriend would cheat on her with a man? When I'm with a guy, it is basically guaranteed that I will be attracted to other men...does this mean I'm going to act on it? NO. | |
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| Living with a Bisexual Man
Posted: 7/11/2006 2:40:21 PM | Oh, I'd never go for the bisexual woman. I don't like sharing a woman and I think the woman, if she wanted to continue dating with me, would either have to sort out her mind and become heterosexual or homosexual. I just can't see how a relationship where she would **** other girls while I am not at home would work up - where is the trust there?, but if it works for some then great.
Yes, men do like to fantasize about hot bisexual women, but I'd rather leave that to fantasy world and not have the difficulties of such a relationship in real life.
Good luck to OP - it's not going to be an easy ride. | |
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| Living with a Bisexual Man
Posted: 7/11/2006 3:03:31 PM |
FIRST: Let me congratulate you on finding a great love. And your open-mindedness.
Open-mindedness or foolishness? I don't see open-minded definition as someone who f**ks both men and women or someone who marries those. It's only if you twist the definition of words to your liking.
There is some fairly nasty gay hating commentary here.
You have been reading the wrong topic, there wasn't anything I read that could be considered homophobic. Perhaps stupid or maybe not thought through, but defnitely not homophobic. Please stop seeing everywhere that everyone is out to get you. I couldn't care less if you are a homo or a hetero - just don't p*ss on my lawn!
Bisexual men and women DO not cheat any more than the average credit-card addicted housewife in poughkepsie.
As was pointed out by others at some point in this relationship the husband is going to want to satisfy his other side. If they can work out a deal and live with that arrangement more power to them. I certainly couldn't live with something like this. And many people do not and doesn't make them less 'open-minded'.
Men who are bi/gay have fashion sense usually, a tad more sensitivity than MANLY MEN and probably alot more self awareness than straight guys, they have had to face societie's prejudices alot more than Mr. "HUNT FISH TRAP DRIVE TRUCK" has ever had to.
Hear. Hear. Now all straight men are fashion stupid. Let me tell you why gay men are more fashion centric. One and only one reason - because they screwed up their way in the fashion industry, so none of the straight guys can get there. I am joking, but your statement is simply a **stard generalization. Sensitivity - don't make me laugh. 
Dont let homphobic close minded people keep you from your dream.
You are the only one seeing homophobia in this topic. Most posts expressed some real concerns and what she should think about which is more than can be said about your 'You go girl'
Thank you for posting this....finally a ray of truth in a world of prejudices, narrow mindedness and good old religious-inspired homphobia.
Uh, only in your world, buddy. | |
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| Living with a Bisexual Man
Posted: 7/11/2006 3:18:15 PM | | I would have to just ask ...how honest was he with u...does he have a sexual partner besides u..do u know about it...or is he just thinking he would like to explore that side of him and has not acted on it yet...I truly could not say that your relationship is that strung unless u know all these things..their is no shame in loving who u love...just have all your ducks in a row and hope no one shoots them down | |
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| Living with a Bisexual Man
Posted: 7/11/2006 3:22:49 PM | | I would have to just ask ...how honest was he with u...does he have a sexual partner besides u..do u know about it...or is he just thinking he would like to explore that side of him and has not acted on it yet...I truly could not say that your relationship is that strong unless u know all these things..their is no shame in loving who u love...just have all your ducks in a row and hope no one shoots them down | |
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Posted: 7/11/2006 3:27:23 PM | OP, having a sexual relationship with a bisexual man puts you at great risk of contracting HIV/AIDS. As another poster pointed out, if he is bisexual, he is almost certainly having sex with other men as well as with you. Your relationship is not monogamous.
Your boyfriend may be having sex with men who are exclusively gay. I'm not positive, but I believe that the gay community is becoming very lax about practicing safe sex due to the advancement in the treatment of HIV/AIDS to prolong life. You don't know what he may be bringing home to you in addition to HIV/AIDS.
I had two appointments at the state run AIDS clinic here in New Mexico this spring because I had C. Difficile infectious diarrhea, and the University of New Mexico Hospital held Infectious Disease Clinic there every other Friday. I sat in the waiting room of the AIDS CLINIC--you know the place where they treat people dying of AIDS--and heard the staff make calls because patients had to have their medication TODAY. I saw patients walk in who looked like they just got out of Auschwitz. I saw a man with sores all over his legs. It was not a pretty site, and this is with the disease now being treated and life being prolonged.
About 17 years ago, one of my friends' brother was dying of AIDS. The brother was a world-famous dancer with the Martha Graham Dance Company. My friend took care of her brother as he died. He had diarrhea constantly. He finally died of toxoplasmosis in the brain(if I recall correctly)--a parasite that is in cat feces. I attended his memorial service. It was heartbreaking because he was a man of enormous potential.
Don't put yourself at risk by having sex with a man who has sex with other men! It is not worth your life! | |
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| Living with a Bisexual Man
Posted: 7/11/2006 3:35:46 PM | | Thanks for your advice, CeeDif but I know Exactly what i am doing. I am healthy and so is my guy. we are both monogamous. | |
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