| What makes guys jealous?
Posted: 9/22/2006 6:34:13 PM | Holding back any feelings is not healthy. If you cannot respect your partners feelings, then you should not be together because it will only head for rock bottom.
Saying something such as "Jealousy is for the weak" in my mind is in fact quite the opposite. Jealousy is for the strong that want their relationship to last and remove any fear or threat of it. Don't deny yourself what you feel, just accept it and help your mate understand. To be "weak" is to not care and give up easily. | |
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| What makes guys jealous?
Posted: 9/22/2006 6:40:15 PM | Jealousy is for **** whipped dudes like above
If a woman tries that shit on me to make me jealous its a case of kick her ass to the curb
I dont stand for crap like that and those mind games
Grow a backbone vicarious -- better yet get your balls out of the womans purse they are in | |
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| What makes guys jealous?
Posted: 9/22/2006 7:01:10 PM | FYI, I'm currently single...as I stated to another person, sympathy is a good trait to have, not to be a cowardly prick such as yourself and run for cover pretending like you own the relationship you may be in.
Take your own advice...maybe it's you that needs a backbone | |
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| What makes guys jealous?
Posted: 9/22/2006 10:05:59 PM | Desire + Insecurity + a bit of Irrationality = Jealousy.....(or sometimes its just the booze  lol) | |
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| What makes guys jealous?
Posted: 9/22/2006 10:39:03 PM | | I totally agree with you. My ex was really jealouse and he was a complete controle freak. And he did end up being an abuser. I kind of felt the signs/traits at first but I figured I was being paranoid. Well I wasn't paranoid after all. I should have paid attention to the red flags. So anyone out there that see's these red flags pay attention. Trust me two surgeries later I learned mine to late. | |
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| What makes guys jealous?
Posted: 9/22/2006 10:39:35 PM |
Desire + Insecurity + a bit of Irrationality = Jealousy.....(or sometimes its just the booze lol
Insecurity = Irrationality
I just went through this and it is a huge turn off. He was worried about things that MAY happen 5 to 10 years from now. OMFG ~ I don't even worry about tomorrow. It's too bad because it took 4 months to get me to date and only one day to make me stop.  | |
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| What makes guys jealous?
Posted: 9/22/2006 10:42:08 PM | oh come on tiger look vicarious says jealousy is a good thing --- and we all know that 21 year old boys have all the answers with all their life experience and all
nope jealousy is is for the weak minded , weak of charachter , etc etc you unfortunately have the scars to prove it | |
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| What makes guys jealous?
Posted: 9/22/2006 10:45:29 PM | | Some jealousy is normal i would agree but when They are jumping freaked out because some guy that walked by you says hi then there is something wrong and you need to get out quick. We all get a little green once in while but if you fell like its to much then pay attention to your gut. | |
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| What makes guys jealous?
Posted: 9/23/2006 5:03:48 AM | Okay there muscles, go lift another dumb bell. Communication clearly isn’t your strong point.
Tiger: Good rule to follow =) | |
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| What makes guys jealous?
Posted: 9/23/2006 5:27:27 AM | The best answer I seen was definitely
jealousy = insecurity.....you can explain all day long like Dr. Phil but it boils down to trust | |
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| What makes guys jealous?
Posted: 9/23/2006 5:50:26 AM | Jealousy is an emotion that is driven through our desire for something, usually a possession or material object. Jealousy is almost always accompanied by some sort of possessiveness.
Jealousy over a woman usually takes form over a sense of impending loss or insecurity within the relationship and will almost always be the end of the relationship!
There are days that I can be jealous of the guy in the car (awesome car, guy thing!) next to me in traffic...all be not an huge amount....
Sometimes jealousy takes it form in the way of envy...see my example above!
All told, I believe that EVERYONE experiences jealousy in one form or another and many different degrees. As an individual, you need to recognize when you experience it, what is driving it and then determine whether it should be a predominate emotion at that time. There are appropriate times and places for jealousy!
My 2 cents worth!!
Cheers | |
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| What makes guys jealous?
Posted: 9/23/2006 8:08:24 AM | Agreed, I like the above post
I'm going to leave this topic alone now lol. | |
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| What makes guys jealous?
Posted: 12/20/2007 11:02:00 AM | There are more than a few things that a guy could get jealous about.
For me resentment toward someone because of their social standing, rivalry, success, advantages etc etc. would never happen with me. I've witnessed jealousy first hand many a time, and it can be really really ugly.
I might have suspicions or fears of rivalry, and even unfaithfulness at work or in my relationships. I set out ground rules in business and my personal life that both myself and my partner/s agree on so the above types of jealousy have no place. | |
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| What makes guys jealous?
Posted: 12/20/2007 11:05:55 AM | jealousy?
I am jealous is she has a better bike than mine. That's about it. | |
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| What makes guys jealous?
Posted: 12/20/2007 11:31:55 AM | A lot of people are saying that Jealousy is a sign of a control freak, or insecurity, or an abusive person. I don't think that's right or fair.
I've only been called jealous once in my life (in a relationship) and that was by someone who was spending a lot of time with someone else, when I told her it bothered me because I KNEW (yes ladies young single guys aren't hanging out with you all the time, buying you things, calling you night and day etc. etc. because they want to be your "friend") he was trying to get with her she went on a rant about how I was "Jealous, Insecure, Controlling, and that I didn't trust her." So I let it go.....three months later I caught her sleeping with him. Go figure.
The definition of the world Jealous is: Bitterly envious or suspicious of rivals.
I think a lot of people fail to realize the difference between Jealousy, and someone showing conceren for the well being of their relationship.
I'm pretty secure with whoever I'm with having "guy friends" or talking to other people at parties etc., but if/when you are in a relationship with someone you are responsible for not letting it get out of hand. All I'm trying to say is, I think there are a lot of guys out there who have been called JEALOUS, because it's an easy word for women to use to make a guy look like an ass while they go out and screw the poor bastard over.
In a good, mature relationship there is no jealousy because neither side is giving any reason for it.
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| What makes guys jealous?
Posted: 12/20/2007 11:39:40 AM | I might agree guys will get jealous when they see you're interested in someone else, but that's not positive and I assume neither side wants that kind of jealousy.
I also like it when guys get a tad jealous when they see you might be good at something they thought they can only be good at, and it's priceless to see how this turns them on.. ;-)
but if you dare to be better than them, crashing their self-confidence won't make any of you happy.. well, yes, depends on what you really wanted to achieve.. ;) | |
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| What makes guys jealous?
Posted: 12/20/2007 11:41:19 AM | Lol... lot of cliches thrown around this thread...
The "jealous" person isn't always the one at fault.
Also, jealousy isn't always unhealthy.
In a stable person, jealousy will be slight, and can be charming and healthy.
In an unstable person... jealousy becomes a monstrosity.
The world's rife with unstable people, that's all. | |
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| What makes guys jealous?
Posted: 12/20/2007 11:46:21 AM | All these insecurity threads are bullshit.
My parents met in the most cheesy romantic way possible (he told her he would marry her when they first met) and have lived and worked together for 35 years.... and love each other more than ever.
If my mom ever talked to another guy in a little too friendly of a manner... you can bet your ass my dad would be jealous. Because he loves her and she holds his heart in her hand. And it's the exact same the other way around.
So to anyone who says "Jealousy = insecurity" I say "What are you doing to make a potentially wonderful partner resort to insecurity?" | |
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| What makes guys jealous?
Posted: 12/21/2007 4:21:19 AM | Anybody who assaults another person for the dishonesty perpetrated by their bf/gf, so, partner, is a fool and has serious anger management problems...for starters.
I know a man who went to prison for beating a man whom he thought had raped his ex-wife. Turns out, he was mistaken, and despite the incredible understanding displayed by the victim, even so far as to show up in court pleaing for leniency on the part of the judge, my nephews spent several years visiting their father behind bars.
To answer the OP's query...the same things that makes gals jealous. | |
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| What makes guys jealous?
Posted: 12/21/2007 6:22:33 AM | PrimeWoman,
you say in your post......
"Anybody who assaults another person for the dishonesty perpetrated by their bf/gf, so, partner, is a fool and has serious anger management problems...for starters."
While I've always been able to control my anger, I've got to say it takes two to tango. If your partner is being dishonest the chances are pretty good that other person involved KNOWS what they are doing is wrong. And while some of us are "mature" or "civilized" enough to just walk away, I've got to say that I have a degree of admiration for the guys who aren't afraid to let all of that anger and hurt out, and focus it on the person/people who caused it.
In the world we are living in, people should have the decency to treat the one's who care about them with respect. Infidelity doesn't just happen. It is the result of a series of bad decisions made by people who are supposed to be "grown ups". Maybe if there were a real risk of consequences involved people wouldn't be so apt to lie, cheat, and steal. Perhaps we need to go back to the days of people being forced to wear a big red A on their chest when the are caught being unfaithful. | |
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| What makes guys jealous?
Posted: 12/21/2007 6:49:56 AM | I think a lot of posts nailed that question - jealousy is just a form of insecurity and maybe, in some cases, a form of immaturity.
There are a lot of 'triggers' to jealous behavior that show up in very insecure people that don't in a person that is well 'grounded'. If it is just because a person is looking at, talking to or friendly with someone of the opposite sex. Then there is a real issue here. It is healthy to have aquaintances of both sexes and still be faithful to one. Society is built on socialization of the species.
There is also the 'TRUST' issue here - does he/she really trust you as you trust them? Is their past always jumping up to bite them whenever they 'think' you are not being faithful? You can't live in the past! Whatever happened with that relationship MUST be dealt with and buried in order to progress to the next level - the relationship with you.
The whole idea is being jealous is emotionally draining. Why go there? If this tiny devil (jealousy) happens to land on your shoulder - flick him off. Take a breath - ask yourself "Why? Is it worth the effort? Would it not just be easier to ask? Do I have any true reason to feel this?"
You'll find life a lot happier place to be in when you quickly annalyse the reasoning for the jealousy thing.
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| What makes guys jealous?
Posted: 12/21/2007 8:27:35 PM | Flipper Jones--
First, I don't believe that violence solves problems. I DO believe a person has a right to defend themselves.
Second, anger fueled acts of violence can get out of control--is the possibility of going to jail for assault and all the associated consequences worth it?
Third, operating under the assumption that a couple is in a relationship of agreed upon exclusivity, the fault for stepping outside of the boundaries of that relationship rests squarely on the person who agreed to the terms of the relationship, NOT the person outside the relationship. JMO. | |
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| What makes guys jealous?
Posted: 12/21/2007 8:45:01 PM | Well, you may believe that, but I can tell ya I've never been jealous a day in my life. I figure a guy either wants me or he don't, and if he don't....not a danged thing I can do about it, no matter how much I might want to. So, if they look the other way long enough to start walkin in that direction, I figure it's just time for me to move on...no point in being jealous. Someone asked me once why I never seemed angry at the women my ex's left me for....I said well, apparently they were what the guys wanted and I wasn't. Simple as that.
It's kinda funny though, one of my ex's actually got mad at me once because I never WAS jealous of him...said to him, it meant I didn't give a sh*t about him...I said no, it isn't that, it's just a waste of time and emotion, because you are gonna do what you are gonna do, and any jealousy on my part isn't gonna stop ya....then he started cheating, lol. | |
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