| What makes guys jealous?
Posted: 6/30/2006 5:28:40 PM | | Cynderalla - you can beleive what you want, its science. Men are not raised to be jealous, women are. its the same as the poster who said girls smile at men and not realize it. its boilogy. I'm not saying men dont get jealous, I'm saying they dont get AS jealous. | |
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| What makes guys jealous?
Posted: 6/30/2006 5:33:18 PM | | I guess I am just not the jealous type and have been lucky that the fellow I was with was not jealous either. I certainly have no proof to say which is right male or female being more jealous. | |
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| What makes guys jealous?
Posted: 6/30/2006 5:35:51 PM | Cynderalla -
if you had a BF and he treated you like a queen, and you told your friends and they said you were "so lucky", would you not feel just great inside?
for men, that feeling is much much less. | |
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| What makes guys jealous?
Posted: 6/30/2006 5:36:06 PM | | If i could have punched her in the face and not gotten into a whole lot more trouble then I probably would have. | |
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| What makes guys jealous?
Posted: 6/30/2006 8:32:19 PM | | When your girlfriend decides she wants to hang out with other single guys when you can't be there because of work. Especially when she tells you that she knows that they want to sleep with her..... | |
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| What makes guys jealous?
Posted: 6/30/2006 9:00:34 PM | ALL OF US HUMAN BEEN ACT DIFFERENTLY ONE TO THE OTHER, INDECITION TO ME IS THE PRIMARY FACTOR.. | |
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| What makes guys jealous?
Posted: 7/1/2006 11:23:14 AM | | I am not Controlling so who ever said that Jealous types are the controlling types that is so not true....I let men do what they wish, I am a very trusting person so when a man is out with his guy friends I would trust him and expect that he would do the right thing and use his head when I am not around...I know alot of people that get mad when your with your guy/girl and their looking at attractive people when your together in public...For me it's the look but can't touch rule lol...I guess it's what everyone has been saying Jealously is how you handle it, I get a lil jealous and I am not affraid to admit it | |
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| What makes guys jealous?
Posted: 7/5/2006 12:30:28 AM | Jealousy is a good topic because it is natural to all humans. It deals with wants,
needs, what you have or don't have. How you handle jealousy is what is important.
Inteligence plays a big part on that and how secure you are of yourself.
It runs in the insecurity, but also in the betrayal department. No one likes to be betrayed
especially when you trust someone. If you don't trust someone, but can't let go jealousy
will eat your soul. If you want to force someone to love you when you have doubts
jealousy is already at work. The sick jealous person can be dangerous, because they
have not been able to see their own forceful possesiveness of another. And thus control
becomes the way to make sure the relationship will not be lost, but instead does that very
thing.
But if you feel love between you and your mate and it is good, you don't want that
beauty to be broken by someone else and you get jealous if you are threatened of that
special love you have. And yes possessing someone for their looks, or physical attraction
to the point it is mine and only mine can also create unhealthy jealousy.
If you are an attention getter, or used to getting all the attention someone coming in the picture that will take that away from you will also create jealousy. Jealousy is complex, but it is also human. How you handle it is telling of where you are with it. You have to have control of it and not it of you. | |
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| What makes guys jealous?
Posted: 7/5/2006 12:46:45 AM | Everyone gets jealous. It's just a matter of what they do with it. Jealousy is a natural emotion that relates to a person perceiving their mate will be either physically or emotionally untrue.
Just because a person feels the emotion of jealousy doesn't mean they should act on it. The same goes for any emotion, really... hate, fear, even love.
Personally, I think folks who let jealousy push their decision-making process around, are still a bit emotionally undisciplined. It's not surprising, because jealousy is the one emotion we all have less experience with, because it doesn't manifest until after puberty. We had our childhood as a head start to learn to master the other emotions. | |
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| What makes guys jealous?
Posted: 7/5/2006 1:05:31 AM | Jealousy in a relationship is a bullshit game. Its like asking you if shes fat or not. Its a no win situation. If a girl is fat and knows it, and asks you if shes fat you either A) Tell her the truth and shes pissed at you forever or B) conditions you to compromise your honesty just to keep her happy. Same thing with jealousy, if a woman flirts with another guy in front of you, if you do react A) you are trying to control her or if you don't react you are B) not the kind of person who really cares about her to stop it
In a relationship, its just another form of emotional manipulation.
Jealousy in dating however is just good tactics. A man who has many options or makes the woman perceive that he has many options is much more desirable. A woman asks herself - Why do all these chicks want him? And if they want him I better grab his ass fast before they take him from me. A woman who has many options or makes the man perceive that she has many options makes the man count the cost of how much he will compete to get her. She is upping the ante at the table with all men involved. She wants to know if you are willing to go the extra mile ( which denotes how committed you are to her) before she lets you in between her legs.
In dating its a tactic, in relationships is just mindless bullshit. | |
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| What makes guys jealous?
Posted: 7/5/2006 2:52:35 PM | I get jealous and angry when someone tries to take away what I have struggled and fought so hard to acheive. Including relationships. Yes, every man gets jealous. It's just a matter of how they express it. Guys you don't think are jealous are very good at hiding it. And vice versa. However, for a girl to take advantage of that and use it to manipulate a man is wrong.
And will only end in pain. | |
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| What makes guys jealous?
Posted: 7/5/2006 3:28:33 PM | | Doing things in the hope to make another jealous is game playing, in other words ABUSIVE! I WILL NOT participate! If tried with me, I'm gone instantly. I will not nor do not want an abusive person in my life. If you're into playing these games, may I suggest you getting some professional help. There are enough jerks out there of both sexes, just don't need any more! | |
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| What makes guys jealous?
Posted: 7/5/2006 3:36:00 PM | | What makes me jealous? Distrust - if my girl is paying attention to another guy and I don't trust that it's going nowhere or I don't truly believe that it's me that she wants. If another guy is getting the attention I know I deserve and not getting. I think that's about it. I wouldn't say I'm a needy guy, but I do need to know that I'm the centre of my girl's world. If I'm in a relationship where my girl does show me the affection I need on a regular basis, then I'm happy - she doesn't need to be in my pocket 24x7 and I don't keep tabs on her. She can have her own friends and go out and do her own thing, I just need to know that she wants to come home to me and isn't getting it on with some other guy while I'm at home doing the dishes. | |
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| What makes guys jealous?
Posted: 7/5/2006 3:37:27 PM | jealousy is from insecurity... and in some guys
anything at all can make them insecure... like if a woman
wears high heels or combs her hair a certain way
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| What makes guys jealous?
Posted: 8/17/2006 8:39:58 AM | | What makes people jealous is their insecurites in themselves. Jealousy arises when theres no trust in a relationship. I've found people that have low self esteem and are insucure in who they are, are the most jealous types. Its not just women or men, its both sexes. Once people have that doubt in their mind and are unable to control their thinking, often rage out with jealousy which often leads to head games. If partners had more reassurances from their loved ones ( even from childhood) less people would be prone to acting jealous. | |
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| What makes guys jealous?
Posted: 8/20/2006 2:35:56 PM | | last girl i went out with, was going out with 2 guys at once haha. and i had a feeling that she was doing something behind my back but she tried making it clear that she definitely wasn't haha, so of course i was jealous whenever she went out and i wasn't around haha. only cause it turns out she did have 2 boyfriends at once haha. that made me jealous cause she told me how much she liked me haha. she shoulda really been telling how big of a fuggen idiot i really am hah | |
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| What makes guys jealous?
Posted: 8/20/2006 2:55:17 PM | Jealousy to me...seems to be just another tool individuals to find out where one stands with the other ...or to pit one scenario against the other...and then picking the best one...
Nasty business, it is.... | |
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| What makes guys jealous?
Posted: 8/20/2006 3:05:21 PM | | There are many reasons why people (not only guys) are jealous. Insecurity is one. Control issues is one. But don't forget that sometimes inappropriate behaviours also elict jealousy and I'd say that's the only acceptable type. | |
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| What makes guys jealous?
Posted: 8/20/2006 3:06:54 PM | | I get jealous when a girl lies to me about who she was talking to.. because why lie? | |
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| What makes guys jealous?
Posted: 8/20/2006 3:10:05 PM | | you could try sucking his best friends dick when he's coming home from work. What are we twelve years old? | |
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| What makes guys jealous?
Posted: 8/20/2006 3:12:53 PM | I think sometimes a little jealousy is flattering depending on how it is displayed.
I overheard a conversation with my brother and his girlfriend once, after a party where she had been flirting with every guy in the room... He said to her, "I think you are minimizing the importance of our relationship and when you flirt with other guys, it makes me jealous because I feel foolish to have been thinking that what I have with you was a sure thing, when it is becoming apparent that it isn't. Tell me if I have reason to be jealous and insecure about our relationship and we can both come to an agreement of where we should go from here..." He said it very calmly and respectfully and then the girl.... burst into tears... and said "I just wanted to see if you really cared about me!!" 
aaaaaaaahhhhh and then we wonder why all of us girls have such a bad rep... cudos to my bro for being the adult and confronting the situation that way.
back back to my point, sometimes girls want to 'see' that their guy gets jealous because they feel important and feel that their guy does not want to share them... I prefer just asking my guy straight out but then that's just me... | |
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| What makes guys jealous?
Posted: 8/20/2006 3:44:40 PM |
sometimes girls want to 'see' that their guy gets jealous because they feel important and feel that their guy does not want to share them...
I have to admit, I was a bit surprised when I first discovered just how common this is for girls. To each his (her) own; just so long as they realize that it has the potential of blowing up in their faces if/when the guy finally gets sick of it and leaves. | |
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