| Living with a Bisexual Man
Posted: 7/12/2006 6:57:11 PM | Well, I have to say that lorynbee is a very tolerant and trusting person, and I think that's very commendable! As for me, I have to say that I like men who prefer only women, just because the back door is NOT an option.... But seriously, I think it's been proven to be a natural tendency to have fantasies about bisexual relationships, but to actually take action on them, that's another story. Plus, think about it...not only is he looking at chicks, but guys too - double the jealousy LOL 
Anyway, more power to ya if you can handle a bisexual relationship....look at Jenna Jameson! She got married and she still does porn with chicks...it's a crazy world out there! | |
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Posted: 7/12/2006 7:25:38 PM | I have never seen such a combination of ignorance and lack of science in one thread.
Most HIV/AIDS is spread from women to men or men to women. From breeder to breeder. Have you ever heard of South Africa?
The main point is that the men and women who are anti-bi here are very screwed up. They are living in little tiny boxes where each gender has a role and you damn well stay in that role or face the music!
The same men who decry men being bi are the first slobs to line up to rent a DVD watching 2 women do it. Total hypocrites. These are the guys who have one "token" queer friend and these are the gals who want to see their men with hunting rifles chasing down game.
It shows me how far I have developed as a human being to see nothing wrong with men loving each other or women loving women. The thinly veiled homphobic drivel on this thread is actually kind of disgusting. I wonder how many of these posters just love to see a good gay bashing?
Where i see anti bi or anti gay criticism I will stand up and fight. I fight for the poor kids who are bashed each year because attitudes like those expressed here are allowed to fester. I will fight for gay female couples who want to marry and have to come to Canada to escape the Bush regime's moral crackdown. I will fight for transgendered people who end up dead in dumpsters because they are easy prey. I will fight for bisexual men and women (and not the porn actresses you guys like to watch, but real couples ty) who want to live their life without shame.
When you see homophobia, racism, sexism and nilhism....you are either a complacent participant in prejudice or you are a moral person....who stands up for human dignity and freedom.
The drivel on this post makes me want to post less on the forums and just shake my head in disbelief.
Happy gay bashing.....i, for one, will not be a part of it. | |
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Posted: 7/12/2006 7:36:47 PM |
I have never seen such a combination of ignorance and lack of science in one thread.-bcdream
well explain to us ignorant folks your theory? before you speak for the entire male gender, you might want to talk to every single guy on here, not all of us like to see women on women
nor do i care for guy on guy, hey to each their own.
Ive never heard of South Africa is that a Silvester Stallone movie? explain to us ignorant folks about south africa | |
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Posted: 7/12/2006 7:51:57 PM | "Happy gay bashing.....i, for one, will not be a part of it."
I agree on that i wont either i do NOT see why so many gays men/women get bashed now days for the way they are, if they HAPPY being gay/lesbian leave them alone and let them be happy! | |
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Posted: 7/14/2006 8:57:03 AM | "most hiv is spread from women to men or men to women"....prove it! if thats the case why has the gay community been hit the hardest by this disease.
i haven't seen anyone on here say you can't be a homo or a lesbian, if thats how your wired, nothing anyone says is going to change anything.
i like to watch to two hot women and i don't like watching two men because thats how i'm wired. how insensative of you to criticize hetro men (thats most of us) who feel the same as me. as far as the women wanting a man to hunt down game....what the hell does that have to do with anything?
yeah, you're so developed...you stand head and shoulders above everyone else. how dare anyone disagree with your point of view without being accused of wanting to see gays bashed or killed.
i will stand for anyone who is bashed for any reason, not just gays. i will fight for anyone who ends up in a dumpster and i applaud anytime a killer is givin the chair.. or at least the needle. i will fight for the right of citizens to vote for or lobby their elected officials to pass laws recognizing marriage btwn one man and one woman( an amendant to the ca. constituition making marriage btwn only one man and one woman passed by 60% a couple of yrs back) without being legislated by unelected judges.
do gay people still live in shame? i see thousands of people marching in gay pride parades every year. there are plenty of openly gay politicians and actors out there and most hetros don't really care what they do in the PRIVACY of their homes....so where's the shame?
go ahead and stop posting then...unless you can find a forum where everyone is as developed as you, having the good sense to agree with everything you say. | |
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Posted: 7/14/2006 11:26:37 AM | | Between 75 and 85 out of every 100 HIV positive adults have been infected through unprotected sexual intercourse, with heterosexual, (male - female) intercourse accounting for over 70 cases and homosexual, (male-male) intercourse accounting for approximately 5 to 10 cases. | |
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Posted: 7/14/2006 12:44:08 PM | | I am going to assume those are global stats Flick, so maybe we should come down a bit and focus on North America, about 25% of all Aids cases here are women. Aids is not a gay disease, working with youths I have to say that so many have unsafe sexual practices and the majority of newly infected tend to be those between 18 and 25. As a Native Canadian, I also watch my community struggle with this issue more and more and it is not a homosexual problem, it is an education problem. Really though this thread was not about this topic, it was about a young lady who has made a decision to love someone regardless of sexual identity. She could as easily find a man who is hetero who can pass on diseases to her. | |
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Posted: 7/14/2006 6:28:26 PM | i agree 100% the op could get infected by a 100% hetro man, just like i could get infected by a hetro woman. her chances of getting infected by someone who swings both ways goes up dramatically, just like her chances of getting infected by a hetro man who is an i.v drug user would go up dramatically, just like my chances of getting infected by a woman who is an i.v drug user would go up dramatically.
its one thing if a person is fooled by a dishonest lover who hasn't told you about their risky behavior, its another thing to knowingly put yourself at unnecessary risk with someone who indulges in or has indulged in risky behavior.
if GOD FORBID she ever does get infected she'll have no one to blame but herself.
as far as littleflicks "stats" are concerned. i don't believe them, if they are true then why is it that the gay community has been hit so much harder then the hetro community.
again its not about being anti- anybody its about using common sense and not putting yourself at risk. | |
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Posted: 7/14/2006 6:34:29 PM | | This is a bit off the topic but why is it that bisexual or gay men are less accepted than bisexual or gay women. On the net, the amount of biesexual women is unbelievable. They are everywhere. Maybe there are just as many men who are bisexual but they hide it because there are more consequences for men for this type of thing. I don’t have a problem dating a bisexual women. As long as she was honest to me. | |
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Posted: 7/15/2006 12:34:30 AM | | Global stats the majority of cases are through heterosexual sex, in North America the gay lifestyle is much more open and while going through their "glory days" there was a lot of unsafe and unnecessary sexual habits, so the community was hit hard, there has been a great turn around but no matter what if you engage in sex with ANYONE who is in the habit of having unsafe sex you are at risk. If you are open and honest and share your history and communicate with one another, there should not be any secrets. It is possible for people to remain faithful and honest, eventhough so many dont seem to be so optimistic. | |
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Posted: 7/15/2006 11:21:09 AM | Trubble has very concisely cut through the bulls*&^t, delusion and diversionary justification the Poster exhibits.
Keeping physically fit does not mean he doesn't have an STD or HIV+/AIDS; if it did no actor in Hollywood would have ever died from it.
And no, one's sexual preference is not an indicator of their loyalty; their words and actions are. If your man says, "I AM bisexual" it means that he's STILL attracted to men. Because he used the present tense allows one to reasonably assume that his meeting you hasn't 'changed' his mind.
Humans are sexual beings and one 'reasonably assumes' that if one likes a type/aspect of sex, one will try to have it as often as possible from the person who gives it to him that way or has the ability to give it to him that way. So, sooner or later, with your permission or not, if he likes sex with a man, he's going to want to have sex with a man again, period.
BTW, there is so much self-hatred in the homosexual community that many people who are mostly attracted to the same sex WILL have relationships with someone of the opposite sex as a way of not feeling guilty. If he's not 'hiding' with you, answer this question....does his family and all his friends know that he likes men? Don't answer this question publicly but...do you have an androgynous 'way' about you that allows him to feel he's got his feet planted on both sides of the fence?
Not into self-delusion
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Posted: 7/15/2006 11:45:34 AM | QBNPete - Wow! A body AND an intellect!
I just hate when people spout off statistics in a discussion because the problem with statistics is that they can always be sliced and diced to suit someone's purposes. Average Joe's are soundbite citizens; they listen to the first 12 minutes of the evening news and think they're informed. Worse yet are those who happen to have access to 'a little' information and commit it to memory so they can beat others over the head with their 'fact' in arguments!
Don't go around spouting off statistics to anyone unless you cite the source, date and sample. And before anyone Googles and finds some research, use a little common sense. Scientists are the first to admit that NOTHING is a FACT and even the best research depends upon ASSUMPTIONS (that may or may not be right) and samples (that may or may not be indicative of the entire population studied). Most of us are not academics or scientists so we don't KNOW anything. We all base our lives on experience and PROBABILITY and because we can't all experience EVERYTHING, we largely compare issues to our knowledge base of stereotypes.
I think it's great that QBN exposed this enlightened defender of the downtrodden for his own transmission of ignorance. Many people who don't approve of homosexuality ALSO don't approve of violence against ANYONE. And he makes the largest leap in his haughty superiority when he comments about women liking men who are hunters....Some of us want men who are hunters with NPR stickers on their SUVs and copies of the works of Shakespeare in the back seat next to their free weights!
Defying stereotypes for fun!
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Posted: 7/15/2006 1:35:15 PM | BCDream,
Continue living in your dream world, where everyone is out to get you. So easy to label everyone who disagrees with you as a gay-basher or not 'open-minded'.
In your mind it is not possible that I don't agree with you and that I am not anti-gay. Do grow up! | |
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Posted: 7/15/2006 9:35:36 PM | Kudos to Guitarchick for saying what so many are afraid to admit....that straight people have bi fantasies! My personal unproven theory is that it's the forbideness that's such a turn on.
Lots of interesting opinions here, the most of which have reaffirmed my belief that I should keep my secrets to myself....no need to cause a woman in my life (assuming there will be one, lol!) to worry that I'm going to cheat on her with a guy. As said by others, either you're a cheater or you're not. I believe that sexual orientation has nothing to do with your propensity to cheat.
So anyone reading, I invite your opinions....read my profile and then tell me....should I be upfront with my next gf about my alter ego? Or should I keep it to myself. | |
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Posted: 7/19/2006 9:41:40 PM | Thanks Soon2BSara... I think you are right about cheaters. It doesn't matter what your sexual orientation is, if you are prone to cheat, you will always have that tendency, and vice versa. It just depends on your values, not sexuality.
I think it is up to you if you want to reveal your "alter ego" online, right at the onset. But my opinion (humble as it may be) is that you may want to wait until you find someone interesting before you reveal it. Maybe in a phone conversation when you are getting to know someone would be the right time. Just a thought... good luck!  | |
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Posted: 12/22/2006 9:31:30 AM | | I think it is hard to control who you love. Love is a good thing. If there is respect and committment in the relationship you wont have to worry about infidelity. Good luck and I wish you warm regards in your happiness together | |
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Posted: 1/27/2007 8:19:42 PM | | do you consider it cheating if he is with another guy? i had an ex who cheated on me with a girl. i guess technically, it was cheating. but i was only mad that i was not included in the fun. i didnt think of it as cheating. chances are he is the same. he will pork other guys because he will not consider it cheating on you. | |
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Posted: 6/24/2007 6:17:46 AM | Well good luck to you OP and hope It works out. But realistically you are now up against the entire worlds population for affairs and sexual encounters. Bisexual may not make them more prone to cheat 100% true .. but the temptations are doubled 100% true also. Not great odds.
Personally any man who has had harry up a bent over mans behind Isnt really a great catch to me
Also the morning run may be worrying .. you have heard of glory holes and gay meets In parks at the toilet block havent you? If not maybe you ought to look up the listing for the most popular gay haunts for this as Its a well known fact ( even listed on the net ) for gay or bi men.
Honestly I think you are worried or you wouldnt be here making this thread telling us how we all missed out on a good man but you have him. No one needs to be pressured Into wanting to date men who have sex with men If they want to they will. And I doubt any women feel they have missed out. I am sorry but the man likes to have sexual encounters with men. This IS NOT a urge he will be able to control for life. No more than some wife expecting that she wont give head but he will never go elsewhere for It. And even If he could .. hes not being true to himself and denying a part of himself to keep you happy. How long till the bubble bursts? How many years have you been In this great relationship for now by the way/ or are we talking net months Bisexual men are nothing I will ever be dating - lifes got enough dramas without Inviting more Into your life. So no I spose after all that crud I just wrote the answer Is I dont feel I missed out and wouldnt be In your shoes for all the love nor money In the world as Its a ticking time bomb for emotional hurt .. unless u get Into the " swing " of things . I want a old fashioned dude  | |
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Posted: 8/8/2007 5:58:46 PM | I think the temptation and chance of cheating is exactlyt he same. In my opinion its just a choice of to cheat or not to cheat. Being a strait man i can tell you that strait men are attracted to other women no matter how much they love you or what they tell you
lets take a look at the situation
A strait man will see members of the opposite sex on a probobly at least a few times a week that they would like to have sex with. They will decide to persue that or not to
A bisexual man will see memebers of both sexes probobly at least a few times a week that he would like to have sex with and will decide to persue that or not to
If he is the type that cant controll his desires or is not satisfied for some reason he may cheat. If he isnt he will not. Its about his willpower and character. weather a man is strait or bi doesnt determine their willpower or the type of character and morals they have in my opinion.
I mean desire is desire no matter what form it comes in right?I think the issue that women are having with it , is actually something else masked by the implication that he would cheat
I dunno what it is. Im not in your heads but i do know what your saying about that he would be sure to cheat makes no sense logically | |
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Posted: 8/8/2007 6:09:02 PM | More power to you,
Me Personally not happening, I am not going to be intimate with a Bi-Sexual man and wonder if I am giving the Oral thing as well as my male competition, just aint happening,
I want my man to be totally into female body, Period.
Oh fungirl I totaly agree I want my man to be totally a man in all ways and not swing ther other way at all. | |
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Posted: 8/8/2007 7:04:07 PM | Ive never heard of South Africa is that a Silvester Stallone movie? explain to us ignorant folks about south africa
South Africa is the country where the folks who have contracted AIDS, and there is a high percentage of such persons living there now, are presently raping small children in the belief that sex with a virgin will cure AIDS. Perhaps the learned professor above will tell you the full story if you ask him. Moreover, you may wish to enquire of the macrocephalic teacher and champion of homosexuals the world over how many of his enlightened friends whom he cherishes so have been laid low through living an indiscriminate and "open-minded" lifestyle.
And to the OP, ask the "progressive" professor/artist or the young, well versed woman above who has scolded some on here for thier ignorance of this subject what became of, for example, Amanda Blake? How did she acquire Immune Deficiency Syndrome?
Ask them. | |
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Posted: 8/9/2007 6:35:54 AM |
You think a bisexual man is going to become straight
and not have sex with anyone else? if you believe this...
Then why is he still bisexual?
Doesn't bisexual refer to finding either sex attractive? Nothing more, nothing less. | |
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