| Should Age Play A HUGE Factor In A Relationship?
Posted: 2/27/2005 3:58:56 PM | Personally I don't believe it really matters,
although it does depend on how many years we are talking about,
I dated a guy that was 6 yrs my jr, but he was so mature,
and I've also been with a guy older then me who was immature,
so I guess it depends on the communication level, if you have mutual interests,
but seriously I have no problem with it myself.
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| Should Age Play A HUGE Factor In A Relationship?
Posted: 2/27/2005 4:16:46 PM | | Like others have said the maturity level is a huge factor rather then age difference. Youth and maturity are 2 attractive qualities and when you put them both together it is just too much to resist. Yes i would date somebody 25 years old even though i have a daughter 21 and would be happy if she meant a man my age that will treat her better then the 24 year old bum she has now. But then again i'm pretty open-minded. Basically it boils down to compatibility and communication so age should'nt be a factor. | |
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| Should Age Play A HUGE Factor In A Relationship?
Posted: 2/27/2005 4:20:00 PM | I am not sure if I would want my daughters or son with someone my age...but if it happens, I would just say...Long as he/she treats you good, that is all that is important.
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| Should Age Play A HUGE Factor In A Relationship?
Posted: 2/27/2005 4:53:40 PM | well said squeak.. :)
i have dated younger men since i was 25.. married two of them, but the big issue that comes up with the older woman/younger man combo is babies. they usually get to a point where they started wanting little reproductions of themselves, and that likely isn't going to happen when you are with an older woman. i can honestly say, i only regret getting involved with one of those younger men [one of the ones i married], and it's a long sordid, ugly tale... but hey only one out of the lot isn't bad at all, considering all the women i know who have exclusively dated/married older men and have nothing good to say about any of them it seems... the term rat**stard comes up a lot.... so ya, age doesn't have to be an issue, it depends on the people involved and how they are with one another, and it isn't anyone's business but theirs, period. 
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| Should Age Play A HUGE Factor In A Relationship?
Posted: 2/27/2005 5:22:22 PM | When It comes down to it...It is really only between, the two people that are attracted to each other....but I mean draw the line somewhere, no Bambi stealing perverts..........
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| Should Age Play A HUGE Factor In A Relationship?
Posted: 2/27/2005 7:20:50 PM |
I'm dating a woman who is 27 years younger than me. Is that so wrong?
Good on ya, Tagone!!
In a relationship (survey results referenced upon request), AGE doesn't even appear in the "top 10" of the essential qualities, nor the "top 10" of the destructive qualities.
It beats me why "AGE" appears on so many threads! (... and it isn't all about "romance and sex", which appears as #8 in the "top 10")
Essential Qualities in a Relationship:
1. Communication - the desire to be open, to share, to relate, to actively speak and listen
2. Affection - caring, understanding, respect, physical and psychological closeness, kindness, nurturing
3. Compassion/ Forgiveness - to have empathy, to forgive, to be supportive, selfless
4. Honesty
5. Acceptance
6. Dependability
7. Sense of Humor
8. Romance (Including sex)
9. Patience
10. Freedom
Destructive Qualities in a Relationship:
1. Lack of Communication
2. Selfishness/Unforgiving
3. Dishonesty
4. Jealousy
5. Lack of trust
6. Perfectionism
7. Lack of flexibility - not open to change
8. Lack of understanding
9. Lack of respect
10. Apathy
It seems wise, therefore to look at these qualities, if we desire to love, to overcome lonliness and to find someone to share our day-to-day lives in joy and peace. Not one of these qualities are peculiar to AGE!
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| Should Age Play A HUGE Factor In A Relationship?
Posted: 2/27/2005 11:00:08 PM | tag you said
Geez princess. I expected more from you...
Why would you expect more from me? You don't know me nor have we really talked before. Again I point out that in my posts NOWHERE did I say what you were doing was wrong, I was just pointing out both sides of the arguement.
I married much older than my years, I am the last person who would judge.
Again I will repeat, as long as the people in a relationship understand that it's work and compromise and not just about love, people will do fine. As long as you are ok with what you (or who) you are doing, why would you care what other people think? | |
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| Should Age Play A HUGE Factor In A Relationship?
Posted: 2/27/2005 11:28:45 PM | Hmmmm... Should age play a HUGE factor in a relationship....?
Well, if she's lots older than me... Depends
if she's lots younger than me... Diapers (' ')
I guess it's kinda the same either way.... me, I'm in the middle...(' ')
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| Should Age Play A HUGE Factor In A Relationship?
Posted: 2/28/2005 3:30:56 AM | There's been a lot of insightful discussion on the topic. I for one really appreciate this thread because, no matter how independent I claim to be, it does matter what other people think.
Princess, you said:
Why would you expect more from me? You don't know me nor have we really talked before
True. I'm afraid I personalized the discussion too much. I suppose I was talking in general about this forum in general and the people who participate, both of which impresses me with it's depth of insight and thoughtfulness.
If I have banged my keys too hard and upset anyone: Sorry. I catch some crap because of my relationship and I was a bit too emotional.
Tag
p.s. and Princess Tera: apologies... really this time. | |
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| Should Age Play A HUGE Factor In A Relationship?
Posted: 2/28/2005 4:04:44 AM | It is helpful, too, to understand both sides of this issue.
And it makes me consider and give thought to how relationships can effect people (young & old) long, long after they have ended for whatever reason. Most people don't think of the long term consequences of the current relationship, myself included in this instance. | |
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| Should Age Play A HUGE Factor In A Relationship?
Posted: 2/28/2005 4:07:04 AM | oh wow, my spelling was atrocious in that last post.
For myself, what I gained from my marriage is the knowledge that with age does not necessarily come maturity, wisdom and stability. I also learned the meaning of "sometimes love just ain't enough". Unless both people in a relationship are willing to work at it, it's pointless. | |
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| Should Age Play A HUGE Factor In A Relationship?
Posted: 2/28/2005 5:21:10 AM | You might as well ask if ugly people should be allowed to reproduce. Just because we might not find the thought very appealing, doesn't make it an issue which can answered as right or wrong. When two find each other and want to be together it's really up them (provided no laws are broken).
"Learn to enjoy life, not endure it" | |
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